Pay it Forward: Nipun Mehta at TEDxGoldenGateED
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0:01 - 0:02Thank you.
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0:02 - 0:06Today I want to talk about
3 stages of generosity -
0:06 - 0:08that I have learned along the way.
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0:08 - 0:11The first is the obvious one
which is "to give." -
0:11 - 0:14Repeated research shows
that we are predisposed to altruism. -
0:14 - 0:16This is not a new thing.
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0:16 - 0:18And we probably don't need research,
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0:18 - 0:21we've all had our moments.
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0:21 - 0:24True story,
in Mexico, on Christmas Day, -
0:24 - 0:27a father and a son
are sitting by the tree. -
0:27 - 0:30And there's a kid from the slums
walking past them. -
0:30 - 0:35Father turns to his son and says,
"Son, give him one of your toys." -
0:35 - 0:37The son is reluctant, naturally,
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0:37 - 0:39but when he sees
his father is pretty serious, -
0:39 - 0:40he picks up one of his toys,
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0:40 - 0:43and he picks up the least favourite toy.
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0:43 - 0:45And he's about to go up there
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0:45 - 0:49and his dad says,
"Son, give him your favorite toy." -
0:49 - 0:53And the son goes up and initially,
of course, he is reluctant, -
0:53 - 0:54but he actually goes out and does it.
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0:54 - 0:57When he comes back, the father thinks
he needs to appreciate -
0:57 - 0:59and acknowledge what his son has done.
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0:59 - 1:01It was a big sacrifice.
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1:01 - 1:05But much to his surprise,
this kid comes back with joy. -
1:05 - 1:07He looks at his dad,
looks up and he says, -
1:07 - 1:13"Dad, that was amazing.
Can I do it again?" -
1:13 - 1:15And we've all had these moments.
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1:15 - 1:17Some of us are late bloomers.
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1:17 - 1:22I was in my early twenties when a few of us
got together and said, -
1:22 - 1:25"We just want to give
with no strings attached. What can we do?" -
1:25 - 1:27In Silicon Valley,
we went to the homeless shelter -
1:27 - 1:30and we ended up building up a website.
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1:30 - 1:32It felt great, we told our friends,
we came back, -
1:32 - 1:34and it became the organizing principle
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1:34 - 1:38for this organization called CharityFocus.
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1:38 - 1:42Along the way we re-learned
one very interesting insight, -
1:42 - 1:45and that was this:
compassion is contagious. -
1:46 - 1:47When you start organizations, you say,
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1:47 - 1:49"I want to grow this tree,"
and you focus on it, -
1:49 - 1:51but with compassion
it doesn't work that way. -
1:51 - 1:54You actually have to nurture
the whole eco-system. -
1:54 - 1:56So on one side, we were doing
technology work, -
1:56 - 1:58but on the weekends,
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1:58 - 2:01we would go out and share meals
with the homeless -
2:01 - 2:03and learn about
their perspective on life. -
2:03 - 2:06On Wednesdays we'd get together
in people's living rooms and meditate, -
2:06 - 2:08see what that is all about.
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2:08 - 2:11We would go out and do acts of kindness,
this is the smile card. -
2:12 - 2:15It tells you to got out
and do something small for someone else. -
2:15 - 2:19And you do it anonymously,
so the person who received it says, -
2:19 - 2:20"Who do I thank?"
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2:20 - 2:22Well, you can't pay back,
but you can pay it forward. -
2:22 - 2:25It serves as a reminder to do that.
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2:25 - 2:26It's very beautiful.
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2:26 - 2:29So we've realized
that compassion is very contagious. -
2:30 - 2:32Along the way --
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2:33 - 2:36The second stage of generosity
was "to receive." -
2:36 - 2:38This is Arthur,
he loves to give hugs. -
2:38 - 2:41Anyone who's given a hug,
which is all of us, -
2:41 - 2:45knows that you can't give a hug
without receiving one. -
2:45 - 2:47And that's obvious,
but where we get caught up -
2:47 - 2:52is that so many times when we give,
we expect to receive in the same way. -
2:52 - 2:56And that expectation blinds us
to new forms of value. -
2:56 - 2:59Now, in CharityFocus,
we have three organizing principles. -
2:59 - 3:02One of them was that we don't fundraise.
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3:02 - 3:04We did this partially just to stay humble
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3:04 - 3:06and to be real,
we start with what we have. -
3:06 - 3:09If we have a lot, great,
if we don't have a lot, great, -
3:09 - 3:11we can still serve.
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3:11 - 3:14That was our organizing principle
and we never thought we'd have abundance, -
3:14 - 3:19but lo and behold, we actually started
discovering abundance. -
3:19 - 3:21We say what was happening?
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3:21 - 3:23The first kind of abundance we discovered
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3:23 - 3:26was social capital,
that's Simpson's-ville." -
3:26 - 3:27Lots and lots of people, right?
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3:27 - 3:30And partially this is
because of the Internet. -
3:30 - 3:32It made organizing very easy.
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3:32 - 3:34The transaction cost went down
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3:34 - 3:36and you saw all kinds of movements
without a center. -
3:36 - 3:39Now, social capital,
we have a lots of it. -
3:39 - 3:40At each of our events,
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3:40 - 3:43there were hundreds of people
that we'd interact with offline, -
3:43 - 3:45there were tens of thousands
of people online, mixing together, -
3:45 - 3:47creating lots of ripples.
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3:47 - 3:49This was great.
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3:49 - 3:53Then we went to the second stage,
which was Synergistic Capital. -
3:53 - 3:55The Internet allows you to do loose ties,
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3:55 - 3:58but what about the deep ties,
when you really know somebody, -
3:58 - 4:01you can look them in the eyes
and share something deep and profound. -
4:01 - 4:04When you can start to create
those deep ties, it increases the trust, -
4:04 - 4:07and when trust is increased,
productivity goes up -
4:07 - 4:08and all this good stuff happens,
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4:08 - 4:11but most interestingly,
synergy starts to happen. -
4:11 - 4:14Synergy is where one plus one
is no longer two. -
4:14 - 4:18It's much more than two,
it's a whole different realm of value. -
4:19 - 4:21We started discovering that.
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4:21 - 4:24And the last thing
was the "Subtle Capital." -
4:24 - 4:26I am not sure how else to describe it,
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4:26 - 4:29but when you give,
there's some inner transformation. -
4:29 - 4:33That inner transformation creates
a stillness in your mind -
4:33 - 4:36and that stillness is
an unbelievable asset. -
4:36 - 4:39When you have a posse of people
committed to cultivating that stillness, -
4:39 - 4:42it really builds new kinds of value
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4:42 - 4:45that is unexpected
and awesome and amazing. -
4:45 - 4:49That was discovering an abundance.
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4:49 - 4:52Now, the third stage, which is dance.
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4:52 - 4:55No, I'm not gonna dance.
Or maybe I will. -
4:55 - 4:56(Laughter)
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4:56 - 5:00When you give and receive,
there's a tendency to keep track. -
5:00 - 5:03Even though we might not do it overtly,
subconsciously we're thinking, -
5:03 - 5:06"OK, how much did I give,
how much did I receive." -
5:06 - 5:10We do this mathematics.
But when you let go of that, -
5:10 - 5:13you start to dance,
it becomes very dynamic. -
5:13 - 5:15You see a bunch of dancers over there,
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5:15 - 5:17there're giving each other
a shoulder rub. -
5:17 - 5:21But what you notice is that
no one is doing a quid pro quo transaction. -
5:21 - 5:26Everyone is doing a massage
for somebody in front of them, -
5:26 - 5:28and yet everyone is taken care of.
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5:28 - 5:31When you start dancing to the spirit
of not keeping track -- -
5:31 - 5:32That guy could say,
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5:32 - 5:36"Oh, the person behind me is giving me
15 joules of pressure on my back, -
5:36 - 5:39so I'm going to give only 12 joules."
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5:39 - 5:40If you do that, it doesn't work.
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5:40 - 5:43But when you let that go, all of a sudden
you can have the circle -
5:43 - 5:45which works in a very different way.
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5:45 - 5:49So, it works for shoulder rubs,
but what about something practical? -
5:49 - 5:52So, we decided to try a little experiment.
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5:52 - 5:55We called it "Karma Kitchen."
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5:55 - 5:57On Sundays, we take over a restaurant.
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5:57 - 6:00You walk into this restaurant,
it's like a regular restaurant, -
6:00 - 6:05but it's run by volunteers
and at the end of your meal -
6:05 - 6:07your check reads zero.
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6:07 - 6:10It's zero because someone before you
paid for your meal. -
6:11 - 6:14And you get to pay forward
for somebody after you. -
6:14 - 6:16And people are always confused.
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6:16 - 6:18"Does that mean it's a free meal?"
No, it's not a free meal. -
6:18 - 6:21When you go to a soup kitchen,
who is paying? -
6:21 - 6:24Someone else outside who's got
some other reason for making that happen. -
6:24 - 6:27Here, it's literally
the person in front of you, -
6:27 - 6:29the person who was here
the week before -
6:29 - 6:31that pays for this week.
This week's is for the next week. -
6:31 - 6:35And when you count on people like that
to be generous, -
6:35 - 6:37how long will that chain last?
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6:37 - 6:39It has been going for three years.
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6:39 - 6:41And then it started in D.C.
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6:42 - 6:45From the surplus there,
it started in Chicago. -
6:45 - 6:47But what's most amazing about this
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6:47 - 6:51is that it creates a different context
for a very different kind of value. -
6:51 - 6:56So for example, there was a UC Berkeley PhD
in computer science guy -
6:56 - 6:59that came over and said,
"I want to volunteer." -
6:59 - 7:01So one Sunday, he is volunteering.
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7:01 - 7:04He is serving a table,
and the guest at the table says, -
7:04 - 7:07"Oh so, how does this work?
You trust me to pay what I want?" -
7:07 - 7:11He says, "Yeah, it's this chain,
and you're part of this chain." -
7:11 - 7:13Really we are all part of this chain,
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7:13 - 7:16from our ancestor onwards.
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7:16 - 7:23So he says, "OK," he takes out his wallet,
gives him a hundred, and says, -
7:23 - 7:26"OK, well, I trust you to bring me back
whatever change you want." -
7:27 - 7:28(Laughter)
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7:28 - 7:31And this guy goes in the back
and he's scratching his head. -
7:31 - 7:33"This wasn't part
of the volunteer orientation!" -
7:33 - 7:34(Laughter)
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7:34 - 7:36What are you going to do?
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7:36 - 7:38So, he is thinking about it.
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7:38 - 7:42And then, he decides to tap into
that space in himself about what this is. -
7:42 - 7:44This was not taught,
but he taps into that space, -
7:44 - 7:46he goes up to the guy,
gives him back his hundred, -
7:47 - 7:50takes out a twenty from his wallet,
adds to it, -
7:50 - 7:52and this guy is completely blown away.
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7:52 - 7:53(Laughter)
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7:54 - 7:57Because he's blown away,
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7:57 - 8:00this guy is blown away
and you know how this stuff ripples out. -
8:00 - 8:02Everybody is energized.
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8:02 - 8:04And you can look at that transaction
and say, -
8:04 - 8:07"There was a cost of food,
there was twenty bucks." -
8:07 - 8:08But the value generated there --
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8:08 - 8:11I can guaranteed you
that that guy went home -
8:11 - 8:14and he has been telling that story
to everybody he encounters. -
8:14 - 8:18Because this is like, "Which restaurant?
Where does this happen? -
8:18 - 8:20Which place on Earth?
Give me the address." -
8:20 - 8:24So it's the kind of thing
where there's a new dimension of value. -
8:24 - 8:28And if we don't have context
where people can practice this, -
8:28 - 8:29we lose this entirely.
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8:29 - 8:32So, really I just want to conclude
by saying, -
8:32 - 8:34you Give, Receive and Dance.
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8:34 - 8:36When you give, you find
that compassion is contagious -
8:36 - 8:38and you start to create a community.
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8:38 - 8:41When you receive,
and really learn to receive, -
8:41 - 8:43you start to discover abundance.
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8:43 - 8:48And when you dance, not only
do you create micro-gift economies, -
8:48 - 8:50but we start to seed a gift culture.
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8:50 - 8:51Thank you.
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8:51 - 8:53(Applause)
- Title:
- Pay it Forward: Nipun Mehta at TEDxGoldenGateED
- Description:
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Nipun Mehta is trying to persuade us to engage and create micro-gift economies and culture.
- Video Language:
- English
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- closed TED
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- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 08:55
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