Hi.
So, I want you all to look at this statement right here.
And, if you guys actually think about it, if you put emphasis
on each of the different words in the sentence,
this sentence can have six different meanings.
For example: I didn´t steal her money;
or, I DIDN'T steal her money; or, I didn´t STEAL her money;
or, I didn´t steal HER money; or, I didn´t steal her MONEY.
So, I just...It was pretty interesting when I first saw that.
So, a couple months ago
my best friend, his name is John,
we were having a discussion,
more like a debate on
how what you say versus what you are actually saying,
and he thought that what you are saying,
actual words meant more than what you are saying,
than how you are saying it, yeah, that's confusing.
But, by show of hands, and I can't see you guys,
but by show of hands, who thinks how what you say is important?
OK. And sit down if you think that what you say is just as important.
Good job! All right. Cool.
So, I mean, of course both are important in means of communication,
but today I'm just gonna talk to you guys about
how what you say is just as, if not more, important than what you say.
So, there are basically two ways people communicate
which are verbally and non-verbally.
Wow, look at this, that's cool.
All right so in terms of sharing ideas, we see that
body movements, mostly facial expressions, is this section right here,
takes the most of it,
and this is the non-verbal side, right here
which is...so this is pitch, rythm, octave speed, tone of voice;
and that's when people are talking and people are listening,
people are basically gauging your vocal chords
and listening to how your voice sounds
versus how you are saying it, uh,or not, what you are saying.
So if I say something like
"you saved his life" or "you SAVED his LIFE",
you know, it sounds like a positive thing
but if I were to say like,
"oh, you saved his life"
then that just sounds mean.
Therefore, the prospect of how we say something is
just more important than what we are actually saying.
So in that debate I beat John, I win.
So now I'm going to conclude my very short presentation
by giving you a few tips on how to communicate more effectively
whether it be in a presentation to a group of people
or in a regular conversation with just, you know, a group of friends.
So your first tip that I'm going to give you guys
is that you guys should know your audience,
you have to be aware of who you are talking to;
are you talking to a group of kids?
or, are you talking to teachers?
Are you talking to your dad?
or, are you talking to your sister?
And if you guys are aware of who you are talking to
then it just comes kind of like second nature
'cause you automatically start to just become aware of what your are saying
and how you are going to say it to that person,
so that's the next tip
which is to be aware of what you are saying and how you're going to say it.
And if you guys can discover how to master these two very easy steps
I guarantee that it will take you far,
and so you should always think before you talk.
Thank you.
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