Violence against women—it's a men's issue
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0:01 - 0:04I'm going to share with you
a paradigm-shifting perspective -
0:04 - 0:07on the issues of gender violence:
sexual assault, domestic violence, -
0:07 - 0:11relationship abuse, sexual harassment,
sexual abuse of children. -
0:11 - 0:12That whole range of issues
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0:12 - 0:15that I'll refer to in shorthand
as "gender violence issues," -
0:15 - 0:19they've been seen as women's issues
that some good men help out with, -
0:19 - 0:22but I have a problem with that frame
and I don't accept it. -
0:22 - 0:25I don't see these as women's issues
that some good men help out with. -
0:25 - 0:28In fact, I'm going to argue
that these are men's issues, -
0:28 - 0:29first and foremost.
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0:29 - 0:30Now obviously --
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0:30 - 0:32(Applause)
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0:32 - 0:34Obviously, they're also women's issues,
so I appreciate that, -
0:34 - 0:39but calling gender violence
a women's issue is part of the problem, -
0:39 - 0:41for a number of reasons.
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0:41 - 0:44The first is that it gives men
an excuse not to pay attention, right? -
0:44 - 0:46A lot of men hear
the term "women's issues" -
0:46 - 0:48and we tend to tune it out, and we think,
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0:48 - 0:51"I'm a guy; that's for the girls,"
or "that's for the women." -
0:51 - 0:55And a lot of men literally don't get
beyond the first sentence as a result. -
0:55 - 0:58It's almost like a chip
in our brain is activated, -
0:58 - 1:01and the neural pathways take
our attention in a different direction -
1:01 - 1:03when we hear the term "women's issues."
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1:03 - 1:05This is also true, by the way,
of the word "gender," -
1:05 - 1:07because a lot of people
hear the word "gender" -
1:07 - 1:09and they think it means "women."
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1:09 - 1:12So they think that gender issues
is synonymous with women's issues. -
1:12 - 1:14There's some confusion
about the term gender. -
1:14 - 1:17And let me illustrate
that confusion by way of analogy. -
1:17 - 1:19So let's talk for a moment about race.
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1:19 - 1:21In the US, when we hear the word "race,"
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1:21 - 1:23a lot of people think
that means African-American, -
1:23 - 1:25Latino, Asian-American, Native American,
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1:25 - 1:28South Asian, Pacific Islander, on and on.
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1:28 - 1:31A lot of people, when they hear
the word "sexual orientation" -
1:31 - 1:34think it means gay, lesbian, bisexual.
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1:34 - 1:36And a lot of people,
when they hear the word "gender," -
1:36 - 1:37think it means women.
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1:37 - 1:40In each case, the dominant group
doesn't get paid attention to. -
1:40 - 1:43As if white people don't have
some sort of racial identity -
1:43 - 1:46or belong to some racial
category or construct, -
1:46 - 1:50as if heterosexual people
don't have a sexual orientation, -
1:50 - 1:52as if men don't have a gender.
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1:52 - 1:56This is one of the ways that dominant
systems maintain and reproduce themselves, -
1:56 - 1:58which is to say the dominant group
is rarely challenged -
1:58 - 2:00to even think about its dominance,
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2:00 - 2:03because that's one of the key
characteristics of power and privilege, -
2:03 - 2:05the ability to go unexamined,
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2:05 - 2:10lacking introspection, in fact being
rendered invisible, in large measure, -
2:10 - 2:13in the discourse about issues
that are primarily about us. -
2:13 - 2:17And this is amazing how this works
in domestic and sexual violence, -
2:17 - 2:20how men have been largely erased
from so much of the conversation -
2:20 - 2:23about a subject
that is centrally about men. -
2:23 - 2:26And I'm going to illustrate
what I'm talking about -
2:26 - 2:27by using the old tech.
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2:27 - 2:30I'm old school
on some fundamental regards. -
2:30 - 2:32I make films and I work with high tech,
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2:32 - 2:35but I'm still old school as an educator,
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2:35 - 2:38and I want to share with you this exercise
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2:38 - 2:40that illustrates
on the sentence-structure level -
2:40 - 2:45how the way that we think,
literally the way that we use language, -
2:45 - 2:47conspires to keep
our attention off of men. -
2:47 - 2:49This is about domestic
violence in particular, -
2:49 - 2:53but you can plug in other analogues.
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2:53 - 2:56This comes from the work
of the feminist linguist Julia Penelope. -
2:56 - 2:58It starts with a very basic
English sentence: -
2:58 - 3:02"John beat Mary."
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3:02 - 3:03That's a good English sentence.
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3:03 - 3:07John is the subject, beat is the verb,
Mary is the object, good sentence. -
3:07 - 3:09Now we're going to move
to the second sentence, -
3:09 - 3:11which says the same thing
in the passive voice. -
3:11 - 3:16"Mary was beaten by John."
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3:18 - 3:20And now a whole lot
has happened in one sentence. -
3:20 - 3:22We've gone from "John beat Mary"
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3:23 - 3:24to "Mary was beaten by John."
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3:24 - 3:28We've shifted our focus
in one sentence from John to Mary, -
3:28 - 3:31and you can see John is very close
to the end of the sentence, -
3:31 - 3:34well, close to dropping
off the map of our psychic plain. -
3:34 - 3:35The third sentence, John is dropped,
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3:35 - 3:39and we have, "Mary was beaten,"
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3:39 - 3:40and now it's all about Mary.
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3:41 - 3:44We're not even thinking about John,
it's totally focused on Mary. -
3:44 - 3:45Over the past generation,
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3:45 - 3:48the term we've used
synonymous with "beaten" is "battered," -
3:48 - 3:51so we have "Mary was battered."
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3:51 - 3:55And the final sentence in this sequence,
flowing from the others, is, -
3:55 - 3:58"Mary is a battered woman."
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3:58 - 4:04So now Mary's very identity --
Mary is a battered woman -- -
4:06 - 4:08is what was done to her by John
in the first instance. -
4:08 - 4:11But we've demonstrated that John
has long ago left the conversation. -
4:11 - 4:14Those of us who work
in the domestic and sexual violence field -
4:14 - 4:17know that victim-blaming
is pervasive in this realm, -
4:17 - 4:20which is to say, blaming the person
to whom something was done -
4:20 - 4:22rather than the person who did it.
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4:22 - 4:24And we say: why do they
go out with these men? -
4:24 - 4:27Why are they attracted to them?
Why do they keep going back? -
4:27 - 4:30What was she wearing at that party?
What a stupid thing to do. -
4:30 - 4:32Why was she drinking
with those guys in that hotel room? -
4:32 - 4:35This is victim blaming,
and there are many reasons for it, -
4:35 - 4:39but one is that our cognitive structure
is set up to blame victims. -
4:39 - 4:40This is all unconscious.
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4:40 - 4:43Our whole cognitive structure
is set up to ask questions -
4:43 - 4:46about women and women's choices
and what they're doing, thinking, wearing. -
4:46 - 4:50And I'm not going to shout down
people who ask questions about women. -
4:50 - 4:51It's a legitimate thing to ask.
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4:51 - 4:53But's let's be clear:
Asking questions about Mary -
4:53 - 4:57is not going to get us anywhere
in terms of preventing violence. -
4:57 - 4:59We have to ask a different
set of questions. -
4:59 - 5:02The questions are not about Mary,
they're about John. -
5:02 - 5:05They include things like,
why does John beat Mary? -
5:05 - 5:09Why is domestic violence still a big
problem in the US and all over the world? -
5:09 - 5:12What's going on?
Why do so many men abuse physically, -
5:12 - 5:14emotionally, verbally, and other ways,
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5:14 - 5:17the women and girls, and the men and boys,
that they claim to love? -
5:17 - 5:18What's going on with men?
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5:19 - 5:22Why do so many adult men
sexually abuse little girls and boys? -
5:22 - 5:24Why is that a common problem
in our society -
5:24 - 5:26and all over the world today?
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5:26 - 5:28Why do we hear over and over again
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5:28 - 5:31about new scandals erupting
in major institutions -
5:31 - 5:35like the Catholic Church
or the Penn State football program -
5:35 - 5:37or the Boy Scouts of America,
on and on and on? -
5:37 - 5:39And then local communities
all over the country -
5:39 - 5:40and all over the world.
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5:40 - 5:42We hear about it all the time.
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5:42 - 5:43The sexual abuse of children.
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5:43 - 5:47What's going on with men?
Why do so many men rape women -
5:47 - 5:48in our society and around the world?
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5:48 - 5:50Why do so many men rape other men?
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5:50 - 5:52What is going on with men?
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5:52 - 5:57And then what is the role
of the various institutions in our society -
5:57 - 6:00that are helping to produce
abusive men at pandemic rates? -
6:00 - 6:02Because this isn't
about individual perpetrators. -
6:02 - 6:05That's a naive way to understanding
what is a much deeper -
6:05 - 6:06and more systematic social problem.
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6:06 - 6:10The perpetrators aren't these monsters
who crawl out of the swamp -
6:10 - 6:12and come into town
and do their nasty business -
6:13 - 6:14and then retreat into the darkness.
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6:14 - 6:17That's a very naive notion, right?
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6:17 - 6:20Perpetrators are much more normal
than that, and everyday than that. -
6:20 - 6:24So the question is, what are we doing here
in our society and in the world? -
6:24 - 6:26What are the roles of various institutions
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6:27 - 6:29in helping to produce abusive men?
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6:29 - 6:31What's the role of religious
belief systems, -
6:31 - 6:33the sports culture,
the pornography culture, -
6:33 - 6:36the family structure, economics,
and how that intersects, -
6:36 - 6:38and race and ethnicity
and how that intersects? -
6:38 - 6:40How does all this work?
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6:40 - 6:43And then, once we start making
those kinds of connections -
6:43 - 6:45and asking those important
and big questions, -
6:45 - 6:48then we can talk about
how we can be transformative, -
6:48 - 6:50in other words, how can we do
something differently? -
6:50 - 6:52How can we change the practices?
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6:52 - 6:54How can we change
the socialization of boys -
6:54 - 6:57and the definitions of manhood
that lead to these current outcomes? -
6:57 - 7:00These are the kind of questions
that we need to be asking -
7:00 - 7:02and the kind of work
that we need to be doing, -
7:02 - 7:06but if we're endlessly focused
on what women are doing and thinking -
7:06 - 7:08in relationships or elsewhere,
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7:08 - 7:10we're not going to get to that piece.
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7:10 - 7:12I understand that a lot of women
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7:12 - 7:14who have been trying to speak out
about these issues, -
7:14 - 7:16today and yesterday
and for years and years, -
7:16 - 7:19often get shouted down for their efforts.
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7:19 - 7:24They get called nasty names
like "male-basher" and "man-hater," -
7:24 - 7:30and the disgusting
and offensive "feminazi", right? -
7:30 - 7:32And you know what all this is about?
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7:32 - 7:33It's called kill the messenger.
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7:34 - 7:36It's because the women who are standing up
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7:36 - 7:38and speaking out for themselves
and for other women -
7:38 - 7:40as well as for men and boys,
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7:40 - 7:43it's a statement to them
to sit down and shut up, -
7:43 - 7:44keep the current system in place,
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7:44 - 7:47because we don't like it
when people rock the boat. -
7:47 - 7:49We don't like it when people
challenge our power. -
7:49 - 7:51You'd better sit
down and shut up, basically. -
7:51 - 7:53And thank goodness
that women haven't done that. -
7:53 - 7:55Thank goodness that we live in a world
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7:55 - 7:58where there's so much women's leadership
that can counteract that. -
7:58 - 8:01But one of the powerful roles
that men can play in this work -
8:01 - 8:04is that we can say some things
that sometimes women can't say, -
8:04 - 8:07or, better yet, we can be heard
saying some things -
8:07 - 8:09that women often can't be heard saying.
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8:09 - 8:12Now, I appreciate that that's a problem,
it's sexism, but it's the truth. -
8:12 - 8:14So one of the things that I say to men,
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8:14 - 8:16and my colleagues and I always say this,
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8:16 - 8:19is we need more men
who have the courage and the strength -
8:19 - 8:21to start standing up and saying
some of this stuff, -
8:21 - 8:23and standing with women
and not against them -
8:23 - 8:26and pretending that somehow
this is a battle between the sexes -
8:26 - 8:28and other kinds of nonsense.
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8:28 - 8:29We live in the world together.
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8:29 - 8:32And by the way, one of the things
that really bothers me -
8:32 - 8:34about some of the rhetoric
against feminists and others -
8:35 - 8:38who have built the battered women's
and rape crisis movements around the world -
8:38 - 8:41is that somehow, like I said,
that they're anti-male. -
8:41 - 8:44What about all the boys who are profoundly
affected in a negative way -
8:44 - 8:48by what some adult man is doing against
their mother, themselves, their sisters? -
8:48 - 8:49What about all those boys?
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8:49 - 8:51What about all the young men and boys
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8:51 - 8:53who have been traumatized
by adult men's violence? -
8:53 - 8:55You know what?
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8:55 - 8:57The same system that produces
men who abuse women, -
8:57 - 8:59produces men who abuse other men.
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8:59 - 9:02And if we want to talk about male victims,
let's talk about male victims. -
9:02 - 9:05Most male victims of violence
are the victims of other men's violence. -
9:05 - 9:08So that's something that both women
and men have in common. -
9:08 - 9:10We are both victims of men's violence.
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9:10 - 9:12So we have it in our direct self-interest,
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9:12 - 9:14not to mention the fact
that most men that I know -
9:14 - 9:17have women and girls
that we care deeply about, -
9:17 - 9:20in our families and our friendship
circles and every other way. -
9:20 - 9:22So there's so many reasons
why we need men to speak out. -
9:22 - 9:25It seems obvious saying it
out loud, doesn't it? -
9:26 - 9:29Now, the nature of the work
that I do and my colleagues do -
9:29 - 9:33in the sports culture
and the US military, in schools, -
9:33 - 9:36we pioneered this approach
called the bystander approach -
9:36 - 9:38to gender-violence prevention.
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9:38 - 9:41And I just want to give you
the highlights of the bystander approach, -
9:41 - 9:44because it's a big thematic shift,
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9:44 - 9:46although there's lots of particulars,
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9:46 - 9:49but the heart of it is,
instead of seeing men as perpetrators -
9:49 - 9:50and women as victims,
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9:50 - 9:54or women as perpetrators, men as victims,
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9:54 - 9:55or any combination in there.
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9:55 - 9:57I'm using the gender binary.
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9:57 - 10:00I know there's more than men and women,
there's more than male and female. -
10:00 - 10:02And there are women who are perpetrators,
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10:02 - 10:04and of course there are
men who are victims. -
10:04 - 10:06There's a whole spectrum.
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10:06 - 10:08But instead of seeing it
in the binary fashion, -
10:08 - 10:10we focus on all of us
as what we call bystanders, -
10:10 - 10:14and a bystander is defined as anybody
who is not a perpetrator or a victim -
10:14 - 10:16in a given situation,
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10:16 - 10:20so in other words friends, teammates,
colleagues, coworkers, family members, -
10:20 - 10:24those of us who are not directly
involved in a dyad of abuse, -
10:24 - 10:27but we are embedded in social,
family, work, school, -
10:27 - 10:29and other peer culture relationships
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10:29 - 10:31with people who might be
in that situation. -
10:31 - 10:34What do we do? How do we speak up?
How do we challenge our friends? -
10:34 - 10:36How do we support our friends?
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10:36 - 10:38But how do we not remain silent
in the face of abuse? -
10:38 - 10:41Now, when it comes
to men and male culture, -
10:41 - 10:45the goal is to get men who are not abusive
to challenge men who are. -
10:45 - 10:48And when I say abusive, I don't mean just
men who are beating women. -
10:48 - 10:53We're not just saying a man whose friend
is abusing his girlfriend -
10:53 - 10:55needs to stop the guy
at the moment of attack. -
10:55 - 11:00That's a naive way
of creating a social change. -
11:00 - 11:04It's along a continuum, we're trying
to get men to interrupt each other. -
11:04 - 11:07So, for example, if you're a guy
and you're in a group of guys -
11:07 - 11:10playing poker, talking, hanging out,
no women present, -
11:10 - 11:16and another guy says something sexist
or degrading or harassing about women, -
11:16 - 11:19instead of laughing along
or pretending you didn't hear it, -
11:19 - 11:21we need men to say,
"Hey, that's not funny. -
11:21 - 11:23that could be my sister
you're talking about, -
11:23 - 11:25and could you joke about something else?
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11:25 - 11:27Or could you talk about something else?
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11:27 - 11:29I don't appreciate that kind of talk."
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11:29 - 11:31Just like if you're a white person
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11:31 - 11:34and another white person makes
a racist comment, you'd hope, I hope, -
11:34 - 11:37that white people would interrupt
that racist enactment -
11:37 - 11:38by a fellow white person.
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11:38 - 11:41Just like with heterosexism,
if you're a heterosexual person -
11:41 - 11:44and you yourself don't enact
harassing or abusive behaviors -
11:44 - 11:46towards people of varying
sexual orientations, -
11:46 - 11:50if you don't say something in the face
of other heterosexual people doing that, -
11:50 - 11:53then, in a sense, isn't your silence
a form of consent and complicity? -
11:53 - 11:56Well, the bystander approach
is trying to give people tools -
11:56 - 12:00to interrupt that process and to speak up
and to create a peer culture climate -
12:00 - 12:02where the abusive behavior
will be seen as unacceptable, -
12:02 - 12:05not just because it's illegal,
but because it's wrong -
12:05 - 12:07and unacceptable in the peer culture.
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12:07 - 12:10And if we can get to the place where men
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12:10 - 12:12who act out in sexist ways
will lose status, -
12:12 - 12:14young men and boys who act out in sexist
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12:14 - 12:16and harassing ways
towards girls and women, -
12:16 - 12:18as well as towards other boys and men,
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12:18 - 12:20will lose status
as a result of it, guess what? -
12:20 - 12:23We'll see a radical
diminution of the abuse. -
12:23 - 12:26Because the typical perpetrator
is not sick and twisted. -
12:26 - 12:29He's a normal guy
in every other way, isn't he? -
12:29 - 12:32Now, among the many great
things that Martin Luther King -
12:32 - 12:34said in his short life was,
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12:34 - 12:37"In the end, what will hurt the most
is not the words of our enemies -
12:37 - 12:39but the silence of our friends."
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12:39 - 12:42In the end, what will hurt the most
is not the words of our enemies -
12:42 - 12:44but the silence of our friends.
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12:44 - 12:46There's been an awful lot
of silence in male culture -
12:46 - 12:49about this ongoing tragedy
of men's violence -
12:49 - 12:51against women and children, hasn't there?
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12:51 - 12:52There's been an awful lot of silence.
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12:52 - 12:55And all I'm saying is that we need
to break that silence, -
12:55 - 12:57and we need more men to do that.
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12:57 - 13:01Now, it's easier said than done,
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13:01 - 13:02because I'm saying it now,
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13:02 - 13:05but I'm telling you
it's not easy in male culture -
13:05 - 13:07for guys to challenge each other,
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13:07 - 13:09which is one of the reasons
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13:09 - 13:11why part of the paradigm shift
that has to happen -
13:11 - 13:14is not just understanding
these issues as men's issues, -
13:14 - 13:16but they're also
leadership issues for men. -
13:16 - 13:20Because ultimately, the responsibility
for taking a stand on these issues -
13:20 - 13:22should not fall
on the shoulders of little boys -
13:22 - 13:25or teenage boys in high school
or college men. -
13:25 - 13:27It should be on adult men with power.
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13:27 - 13:30Adult men with power are the ones
we need to be holding accountable -
13:30 - 13:32for being leaders on these issues,
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13:32 - 13:34because when somebody
speaks up in a peer culture -
13:34 - 13:36and challenges and interrupts,
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13:36 - 13:39he or she is being a leader, really.
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13:39 - 13:42But on a big scale,
we need more adult men with power -
13:42 - 13:44to start prioritizing these issues,
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13:44 - 13:46and we haven't seen that yet, have we?
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13:46 - 13:50Now, I was at a dinner
a number of years ago, -
13:50 - 13:53and I work extensively
with the US military, all the services. -
13:53 - 13:56And I was at this dinner
and this woman said to me -- -
13:57 - 13:59I think she thought
she was a little clever -- -
13:59 - 14:03she said, "So how long have you been doing
sensitivity training with the Marines?" -
14:03 - 14:07And I said, "With all due respect,
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14:07 - 14:09I don't do sensitivity training
with the Marines. -
14:09 - 14:11I run a leadership program
in the Marine Corps." -
14:12 - 14:14Now, I know it's a bit
pompous, my response, -
14:14 - 14:15but it's an important distinction,
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14:15 - 14:19because I don't believe
that what we need is sensitivity training. -
14:19 - 14:21We need leadership training,
because, for example, -
14:21 - 14:25when a professional coach or a manager
of a baseball team or a football team -- -
14:25 - 14:27and I work extensively
in that realm as well -- -
14:27 - 14:30makes a sexist comment,
makes a homophobic statement, -
14:30 - 14:32makes a racist comment,
-
14:32 - 14:35there will be discussions on the sports
blogs and in sports talk radio. -
14:35 - 14:38And some people will say,
"He needs sensitivity training." -
14:38 - 14:40Other people will say, "Well, get off it.
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14:40 - 14:42That's political correctness run amok,
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14:42 - 14:44he made a stupid statement, move on."
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14:44 - 14:47My argument is, he doesn't need
sensitivity training. -
14:47 - 14:48He needs leadership training,
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14:48 - 14:50because he's being a bad leader,
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14:50 - 14:53because in a society with gender diversity
and sexual diversity -- -
14:53 - 14:54(Applause)
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14:54 - 14:56and racial and ethnic diversity,
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14:56 - 14:59you make those kind of comments,
you're failing at your leadership. -
14:59 - 15:01If we can make this point that I'm making
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15:01 - 15:04to powerful men and women in our society
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15:04 - 15:07at all levels of institutional
authority and power, -
15:07 - 15:10it's going to change
the paradigm of people's thinking. -
15:11 - 15:12You know, for example,
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15:12 - 15:14I work a lot in college
and university athletics -
15:14 - 15:16throughout North America.
-
15:17 - 15:21We know so much about how to prevent
domestic and sexual violence, right? -
15:22 - 15:24There's no excuse
for a college or university -
15:24 - 15:27to not have domestic and sexual
violence prevention training -
15:27 - 15:30mandated for all student athletes,
coaches, administrators, -
15:30 - 15:32as part of their educational process.
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15:32 - 15:35We know enough to know
that we can easily do that. -
15:35 - 15:37But you know what's missing?
The leadership. -
15:37 - 15:39But it's not the leadership
of student athletes. -
15:39 - 15:41It's the leadership
of the athletic director, -
15:41 - 15:44the president of the university,
the people in charge -
15:44 - 15:45who make decisions about resources
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15:45 - 15:49and who make decisions about priorities
in the institutional settings. -
15:49 - 15:51That's a failure, in most cases,
of men's leadership. -
15:51 - 15:53Look at Penn State.
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15:53 - 15:57Penn State is the mother of all teachable
moments for the bystander approach. -
15:57 - 15:59You had so many situations in that realm
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15:59 - 16:03where men in powerful
positions failed to act -
16:03 - 16:05to protect children, in this case, boys.
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16:05 - 16:07It's unbelievable, really.
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16:07 - 16:10But when you get into it,
you realize there are pressures on men. -
16:10 - 16:12There are constraints
within peer cultures on men, -
16:12 - 16:17which is why we need to encourage men
to break through those pressures. -
16:17 - 16:19And one of the ways to do that is to say
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16:19 - 16:22there's an awful lot of men
who care deeply about these issues. -
16:22 - 16:23I know this, I work with men,
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16:23 - 16:25and I've been working
with tens of thousands, -
16:25 - 16:28hundreds of thousands of men
for many decades now. -
16:28 - 16:30It's scary, when you think
about it, how many years. -
16:30 - 16:34But there's so many men
who care deeply about these issues, -
16:34 - 16:36but caring deeply is not enough.
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16:36 - 16:38We need more men with the guts,
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16:38 - 16:42with the courage, with the strength,
with the moral integrity -
16:42 - 16:46to break our complicit silence
and challenge each other -
16:46 - 16:48and stand with women and not against them.
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16:48 - 16:50By the way, we owe it to women.
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16:50 - 16:51There's no question about it.
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16:51 - 16:53But we also owe it to our sons.
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16:53 - 16:56We also owe it to young men
who are growing up all over the world -
16:56 - 16:59in situations where they didn't
make the choice -
16:59 - 17:02to be a man in a culture that tells them
that manhood is a certain way. -
17:02 - 17:04They didn't make the choice.
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17:04 - 17:09We that have a choice, have an opportunity
and a responsibility to them as well. -
17:09 - 17:12I hope that, going forward, men and women,
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17:12 - 17:14working together, can begin the change
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17:14 - 17:16and the transformation that will happen
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17:16 - 17:19so that future generations
won't have the level of tragedy -
17:19 - 17:21that we deal with on a daily basis.
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17:21 - 17:22I know we can do it, we can do better.
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17:22 - 17:24Thank you very much.
- Title:
- Violence against women—it's a men's issue
- Speaker:
- Jackson Katz
- Description:
-
Domestic violence and sexual abuse are often called "women’s issues.” But in this bold, blunt talk, Jackson Katz points out that these are intrinsically men’s issues -- and shows how these violent behaviors are tied to definitions of manhood. A clarion call for us all -- women and men -- to call out unacceptable behavior and be leaders of change.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 17:40
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The English transcript was updated on 1/24/2017.