Find your dream job without ever looking at your resume | Laura Berman Fortgang | TEDxBocaRaton
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0:24 - 0:28Everybody knows somebody
who hates their job. -
0:29 - 0:31Maybe that somebody is even you.
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0:32 - 0:36In fact, half of the people
in the United States who work -
0:36 - 0:40would do something else
for a living if given the chance. -
0:40 - 0:41That's an epidemic.
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0:42 - 0:44Look, I know,
it's hard to change, -
0:44 - 0:46it's easier to stick
with the devil you know. -
0:46 - 0:49Walking away
from a paycheck and benefits - -
0:49 - 0:52that doesn't fit conventional wisdom ,
and doing something more meaningful - -
0:52 - 0:55I mean, who wants to make less money?
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0:56 - 0:59But when I think about this subject,
I think of my grandfather, -
0:59 - 1:04my immigrant grandfather who left Poland,
alone, on a boat, at 17 years old, -
1:05 - 1:06to go to New York City.
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1:07 - 1:10I wonder what he would think about us
talking about being happy at work. -
1:11 - 1:12"Happy?" he would say.
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1:12 - 1:14"Happy at work?
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1:14 - 1:16Put food on the table, that's 'happy.'
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1:16 - 1:17What are you talking about, happy?"
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1:17 - 1:20My dad, first generation American,
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1:20 - 1:22he was the first to go to college,
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1:22 - 1:24the first to have a "good corporate job,"
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1:24 - 1:27his was the 1960s' version
of being happy at work. -
1:28 - 1:29But he really wasn't.
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1:30 - 1:31Today, the research shows
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1:31 - 1:34that to be happy at work,
people want to be engaged. -
1:34 - 1:37They want to have mastery
over their subject matter. -
1:37 - 1:38They do want to know
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1:38 - 1:41that what they do matters more
than the paycheck they get. -
1:41 - 1:43So, if we know that, why is it
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1:43 - 1:46that 50 per cent of us can't figure out
what we want to do with our life? -
1:47 - 1:51I think it's because when we are in doubt,
we look to our resume. -
1:51 - 1:55We look to our credentials,
what we're qualified to do. -
1:55 - 1:59What we're qualified to do
is not necessarily what we're meant to do. -
2:00 - 2:03It isn't necessarily
what's going to bring us satisfaction. -
2:05 - 2:06Think of an egg, if you will.
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2:06 - 2:08From a little hummingbird egg
to an ostrich egg, -
2:09 - 2:11all of them are roundish shell.
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2:11 - 2:15For people, that shell
are our credentials, our track record, -
2:15 - 2:18our accomplishments, and our resume.
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2:18 - 2:21A lot of us get attached to that shell,
it becomes our identity, -
2:21 - 2:24and that's what makes it hard to change.
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2:24 - 2:27But to get to the good stuff,
you have to crack the egg open. -
2:27 - 2:30Because inside is the yolk,
the golden center. -
2:30 - 2:31That's where the DNA is.
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2:31 - 2:34That's what determines
how each egg is unique. -
2:34 - 2:39For people, I call that yolk
their "life blueprint." -
2:39 - 2:42Everything that can be
taken away is the shell. -
2:42 - 2:44The status, your identity,
what people think of you, -
2:44 - 2:46the perks, the salary.
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2:46 - 2:48But what can't be taken away is the yolk.
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2:48 - 2:52That's where the discovery
of career satisfaction can happen. -
2:53 - 2:55Maybe it's more important to understand
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2:55 - 2:59that career satisfaction
doesn't come from what you do. -
2:59 - 3:03It comes from who you get to be
while you're doing that job. -
3:03 - 3:05Who your job allows you to be,
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3:05 - 3:07that's where the happiness comes from.
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3:08 - 3:10So, the shell is what you do.
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3:11 - 3:12But the yolk is who;
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3:13 - 3:14who you get to be.
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3:14 - 3:16When I was in my 20s,
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3:16 - 3:20I wanted nothing more
than to be a Broadway star. -
3:21 - 3:24Well, I did reasonably well;
I got my union card, -
3:24 - 3:29I worked in reputable theaters,
and I gave myself five years to make it, -
3:29 - 3:32and at year eight,
I was still waiting on tables. -
3:33 - 3:35So, I grew despondent, I really did.
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3:35 - 3:38I was almost suicidal over the fact
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3:38 - 3:41that I thought that I failed
at the only thing I ever wanted. -
3:41 - 3:43Why haven't this dream come true for me?
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3:43 - 3:45I'd worked so hard, I invested so much.
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3:46 - 3:5010 years after I left show business,
I had an epiphany about this. -
3:50 - 3:53I remembered a scholarship
that I was up for, -
3:53 - 3:56for an acting program where they asked me:
-
3:56 - 3:59"What would be possible
if you were successful as a performer?" -
3:59 - 4:02The answer came to me in a flash.
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4:02 - 4:05I knew it was like the right answer,
the Miss America pageant answer, -
4:05 - 4:06the eldest child answer,
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4:06 - 4:09the "I'm going to get
the scholarship" answer. -
4:09 - 4:12So I went up to the mike and I said,
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4:12 - 4:15"Well, if I were successful
as a performer, -
4:15 - 4:20people would see me on stage and be moved
to change something in their life." -
4:21 - 4:23That answer got me the scholarship.
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4:23 - 4:27But it wasn't until ten years later
when I realized what I really had said; -
4:27 - 4:33the performer was the shell
causing change from the stage. -
4:34 - 4:35That was the yolk.
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4:35 - 4:36That was me.
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4:37 - 4:40So I hadn't failed at my dream after all;
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4:40 - 4:44I just suffered
from a misinterpretation of my dream. -
4:44 - 4:46I needed to allow
the dream to change form. -
4:46 - 4:48I think that's what's wrong
for a lot of us -
4:48 - 4:50when we can't figure it out.
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4:50 - 4:52No one's taught us to pull the dream apart
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4:52 - 4:54and understand
the true significance of it. -
4:54 - 4:57We're told we could be anything
we want to be when we grow up. -
4:57 - 4:59But when we go to pick
that college major, -
4:59 - 5:02the question changes from, "What
do you want to be when you grow up?" -
5:02 - 5:05to, "How are you going to make
a living with that?" -
5:05 - 5:06We haven't been taught
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5:06 - 5:10what are dreams and imaginations
really mean to our career trajectory. -
5:11 - 5:13John was someone who heard me
speak about this concept -
5:13 - 5:15and he was very skeptical.
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5:15 - 5:18He said, "Laura, I've accomplished
everything I set out to do. -
5:18 - 5:21I've had every dream
for my career come true. -
5:21 - 5:24So this cannot possibly hold any weight."
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5:24 - 5:28But at the time we met,
he wasn't sure what he wanted to do next. -
5:28 - 5:29He was struggling with that.
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5:29 - 5:31I want to tell you a little secret:
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5:31 - 5:34I don't believe anyone who tells me
they don't know what they want to do. -
5:34 - 5:37I believe they do know;
they're just too afraid to speak it -
5:37 - 5:39because then they have to do
something about it. -
5:39 - 5:40Anyway, back to John.
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5:40 - 5:42Since he challenged me, I said,
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5:42 - 5:45"Okay, what are all your career dreams
that you had come true?" -
5:45 - 5:47He said, "When I was a kid,
I wanted to be a magician. -
5:47 - 5:50As a young adult,
I wanted to be an architect, -
5:50 - 5:53then I wanted to change
and be in advertising and marketing -
5:53 - 5:55and be responsible for huge
billboards in New York City." -
5:55 - 5:59He goes, "And now I want to do something
with my love for the outdoors, -
5:59 - 6:01maybe an adventure
travel guide or something." -
6:01 - 6:05But he couldn't reconcile
how that fit with the rest of his life. -
6:05 - 6:07But I could see it.
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6:07 - 6:09So, this is where I need your help.
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6:10 - 6:11If you go -
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6:15 - 6:19if you go out and you see
a wonderful magic trick, -
6:19 - 6:22one that blows your mind,
what's your reaction? -
6:22 - 6:24Show me on your face
what your reaction is. -
6:24 - 6:26Audience: Wow!
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6:26 - 6:27Laura Berman Fortgang: Wow!
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6:27 - 6:29So, if you go to a city
that you've never been to -
6:29 - 6:31and you're looking up at the architecture,
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6:31 - 6:33what does your face look like?
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6:33 - 6:37Alright, now if you've been to New York
and ever seen a billboard so large -
6:37 - 6:40that a woman's navel
is the size of a cruise ship, -
6:40 - 6:42what does your face look like?
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6:42 - 6:43Wow.
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6:43 - 6:44So, you see.
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6:45 - 6:52Everything that John did
evoked a universal human response. -
6:52 - 6:56Across culture, language, or age,
"Ooh, aah, wow." -
6:57 - 6:59All those jobs were what he did,
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6:59 - 7:02but who he was
was someone who inspired awe. -
7:03 - 7:07If you go out in nature,
you will be in awe. -
7:07 - 7:11So, it was completely in his blueprint
for him to go and become someone -
7:11 - 7:15who worked in nature and took others
into nature to inspire awe. -
7:15 - 7:17Today, he owns a company
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7:17 - 7:21where he designs and manufactures
gear for outdoor enthusiasts. -
7:22 - 7:23He found his way.
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7:23 - 7:25So, the formula seems to be:
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7:25 - 7:28something from the past
whether it has come true or not, -
7:28 - 7:30re-examine for its true significance,
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7:30 - 7:32married with your skill set of today,
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7:32 - 7:34equals a satisfying new chapter.
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7:35 - 7:38Now, there are people
who have said to me over the years -
7:38 - 7:39that they've never had a dream,
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7:39 - 7:42that they never had anything
that ever called to them, -
7:42 - 7:44they don't have any memory of anything
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7:44 - 7:46they'd ever wanted to be
when they grew up. -
7:46 - 7:50Over the years, what I've seen
as a common thread among these people -
7:50 - 7:52is that they all had
a rougher childhood than most. -
7:53 - 7:55They either grew up
in a dysfunctional home, -
7:55 - 7:58maybe there was raging,
maybe there was alcoholism, -
7:58 - 8:00perhaps they were worried
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8:00 - 8:04that a relative who was sick
or sibling who was sick, -
8:04 - 8:07they didn't know
if they were coming or going, -
8:07 - 8:09any child who has to keep their
guard up all the time, -
8:09 - 8:11and doesn't feel safe can't dream.
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8:11 - 8:16If that's any of you, don't worry,
there is a solution for another time. -
8:16 - 8:21I've also met people who have had
a round of success with their career, -
8:21 - 8:24but it was based on something
that was a reaction from their past. -
8:24 - 8:25So, they succeeded,
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8:25 - 8:29but now they don't know what to do
because they have no criteria. -
8:29 - 8:32So, that thing from the past,
if any of you have ever made a vow, -
8:32 - 8:35anyone who'd ever said,
"I won't be like my mother," -
8:36 - 8:37or "I won't be like my father,"
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8:37 - 8:40or "I'll never be poor,"
or "I'll show them," that's a vow. -
8:40 - 8:42If you did that,
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8:42 - 8:44it was a reaction
to circumstances of your life, -
8:44 - 8:46and it probably served you well.
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8:46 - 8:49Look, a lot of people
have a lot of ambition -
8:49 - 8:51based on things
they don't want in their life. -
8:52 - 8:53But there may come a point
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8:53 - 8:55where that motivation
is no longer useful to you -
8:55 - 8:56because you've outgrown it.
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8:56 - 8:58And then, what do you do?
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8:58 - 9:00Karen was someone
that I met in this situation. -
9:00 - 9:04She was a top salesperson,
she won all the cars, all the trips, -
9:04 - 9:07but she started talking
about how she was feeling really anxious -
9:07 - 9:10because she felt like
she was losing her mojo. -
9:10 - 9:13She didn't know
if she could keep up this pace -
9:13 - 9:15and she didn't know
how to discipline herself -
9:15 - 9:17to be as ambitious as she was before.
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9:18 - 9:20I suspected that there would be something
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9:20 - 9:22in her story that would tell us
what was going on. -
9:22 - 9:27So, there it was; at 17,
she was ready to accept a scholarship -
9:27 - 9:29to play basketball for college,
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9:29 - 9:31and she found out she was pregnant.
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9:31 - 9:34She gave up the scholarship,
she had the baby, and she made a vow. -
9:34 - 9:37"I will not be a teenage statistic."
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9:38 - 9:41She had that baby, she had
another baby with the same guy, -
9:41 - 9:47then she married him, went to school,
got this great job, succeeded wildly, -
9:47 - 9:50and now she couldn't figure out
why she could make it work. -
9:50 - 9:52Well, she wasn't a teenager anymore,
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9:52 - 9:55and she had well proven
that she wasn't a teenage statistic. -
9:55 - 9:57So, once she had the awareness
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9:57 - 10:00that she needed to just
change why she worked, -
10:00 - 10:04the motivation for why she worked,
she was on to new paths. -
10:04 - 10:07So you see, your resume
is only part of the equation. -
10:08 - 10:10All the things that happened
which made that resume, -
10:10 - 10:13that made your life story,
that's what reveals your blueprint. -
10:13 - 10:16That's what reveals
the themes and the imprint -
10:16 - 10:17that is your yolk.
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10:18 - 10:21I want to live in a world where people
stop competing at work, -
10:21 - 10:23because they realize
that they are so unique -
10:23 - 10:25that there's nobody to compete with.
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10:25 - 10:28Everyone's unique, we don't cross over,
we don't have to compete. -
10:28 - 10:32I want a world where we don't torture
our teenagers to figure out -
10:32 - 10:36what they want to do with the rest
of their life at 17 years old, -
10:36 - 10:37because we've taught them
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10:37 - 10:40that their dreams have many ways
that they can come to be. -
10:41 - 10:44I'd like to see a world
where nobody suffers to make a living -
10:44 - 10:47because they understand
that they are not wedded to the shell, -
10:47 - 10:50but they can evolve from the yolk.
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10:51 - 10:54So, before, I told you
that half of the people in the U.S. -
10:54 - 10:57would do something different
if given the chance. -
10:57 - 10:58Half!
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10:58 - 10:59That is an epidemic.
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11:00 - 11:02But it's an epidemic that has a cure.
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11:02 - 11:04The cure is understanding
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11:04 - 11:08that career satisfaction
doesn't come from what you do. -
11:08 - 11:12It comes from who you get to be
while you're doing it. -
11:12 - 11:17The beauty is, who you
get to be is the real you. -
11:18 - 11:19Thank you.
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11:19 - 11:22(Cheers) (Applause)
- Title:
- Find your dream job without ever looking at your resume | Laura Berman Fortgang | TEDxBocaRaton
- Description:
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Your job satisfaction doesn't really come from what you do, says author and career coach Laura Berman Fortgang. With vivid stories of people she has helped, Fortgang tells the secret of how to figure out what to look for in your career without ever looking at your resume.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
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- Duration:
- 11:30
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