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I don't realize that what I think is
a compliment about your weight
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actually makes you feel anxious,
insecure, and watched.
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(air whipping, creaking noise as "BuzzFeed
presents" appears)
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(music playing softly)
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I'm looking you up and down because
I've been socialized
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to judge other women and
take advantage of that.
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I'm worried that if you don't have a
perfect body
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people are going to think
that I'm a bad mom.
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Literally everything that I don't like
about the way you look
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is a projection of what I don't
like about myself.
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I don't value your personality nearly as
much as I value your breasts.
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I'm going to tell you your butt
looks great in that
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even though no one really knows
what a good butt looks like.
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I've never had a healthy relationship
with food.
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And that's really going to fuck you up
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I make comments about your weight because
I make snap judgements about what it means
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when really I have no idea what's going on
in your life.
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I'm uncomfortable with people of different
shapes and sizes but I'm not really sure why.
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I accept the fact that our beauty standards
are based entirely on photoshop.
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I'm going to tell you that everything here
is really slimming on you so that you shop
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here over and over and over again.
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I don't lift weights because I've been
conditioned to think that looking
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beautiful and feminine means not looking
strong.
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I think your life will be easier if you're
thin.
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So I'm going to try to encourage that
from a very young age.
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This dress will look good on literally
any body type but the smaller sizes
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look better on the rack so we keep
everything else in back.
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I don't like the fact that you are not
conforming to a misogynistic ideal of
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female beauty. And I can't think beyond
that.
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I criticize skinny girls to cover up the
fact that I'm actually really concerned
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about my own weight.
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I'm putting my own issues on you when I'm
completely unaware of the damage that
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I'm doing.
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I'm going to tell you that this covers up
your flaws. You don't really have any
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but I work on commission so I need you
to buy this.
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I've been conditioned to be critical of
myself and use self-deprecation as a
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coverup so people don't think I'm
conceited.
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But the truth is, I look amazing.
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Mannequins are all the same size even
though none of us are.