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I don't realize that what I think is[br]a compliment about your weight

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actually makes you feel anxious,[br]insecure, and watched.

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(air whipping, creaking noise as "BuzzFeed [br]presents" appears)

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(music playing softly)

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I'm looking you up and down because[br]I've been socialized

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to judge other women and [br]take advantage of that.

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I'm worried that if you don't have a[br]perfect body

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people are going to think [br]that I'm a bad mom.

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Literally everything that I don't like[br]about the way you look

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is a projection of what I don't [br]like about myself.

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I don't value your personality nearly as[br]much as I value your breasts.

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I'm going to tell you your butt [br]looks great in that

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even though no one really knows[br]what a good butt looks like.

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I've never had a healthy relationship[br]with food.

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And that's really going to fuck you up

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I make comments about your weight because[br]I make snap judgements about what it means

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when really I have no idea what's going on [br]in your life.

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I'm uncomfortable with people of different[br]shapes and sizes but I'm not really sure why.

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I accept the fact that our beauty standards [br]are based entirely on photoshop.

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I'm going to tell you that everything here[br]is really slimming on you so that you shop

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here over and over and over again.

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I don't lift weights because I've been[br]conditioned to think that looking

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beautiful and feminine means not looking[br]strong.

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I think your life will be easier if you're[br]thin.

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So I'm going to try to encourage that[br]from a very young age.

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This dress will look good on literally[br]any body type but the smaller sizes

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look better on the rack so we keep[br]everything else in back.

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I don't like the fact that you are not [br]conforming to a misogynistic ideal of

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female beauty. And I can't think beyond[br]that.

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I criticize skinny girls to cover up the [br]fact that I'm actually really concerned [br]

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about my own weight.

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I'm putting my own issues on you when I'm[br]completely unaware of the damage that

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I'm doing.

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I'm going to tell you that this covers up[br]your flaws. You don't really have any

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but I work on commission so I need you[br]to buy this.

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I've been conditioned to be critical of [br]myself and use self-deprecation as a

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coverup so people don't think I'm [br]conceited.

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But the truth is, I look amazing.

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Mannequins are all the same size even [br]though none of us are.