0:00:00.430,0:00:02.650 I'm going to talk about seven things you 0:00:02.933,0:00:06.430 can do to boost your self confidence. 0:00:06.430,0:00:15.233 music playing 0:00:15.233,0:00:17.797 So I found out that entrepreneur in general 0:00:17.797,0:00:20.071 need a little bit more confidence in their 0:00:20.071,0:00:21.921 ideas. Need a bit more swagger, need a 0:00:21.921,0:00:24.139 bit more feel that they can do it. Need a 0:00:24.139,0:00:25.508 little bit more belief in their life. 0:00:25.508,0:00:27.890 And it's hard because we are doing something 0:00:27.890,0:00:29.736 that most people don't do. You know, your 0:00:29.736,0:00:31.239 doing something that is outside the norm. 0:00:31.239,0:00:32.556 where everyone else is getting jobs, doing 0:00:32.556,0:00:34.569 the safe thing. We are off doing this 0:00:34.569,0:00:36.480 crazy thing of chasing our dream, 0:00:36.480,0:00:38.439 chasing our vision. And because it's so 0:00:38.439,0:00:40.659 different, I feel like we need a little 0:00:40.659,0:00:42.694 bit more confidence. To be able to 0:00:42.694,0:00:44.253 execute and really realize our dreams. 0:00:44.253,0:00:46.435 So today I'm going to share with you 0:00:46.435,0:00:48.596 seven things you can do to boost 0:00:48.596,0:00:49.988 your self confidence. 0:00:52.259,0:00:54.786 The first thing is find your one word. 0:00:54.786,0:00:57.091 And its not just timely because I have a 0:00:57.091,0:00:59.153 book about it. But really because I feel 0:00:59.153,0:01:01.086 it's one of the most important things 0:01:01.086,0:01:02.862 that you can do. Its understanding what 0:01:02.862,0:01:04.471 you stand for as a human being. Because 0:01:04.471,0:01:07.686 you will likely say, no to opportunities 0:01:07.686,0:01:09.702 that could support you but your really 0:01:09.702,0:01:11.591 just afraid. Or you say yes to opportunities 0:01:11.591,0:01:13.427 that don't support you but you don't have 0:01:13.427,0:01:15.156 the frame work to make that right decision. 0:01:15.156,0:01:17.363 When you understand what it is that you 0:01:17.363,0:01:19.438 stand for, you start to raise your standards 0:01:19.438,0:01:21.144 of the people that you are around. Of 0:01:21.144,0:01:24.197 what you will and will not accept anymore. 0:01:24.197,0:01:26.504 And it just really makes a big impact 0:01:26.504,0:01:28.472 on your own self confidence. When you are 0:01:28.472,0:01:30.152 saying no to something, it's not out of 0:01:30.152,0:01:32.050 fear. It's out of principal. And being 0:01:32.050,0:01:34.320 able to understand the difference, a lot 0:01:34.320,0:01:36.280 of times when people identify what their 0:01:36.280,0:01:38.606 one word is, it's happy. Because they have 0:01:38.606,0:01:40.739 clarity. But also sad because they realize 0:01:40.739,0:01:43.911 how much of things in their life are not 0:01:43.911,0:01:45.741 congruent with where they should be. 0:01:45.741,0:01:48.494 For you to realize the potential that you 0:01:48.494,0:01:51.258 have, you need to act a certain way that 0:01:51.258,0:01:54.328 is most true to you. And you will notice 0:01:54.328,0:01:56.419 how many things in your life 0:01:56.419,0:01:57.957 currently, from the people your around 0:01:57.957,0:01:59.806 to the business your involved in, to the 0:01:59.806,0:02:01.922 things that your doing on a day to day 0:02:01.922,0:02:05.463 basis. Are not in line with you achieving 0:02:05.463,0:02:07.413 that best version of yourself status. 0:02:07.413,0:02:09.217 And when you realize what your one word 0:02:09.217,0:02:10.758 is, things start to change. And so that 0:02:10.758,0:02:13.545 self awareness to understand who you are 0:02:13.545,0:02:15.415 and what you stand for and start making 0:02:15.415,0:02:17.766 decisions around that make a huge difference 0:02:17.766,0:02:19.819 in your self confidence. Because when you 0:02:19.819,0:02:21.644 are saying no to something, it's out of 0:02:21.644,0:02:24.027 conviction. Not out of fear of being judged. 0:02:27.200,0:02:29.214 Number two is say yes more. 0:02:29.214,0:02:31.489 One of the things that I find people are 0:02:31.489,0:02:33.410 afraid of and that really limits their self 0:02:33.410,0:02:35.310 confidence, Is that they are afraid to step 0:02:35.310,0:02:37.730 of their box. Not something that relates 0:02:37.730,0:02:39.401 to their one word. Not something that 0:02:39.401,0:02:41.699 is degrading or is against what you stand 0:02:41.699,0:02:43.540 for. But just something new, something 0:02:43.540,0:02:45.341 different, something afraid. You know 0:02:45.341,0:02:46.772 as kids we try a lot of stuff. We have 0:02:46.772,0:02:49.125 curiosity and somewhere along the line as 0:02:49.125,0:02:51.227 we get older, we are more fearful. We 0:02:51.227,0:02:53.063 are afraid of trying something new. We 0:02:53.063,0:02:55.066 are afraid of making a YouTube video. 0:02:55.066,0:02:56.534 We are afraid of getting on a motorcycle. 0:02:56.534,0:02:58.276 We are afraid of going on that trip. 0:02:58.276,0:03:00.253 We will always come up with practical 0:03:00.253,0:03:02.140 reasons why we can't do something but 0:03:02.140,0:03:04.544 the real reason is that you are afraid. 0:03:04.544,0:03:07.050 And so, what I try to do is when I am 0:03:07.050,0:03:08.538 afraid of something, when I want to say 0:03:08.538,0:03:10.772 no to something. Because of fear, I try 0:03:10.772,0:03:13.829 to force myself to go out and do it. 0:03:13.829,0:03:15.693 And exercise that muscle. Consistently so 0:03:15.693,0:03:17.858 that it gets stronger and stronger and 0:03:17.858,0:03:20.053 stronger and I continue to build and 0:03:20.053,0:03:22.407 grow myself. The biggest decision of all 0:03:22.407,0:03:24.495 for me, the hardest one, was turning 0:03:24.495,0:03:27.337 down a really high paying job. At a 0:03:27.337,0:03:29.264 university to start this business that was 0:03:29.264,0:03:31.384 struggling and suffering and making $300 0:03:31.384,0:03:34.490 a month. To say no to that, to this company 0:03:34.490,0:03:36.332 that I didn't know if it would take off or 0:03:36.332,0:03:38.534 not. Making that tough decision was one 0:03:38.534,0:03:40.066 of the most hardest decisions in my life. 0:03:40.066,0:03:42.155 it wasn't super easy, it was days and 0:03:42.155,0:03:43.255 days of agony. Trying to think it over. 0:03:43.255,0:03:45.049 Making that tough decision help me make 0:03:45.049,0:03:46.618 the next tough decision. help me make 0:03:46.618,0:03:48.194 the next tough decision. Help me make 0:03:48.194,0:03:49.804 the next tough decision. And so, when 0:03:49.804,0:03:51.345 there is conflict, when there was a hard 0:03:51.345,0:03:53.213 decision a head of you. Don't run away 0:03:53.213,0:03:55.254 from it. So Yes! Figure out a solution. 0:03:55.254,0:03:57.948 Dive into. It makes you stronger and helps 0:03:57.948,0:04:00.711 you tackle the next situation. And using 0:04:00.711,0:04:02.362 more confidence to be able to do it 0:04:02.362,0:04:03.580 consistently. 0:04:05.120,0:04:06.870 Number three is having 0:04:06.870,0:04:08.962 master mind group. And again there are 0:04:08.962,0:04:10.483 people around you are pushing to be better. 0:04:10.483,0:04:11.976 Who believe in you, who can see the 0:04:11.976,0:04:14.522 negative self talk in you. Who have your 0:04:14.522,0:04:16.294 best self interest at mind. Who understand 0:04:16.294,0:04:19.142 what your goal are, and try to gently or 0:04:19.142,0:04:21.960 sometimes not so gently push you in that 0:04:21.960,0:04:23.964 direction. I've had in my master mind 0:04:23.964,0:04:25.380 groups for entrepreneurs here in 0:04:25.380,0:04:28.062 Toronto for the past, I don't, ten years 0:04:28.062,0:04:30.754 or so. The reason why your not doing the 0:04:30.754,0:04:32.787 thing that your suppose to do, to help get 0:04:32.787,0:04:34.411 your business where its suppose to be. Is 0:04:34.411,0:04:36.157 usually a limiting personal belief. And 0:04:36.157,0:04:38.475 you are probably not recognizing that. 0:04:38.475,0:04:41.039 And having people around you to call you 0:04:41.039,0:04:43.080 on your own BS, when your giving a 0:04:43.080,0:04:46.312 practical reasonable answer. But they know 0:04:46.312,0:04:48.591 that it's just BS, that really helps. And 0:04:48.591,0:04:50.666 it could be a formal structure, where you 0:04:50.666,0:04:52.598 have people, that what we do, who meet 0:04:52.598,0:04:54.326 meet every month. And there is between 0:04:54.326,0:04:56.315 six to eight of us, depending on the size 0:04:56.315,0:04:57.752 of the group. But it could just be a 0:04:57.752,0:04:59.298 friend of yours, or it could be people in 0:04:59.298,0:05:00.436 your industry that you want to connect 0:05:00.436,0:05:03.627 with, on a regular basis. You want people 0:05:03.627,0:05:06.295 around you to help push you to be that 0:05:06.295,0:05:08.385 best version of yourself. And give you 0:05:08.385,0:05:10.029 the confidences sometimes that you need 0:05:10.029,0:05:11.653 to make the tough decisions when you 0:05:11.653,0:05:13.461 don't have the confidence yourself. 0:05:15.361,0:05:17.798 Number four along the same lines is 0:05:17.798,0:05:19.642 surround your self with greatness. 0:05:19.642,0:05:22.154 If you want to be more confident, you need 0:05:22.154,0:05:24.734 to surround yourself with things that make 0:05:24.734,0:05:26.924 you feel confident, that give you boldness 0:05:26.924,0:05:28.759 that make you want to do something big 0:05:28.759,0:05:30.767 and new and special and different. And 0:05:30.767,0:05:32.152 wanna actually want to follow through 0:05:32.152,0:05:33.928 on it. If you look at the people in your 0:05:33.928,0:05:35.303 life right now. Do they give you 0:05:35.303,0:05:36.802 confidence? Does your mom give you 0:05:36.802,0:05:38.256 confidence? Do you friends give you 0:05:38.256,0:05:40.792 confidence? Do your teachers or colleages 0:05:40.792,0:05:42.885 give you confidence? Or when you tell them 0:05:42.885,0:05:45.370 your idea, do they say that it's a stupid 0:05:45.370,0:05:47.177 idea and you shouldn't do it? Does your 0:05:47.177,0:05:49.472 office or bedroom give your confidence? 0:05:49.472,0:05:51.559 Or the videos that you watch give you 0:05:51.559,0:05:53.330 confidence? Right. All of that matters. 0:05:53.330,0:05:54.933 And you want to design your environment 0:05:54.933,0:05:57.348 with intent, so that where ever you are 0:05:57.348,0:06:00.260 as much as possible, from the clothes that 0:06:00.260,0:06:01.686 you wear to the music that you listen to, 0:06:01.686,0:06:02.916 to the videos that you watch and the people 0:06:02.916,0:06:04.005 that you hang out with and the 0:06:04.005,0:06:05.535 conversations that you have are built up 0:06:05.535,0:06:08.231 around helping you do something great. 0:06:08.231,0:06:10.433 And to the extent that they are not, 0:06:10.433,0:06:12.022 I would have a serious thought about 0:06:12.022,0:06:13.868 whether you still wanna have those people 0:06:13.868,0:06:15.656 or those things in your life. If you want 0:06:15.656,0:06:17.549 to boost your confidence, then you need 0:06:17.549,0:06:19.542 to have things around you that make you 0:06:19.542,0:06:21.766 feel confident consistently. 0:06:25.113,0:06:26.897 Number five is take small steps 0:06:26.917,0:06:28.264 One of the biggest 0:06:28.264,0:06:30.282 things that I found in trying to tackle 0:06:30.282,0:06:32.499 big projects. I'm starting here and I want 0:06:32.499,0:06:34.610 to get here, it's a big gap and because 0:06:34.610,0:06:35.839 it looks so big, I don't have the 0:06:35.839,0:06:38.208 confidence to do it. Well who am I to be 0:06:38.208,0:06:40.036 able to go out and do that. Its such a big 0:06:40.036,0:06:41.584 task, I can't do it. And all the negative 0:06:41.584,0:06:44.063 self talk starts to come in. Well if you 0:06:44.063,0:06:45.673 realize that you can take small steps. 0:06:45.673,0:06:47.864 This is really big but here to here is not 0:06:47.864,0:06:50.801 so big. Its scary but not that scary. 0:06:50.801,0:06:52.434 I think I can kind of do that. And then 0:06:52.434,0:06:53.953 another step and another step and you 0:06:53.953,0:06:55.864 slowly work your way up. Realizing that 0:06:55.864,0:06:57.961 any big endeavor is the collection of a 0:06:57.961,0:07:00.831 lot of small steps that came before. And 0:07:00.831,0:07:03.055 so trying to break down whatever that big 0:07:03.055,0:07:05.221 thing is that you wanna do that seems so 0:07:05.221,0:07:06.960 scary and crazy and out of this world. 0:07:06.960,0:07:09.484 And not possible, not within your skill 0:07:09.484,0:07:11.296 set. Or ever going to happen for you. 0:07:11.296,0:07:14.068 Find whatever the smallest first step is 0:07:14.068,0:07:15.946 and the smallest next step is, and 0:07:15.946,0:07:17.964 continue to build those steps and when 0:07:17.964,0:07:19.457 you look back. You'll have realized that 0:07:19.457,0:07:21.199 you have made pretty significate progress. 0:07:24.326,0:07:27.342 Number six is model success. It can be 0:07:27.342,0:07:29.334 really scary or really hard when you don't 0:07:29.334,0:07:31.076 have a plan. When you don't know where 0:07:31.076,0:07:32.892 your going. And as entrepreneur's its, its 0:07:32.892,0:07:34.778 especially scary because we are doing new 0:07:34.778,0:07:36.096 things, we are pioneering, we're 0:07:36.096,0:07:37.654 inventing the future. We're writing the 0:07:37.654,0:07:40.592 new scripts or what will happen. And 0:07:40.592,0:07:42.517 when you don't have clarity, when you 0:07:42.517,0:07:44.800 don't have certainty. That leads to a 0:07:44.800,0:07:47.310 lack of confidence. If you know exactly 0:07:47.310,0:07:49.100 how to do something and done it a 0:07:49.100,0:07:51.158 million times before. You don't have self 0:07:51.158,0:07:52.751 confidence issues. Because you've 0:07:52.751,0:07:55.037 already done it. Right, like breathing or 0:07:55.037,0:07:57.034 walking or writing the letter "A" or 0:07:57.034,0:07:58.978 whatever. Like all of these things that 0:07:58.978,0:08:01.580 you do constantly. And so, it's not hard 0:08:01.580,0:08:03.473 for you to do it. Where when the future 0:08:03.473,0:08:05.394 is unclear, it can be really hard. And so 0:08:05.394,0:08:07.443 one of the things that I found helps 0:08:07.443,0:08:09.808 is modeling success. Maybe no one has done 0:08:09.808,0:08:11.981 what I want to do, in my industry. But it 0:08:11.981,0:08:14.314 may have been done before and there some 0:08:14.314,0:08:16.006 pieces that I can learn from history of 0:08:16.006,0:08:17.787 other entrepreneur's, other innovators, 0:08:17.787,0:08:19.748 other actors, other musician's or other 0:08:19.748,0:08:22.347 athletes. They have done something that I 0:08:22.347,0:08:25.162 can take and apply it to my case. And 0:08:25.162,0:08:27.634 looking at that not only gives me the 0:08:27.634,0:08:30.221 strategy of what but helps give me the plan 0:08:30.221,0:08:32.435 of what I can to do. But also inspires 0:08:32.435,0:08:33.878 confidence in me because I look at 0:08:33.878,0:08:35.879 somebody here, who's done something 0:08:35.879,0:08:38.171 amazing. Who started with less than 0:08:38.171,0:08:40.151 what I already have right now. If they can 0:08:40.151,0:08:42.789 do it. It inspires me to think that I can 0:08:42.789,0:08:44.886 do it too. Or at least I can get pretty 0:08:44.886,0:08:47.918 close. And I've always found that having 0:08:47.918,0:08:49.625 those stories around me, helped boost 0:08:49.625,0:08:51.054 my confidence. Which is part of why I 0:08:51.054,0:08:53.619 started this channel. Selfishly for me 0:08:53.619,0:08:55.100 the top ten rules, especially for me to 0:08:55.100,0:08:57.241 watch consistently, daily to give me 0:08:57.241,0:09:01.366 confidence. Where I look at these people 0:09:01.366,0:09:03.596 and see that these people were able to 0:09:03.596,0:09:05.229 do great things, with so little. It makes 0:09:05.229,0:09:07.179 me feel like I can do it myself. And I 0:09:07.179,0:09:10.372 need it daily. I need that shot daily. At 0:09:10.372,0:09:12.375 least for me, maybe you guys can watch 0:09:12.375,0:09:14.115 something and it will last you for months. 0:09:14.115,0:09:15.717 For me I need it daily. I need that 0:09:15.717,0:09:17.888 constant injection. And so, by looking at 0:09:17.888,0:09:20.504 what they have done. I get that and I feel 0:09:20.504,0:09:22.319 more confident in my abilities to go out 0:09:22.319,0:09:24.299 and execute on my vision. 0:09:26.798,0:09:28.573 And the number seven thing 0:09:28.573,0:09:29.655 you can do to boost your self 0:09:29.655,0:09:31.668 confidence. Is try to live with no regrets. 0:09:31.668,0:09:35.417 This is the single most important thing 0:09:35.417,0:09:38.100 that helped me in my biggest decision 0:09:38.100,0:09:40.720 in my life. Was deciding between having 0:09:40.720,0:09:43.008 that job, that dream job that I thought 0:09:43.008,0:09:45.089 I always wanted and running this business 0:09:45.089,0:09:47.734 that was sucking, was I don't want to 0:09:47.734,0:09:49.783 live with regret. That's what turned the 0:09:49.783,0:09:51.742 tables. It wasn't making a list of pro's 0:09:51.742,0:09:53.071 and con's. And strengths and weakness. 0:09:53.071,0:09:55.488 And try to think about it logically. It 0:09:55.488,0:09:58.555 was really if I didn't do this, if I didn't 0:09:58.555,0:10:01.478 try to make this company work. I would 0:10:01.478,0:10:05.713 regret it. Where taking that job, I figured 0:10:05.713,0:10:07.682 you know what, I can always get another 0:10:07.682,0:10:09.491 job. I mean, it may no be that job or 0:10:09.491,0:10:11.035 the dream job but I could probably work 0:10:11.035,0:10:12.369 my way up there and get the job. But I 0:10:12.369,0:10:14.316 wouldn't have this chance again. And I 0:10:14.316,0:10:16.180 would regret not taking it. That fear of 0:10:16.180,0:10:19.733 regret, that worry about regret, that 0:10:19.733,0:10:21.651 looking at your life when your one hundred 0:10:21.651,0:10:23.718 years old and back to this moment, will 0:10:23.718,0:10:26.141 you think that you will regret not taking 0:10:26.141,0:10:29.023 action? That helps me, bust through the 0:10:29.023,0:10:31.987 fear. I'm still afraid to take the action. 0:10:31.987,0:10:33.441 Still afraid to say yes, still afraid to 0:10:33.441,0:10:36.285 do it. But the thought of the regret 0:10:36.285,0:10:38.579 haunting me for the rest of my life. Helps 0:10:38.579,0:10:40.777 give me the courage to feel the fear and 0:10:40.777,0:10:43.229 do it anyway. And it gives me the 0:10:43.229,0:10:46.020 confidence to success and at least try. 0:10:46.020,0:10:49.452 And knowing that, the trying itself is a 0:10:49.452,0:10:51.221 victory. Even if I don't get the result, 0:10:51.221,0:10:52.902 even if my business doesn't take off. 0:10:52.902,0:10:54.260 Like Yes, it worked out for me. I got 0:10:54.260,0:10:56.592 acquired a couple of years later. You know 0:10:56.592,0:10:58.374 it was a great scenario for me. But even 0:10:58.374,0:11:01.456 if it didn't work out, just knowing the 0:11:01.456,0:11:04.601 answer helps. Just talking to that girl 0:11:04.601,0:11:06.908 and getting an answer helps. Just making 0:11:06.908,0:11:09.818 that sale's call and getting an answer 0:11:09.818,0:11:13.013 helps. So it's not necessarily just, you 0:11:13.013,0:11:15.306 know, the victory. The win. But certainty. 0:11:15.306,0:11:18.715 Because the more that you live your life, 0:11:18.715,0:11:22.110 with limited regrets. First of all you'll 0:11:22.110,0:11:24.612 live a much happier life but second of 0:11:24.612,0:11:26.610 all you'll probably do something amazing 0:11:26.610,0:11:29.081 and special. And not every bet it going 0:11:29.081,0:11:32.294 to work out. But you don't go off and hit 0:11:32.294,0:11:35.168 those amazing goals by playing safe. And 0:11:35.168,0:11:37.922 living below what you are capable of 0:11:37.922,0:11:40.060 doing. So that is my take on the seven 0:11:40.060,0:11:41.805 things that you can do to boost 0:11:41.805,0:11:43.071 your self confidence. I would love to 0:11:43.071,0:11:44.798 know what you guys think. Which one did 0:11:44.798,0:11:46.190 you resonate the most with. What did this 0:11:46.190,0:11:47.379 video mean to you. Leave it in the 0:11:47.379,0:11:49.111 comments below. Did I miss some? Are 0:11:49.111,0:11:50.888 there eight, nine, ten that you guys want 0:11:50.888,0:11:52.864 to add in. Pop it down there and I'm going 0:11:52.864,0:11:54.718 to join in the discussion. And finally 0:11:54.718,0:11:57.189 I want to give a quick shout out to Debra. 0:11:57.189,0:11:58.854 Debra, thank you so much for buying a 0:11:58.854,0:12:00.379 copy of my book. it really means a lot to 0:12:00.379,0:12:02.143 me. For those of you guys who want to 0:12:02.143,0:12:04.495 support me and want a chance at a future 0:12:04.495,0:12:06.662 shout out in a video. Make sure to pick up 0:12:06.662,0:12:08.226 a copy of the book. And email in your 0:12:08.226,0:12:09.762 receipt so we can keep track. Thank you 0:12:09.762,0:12:11.458 guys so much for watching. Continue to 0:12:11.458,0:12:14.145 believe or what your one word is. 0:12:14.145,0:12:15.775 And I will see you soon.