7 Things You Can Do to Boost Self-Confidence - #7Ways

I'm going to talk about seven things you

can do to boost your self confidence.

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So I found out that entrepreneur in general

need a little bit more confidence in their

ideas. Need a bit more swagger, need a

bit more feel that they can do it. Need a

little bit more belief in their life.

And it's hard because we are doing something

that most people don't do. You know, your

doing something that is outside the norm.

where everyone else is getting jobs, doing

the safe thing. We are off doing this

crazy thing of chasing our dream,

chasing our vision. And because it's so

different, I feel like we need a little

bit more confidence. To be able to

execute and really realize our dreams.

So today I'm going to share with you

seven things you can do to boost

your self confidence.

The first thing is find your one word.

And its not just timely because I have a

book about it. But really because I feel

it's one of the most important things

that you can do. Its understanding what

you stand for as a human being. Because

you will likely say, no to opportunities

that could support you but your really

just afraid. Or you say yes to opportunities

that don't support you but you don't have

the frame work to make that right decision.

When you understand what it is that you

stand for, you start to raise your standards

of the people that you are around. Of

what you will and will not accept anymore.

And it just really makes a big impact

on your own self confidence. When you are

saying no to something, it's not out of

fear. It's out of principal. And being

able to understand the difference, a lot

of times when people identify what their

one word is, it's happy. Because they have

clarity. But also sad because they realize

how much of things in their life are not

congruent with where they should be.

For you to realize the potential that you

have, you need to act a certain way that

is most true to you. And you will notice

how many things in your life

currently, from the people your around

to the business your involved in, to the

things that your doing on a day to day

basis. Are not in line with you achieving

that best version of yourself status.

And when you realize what your one word

is, things start to change. And so that

self awareness to understand who you are

and what you stand for and start making

decisions around that make a huge difference

in your self confidence. Because when you

are saying no to something, it's out of

conviction. Not out of fear of being judged.

Number two is say yes more.

One of the things that I find people are

afraid of and that really limits their self

confidence, Is that they are afraid to step

of their box. Not something that relates

to their one word. Not something that

is degrading or is against what you stand

for. But just something new, something

different, something afraid. You know

as kids we try a lot of stuff. We have

curiosity and somewhere along the line as

we get older, we are more fearful. We

are afraid of trying something new. We

are afraid of making a YouTube video.

We are afraid of getting on a motorcycle.

We are afraid of going on that trip.

We will always come up with practical

reasons why we can't do something but

the real reason is that you are afraid.

And so, what I try to do is when I am

afraid of something, when I want to say

no to something. Because of fear, I try

to force myself to go out and do it.

And exercise that muscle. Consistently so

that it gets stronger and stronger and

stronger and I continue to build and

grow myself. The biggest decision of all

for me, the hardest one, was turning

down a really high paying job. At a

university to start this business that was

struggling and suffering and making $300

a month. To say no to that, to this company

that I didn't know if it would take off or

not. Making that tough decision was one

of the most hardest decisions in my life.

it wasn't super easy, it was days and

days of agony. Trying to think it over.

Making that tough decision help me make

the next tough decision. help me make

the next tough decision. Help me make

the next tough decision. And so, when

there is conflict, when there was a hard

decision a head of you. Don't run away

from it. So Yes! Figure out a solution.

Dive into. It makes you stronger and helps

you tackle the next situation. And using

more confidence to be able to do it

consistently.

Number three is having

master mind group. And again there are

people around you are pushing to be better.

Who believe in you, who can see the

negative self talk in you. Who have your

best self interest at mind. Who understand

what your goal are, and try to gently or

sometimes not so gently push you in that

direction. I've had in my master mind

groups for entrepreneurs here in

Toronto for the past, I don't, ten years

or so. The reason why your not doing the

thing that your suppose to do, to help get

your business where its suppose to be. Is

usually a limiting personal belief. And

you are probably not recognizing that.

And having people around you to call you

on your own BS, when your giving a

practical reasonable answer. But they know

that it's just BS, that really helps. And

it could be a formal structure, where you

have people, that what we do, who meet

meet every month. And there is between

six to eight of us, depending on the size

of the group. But it could just be a

friend of yours, or it could be people in

your industry that you want to connect

with, on a regular basis. You want people

around you to help push you to be that

best version of yourself. And give you

the confidences sometimes that you need

to make the tough decisions when you

don't have the confidence yourself.

Number four along the same lines is

surround your self with greatness.

If you want to be more confident, you need

to surround yourself with things that make

you feel confident, that give you boldness

that make you want to do something big

and new and special and different. And

wanna actually want to follow through

on it. If you look at the people in your

life right now. Do they give you

confidence? Does your mom give you

confidence? Do you friends give you

confidence? Do your teachers or colleages

give you confidence? Or when you tell them

your idea, do they say that it's a stupid

idea and you shouldn't do it? Does your

office or bedroom give your confidence?

Or the videos that you watch give you

confidence? Right. All of that matters.

And you want to design your environment

with intent, so that where ever you are

as much as possible, from the clothes that

you wear to the music that you listen to,

to the videos that you watch and the people

that you hang out with and the

conversations that you have are built up

around helping you do something great.

And to the extent that they are not,

I would have a serious thought about

whether you still wanna have those people

or those things in your life. If you want

to boost your confidence, then you need

to have things around you that make you

feel confident consistently.

Number five is take small steps

One of the biggest

things that I found in trying to tackle

big projects. I'm starting here and I want

to get here, it's a big gap and because

it looks so big, I don't have the

confidence to do it. Well who am I to be

able to go out and do that. Its such a big

task, I can't do it. And all the negative

self talk starts to come in. Well if you

realize that you can take small steps.

This is really big but here to here is not

so big. Its scary but not that scary.

I think I can kind of do that. And then

another step and another step and you

slowly work your way up. Realizing that

any big endeavor is the collection of a

lot of small steps that came before. And

so trying to break down whatever that big

thing is that you wanna do that seems so

scary and crazy and out of this world.

And not possible, not within your skill

set. Or ever going to happen for you.

Find whatever the smallest first step is

and the smallest next step is, and

continue to build those steps and when

you look back. You'll have realized that

you have made pretty significate progress.

Number six is model success. It can be

really scary or really hard when you don't

have a plan. When you don't know where

your going. And as entrepreneur's its, its

especially scary because we are doing new

things, we are pioneering, we're

inventing the future. We're writing the

new scripts or what will happen. And

when you don't have clarity, when you

don't have certainty. That leads to a

lack of confidence. If you know exactly

how to do something and done it a

million times before. You don't have self

confidence issues. Because you've

already done it. Right, like breathing or

walking or writing the letter "A" or

whatever. Like all of these things that

you do constantly. And so, it's not hard

for you to do it. Where when the future

is unclear, it can be really hard. And so

one of the things that I found helps

is modeling success. Maybe no one has done

what I want to do, in my industry. But it

may have been done before and there some

pieces that I can learn from history of

other entrepreneur's, other innovators,

other actors, other musician's or other

athletes. They have done something that I

can take and apply it to my case. And

looking at that not only gives me the

strategy of what but helps give me the plan

of what I can to do. But also inspires

confidence in me because I look at

somebody here, who's done something

amazing. Who started with less than

what I already have right now. If they can

do it. It inspires me to think that I can

do it too. Or at least I can get pretty

close. And I've always found that having

those stories around me, helped boost

my confidence. Which is part of why I

started this channel. Selfishly for me

the top ten rules, especially for me to

watch consistently, daily to give me

confidence. Where I look at these people

and see that these people were able to

do great things, with so little. It makes

me feel like I can do it myself. And I

need it daily. I need that shot daily. At

least for me, maybe you guys can watch

something and it will last you for months.

For me I need it daily. I need that

constant injection. And so, by looking at

what they have done. I get that and I feel

more confident in my abilities to go out

and execute on my vision.

And the number seven thing

you can do to boost your self

confidence. Is try to live with no regrets.

This is the single most important thing

that helped me in my biggest decision

in my life. Was deciding between having

that job, that dream job that I thought

I always wanted and running this business

that was sucking, was I don't want to

live with regret. That's what turned the

tables. It wasn't making a list of pro's

and con's. And strengths and weakness.

And try to think about it logically. It

was really if I didn't do this, if I didn't

try to make this company work. I would

regret it. Where taking that job, I figured

you know what, I can always get another

job. I mean, it may no be that job or

the dream job but I could probably work

my way up there and get the job. But I

wouldn't have this chance again. And I

would regret not taking it. That fear of

regret, that worry about regret, that

looking at your life when your one hundred

years old and back to this moment, will

you think that you will regret not taking

action? That helps me, bust through the

fear. I'm still afraid to take the action.

Still afraid to say yes, still afraid to

do it. But the thought of the regret

haunting me for the rest of my life. Helps

give me the courage to feel the fear and

do it anyway. And it gives me the

confidence to success and at least try.

And knowing that, the trying itself is a

victory. Even if I don't get the result,

even if my business doesn't take off.

Like Yes, it worked out for me. I got

acquired a couple of years later. You know

it was a great scenario for me. But even

if it didn't work out, just knowing the

answer helps. Just talking to that girl

and getting an answer helps. Just making

that sale's call and getting an answer

helps. So it's not necessarily just, you

know, the victory. The win. But certainty.

Because the more that you live your life,

with limited regrets. First of all you'll

live a much happier life but second of

all you'll probably do something amazing

and special. And not every bet it going

to work out. But you don't go off and hit

those amazing goals by playing safe. And

living below what you are capable of

doing. So that is my take on the seven

things that you can do to boost

your self confidence. I would love to

know what you guys think. Which one did

you resonate the most with. What did this

video mean to you. Leave it in the

comments below. Did I miss some? Are

there eight, nine, ten that you guys want

to add in. Pop it down there and I'm going

to join in the discussion. And finally

I want to give a quick shout out to Debra.

Debra, thank you so much for buying a

copy of my book. it really means a lot to

me. For those of you guys who want to

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guys so much for watching. Continue to

believe or what your one word is.

And I will see you soon.