One woman, five characters, and a sex lesson from the future
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0:01 - 0:03This is a play called "Sell/Buy/Date."
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0:03 - 0:06It's my first since "Bridge and Tunnel,"
which I did on Broadway, -
0:06 - 0:09and this one, I -- thank you --
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0:09 - 0:14I've excerpted it just for you,
so here we go. -
0:18 - 0:21Right. Class, let's be absolutely certain
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0:21 - 0:26all electronic devices are switched off
before we begin. -
0:26 - 0:31So class, hopefully you'll recognize
what you just heard me say as the -- ? -
0:32 - 0:35Very good, the cellular
phone announcement. -
0:35 - 0:39Right? This was also known
as a mobile phone. -
0:39 - 0:42So you'll remember, people of that era
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0:42 - 0:46would have had an external
electronic device, right, -
0:46 - 0:48something like this,
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0:48 - 0:51and they all would have carried
one of these around with them, -
0:51 - 0:55and amongst their biggest fears
was the sheer mortification -
0:55 - 0:58that one of these might ring
at some inopportune moment. -
0:58 - 1:01Right? So a bit of trivia
about that era for you. -
1:01 - 1:03(Laughter)
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1:03 - 1:06So the format of today's class is
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1:06 - 1:10I will be presenting multiple
BERT modules today -
1:10 - 1:12from that period in history, right,
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1:12 - 1:15so starting circa 2016.
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1:15 - 1:19And remember, this was
the very first year of the BERT program. -
1:19 - 1:22So we've got quite a few
of these to get through. -
1:22 - 1:26Bear in mind, I will be living
into various different bodies, -
1:26 - 1:27different ages,
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1:28 - 1:31also what were then called races,
or ethnic groups, -
1:31 - 1:33as you'll remember from Unit 1.
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1:33 - 1:37And -- (Laughter) -- and along
the gender continuum, -
1:37 - 1:39I will be living into males as well.
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1:39 - 1:41It was quite binary at that time.
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1:41 - 1:43(Laughter)
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1:43 - 1:46Also, don't forget, we are reading
the book module -
1:46 - 1:48for next week's focus on gender.
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1:48 - 1:52Now, I know some of you
have requested the book in pill form. -
1:52 - 1:56I know people still believe
ingesting it is better for retention, -
1:56 - 2:02but since we are trying to experience
what our forebears did, right, -
2:02 - 2:07let's please just consider doing
the actual ocular reading, okay? -
2:07 - 2:12And also, how many people
have your emotional shunts engaged? -
2:12 - 2:15Right. Please toggle them off. Okay?
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2:15 - 2:20I know it's challenging, but I want you
to be able to feel the entire -
2:20 - 2:22natural emo range, all right?
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2:22 - 2:25It is essential to this
part of the syllabus. -
2:26 - 2:27Yes, Macy?
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2:28 - 2:32All right. I understand.
If you're unwilling to -- -
2:32 - 2:34All right, well, we can discuss
that after class. -
2:34 - 2:36All right, we will discuss your concerns.
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2:36 - 2:41Just relax. Nobody's died
and gone to composting. -
2:41 - 2:44Okay. After class. Okay? After class.
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2:45 - 2:47Let's just get started, okay.
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2:47 - 2:54This first subject identified
as a middle-class homemaker. -
2:54 - 2:56Remember, these early modules
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2:56 - 3:00in these people's full identities
were protected, -
3:00 - 3:03and this allowed them to speak
more freely on our topic, -
3:03 - 3:07which for many of them was taboo.
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3:08 - 3:12Okay honey, now,
I'm ready when you are. -
3:12 - 3:15No, sweetheart, I said,
I'm ready when you are. -
3:16 - 3:17I'm freezing.
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3:18 - 3:21It's like a meat locker in here
in this recording studio. -
3:21 - 3:24I should have brought a shmata.
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3:24 - 3:27All this fancy technology
but they can't afford heat. -
3:28 - 3:32What is he saying? I can't hear you!
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3:32 - 3:35I can't hear you
through the glass, honey! -
3:35 - 3:37There you are in my ear.
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3:37 - 3:40Oh, you can hear me?
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3:40 - 3:42The whole time.
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3:42 - 3:45Oh, yes, I am a little chilly.
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3:46 - 3:52Yes, oh the cold is for the machines,
the new technology. Okay. -
3:52 - 3:57Yes, now remind me again, you're recording
not only my voice but my feelings -
3:57 - 4:00and my memories? Right.
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4:00 - 4:02Yes, BERT, yes, I read about it.
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4:02 - 4:05Bio-Empathetic Resonant Technology.
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4:05 - 4:11Right, right, so people will be able
to feel my experience -
4:11 - 4:13and my memory? Okay.
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4:13 - 4:14No, right, I'm ready.
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4:14 - 4:18I just thought you were going to give me
a test to see how my memory's doing. -
4:18 - 4:21I was going to tell you you're too late,
it's already bad news. -
4:23 - 4:26No, no, go ahead, honey.
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4:26 - 4:28Oh, that's the first question?
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4:28 - 4:31What do I think of prostitution?
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4:31 - 4:35Are you soliciting me, young man?
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4:35 - 4:40I've heard of May-December romances,
but what are you, about 20 years old? -
4:41 - 4:43Eighteen? Eighteen years.
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4:43 - 4:48I think I have candies in my purse
older than 18 years old. -
4:48 - 4:50(Laughter)
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4:52 - 4:57I'm teasing you, sweetheart.
No, I'm comfortable with any question. -
4:58 - 5:02Sure. So about the prostitution --
oh, sex worker, sex worker. -
5:04 - 5:08No, just in my day, they called it
prostitution, not sex work. -
5:08 - 5:11Oh, because it includes pornography also?
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5:11 - 5:12Okay.
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5:12 - 5:15No, well, I guess when I was a girl,
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5:15 - 5:17we didn't really have
a name for that either. -
5:17 - 5:23We would have said dirty magazines,
I suppose, or dirty movies. -
5:23 - 5:25Well, it's not like what you have
with the Internet. -
5:26 - 5:30No, well, I don't mind sharing.
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5:30 - 5:35My late husband and I,
we were a very romantic couple. -
5:36 - 5:39Lots of tenderness, you understand.
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5:40 - 5:43Well, as you get older, you know,
at one point I thought my husband -
5:43 - 5:47might be helped by using
some of the pills men can take, -
5:49 - 5:52but he wasn't interested in those,
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5:52 - 5:58so I thought, what about maybe
watching an adult movie on the Internet? -
5:58 - 6:02Just for inspiration, you understand.
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6:02 - 6:07Well, at the time, neither of us
were very good on the computer, -
6:07 - 6:10so usually, if we needed help
with the Internet, -
6:10 - 6:15we would just call our children
or our grandchildren, -
6:15 - 6:18but obviously, in this case,
that wasn't an option, -
6:18 - 6:24so I thought, I'll have
a look myself, just to see. -
6:24 - 6:26How difficult could it be?
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6:26 - 6:30You search for certain key words
and you look -- -
6:30 - 6:32Oh wow is right, young man.
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6:32 - 6:35You can't imagine what I saw.
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6:35 - 6:40Well, first of all, I was just trying
to find, you know, couples, -
6:40 - 6:42normal couples making love,
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6:43 - 6:48but this, so many people
together at one time. -
6:48 - 6:52You couldn't tell which part
belonged to which body. -
6:52 - 6:56How they even got the cameras to
capture some of this, I couldn't tell you. -
6:56 - 7:01But the one thing they didn't capture
was making love. -
7:03 - 7:07There was lots of making of something,
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7:07 - 7:11but they took the love part
right out of it, you know, the fun. -
7:11 - 7:15It was all very extreme, you know?
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7:15 - 7:18Like you would say,
with the extreme sports. -
7:19 - 7:23Lots of endurance,
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7:23 - 7:26but never tenderness.
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7:26 - 7:32So anyway, needless to say,
that was $19.95 I'll never get back again, -
7:32 - 7:37but it only showed up on the credit card
as "entertainment services," -
7:37 - 7:40so my husband was never the wiser,
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7:40 - 7:42and after all of that,
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7:43 - 7:46well, you could say it turned out
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7:46 - 7:49he didn't need the extra
inspiration after all. -
7:51 - 7:55Right, so next subject is a young woman
-- (Applause) -- -
7:56 - 7:59Next subject, class,
is a young woman called Bella, -
7:59 - 8:03a university student interviewed in 2016
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8:03 - 8:07during what was called
an Intro to Feminist Porn class -
8:07 - 8:11as part of her major in sex work
at a college in the Bay Area. -
8:11 - 8:15(Laughter)
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8:15 - 8:17Yeah, I just want to, like,
get a recording of, like, -
8:17 - 8:20you guys recording me,
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8:20 - 8:22like a meta recording, or whatever.
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8:23 - 8:27It's just like this whole experience
is just, like, really amazing, -
8:27 - 8:30and I'd like to capture that
for, like, Instagram and my Tumblr. -
8:30 - 8:33So, like, hi guys, it's me, Bella,
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8:33 - 8:37and I am, like, being
interviewed right now -
8:38 - 8:44for this, like, really amazing
Bio-Empathetic Resonance Technology, -
8:44 - 8:50which is, like, basically where they are,
like, recording, as you can see -
8:50 - 8:52from these, whatever, like, electrodes,
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8:52 - 8:57the formation of, like, neuropeptides
in my hippocampus, or whatever. -
8:58 - 9:01They will later be able
to reconstitute these -
9:01 - 9:06as, like, my own actual memory,
like actual experiences, -
9:08 - 9:12so other people can, like,
actually feel what I'm feeling right now. -
9:12 - 9:15Okay. Okay.
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9:15 - 9:20So, like, hello, BERT person of the future
who is experiencing me. -
9:21 - 9:25This is what it feels like to be,
like, a college freshman, -
9:25 - 9:30and also the, like, headache
that you are experiencing through me -
9:30 - 9:36is the, like, residual effect
of the Jell-O shots which I had last night -
9:36 - 9:39at the bi-weekly feminist
pole dancing party -
9:39 - 9:42which I cohost on Wednesdays.
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9:42 - 9:46It's called "Don't Get All Pole-emical" --
(Laughter) -- -
9:46 - 9:49and it's in Beekman Hall,
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9:50 - 9:52and, what else, like,
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9:52 - 9:56non-Jell-O shots are also
available for vegans, -
9:56 - 10:05and, oh, okay, yeah, totally, yeah, we
should also focus on your questions also. -
10:06 - 10:10So for your record, I am, like,
a sex work studies major -
10:10 - 10:12but minoring in social media
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10:12 - 10:15with a concentration
on notable YouTube memes. -
10:15 - 10:17(Laughter)
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10:18 - 10:21Yes, well, of course, like,
I consider myself to be, like, -
10:21 - 10:24obviously, like, a feminist.
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10:24 - 10:29I was named for Bella Abzug,
who was, like, a famous, like, -
10:29 - 10:31feminist from history,
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10:31 - 10:37and, like, also I feel that it is, like,
important to, like, represent women -
10:37 - 10:41who are, like, sex-positive feminists.
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10:42 - 10:45What is sex-negative?
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10:45 - 10:49Well, like, I guess I would ask,
like, what do you think -
10:49 - 10:52sex-negative is? (Laughter)
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10:52 - 10:57Yeah, because, like, the terms that we use
are, like, so important, because, like, -
10:57 - 11:04we call it sex work because it helps
people understand that, like, it's work, -
11:04 - 11:09and, like, you know, just like there are,
like, healthcare providers -
11:09 - 11:12and, like, insurance providers,
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11:12 - 11:17like, we think of these workers
as, like, sex care providers. -
11:19 - 11:22Yeah, but like, I don't think of myself
like, providing direct -
11:22 - 11:26sex care services per se as, like,
being a requirement -
11:26 - 11:29for me to be, like, an advocate.
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11:29 - 11:33Like, I support other women's right
to choose it voluntarily, like, -
11:33 - 11:35if they enjoy it.
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11:35 - 11:38Yeah, but, like, I see
myself going forward -
11:38 - 11:41as more likely, like,
protecting sex workers', -
11:41 - 11:44like, legal freedoms and rights.
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11:44 - 11:48Yeah, so, like, basically,
I'm planning on becoming a lawyer. -
11:50 - 11:52Right, class. (Laughter) (Applause)
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11:52 - 11:56So these next two modules
are also circa 2016. -
11:56 - 12:00One subject is an Irishwoman
with a particularly noteworthy -
12:00 - 12:03relationship to this issue,
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12:03 - 12:07but first will be a West Indian woman,
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12:07 - 12:09a self-described escort
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12:09 - 12:14who was recorded at a
sex workers' rights rally and parade. -
12:14 - 12:19She was interviewed whilst marching
in full carnival headdress -
12:19 - 12:21and very little else.
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12:24 - 12:26All right, you want me
to start talking now. -
12:26 - 12:30Yeah, I told you, you can
put those wires anywhere you want to -
12:30 - 12:33as long as it don't get in the way.
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12:33 - 12:38Yeah, no, but, tell me again
what the name of -- BERT? BERT. -
12:38 - 12:41Yeah, I was telling you, you know,
I think I have in all my time -
12:41 - 12:45I have had at least one client with that
name, so this won't be the first time -
12:45 - 12:47I had BERT all over me.
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12:52 - 12:53Oh, I'm sorry,
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12:53 - 12:57but you got to get into the spirit of it
if you're going to interview me. -
12:57 - 12:59All right? You can say it.
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12:59 - 13:01No justice, no piece!
No justice, no piece! -
13:01 - 13:07But you see the sign? You get it?
P-I-E-C-E. No justice, no piece of us. -
13:07 - 13:09You understand?
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13:09 - 13:11Right, so that's the part
where I was telling you -
13:11 - 13:16is that when I first came to this country,
I worked every job I could find. -
13:16 - 13:20I was a nanny; I was a home care attendant
for all these different old people, -
13:20 - 13:24and then I said, child, if I have to touch
another white man's backside, -
13:24 - 13:27I might as well get paid
a lot more money for it than this, -
13:27 - 13:29you understand?
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13:29 - 13:32Pshh, you know how hard it is
being a domestic worker? -
13:33 - 13:35Some of these men, they're heavy.
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13:35 - 13:38You have to pick them up
and flip them over. -
13:38 - 13:42Now, I let them pick me up
and flip me over, you understand? -
13:42 - 13:45Well, you have to have a sense of humor
about it, that's what I think. -
13:45 - 13:47No, but see, listen,
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13:47 - 13:51you find me somebody who don't hate
some part of their job. -
13:51 - 13:54I mean, there's a lot of things
about this job that I hate, -
13:54 - 13:55but the money is not one of them,
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13:55 - 13:58and I will tell you, as long as this
is the best possibility -
13:58 - 14:00for me to make real money,
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14:00 - 14:04I am going to be Jamaican-No-Fakin'
if that's what they want to call me. -
14:04 - 14:07No, I'm not even from Jamaica.
That's how they market me. -
14:07 - 14:11My family is from Trinidad
and the Virgin Islands. -
14:11 - 14:14They don't know what I do,
but you know what? -
14:14 - 14:17My children, they know
that their school fees are paid, -
14:17 - 14:19they have their books and their computer,
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14:19 - 14:22and this way, I know
that they have a chance. -
14:22 - 14:25So I'm not going to tell you
that what I do, it's easy, -
14:25 - 14:29I'm not going to tell you that I feel --
what's that you said, liberated? -
14:30 - 14:33But I'm going to tell you
that I feel paid. -
14:34 - 14:37Right. (Applause)
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14:39 - 14:41Thanks, that's lovely,
and just the cup of tea, love, -
14:41 - 14:43and just a splash of the whiskey.
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14:43 - 14:48It's perfect, that's grand.
Just a drop more. A splash. Perfect. -
14:48 - 14:52What was your name? Peter?
Is that right, so, Peter? -
14:52 - 14:55Right. So that, that is
the unique part of it for me, -
14:55 - 14:57right, is that I ended up in both,
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14:59 - 15:03first in the convent, and then
in the prostitution after. That's right. -
15:03 - 15:04(Laughter)
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15:04 - 15:08So one woman at the university
here in Dublin, she wrote about me. -
15:08 - 15:14She said, Maureen Fitzroy is the living
embodiment of the whore-virgin dichotomy. -
15:14 - 15:15Right? (Laughter)
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15:15 - 15:18Doesn't it sound like something
you need to go into hospital? -
15:18 - 15:20Well, I've got this terrible dichotomy.
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15:20 - 15:21Doesn't it.
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15:22 - 15:25Right. Well, for me though, it was,
as a girl, it started with me dad. -
15:25 - 15:28I mean, half the time, when he
spoke to us, it was just a sort of -
15:28 - 15:33tell us we were all useless rotten idiots
and we had no morals, that type of thing. -
15:33 - 15:36And I certainly didn't
do myself any favors. -
15:36 - 15:38By the time I was 16,
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15:38 - 15:41I had started messing about
with this older fella, -
15:41 - 15:45and he wanted it to be
our little secret, -
15:45 - 15:47and I did as I was told, didn't I,
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15:47 - 15:53and when that got back to me dad, he
had me sent straightaway to the convent. -
15:55 - 15:58Well no, that older fella, he would still
come to find me in the convent. -
15:59 - 16:01Yeah, he'd leave me notes
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16:01 - 16:04tucked into the holes in the brick
at the back of the charity shop -
16:04 - 16:05so we could meet.
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16:05 - 16:09And he'd tell me how
he's leaving his wife, -
16:09 - 16:13and I believed him, until I got pregnant.
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16:13 - 16:18I did, Peter, and I left him a note
about it in our special place there, -
16:18 - 16:21and I never did hear from him again.
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16:21 - 16:26No, I gave it up for adoption
so it could have a decent life, -
16:27 - 16:30and then they wouldn't let me
back into the convent. -
16:31 - 16:34No, my one sister Virginia gave me
a fiver for the coach to Dublin, -
16:34 - 16:36and that's how I ended up here.
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16:37 - 16:41Well, surprise, surprise, I fell in love
with another fella much older than me, -
16:41 - 16:46and I always say I was just so happy
because he didn't drink, -
16:47 - 16:50I married the bastard.
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16:51 - 16:54Well, he didn't drink, but he did have
just the wee heroin problem, didn't he, -
16:54 - 16:57and -- That's right, and before I knew it,
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16:57 - 17:01he was the one who turned me on
to the prostitution, my own husband. -
17:02 - 17:04He had me supporting the both of us.
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17:04 - 17:05I was 18.
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17:06 - 17:09Well, it wasn't Pretty Woman,
I can tell you that. -
17:11 - 17:12That Julia Roberts,
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17:14 - 17:18if she'd ever had to sleep with a man
to put a few pounds in her pocket, -
17:18 - 17:20I don't think she'd ever
have made that film. -
17:20 - 17:22Well, for your record,
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17:22 - 17:26my opinion of the legalization,
I'd say I'm against it. -
17:27 - 17:29I just, I don't care what
these young girls say. -
17:29 - 17:32You know, living like that,
you're just lost, -
17:32 - 17:34and, you know, I'm 63 years old.
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17:34 - 17:37I'm still trying to find who I am.
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17:38 - 17:41You know, I never was a wife or a nun,
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17:41 - 17:45or a prostitute even, really, not really.
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17:45 - 17:48Nobody ever asked who I wanted to be.
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17:48 - 17:49They just told me,
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17:49 - 17:51and if you legalize it,
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17:51 - 17:55then you're really telling these girls,
"Go on and get lost for a living," -
17:55 - 17:58and a lot of them,
they'll do as they're told. -
17:59 - 18:04All right, so four perspectives
from four quite -- (Applause) -- -
18:04 - 18:06four quite different voices there, right?
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18:06 - 18:10One woman saying sex itself is natural
but the sex industry seems to -
18:11 - 18:13mechanize or industrialize it.
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18:13 - 18:17Then the second woman considered
sex work to be empowering, -
18:17 - 18:21liberating, and feminist,
though she, herself, notably, -
18:21 - 18:24did not seem keen to do it.
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18:24 - 18:28The third woman, who actually was
a so-called sex worker -
18:28 - 18:31did not agree that it was liberating
but she wanted the right -
18:31 - 18:33to the economic empowerment,
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18:33 - 18:36and then we hear the fourth woman
saying not only prostitution itself -
18:36 - 18:39but proscribed roles for women in general
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18:39 - 18:42prevented her from ever
finding who she was, right? -
18:42 - 18:44So another fact most people did not know
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18:44 - 18:50was the average age of an at-risk girl
being introduced to the sex industry -
18:50 - 18:52was 12 or 13.
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18:52 - 18:55Also consider that the age
when all girls in that society -
18:55 - 18:59first became exposed
to sexualized images of women -
18:59 - 19:01was quite a bit earlier, right?
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19:01 - 19:06This was a doll called Barbie, right?
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19:06 - 19:10I initially thought she was an educational
tool for anorexia prevention -- -
19:10 - 19:11(Laughter) --
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19:11 - 19:14but actually she was considered by many
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19:14 - 19:18to be a wholesome symbol of femininity,
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19:18 - 19:22and often young girls began
what was called dieting. -
19:22 - 19:26Remember this? This was
restricting food intake on purpose -
19:26 - 19:27by the age of six,
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19:27 - 19:30and defining themselves
based on attractiveness -
19:30 - 19:32by around that same time. Right?
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19:32 - 19:33Yes?
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19:34 - 19:36Right, Bradley, okay, excellent point.
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19:36 - 19:41So there was a lucrative market
in that society in convincing all people -
19:41 - 19:44they had to look a certain way
to even have a sex life, right? -
19:44 - 19:50But girls, especially, were expected
to be "sexy" while avoiding -
19:50 - 19:53being perceived as "sluts"
for being sexual. Right? -
19:53 - 19:55So there's that shame piece
we've heard about. -
19:55 - 19:57Yes.
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19:57 - 19:59Valerie, right? Okay, very good.
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19:59 - 20:02Of course, men were having sex as well,
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20:02 - 20:04but you'll remember from the reading,
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20:04 - 20:06what were male sluts called?
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20:07 - 20:09Very good, they were called men.
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20:09 - 20:11(Laughter) (Applause)
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20:11 - 20:16So not easy living in
a world like that, right? -
20:17 - 20:19Though it was not all bad news either.
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20:19 - 20:22Most women in the early 2000s
considered themselves empowered, -
20:22 - 20:26and men generally felt they were
also evolved in this area, -
20:26 - 20:29and, in fact, most people would have
been aware of issues -
20:29 - 20:31like human trafficking, for example,
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20:31 - 20:34but they would have seen that
as quite separate -
20:34 - 20:36from more recreational
adult entertainment. -
20:36 - 20:40And so we'll just very briefly, class --
we don't have a lot of time -- -
20:40 - 20:42we'll just very briefly hear from a man
-
20:42 - 20:44on our topic at this stage.
-
20:44 - 20:49So this next subject was interviewed
on the night of his bachelor party. -
20:51 - 20:55Dude, can you, all right,
can you just keep it down? -
20:55 - 20:57I'm trying to talk to BERT right now.
-
20:57 - 20:59Oh, your name's not BERT.
-
20:59 - 21:02BERT's the name of the, oh, all right.
-
21:02 - 21:05No, no, no, totally, it's totally fine.
I'm mostly sober, -
21:05 - 21:07so I just want to be helpful.
-
21:08 - 21:12Yeah, and I totally believe in causes,
yeah, like, all that stuff. -
21:12 - 21:13(Laughter)
-
21:13 - 21:16And actually, I'm wearing Toms right now.
-
21:17 - 21:21Yeah, Toms, like, the shoes,
-
21:21 - 21:24like, you buy a pair and then
a kid in Africa gets clean water. -
21:25 - 21:26Yeah. Totally.
-
21:26 - 21:29But what was the question again? Sorry.
-
21:29 - 21:34Of course I believe in women's rights.
I'm marrying a woman. -
21:34 - 21:36(Laughter)
-
21:36 - 21:40No, but I mean, like, just because
I'm in a strip club parking lot -
21:40 - 21:43doesn't mean that I'm, like,
a sexist or whatever. -
21:43 - 21:47My fiancee is totally amazing,
she's totally a strong girl, woman, -
21:47 - 21:50smart woman, like, the whole thing.
-
21:50 - 21:54Yeah, she knows I'm here. She's probably
at a strip club herself right now, -
21:54 - 21:56like, as a joke, same as me.
-
21:56 - 21:58My best man, I told him
he could surprise me, -
21:58 - 22:00and he thought this would be hilarious,
-
22:00 - 22:02but this is not something.
-
22:02 - 22:05Yeah, we all went to B school together.
-
22:05 - 22:07Wharton.
-
22:07 - 22:08(Laughter)
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22:08 - 22:10Yeah, so, dude, can you guys --
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22:10 - 22:12All right, but it's my bachelor party,
-
22:12 - 22:16and I can spend it in the parking lot
with Anderson Cooper if I want to. -
22:16 - 22:18All right, I'll see you in there.
-
22:19 - 22:21All right, okay, so Anderson,
-
22:21 - 22:25so, like, first of all, stripping,
-
22:25 - 22:28but then, like, all the other things
you're talking about, -
22:28 - 22:31prostitution and all that stuff,
that's, like, not the same thing at all. -
22:31 - 22:35You know? Like, you keep calling it
the sex industry or whatever, -
22:35 - 22:39but it's like, if the girl wants
to be an exotic dancer -
22:39 - 22:42and she's 18, like, that's her right.
-
22:43 - 22:46Whoa, whoa, I hear what you're saying,
but I just feel like people, -
22:46 - 22:50they just want to make it seem
like all dudes are just, like, predators, -
22:50 - 22:53that we would just automatically
go to a prostitute, or whatever. -
22:53 - 22:57Even, like, when I pledged, you know,
like when I rushed my fraternity. -
22:58 - 23:01My brothers who I'm close to,
those guys, they're all like me. -
23:01 - 23:05We're just normal people, but, like,
there's this myth that you must -
23:05 - 23:10be that guy who is kind of an asshole,
and like, all bros before hos or whatever. -
23:10 - 23:14And actually, like, bros before hos,
it doesn't mean like what it sounds like. -
23:15 - 23:18It's actually just like a joking way of
saying that you care about your brothers -
23:18 - 23:21and you put them first.
-
23:21 - 23:24Yeah, but, you can't blame
the media, either. -
23:24 - 23:26I mean, like, if you
go watch "Hangover 2," -
23:26 - 23:28and you think that's an instruction manual
-
23:28 - 23:31for your life, like,
I don't know what to tell you. -
23:31 - 23:33You know? You don't
watch "Bourne Identity" -
23:33 - 23:37and go drive your car
over a gondola in Venice. (Laughter) -
23:38 - 23:41Well, yeah, okay, like, if you're
a little kid or whatever, -
23:41 - 23:43of course it's different, but --
-
23:43 - 23:47Yeah, all right, I remember
one thing like that. -
23:47 - 23:50I was at this kid's house
one time playing GTA, -
23:51 - 23:53uh, Grand Theft Auto?
-
23:53 - 23:56Dude, are you from Canada? (Laughter)
-
23:58 - 24:01So, like, whatever, with Grand Theft Auto,
-
24:01 - 24:04you're this kid, like, you're this guy
walking around or whatever, -
24:04 - 24:07and you can basically, like,
the more cops you kill, -
24:07 - 24:10the more points you get,
and stuff like that. -
24:10 - 24:13But also, you can find prostitutes
-
24:13 - 24:16and obviously you can do
sexual stuff with them, -
24:16 - 24:20but you can, like, kill them
and take your money back. -
24:21 - 24:24Yeah, this kid, I remember he ran over
a couple of them a few times with his car -
24:24 - 24:27and he got all these points.
-
24:27 - 24:30We were, like, 10, I think.
-
24:32 - 24:34It felt pretty terrible, actually.
-
24:35 - 24:40No, I don't think I said anything,
I just finished playing and went home. -
24:41 - 24:44All right class, so then there were men
who had more than just -
24:44 - 24:46a passing relationship to this issue.
(Laughter) -
24:48 - 24:53The next subject described himself
as a reformed and remorseful pimp -
24:53 - 24:55turned motivational speaker,
-
24:55 - 24:57life coach and therapist,
-
24:57 - 25:01but if you want to know more about him,
you'll have to come to the entire play. -
25:01 - 25:05Thank you so much,
you beautiful TED audience. -
25:05 - 25:07I will see you for "Sell/Buy/Date."
-
25:07 - 25:12(Applause)
- Title:
- One woman, five characters, and a sex lesson from the future
- Speaker:
- Sarah Jones
- Description:
-
In this performance, Sarah Jones brings you to the front row of a classroom in the future, as a teacher plugs in different personas from the year 2016 to show their varied perspectives on sex work. As she changes props, Jones embodies an elderly homemaker, a “sex work studies” major, an escort, a nun-turned-prostitute and a guy at a strip club for his bachelor party. It’s an intriguing look at a taboo topic, that flips cultural norms around sex inside out.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 25:28
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