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Hi.

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So, I want you all 
to look at this statement right here.

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And, if you guys actually think about it, 
if you put emphasis

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on each of the different words 
in the sentence,

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this sentence can have
six different meanings.

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For example: <i>I</i> didn´t steal her money;

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or, I DIDN'T steal her money; 
or, I didn´t STEAL her money;

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or, I didn´t steal HER money; 
or, I didn´t steal her MONEY.

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So, I just...It was pretty interesting 
when I first saw that.

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So, a couple months ago

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my best friend, his name is John,

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we were having a discussion,

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more like a debate on

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how what you say 
versus what you are actually saying,

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and he thought that what you are saying,

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actual words meant more 
than what you are saying,

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than how you are saying it,
yeah, that's confusing.

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But, by show of hands,
and I can't see you guys,

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but by show of hands, who thinks 
how what you say is important?

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OK. And sit down if you think that 
what you say is just as important.

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Good job! All right. Cool.

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So, I mean, of course both are
important in means of communication,

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but today I'm just gonna talk 
to you guys about

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how what you say is just as, if not 
more, important than what you say.

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So, there are basically two ways
people communicate

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which are verbally and non-verbally.

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Wow, look at this, that's cool.

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All right so in terms of sharing ideas,
we see that

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body movements, mostly facial expressions, 
is this section right here,

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takes the most of it,

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and this is the non-verbal side, 
right here

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which is...so this is pitch, rythm, 
octave speed, tone of voice;

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and that's when people are talking 
and people are listening,

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people are basically gauging 
your vocal chords

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and listening to how your voice sounds

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versus how you are saying it,
uh,or not, what you are saying.

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So if I say something like

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"you saved his life" 
or "you SAVED his LIFE",

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you know, it sounds like a positive thing

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but if I were to say like,

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"oh, you saved his life"

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then that just sounds mean.

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Therefore, the prospect 
of how we say something is

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just more important than 
what we are actually saying.

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So in that debate I beat John, I win.

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So now I'm going to conclude 
my very short presentation

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by giving you a few tips on
how to communicate more effectively

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whether it be in a presentation 
to a group of people

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or in a regular conversation with just, 
you know, a group of friends.

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So your first tip that
I'm going to give you guys

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is that you guys 
should know your audience,

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you have to be aware 
of who you are talking to;

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are you talking to a group of kids?

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or, are you talking to teachers?

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Are you talking to your dad?

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or, are you talking to your sister?

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And if you guys are aware 
of who you are talking to

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then it just comes 
kind of like second nature

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'cause you automatically start to 
just become aware of what your are saying

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and how you are going to say it
to that person,

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so that's the next tip

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which is to be aware of what you are saying 
and how you're going to say it.

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And if you guys can discover how
to master these two very easy steps

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I guarantee that it will take you far,

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and so you should always think before you talk.

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Thank you.

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(Applause)