How you say it... - James Erum at tedxyouth@7thstreet
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0:09 - 0:11Hi.
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0:11 - 0:15So, I want you all
to look at this statement right here. -
0:15 - 0:19And, if you guys actually think about it,
if you put emphasis -
0:19 - 0:22on each of the different words
in the sentence, -
0:22 - 0:25this sentence can have
six different meanings. -
0:25 - 0:27For example: I didn´t steal her money;
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0:27 - 0:31or, I DIDN'T steal her money;
or, I didn´t STEAL her money; -
0:31 - 0:36or, I didn´t steal HER money;
or, I didn´t steal her MONEY. -
0:36 - 0:44So, I just...It was pretty interesting
when I first saw that. -
0:44 - 0:45So, a couple months ago
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0:45 - 0:47my best friend, his name is John,
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0:47 - 0:49we were having a discussion,
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0:49 - 0:50more like a debate on
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0:50 - 0:54how what you say
versus what you are actually saying, -
0:54 - 0:56and he thought that what you are saying,
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0:56 - 1:01actual words meant more
than what you are saying, -
1:01 - 1:05than how you are saying it,
yeah, that's confusing. -
1:05 - 1:07But, by show of hands,
and I can't see you guys, -
1:07 - 1:13but by show of hands, who thinks
how what you say is important? -
1:13 - 1:20OK. And sit down if you think that
what you say is just as important. -
1:20 - 1:22Good job! All right. Cool.
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1:22 - 1:28So, I mean, of course both are
important in means of communication, -
1:28 - 1:30but today I'm just gonna talk
to you guys about -
1:30 - 1:39how what you say is just as, if not
more, important than what you say. -
1:39 - 1:44So, there are basically two ways
people communicate -
1:44 - 1:52which are verbally and non-verbally.
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1:52 - 1:58Wow, look at this, that's cool.
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1:58 - 2:01All right so in terms of sharing ideas,
we see that -
2:01 - 2:07body movements, mostly facial expressions,
is this section right here, -
2:07 - 2:09takes the most of it,
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2:09 - 2:12and this is the non-verbal side,
right here -
2:12 - 2:18which is...so this is pitch, rythm,
octave speed, tone of voice; -
2:18 - 2:22and that's when people are talking
and people are listening, -
2:22 - 2:25people are basically gauging
your vocal chords -
2:25 - 2:28and listening to how your voice sounds
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2:28 - 2:32versus how you are saying it,
uh,or not, what you are saying. -
2:32 - 2:37So if I say something like
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2:37 - 2:40"you saved his life"
or "you SAVED his LIFE", -
2:40 - 2:41you know, it sounds like a positive thing
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2:41 - 2:43but if I were to say like,
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2:43 - 2:45"oh, you saved his life"
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2:45 - 2:48then that just sounds mean.
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2:48 - 2:52Therefore, the prospect
of how we say something is -
2:54 - 2:56just more important than
what we are actually saying. -
2:56 - 3:01So in that debate I beat John, I win.
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3:01 - 3:03So now I'm going to conclude
my very short presentation -
3:03 - 3:11by giving you a few tips on
how to communicate more effectively -
3:11 - 3:13whether it be in a presentation
to a group of people -
3:13 - 3:17or in a regular conversation with just,
you know, a group of friends. -
3:17 - 3:21So your first tip that
I'm going to give you guys -
3:21 - 3:24is that you guys
should know your audience, -
3:24 - 3:26you have to be aware
of who you are talking to; -
3:26 - 3:29are you talking to a group of kids?
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3:29 - 3:31or, are you talking to teachers?
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3:31 - 3:32Are you talking to your dad?
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3:32 - 3:35or, are you talking to your sister?
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3:35 - 3:38And if you guys are aware
of who you are talking to -
3:38 - 3:41then it just comes
kind of like second nature -
3:41 - 3:47'cause you automatically start to
just become aware of what your are saying -
3:47 - 3:51and how you are going to say it
to that person, -
3:51 - 3:52so that's the next tip
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3:52 - 3:56which is to be aware of what you are saying
and how you're going to say it. -
3:56 - 4:00And if you guys can discover how
to master these two very easy steps -
4:00 - 4:05I guarantee that it will take you far,
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4:05 - 4:15and so you should always think before you talk.
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4:15 - 4:16Thank you.
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4:16 - 4:20(Applause)
- Title:
- How you say it... - James Erum at tedxyouth@7thstreet
- Description:
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James Erum, a senior at the Ambassador School of Global Leadership, shows that how you say things are just as important as what you say, and how it is important to master the way we speak.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 04:29
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