How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan-
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0:30 - 0:32Hello there.
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0:32 - 0:36Relationships are almost always
the most difficult aspect of our lives. -
0:36 - 0:41But what's more difficult than having a relationship,
is losing the relationship. -
0:41 - 0:46It's difficult to find somebody
who hasn't experienced a break-up or a divorce, -
0:46 - 0:48or a separation from someone that they love.
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0:48 - 0:54For this reason, it's obvious
that heartbreak is an important topic. -
0:54 - 0:58Before going on, it must be said
that it's possible to experience heartbreak, -
0:58 - 1:02without a relationship actually physically ending.
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1:02 - 1:08In fact, some people live their life
inside a relationship in a state of perpetual heartbreak. -
1:08 - 1:13When this is the case, the break-up has still occurred,
but it has occurred internally. -
1:13 - 1:20To love someone is to include that person as yourself,
is to come into a state of emotional oneness. -
1:21 - 1:26Now we are at our best when we are in this state,
cause it's our most natural state. -
1:26 - 1:32It means that we are vibrationally
matching the frequency of source itself. -
1:32 - 1:37In contrast, to break up with someone
is to become separated. -
1:37 - 1:43It is the most extreme difference
from source vibration that you can possibly get. -
1:43 - 1:47Instead of being the presence of source,
it is the absence of source. -
1:47 - 1:52So we are at our absolute worst
when we're in that particular frequency. -
1:52 - 1:56All break-ups are essentially a betrayal.
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1:56 - 2:00A betrayal is the breaking
of a presumptive contract or agreement. -
2:00 - 2:04When we love someone, we enter
into a kind of energetic agreement -
2:04 - 2:07or lose contract to be one.
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2:07 - 2:11When we experience a break-up, whether it's
an actual break-up or an energetic break-up. -
2:11 - 2:14This agreement is broken.
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2:14 - 2:17As a result, we feel betrayed.
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2:17 - 2:21All betrayals of the unspoken
oneness agreement in a relationship. -
2:21 - 2:24Whether it's emotional withdrawal,
or cheating, or criticism, -
2:24 - 2:28creates a separation between two people.
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2:28 - 2:32Why exactly is breaking up so incredibly painful?
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2:33 - 2:38As we said earlier, to love somebody
is to include them as yourself. -
2:38 - 2:41So to break up with someone,
whether you were the one that did the breaking up, -
2:41 - 2:44or whether they were the ones
that did the breaking up with you, -
2:44 - 2:47you are still losing a part of yourself.
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2:47 - 2:51On an emotional level,
a break-up feels like a severing. -
2:51 - 2:56It feels like a part of you
is being severed from the rest of you. -
2:56 - 3:02Now as it applies to relationships, it's quite common
that hatred is the way that we feel -
3:02 - 3:05towards people who we have a break-up with.
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3:05 - 3:09The reason is that hatred
is the cover emotion for hurt. -
3:09 - 3:16What I mean by cover emotions is that your emotional
body actually comes with survival mechanisms. -
3:16 - 3:22Whenever you are in a superbly low vibration,
one that could line you up with a negative experience -
3:22 - 3:26that could threaten your own survival,
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3:26 - 3:31you have a knee-jurk reaction
to move into a higher vibrational state. -
3:31 - 3:35In psychology,
sometimes they call this is a secondary emotion. -
3:35 - 3:40I call it a cover emotion because it exists
to keep you from being in the lower vibration. -
3:40 - 3:45Sort of like ice over the top of a frozen lake.
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3:45 - 3:51Hatred, being the cover emotion from hurt,
enables people to stay out of the pain -
3:51 - 3:55that they're experiencing as a result
of the betrayal they feel -
3:55 - 3:59as a result of that separation
from the person that they love. -
3:59 - 4:04Obviously, when we're in a state of hatred,
we're usually in a state of heartbreak. -
4:04 - 4:08And what needs to be addressed
is the hurt underneath the hatred. -
4:08 - 4:13The heart chakra is the energy center of the body
that corresponds to connection. -
4:13 - 4:18It's the chakra that is concerned with wholeness,
and love, and compassion, among other things. -
4:18 - 4:20The heart chakra is the unifier.
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4:20 - 4:25This is why so many of the organs and biologic systems
associated with the heart chakra, -
4:25 - 4:28are unifying systems,
like the circulatory system. -
4:28 - 4:30They unify the whole body.
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4:30 - 4:34When we experience the severing or separation inherent in a break-up,
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4:34 - 4:40the chakra and biological systems associated with it,
that are the most impacted, -
4:40 - 4:45is the chakra that is in charge of connection,
the heart chakra. -
4:45 - 4:51On a biological level, emotional pain and physical pain
involves the same regions of the brain. -
4:51 - 4:56Many scientists suggest that when painful mental
and emotional separation occurs between people, -
4:56 - 5:02it causes an area of the brain to be stimulated that
in turn overstimulates a nerve called the Vagus nerve, -
5:02 - 5:05causing pain in the chest.
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5:05 - 5:09This chest pain is why people
say their heart has been broken. -
5:09 - 5:14It is easy to see how the pain receptors in the body
that would be the most affected by loss trauma -
5:14 - 5:19are the nerves associated with the chakra
and biological systems that deal with connection. -
5:19 - 5:22This, after all, is where the damage is.
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5:22 - 5:25Before we go on, I'm gonna
let some of you off of the hook. -
5:25 - 5:29It's really common in relationships,
though none of us wanna talk about it, -
5:29 - 5:31that when things go really south,
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5:31 - 5:36we start hoping that our partner
will just die in freak accident. -
5:36 - 5:39Don't worry, a lot of people think that way.
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5:39 - 5:45The reason is, is that all break-up is,
is a death of something, -
5:45 - 5:48it's a death of a part of yourself.
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5:48 - 5:55And when we don't feel like we have
the strength to willingly cause a death, -
5:55 - 6:00we hope it will happen unwillingly, or involuntarily.
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6:00 - 6:02That way we don't have to face the guilt.
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6:02 - 6:03We don't have to doubt ourselves.
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6:03 - 6:08We don't have to feel self-blame,
on top of the pain of the loss itself. -
6:08 - 6:10Even if it was the other person who chose to do it,
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6:10 - 6:13you're going to experience a death
of something that is a part of you. -
6:13 - 6:19What ensues is a grieving process much like the one
that happens when someone we love actually dies. -
6:19 - 6:23You're not just gonna wake up one day
and get over heartbreak. -
6:23 - 6:27Heartbreak is a trauma to the system
and like any other trauma, -
6:27 - 6:33the system has to go through a healing process
to get to a state of wholeness again. -
6:33 - 6:37You may decide to move on,
but that does not mean you have healed anything. -
6:37 - 6:41Trying to rush the process of healing
after you experience a breakup, -
6:41 - 6:45does not work anymore than it works to rush
the process of grieving after someone dies. -
6:45 - 6:50That being said, heartache,
does not have to last forever. -
6:50 - 6:53It doesn't even have to last for a long time.
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6:53 - 6:57And the more proactive
you are about your healing process, -
6:57 - 7:01obviously, the faster the healing process is going to go.
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7:01 - 7:04So what should you do
if you experience heartbreak? -
7:04 - 7:09Before we get into the list, it's important to know
that if the break-up was recent -
7:09 - 7:14and you're still in the shock and the grief of it,
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7:14 - 7:17stop living your life for this day or this week.
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7:17 - 7:22Start living for the next 5 minutes, or hour.
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7:22 - 7:24When life collapses
and we're in the wake of a major trauma, -
7:24 - 7:29we've got to reel it in and only plan
and live our life according to short increments. -
7:29 - 7:32What would make me feel better for the next 5 minutes,
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7:32 - 7:37what would feel like relief to do with the next hour.
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7:37 - 7:40So we're living minute to minute, and hour to hour.
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7:40 - 7:44And we can extend that
as time goes on and we feel capable. -
7:44 - 7:46And now for the list.
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7:46 - 7:49The first thing, is that you do not distract yourself.
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7:49 - 7:52This is a common thing
that people will try to tell you to do, -
7:52 - 7:55most especially your friends
when you're feeling heartbreak. -
7:55 - 7:56Let's distract ourselves by going hiking,
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7:56 - 7:58let's distract ourselves by playing a game.
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7:58 - 8:00Let's distract ourselves by drinking.
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8:00 - 8:04This will backfire immensely.
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8:04 - 8:07You've already lost an aspect of yourself.
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8:07 - 8:13If you go and bounce out on yourself, which is what
you're doing when you're distracting yourself, -
8:13 - 8:16you're just going to compound the wound
that has already occured. -
8:16 - 8:19Heartbreak is all consuming
and it's okay to let it be. -
8:19 - 8:23Sometimes to get to the other side of something,
we have to go straight into it. -
8:23 - 8:26Recognize that if you have
come together with somebody, -
8:26 - 8:30in order to form an attachment
kind of relationship with somebody, -
8:30 - 8:37most likely it is a compensation
for an aspect of yourself that you have lost already. -
8:37 - 8:42Subconsciously, being with that other person
makes you feel more whole in some way. -
8:42 - 8:46We must embark on a journey of restoring
our completeness, in and of ourselves. -
8:46 - 8:49We must turn our attention inward
and become whole again. -
8:49 - 8:51Do not mistake this for independence.
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8:51 - 8:53This is an interdependent universe.
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8:53 - 8:57Interdependence is not painful.
Independence is. -
8:57 - 9:01Autonomy on the other hand,
is a state of wholeness in and of itself. -
9:01 - 9:06In a state of wholeness we do not come together with
other people to make up for what is missing within us. -
9:06 - 9:11To be autonomous, we have to be
in a secure relationship with ourselves. -
9:11 - 9:18We have to take steps to insure
a secure relationship for ourselves, with ourselves. -
9:18 - 9:22And we have to take steps to become whole.
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9:22 - 9:26The worst thing you can do,
when you're in this phase of heartbreak, -
9:26 - 9:30is to jump right into another attachment type
of relationship with someone. -
9:30 - 9:34Especially if this is a romantic break-up
that we're talking about. -
9:34 - 9:40We can't do that straight away without
making the trauma that we're experiencing worse. -
9:40 - 9:46I'm developing a process currently,
that's called the completion process. -
9:46 - 9:51It's actually a process which is designed
to help us become whole again. -
9:51 - 9:57Hopefully, by the time you're watching this,
I will have completed that process already, -
9:57 - 10:01so that you can find it on the internet
and actually add that to your life. -
10:01 - 10:07Part of becoming whole is to come back to yourself,
to find yourself all over again. -
10:07 - 10:09Who am I?
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10:09 - 10:11What do I want?
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10:11 - 10:13What do I need?
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10:13 - 10:16What changes do I want to make to my life?
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10:16 - 10:21Think back to a time when you were truly happy
in an autonomous way in your life. -
10:21 - 10:24What things were you doing then?
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10:24 - 10:26Add some of those things back into your life.
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10:26 - 10:32Often, break-ups call for starting over as if
from square one and going in a whole new direction. -
10:32 - 10:36Our priorities have to shift,
we have to be willing to do that. -
10:36 - 10:38We have to take the steps
to feel like ourselves again, -
10:38 - 10:40because we have lost ourselves.
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10:40 - 10:46Even people who decide to end the relationship go
through a period of feeling lost without the other person. -
10:46 - 10:49If you're feeling lost, you can look
up my YouTube video titled: -
10:49 - 10:53"Feeling Lost and Ten Steps to Becoming Found"
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10:53 - 10:573. Change up your life so it feels new.
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10:57 - 11:04This can be as drastic as moving to a whole new city,
getting a whole new job, starting a whole new life. -
11:04 - 11:09Or it can be something as simple
as rearranging the furniture in your house, redecorating. -
11:09 - 11:10We could cook new foods.
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11:10 - 11:13We could change something
about our physical appearance. -
11:13 - 11:19Changing things in your life around, especially things
that remind you of the pain of the loss, is crucial. -
11:19 - 11:22Don't be afraid to put away
the reminders you have of them. -
11:22 - 11:25This may feel scary because you don't want
to lose any more connection with them. -
11:25 - 11:29But remind yourself,
you're not burning the reminder of them, -
11:29 - 11:31unless you ofcourse need to do that to let go,
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11:31 - 11:33you're just boxing it up so it's out of sight.
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11:33 - 11:35You can still take it out any time you want to.
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11:35 - 11:39Or throw it away if and when the time ever feels right.
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11:39 - 11:474. We have to adress our negative beliefs, like core
beliefs, that have occurred as a result of this pain. -
11:47 - 11:49Things like: "I'm never gonna trust anyone ever again."
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11:49 - 11:52or "I can't make relationships work."
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11:52 - 11:55We especially want to adress the 'shoulds'.
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11:55 - 11:59What causes us extreme amounts of pain,
when it comes to break-ups, -
11:59 - 12:03is the idea that it shouldn't be happening.
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12:03 - 12:06We 'should' be with this person for the rest of our life.
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12:06 - 12:10When we think that something 'should' happen,
and it's not happening. -
12:10 - 12:13That's a recipe for emotional disaster.
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12:13 - 12:18So for those of you that want to change these beliefs
once you discover what they are, -
12:18 - 12:22go look at my YouTube video titled:
"How to Change a Belief". -
12:22 - 12:26Also, look into Byron Katie's work.
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12:26 - 12:31Her process, which is actually called 'The Work',
is some of the best that I have found -
12:31 - 12:38when it comes to flipping around your thoughts in a way that you can see a perspective that you didn't see before.
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12:38 - 12:415. Ask 'Why?'
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12:41 - 12:45Now, a lot of people who coach you through heartbreak
are going to tell you to avoid asking why, -
12:45 - 12:48to just drop it all together
because it's gonna cause you more pain. -
12:48 - 12:51I could not disagree more.
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12:51 - 12:53It's crucial that we ask
why something happened. -
12:53 - 12:57The understanding, in fact, will set us free.
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12:57 - 13:00Not only that, it's important that we learn
from every single experience that we have -
13:00 - 13:05so we don't repeat the same patterns
and exact the same mistakes again. -
13:05 - 13:09Whilst maintaining the understanding
that there's always a much more beautiful and positive -
13:09 - 13:13big picture behind why it ultimately happened,
it's crucial that we develop awareness. -
13:14 - 13:20Even when we say we don't know why
something happened, we almost always do know why. -
13:20 - 13:24It's just that we aren't admitting it to ourselves
because it's too painful. -
13:24 - 13:276. People come in and out of our lives for a reason.
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13:27 - 13:31We may be telling ourselves the story
that they were in our lives for a reason, -
13:31 - 13:36like that they are our soulmate, when in fact they came
into our life for an entirely other reason. -
13:36 - 13:40Stay open to the idea that they have come
to give you part of the puzzle -
13:40 - 13:44and begin to look for what part or parts of the puzzle
they may have come to give you. -
13:44 - 13:48It is very tempting when we feel heartbroken
to feel like the world is against us. -
13:48 - 13:52Looking for the positive things
that came as a result of the relationship, -
13:52 - 13:55including what the relationship
caused you to know that you really want, -
13:55 - 14:00is a great way to get out of the feeling
that you have been nothing but harmed. -
14:00 - 14:047. Sit down and figure out what is right with you.
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14:04 - 14:07When we experience a break-up of any kind,
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14:07 - 14:10usually our self-worth takes a major tank along with it.
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14:10 - 14:15We start telling ourselves the story
that there must be something wrong with us. -
14:15 - 14:19Not only that, when it comes to break-ups,
this is especially amplified. -
14:19 - 14:25Because obviously, if something wasn't wrong with us,
this wouldn't have happened. -
14:25 - 14:31We have to shift our focus to our strengths,
and the things that make us worth connecting with. -
14:31 - 14:33If we have a difficult time coming up with this list,
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14:33 - 14:38we can contact our friends
and have them each compile a list about us. -
14:38 - 14:46Then, with each item or each strength, we have
to figure out how that strength helps us in our life, -
14:46 - 14:51or why it might be beneficial to someone
who wants to be in a relationship with us. -
14:51 - 14:568. Feel the support and connection
with other people in your life. -
14:56 - 14:58Find a community.
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14:58 - 15:04A break-up is the most painful thing
because it is a loss of connection. -
15:04 - 15:07Obviously, if you find connection in other ways,
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15:07 - 15:11we're not gonna be starving to death for connection
to such an extreme degree. -
15:11 - 15:13This is a perfect time to work on receiving energy.
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15:13 - 15:18If you have trouble with receiving,
watch my YouTube video titled: "How to receive". -
15:18 - 15:24This will also help you to feel like you're not alone,
so anxiety is less likely to be triggered. -
15:24 - 15:28You may not feel capable of connecting
with people in the state of pain that you're in, -
15:28 - 15:32but it will help you, because you're suffering
from the absence of someone. -
15:32 - 15:36Having the presence of someone
does help improve the situation. -
15:36 - 15:399. Think about the best case scenario.
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15:39 - 15:43When we experience a break-up,
we instantly spiral into the worst case scenario -
15:43 - 15:47because our life is enduring a complete collapse.
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15:47 - 15:54Instead, we have to think about the best case scenario
in our lives in say a year from now. -
15:54 - 15:55What would we be doing?
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15:55 - 15:57Who would we be with?
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15:57 - 16:02What kinds of new aspects
would we see in our lives? -
16:02 - 16:05That's the kind of way
we need to start thinking. -
16:05 - 16:08Because the reality is, a break-up
may be a closing of one door, -
16:08 - 16:11but that means that another door has opened.
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16:11 - 16:18And just maybe, the door that has opened for you, is the
one which will let in what you've actually always wanted. -
16:18 - 16:2310. Let yourself cry when you feel the urge to cry.
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16:23 - 16:27Crying is a detoxification of pent up emotional energy.
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16:27 - 16:30Suppression is the opposite of healing.
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16:30 - 16:35Crying may feel embarrassing, but it's important
to get over the social stigma and let it out. -
16:35 - 16:3811. Relax your body.
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16:38 - 16:43Relaxing your body, relaxes the mind
and relaxing the mind relaxes the body. -
16:43 - 16:44It's a two way street.
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16:44 - 16:49We can use this to our advantage because often
when we're in the middle of a break-up, -
16:49 - 16:52we can't relax our mind
no matter what we try to do. -
16:52 - 16:55So we can try to relax our body instead.
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16:55 - 16:59We need to take whatever steps we can
to get our body into a state of ease. -
16:59 - 17:03This means: put on a song
that positively alters the way you feel. -
17:03 - 17:04Or get a massage.
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17:04 - 17:07Or do yoga, or exercise,
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17:07 - 17:09or paint or sculpt
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17:09 - 17:12or do breathing exercises specifically for stress
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17:12 - 17:14or taking Epsom Salt baths.
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17:14 - 17:16Do anything that would bring your body
into a state of ease. -
17:17 - 17:2112. Meditate daily.
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17:21 - 17:26Meditation enables us to release our thoughts
so our thoughts can stop. -
17:26 - 17:29It gives us an extreme amount of relief.
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17:29 - 17:31This is really important during a break-up.
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17:31 - 17:38It also allows us to connect with our Source aspect,
with the spiritual realms -
17:38 - 17:41and that enables us to see a bigger perspective.
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17:41 - 17:47That bigger perspective is, ofcourse, very important
when we're living a painful subjective reality. -
17:47 - 17:52Also, when we meditate, we come into a state of
allowing, which is the most healing of all states. -
17:52 - 17:5813. Write in our gratitude or our positive aspects journal.
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17:58 - 18:03When we experience a break-up,
the world essentially turns black. -
18:03 - 18:06We can't see any positive,
we can only focus on the negative -
18:06 - 18:09and we're spiraling out of control.
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18:09 - 18:13So one of the best things you can do,
especially first thing in the morning, -
18:13 - 18:16and last thing before you go to bed at night,
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18:16 - 18:21is to force yourself to write a full page
of things that you either feel grateful for, -
18:21 - 18:27appreciate or things that feel good
to think about or look at, or experience. -
18:27 - 18:31When you're in emotional pain,
it's best to think small. -
18:31 - 18:35Let's be honest, the big things in our life
aren't really going so well right now. -
18:35 - 18:41So what we have to do is to focus on the very little things which cause us to feel positive emotion
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18:41 - 18:45when we think about them or look at them
or when we experience them. -
18:45 - 18:46And be honest.
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18:46 - 18:51You can only put things on this list
that genuinely feel good to put down. -
18:51 - 18:56Not things you think you 'should' put down
because they 'should' feel good right now. -
18:56 - 19:01When we do this before bed, our sleep will be better and we will wake up in the same vibration we went to sleep in
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19:01 - 19:02which is improved.
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19:02 - 19:05When we wake up and do this,
we set the stage for the rest of the day. -
19:05 - 19:09This is especially important if we're going
through a heartbreak because when we're heartbroken, -
19:09 - 19:13we usually wake up and the heartbreak
hit us like a semi truck again -
19:13 - 19:17and the rest of the day we spend just trying to cope
and stay alive instead of living. -
19:17 - 19:2114. Practice the art of self-love.
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19:21 - 19:26Now, I'm fully aware, that when you're going
through a heartbreak because you've lost love -
19:26 - 19:29and somebody comes in and says "love yourself"
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19:29 - 19:34it feels horrible because it's almost like I'm telling you
"you're gonna be alone for the rest of your life". -
19:34 - 19:36But that's not what I'm saying.
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19:36 - 19:39This universe operates
according to the 'law of attraction'. -
19:39 - 19:41It is like a big mirror.
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19:41 - 19:44So whatever vibration we hold
is reflected by the universe. -
19:44 - 19:47So the more love we send in our own direction,
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19:47 - 19:51the more people will come into our life
who will also send love in our direction. -
19:52 - 19:56Self hurt is behind self hate.
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19:56 - 19:59So loving yourself will also
prevent you from hurting yourself, -
19:59 - 20:05which to add injury to injury,
is a common side effect of heartbreak. -
20:05 - 20:12I've written a book called "Shadows Before Dawn"
which is a book that teaches you how to love yourself. -
20:12 - 20:15It's scheduled for release in may of 2015.
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20:15 - 20:19So hopefully by the time you're watching this,
that book will be released. -
20:19 - 20:22If you'd like to learn how to love yourself.
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20:22 - 20:23Pick up a copy of the book.
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20:23 - 20:2715. We need to allow ourselves to gain closure.
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20:27 - 20:32So right now, ask yourself
"What do I need in order to gain closure?" -
20:32 - 20:37Figure out what loose ends are preventing you
from moving forward in your life. -
20:37 - 20:39Maybe your feel like you need to apologize.
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20:39 - 20:41Maybe you feel like you need to ask 'why'.
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20:41 - 20:44Maybe you need to find out
how to avoid the same mistake in the future. -
20:44 - 20:47Maybe you have to give something away
that you've been keeping. -
20:47 - 20:49Maybe you have to have a symbolic ceremony.
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20:49 - 20:53Let yourself gain closure in whatever way you need to.
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20:53 - 20:5616. Seek out therapy.
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20:56 - 21:02There are so many types of therapies that you wanna do research to find which one resonates the most with you.
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21:02 - 21:03But just for your information.
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21:03 - 21:09There are entire therapy modalities
which deal entirely with relationship loss. -
21:09 - 21:15If you have lost your secure attachment to somebody
because a relationships has ended, -
21:15 - 21:19or there's been a break-up regardless
of whether your relationship has ended or not, -
21:19 - 21:24a therapist can actually be
a secure attachment figure for you. -
21:25 - 21:29This is in fact the main reason
why therapy is so therapeutic. -
21:29 - 21:32We need to be able to get help
when we feel like we need help -
21:32 - 21:34and heartbreak is a valid reason to seek out help.
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21:34 - 21:37Allow yourself to feel sorry for your loss.
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21:37 - 21:43The people who stay stuck in heartbreak are usually the people who never fully let themselves grieve or feel sorry for the loss.
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21:43 - 21:46In reality, we are all made up of the same energy.
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21:46 - 21:49We are all a part of a unified energetic field.
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21:49 - 21:53And so, we cannot really lose anyone or anything.
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21:53 - 21:58We can only create the illusion
that we have lost that particular thing. -
21:58 - 22:00Ultimately there is no coming
and there is no going. -
22:00 - 22:04You cannot lose your interconnectedness
because it is the basis of all that is. -
22:04 - 22:07Pain is temporary.
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22:07 - 22:09It doesn't feel like it
when you're in the middle of it, -
22:09 - 22:13which is why pain is so incredibly excruciating.
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22:13 - 22:17But your pain is like a crying child.
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22:17 - 22:19Treat it like that.
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22:19 - 22:22Your pain is not trying to hurt you.
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22:22 - 22:24It is, instead, the one that is hurting.
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22:24 - 22:26And it is crying out for your help.
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22:26 - 22:28Have a good week.
- Title:
- How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan-
- Description:
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To love someone, is to include them as yourself. It is to come into a state of emotional oneness with that person. Breakups are so painful because you have chosen to kill something that is a part of you. Even if it was the other person who chose to do it, you are going to experience a death of something that is a part of you. What ensues is a grieving process, much like the one that happens when someone we love actually dies. In this episode, Teal explains heartbreak in depth and outlines exactly what to do to heal from it.
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Kuan Yin's Mantra (c) 2002 Lisa Thiel - used by permission http://www.sacreddream.com - Video Language:
- English
- Duration:
- 23:05
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Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- | ||
Katja Vleermens edited English subtitles for How to Survive a Breakup and/or Heartbreak -Teal Swan- |