What I learned from my failures | Felipe Pena | TEDxUnisinos
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0:15 - 0:19Do you know why I'm standing here
in front of you all? -
0:19 - 0:21Neediness.
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0:22 - 0:23It's true.
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0:23 - 0:26Every writer is needy
because every writer is lonely. -
0:26 - 0:31He sits in front of a blank page,
trying to come up with a sentence. -
0:31 - 0:33Deep down, there is a void.
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0:33 - 0:37He enters a crowded auditorium like this
and sees people applaud him, -
0:37 - 0:41he wants to keep standing
hoping they'll continue to clap. -
0:41 - 0:44No one applauds a book.
Have you ever seen that? -
0:44 - 0:49You get a book, you like it, love it,
put it on the table and start to clap. -
0:50 - 0:52No one does that.
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0:52 - 0:56When I was in high school,
I had a friend named João. -
0:56 - 0:59He had to take a vocational test
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0:59 - 1:02and the psychologist asked him,
"What do you want to be?" -
1:02 - 1:05He asked, "Which career
gets the most applause?" -
1:05 - 1:08She replied, "Clown."
He said, "I want to do that." -
1:08 - 1:14And today he's a great clown.
He's found his success. -
1:14 - 1:17But I don't know if they told you
that our topic is the opposite. -
1:17 - 1:20Our topic is "failure."
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1:20 - 1:23Do you know the difference
between failure and defeat? -
1:23 - 1:25Let's not confuse them, OK?
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1:25 - 1:29Defeat is when you go out
at night to a party -
1:29 - 1:32and a girl rejects you.
It's a huge blow. -
1:32 - 1:33You go back home, frustrated.
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1:33 - 1:36Failure is much worse.
Failure depends on a project. -
1:36 - 1:38You spend time on it,
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1:38 - 1:42and afterward you try
to achieve it and you can't. -
1:42 - 1:45Failure is very lonely.
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1:45 - 1:51Failure shows you a blank screen
when you expect it to show something more. -
1:51 - 1:57"Failure has no friends."
This quote is from former president JFK. -
1:58 - 2:02When he said "failure has no friends,"
he wanted to say exactly what I just said, -
2:02 - 2:07that failure is full of loneliness,
which is the opposite of success. -
2:07 - 2:09Let's observe this.
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2:09 - 2:12When one of our projects is successful,
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2:12 - 2:16the success belongs to everyone
who took part in it, -
2:16 - 2:19but when you fail,
the failure is only yours. -
2:19 - 2:24Failure has no friends.
Failure is also lonely. -
2:24 - 2:26Success should be shared with everyone.
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2:26 - 2:30We should accept failure
because failure is only ours. -
2:30 - 2:33I've had many during my life.
I have them every day. -
2:33 - 2:36I failed in almost all my projects.
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2:36 - 2:40But I go from one failure to another
with great enthusiasm. -
2:40 - 2:42I fail willingly, I fail with strength.
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2:42 - 2:47I go back and fail again,
I'm very stubborn. -
2:47 - 2:49Then I return to the blank screen.
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2:50 - 2:55This guy changes our concept
of failure, don't you think? -
2:55 - 2:57Because it would be
really easy if I could ask you, -
2:57 - 2:59"What have I learned from failure?"
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2:59 - 3:03That's the question of this lecture.
What did you learn from failure? -
3:03 - 3:06Is it possible to learn
something from failure? -
3:06 - 3:08This man... where is he?
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3:09 - 3:13Behind here? There? I don't see him.
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3:13 - 3:16This man changes our notion of failure.
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3:16 - 3:18Have you ever seen
someone fail on Facebook? -
3:18 - 3:20There's no way.
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3:20 - 3:23Everyone is successful
on Facebook. It's amazing. -
3:23 - 3:26Everyone seems like the King of England.
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3:26 - 3:30Everyone is partying,
everyone has yachts, cars... -
3:30 - 3:33although some of those cars
have been stolen by politicians. -
3:33 - 3:37Everyone is always happy on Facebook,
no one has failures on social media. -
3:37 - 3:39I've never seen anyone
post a photo at the dentist. -
3:39 - 3:43"A 'selfie' of my 4th cavity."
Have you ever seen that? -
3:43 - 3:46No one posts a selfie
at the dentist on Facebook. -
3:46 - 3:48There is no standing ovation.
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3:48 - 3:52There is no applause
because everyone is being applauded. -
3:52 - 3:55Facebook changed that notion
and gives us the illusion -
3:55 - 3:56that everyone is successful.
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3:56 - 4:00No one posts their failures.
No one shares them on social media. -
4:00 - 4:03That's what we need to start doing.
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4:03 - 4:08Life is not how our beloved
Mark Zuckerberg presents it to us, -
4:08 - 4:11because, unfortunately,
failures are a real part of life. -
4:11 - 4:15It's a neurological matter.
"Sadness has no end. Happiness does." -
4:15 - 4:16You've heard this saying.
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4:16 - 4:23This saying means that failures
are far more important to us than success. -
4:23 - 4:25Can we learn from our failures?
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4:25 - 4:31I don't know. Self-help gurus think so.
Paulo Coelho would get excited over this. -
4:31 - 4:33He'd say: "No, the universe
conspires in your favor. -
4:33 - 4:35You will learn and be successful,
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4:35 - 4:37and from failure to failure,
you will find success." -
4:37 - 4:41I don't know, I really don't know,
and I won't mislead you. -
4:41 - 4:44Do you see that person marked with red?
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4:44 - 4:46That's me.
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4:46 - 4:49It doesn't look like me,
but that's me in high school. -
4:49 - 4:52Do you know who that guy is,
in the middle, holding champagne? -
4:52 - 4:55My friend João who became a clown.
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4:55 - 5:00The end-of-year party, end of high school,
and he's holding champagne. -
5:00 - 5:03I look at this photo and wonder:
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5:03 - 5:07I think the first step towards failure
is to have many expectations, -
5:07 - 5:11to think like João, although he made it,
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5:11 - 5:15that, ultimately, people will applaud you
and give you a standing ovation. -
5:15 - 5:16João had another dream.
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5:16 - 5:19He said: "My goal is not only
to be applauded, -
5:19 - 5:21they have to clap for at least 30 seconds,
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5:21 - 5:25because if it's less than that
it's not applause, it's just clapping. -
5:25 - 5:28So I want to be a clown
who will be applauded." -
5:28 - 5:30That's a huge problem.
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5:30 - 5:35The beginning of failure is anxiety,
and failure is full of anxiety. -
5:35 - 5:39We always project
what we want as a reward -
5:39 - 5:42and if you start a project
wanting the reward, -
5:42 - 5:44you're starting wrong.
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5:44 - 5:46The only right way to start
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5:46 - 5:50is to know that true applause,
standing ovation, -
5:50 - 5:54is in the journey, not at the end of it.
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5:54 - 5:58There is no paved road;
walking creates the road, my friends. -
5:58 - 6:03It's not the goal you must pursue,
it's the journey towards the goal -
6:03 - 6:06where my friend João finds applause.
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6:07 - 6:11Here you see almost all the books
I wrote in my life. -
6:11 - 6:14All of them were huge failures.
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6:14 - 6:18I never won the Jabuti Prize.
I was a finalist twice, but I never won. -
6:18 - 6:21I never deserved critical acclaim.
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6:21 - 6:25That red book in the corner
is a book about breakups, -
6:25 - 6:27about my love failures.
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6:27 - 6:31It's called, "A kiss on the forehead
is worse than a breakup." -
6:31 - 6:33Isn't that right? Can you imagine it?
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6:33 - 6:36Your husband kisses you
on the forehead, "Bye, love,"... -
6:36 - 6:37Forget it, he's seeing someone else.
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6:37 - 6:40(Laughter)
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6:40 - 6:44No one leaves and gives a kiss
on the forehead, right? -
6:45 - 6:49I wrote books about journalism,
I wrote three novels, -
6:49 - 6:51I wrote a biography.
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6:51 - 6:53None of them were successful.
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6:53 - 6:55You probably didn't even know
I was a writer. -
6:55 - 6:59I guess none of you here
have read any of my books. -
7:00 - 7:01Who reads in Brazil?
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7:01 - 7:03Being a writer is a lonely job,
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7:03 - 7:07which brings us back to our
beloved John Kennedy. -
7:07 - 7:10"Failure has no friends."
We live in solitude. -
7:10 - 7:15Although I think Kennedy
had many friends, did he not? -
7:15 - 7:19That's OK... but then maybe not.
It was a tragic death. -
7:19 - 7:23A tragic death of a man
who served his country. -
7:23 - 7:26But do you know what I remember
most about Kennedy? -
7:26 - 7:28Not me, my clown friend João.
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7:28 - 7:29Do you know what he'd tell me?
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7:29 - 7:31"Look, Felipe,
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7:31 - 7:37what I remember most
about John Kennedy is Marilyn Monroe." -
7:37 - 7:41Do you remember that scene,
"Happy birthday, Mr. President?" -
7:41 - 7:42Do you remember that scene?
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7:42 - 7:46It's a scene where she sings
"Happy birthday to you" to the president. -
7:46 - 7:48Do you know why João liked that scene?
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7:48 - 7:50He would say: "Think about it, Felipe.
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7:50 - 7:54Happy birthday to you!
People are already clapping. -
7:54 - 7:57No one needs to get up
because everyone is already standing. -
7:57 - 7:58That's what I want in life.
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7:58 - 8:02I want to be a clown so Marilyn Monroe
can sing 'Happy Birthday' to me." -
8:02 - 8:04Again, the same mistake.
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8:04 - 8:09We want the reward before the journey,
but the journey brings the reward. -
8:10 - 8:17Here you can see a photo of me,
somewhat happy, I think you can tell, -
8:17 - 8:21with children from the Alemão favela
in Rio de Janeiro. -
8:21 - 8:26Those children were at the launch
of a book I wrote for them in 2012. -
8:26 - 8:29The launch was at the National Library.
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8:29 - 8:35Those children had never visited a palace
as big as the National Library. -
8:35 - 8:37I wrote a book whose proceeds
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8:37 - 8:41went to a mobile library
in the Alemão favela, -
8:41 - 8:43so that the kids could read.
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8:43 - 8:45But the book was a big flop,
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8:45 - 8:48and we couldn't raise
the money to build it. -
8:49 - 8:51But that photo is there.
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8:51 - 8:53There is a lesson from the failure:
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8:53 - 8:56even in the worst of failures,
there are moments of success. -
8:56 - 8:58That was my moment of success.
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8:58 - 9:01That photo with the children,
that happiness, -
9:01 - 9:04is something I'll take
with me forever and never forget. -
9:04 - 9:09And every time I go up the Alemão favela
and read to the children, -
9:09 - 9:11I see those same smiles,
and it's gratifying, -
9:11 - 9:14despite my failure
and the failure of our project, -
9:14 - 9:18of the book that couldn't build
the mobile library for them. -
9:18 - 9:22There are moments of success
in the worst of failures. -
9:22 - 9:26What you see here is a documentary
I released last year. -
9:26 - 9:28It's called "If this town weren't mine."
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9:28 - 9:30It's a documentary about
a community, Vila Autódromo, -
9:30 - 9:33located next to an Olympic Park
in Rio de Janeiro. -
9:33 - 9:38We all celebrate the Olympics in Rio,
but forget about the thousands of people -
9:38 - 9:40who are being evacuated
from their homes in the city -
9:40 - 9:42because of the Olympics.
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9:42 - 9:47This community, located right next
to the park, had 583 families. -
9:47 - 9:51They were evicted
so the Olympics could take place. -
9:51 - 9:54Is that success?
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9:54 - 9:57Does the failure of the people
who are leaving the place -
9:57 - 9:58where they've lived for 40 years,
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9:58 - 10:01since they're being evicted by the mayor,
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10:01 - 10:03cause success in the games
for millions of people, -
10:03 - 10:06billions of people
who'll be watching around the world? -
10:06 - 10:08Is there no other alternative?
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10:08 - 10:11Couldn't there be a social legacy
to leave all those people there? -
10:11 - 10:18I made this film, directed it, funded it,
summoned three friends to help me -
10:18 - 10:21- director of photography, sound, editing.
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10:21 - 10:26We showed the film in China,
the film was in festivals in Europe, -
10:26 - 10:30it won a festival in Beijing,
but it wasn't shown anywhere in Brazil. -
10:30 - 10:32It was a huge failure.
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10:32 - 10:37We couldn't mobilize the society,
and those people are about to be evicted. -
10:37 - 10:42Of the 583 families,
530 have already left. -
10:42 - 10:46The government and the mayor
destroy part of Rio's poor population, -
10:46 - 10:49while the country and the world
celebrate the Olympics. -
10:49 - 10:52Is that success or failure?
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10:53 - 10:59These are the people, and I failed them.
They are the residents of Vila Autódromo. -
10:59 - 11:02They are the people in the film
"If this town weren't mine." -
11:02 - 11:06I look at each one of them,
I look at their families, -
11:06 - 11:10and I look in the mirror and think,
"Felipe Pena, you're a failure. -
11:10 - 11:13You couldn't help those people
with your film." -
11:13 - 11:15Even though it was shown
throughout the whole world, -
11:15 - 11:18those people continue to suffer
the same problem. -
11:18 - 11:22Those people continue to live
under the same dictatorship -
11:22 - 11:27of the government of Rio de Janeiro
that evicted them for the Olympics. -
11:27 - 11:30If you were an Olympic athlete,
do you think it would be worth it? -
11:30 - 11:33Is having a medal on your chest
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11:33 - 11:37worth the cost of the suffering of others,
like you're seeing here? -
11:37 - 11:39I always ask myself the same question.
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11:39 - 11:41That person you see there
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11:42 - 11:46was a director of the 4th largest
TV station in the country. -
11:46 - 11:48That's me, although it doesn't look it.
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11:48 - 11:50Of course, I failed
as a director at TV Globo. -
11:50 - 11:53Do you know how long
I worked there? Five months. -
11:53 - 11:56Five months, just like
the Minister of Education, I remember, -
11:56 - 11:59"a country of education."
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11:59 - 12:01Minister Janine was only
five months in office. -
12:01 - 12:03Where did we go wrong, Minister? Tell me.
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12:03 - 12:07I know: I think we went wrong in politics,
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12:07 - 12:12because now that we have
a government tainted by corruption, -
12:12 - 12:15we believe that politics
is worthless, but it isn't! -
12:15 - 12:19If you can't find someone worth your vote,
you should run for office yourself. -
12:19 - 12:22Politics isn't just about voting.
Politics isn't just about Brasília. -
12:22 - 12:24Politics means talking to people.
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12:24 - 12:26In my role as director of content analysis
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12:26 - 12:31I should have talked to the screenwriters
at TV Globo about their mistakes. -
12:31 - 12:33But I did that
in highly technical reports. -
12:33 - 12:35I did my post-doctorate at Sorbonne.
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12:35 - 12:38I thought I had the technical
knowledge to do this, -
12:38 - 12:41but I had to do more,
I had to talk and I didn't, -
12:41 - 12:43and because of that
I left after five months. -
12:43 - 12:46We were easily overthrown,
the Minister and I. -
12:46 - 12:49It's easy to be overthrown
when you can't do politics. -
12:49 - 12:54Doing politics is necessary.
Success and failure depend on it. -
12:56 - 12:59I was also a screenwriter
for TV Globo for three years. -
12:59 - 13:01I submitted scripts for evening dramas.
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13:01 - 13:06I submitted 10 proposals for TV series.
Do you know how many of them were aired? -
13:06 - 13:08Zero.
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13:08 - 13:10None of them were aired.
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13:10 - 13:13But here's another lesson in failure.
Every failure serves a purpose. -
13:13 - 13:17Mine served to write this book
that you see here. -
13:17 - 13:20It includes scripts,
the script for an evening drama, -
13:20 - 13:23a horror series, and a police series.
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13:23 - 13:27My students can learn from this
and understand where I went wrong, -
13:27 - 13:33because in the margin of each script
are comments from people who criticized me -
13:33 - 13:35and why the scripts didn't go on air.
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13:35 - 13:37Students can learn from my mistakes.
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13:37 - 13:42My failures in TV are open to anyone
who wants to be a screenwriter, -
13:42 - 13:45or wants to work for a TV station.
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13:45 - 13:47Finally, there's this photo here.
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13:47 - 13:50This is a photo of the residents
of Vila Autódromo -
13:50 - 13:53watching the film in the community church,
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13:53 - 13:57along with international reporters
who I had invited, -
13:57 - 14:00so they could see the hardships
in the community. -
14:00 - 14:04Today, a few international media outlets
have spoken about the community. -
14:04 - 14:08And now, one last thought for you.
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14:08 - 14:11I don't know if you've heard of
the "story of the elbows", -
14:11 - 14:16but I believe it explains the difference
between success and failure. -
14:16 - 14:19This is the story of the elbows:
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14:19 - 14:23There was a journalist
who wanted to know heaven and hell. -
14:23 - 14:25So first, he went to hell.
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14:25 - 14:29He asked the devil's press officer,
"Can I see what hell is like?" -
14:29 - 14:31He said, "Come, my child. You can enter."
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14:31 - 14:35He entered through
a gate of fire, turned right, -
14:35 - 14:37and looked at the people
in the middle of hell. -
14:37 - 14:44He noticed that everyone was happy,
everyone just laughing, no one working. -
14:44 - 14:46It was wonderful in hell.
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14:46 - 14:49But he looked more closely
at those happy people, -
14:49 - 14:54laughing, having fun,
and noticed they had inverted elbows. -
14:54 - 15:00Because of this, they ended up starving
since they couldn't feed themselves. -
15:00 - 15:02So, he ran away from there.
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15:02 - 15:04"I don't want to stay here!
I don't want to starve!" -
15:04 - 15:08He called Saint Peter and said:
"Can I come? I want to see heaven." -
15:08 - 15:11He left, went up, entered a gate
of clouds to the right, -
15:11 - 15:13and entered heaven.
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15:13 - 15:16When he arrived at heaven,
he noticed the same type of people. -
15:16 - 15:18Everyone was also happy,
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15:18 - 15:24no one working, everyone just having fun,
laughing and telling jokes. -
15:24 - 15:26What is he going to do?
Look at their elbows, right? -
15:26 - 15:33He looked at their elbows and noticed
that they were also inverted. -
15:33 - 15:37The only difference is that, in heaven,
the people weren't starving -
15:37 - 15:41because each person feeds the other.
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15:41 - 15:44This is what the residents
of Vila Autódromo have learned, -
15:44 - 15:49that together they are strong,
and that solidarity is the only solution. -
15:49 - 15:53Today 57 families persevere
with inverted elbows, -
15:53 - 15:56placing food in the mouths of one another,
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15:56 - 16:00and myself along with them,
emulating that example of solidarity. -
16:00 - 16:03I failed with the movie,
failed with books, -
16:03 - 16:05failed in the cinema, failed at TV Globo.
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16:05 - 16:08I can fail with them,
but we will fail together. -
16:08 - 16:14There is only failure in division;
in solidarity, failure becomes success, -
16:14 - 16:15even if you fail.
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16:15 - 16:19So, I want you all to work together,
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16:19 - 16:23to join your inverted elbows
and get a standing ovation -
16:23 - 16:28for 10 minutes, for 10 seconds,
for as long as you live, -
16:28 - 16:32as long as your lives are dedicated
to moments of solidarity. -
16:32 - 16:33Thank you very much.
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16:33 - 16:36(Applause)
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17:07 - 17:09Thirty seconds. You made my day.
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17:09 - 17:11(Laughter)
- Title:
- What I learned from my failures | Felipe Pena | TEDxUnisinos
- Description:
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This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences.
Felipe Pena, author, journalist, psychologist, and host of Globo News reveals himself at TEDx as someone who has failed. "I've never won an award and never earned praise from the media." In his journey, he has a handful of experiences which, in his view, all resulted in failure. As a director of TV Globo, he failed when only looking into reports instead of speaking eye to eye with the staff. He worked just six months in the job. He got involved in social projects, such as the documentary about families evicted from Vila Autódromo for the construction of the Olympic Park. This documentary was shown at international festivals but never shown in Brazil, which left him feeling defeated from being unable to help the families.
- Video Language:
- Portuguese, Brazilian
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 17:16
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