The power of storytelling | Andrea Gibbs | TEDxPerth
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0:12 - 0:16I'm not a scientist,
but I do have a theory. -
0:16 - 0:20I believe that the longer
you've been single -
0:20 - 0:23and the more boring your job is,
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0:23 - 0:25the higher the likelihood is
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0:25 - 0:28that you'll fall in love with someone
that you see at work every day. -
0:28 - 0:30(Laughter)
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0:30 - 0:32Like whether it's a work colleague
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0:32 - 0:34or a customer
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0:35 - 0:37or, in my case, the delivery man.
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0:37 - 0:39(Laughter)
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0:39 - 0:45Eight years ago, I was working
at a travel agency at Curtin University, -
0:45 - 0:47and when I first got the job, I thought,
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0:47 - 0:49"This is going to be great.
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0:49 - 0:52Heaps of cheap flights,
heaps of awesome adventures." -
0:52 - 0:54It wasn't like that at all.
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0:54 - 0:57I ended up - most of my days
would consist of just data entry -
0:57 - 1:01and booking flights for 18-year-olds
to go off on their gap adventures, -
1:01 - 1:04which, really, are just going
across the other side of the world -
1:04 - 1:06and embarrassing us
by calling, "Aussie, Aussie, Aussie," -
1:06 - 1:08and then vomiting all over themselves.
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1:08 - 1:10(Laughter)
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1:10 - 1:12That's what they were doing, to be real.
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1:12 - 1:15So I was kind of open
to new opportunities, -
1:15 - 1:17but there wasn't a lot that was happening.
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1:17 - 1:20Except the delivery man.
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1:20 - 1:21Now, the only problem was
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1:21 - 1:24is that he wasn't the delivery man
for our business; -
1:24 - 1:27he was the delivery man
for the business next door, right? -
1:27 - 1:29So my whole relationship with him
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1:29 - 1:34consisted of him walking past
our big shopfront window -
1:34 - 1:35and waving at me.
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1:35 - 1:36(Laughter)
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1:36 - 1:38And I would wave back.
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1:38 - 1:40And time would stop.
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1:40 - 1:42(Laughter)
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1:42 - 1:44We were so in love with each other.
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1:44 - 1:45(Laughter)
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1:47 - 1:50Sometimes he would wave on the way past
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1:50 - 1:52and then again on the way back.
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1:52 - 1:53(Laughter)
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1:53 - 1:55That was a great day.
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1:55 - 1:57He was my Hawaiian Island, you know,
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1:57 - 2:00in a sea full of booking
these Contiki tours. -
2:00 - 2:06And I was the only single girl
in the office at the time - -
2:06 - 2:07an office full of girls.
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2:07 - 2:09And which basically just meant
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2:09 - 2:13that conversation revolved around me
and my lack of sex life, right, -
2:13 - 2:15and what I tried to get up to weekends
and fail at miserably, -
2:15 - 2:18how I could no longer be single,
how they were going to help me. -
2:18 - 2:21So every time this delivery man
would walk past and wave at me, -
2:21 - 2:24they would shriek and scream
and get so excited. -
2:24 - 2:27They'd be like, "Oh my God, Andrea.
He's so in love with you." -
2:27 - 2:30You should totes go out there
and make a move on him." -
2:30 - 2:33And I wanted to go out there
and make a move on him, -
2:33 - 2:36but I didn't have the guts,
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2:36 - 2:39and, to be honest, I thought
that he was way, way out of my league -
2:39 - 2:41because he was really, really hot
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2:41 - 2:44and I normally go for fat, nerdy guys
because they're easier to catch. -
2:44 - 2:47(Laughter)
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2:48 - 2:51They are: they have weak knees
and they tire easily. -
2:51 - 2:53(Laughter)
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2:56 - 2:58But this guy was so incredibly hot.
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2:58 - 3:00Like, I was even surprised
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3:00 - 3:02because good-looking people
aren't normally that friendly, -
3:02 - 3:04and he was waving at me.
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3:04 - 3:06But he was, you know,
like, tall and broad shouldered -
3:06 - 3:08and chiseled jaw and tight little butt.
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3:08 - 3:10And like really down-to-earth looking,
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3:10 - 3:14like the kind of guy that could easily
crack open a tinnie with my dad, -
3:14 - 3:16who's like a true-blue
kangaroo Aussie farmer. -
3:16 - 3:19You know, that kind of guy - no worries.
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3:19 - 3:23And I was also pretty gutless,
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3:23 - 3:24but also at the same time,
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3:24 - 3:26I was kind of enjoying
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3:26 - 3:30this little wave romance
that we had going on, you know. -
3:30 - 3:36Like it was really simple
and innocent and beautiful -
3:36 - 3:38and uncomplicated.
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3:38 - 3:40It was like that moment
like when you're in high school -
3:40 - 3:42and go on a date the first time,
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3:42 - 3:45and you're sitting next to the boy,
your knees or pinkies touch - -
3:45 - 3:47it was like electric.
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3:47 - 3:48And I thought,
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3:48 - 3:51"This is the beautiful beginning
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3:51 - 3:54to the great love story
that I'm going to have in my life." -
3:54 - 3:56It's, you know, the start of a movie.
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3:56 - 3:58It's one of those stories
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3:58 - 4:00that will get passed down
through the family -
4:00 - 4:02from generation to generation:
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4:02 - 4:05"Did you hear how Nana and Pop
got together? It was hilarious." -
4:06 - 4:10And like I had my Nan's funeral,
which happened that year. -
4:10 - 4:12I remember at her wake,
we were all sitting around, -
4:12 - 4:15and everyone,
all their friends and family, -
4:15 - 4:19we were all telling stories about her,
beautiful stories about her life. -
4:19 - 4:20And I thought,
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4:20 - 4:24"Wow, like, in the end,
that's all we really are, right. -
4:24 - 4:26We're just stories."
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4:26 - 4:29Stories are what our lives are made up of.
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4:30 - 4:34Stories - how we remember people.
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4:34 - 4:39And stories make us feel
a little less alone in the world. -
4:39 - 4:43But a story isn't a story
unless something happens, right? -
4:43 - 4:44And after 18 months
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4:44 - 4:46(Laughter)
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4:46 - 4:48of this wave routine,
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4:49 - 4:52I was getting a bit antsy,
and something had to happen. -
4:52 - 4:54(Laughter)
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4:54 - 4:57And it was going to have to be
something that I did. -
4:57 - 4:59So I decided to do something quite big.
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4:59 - 5:02I decided to quit my job.
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5:02 - 5:04Not because I had another job to go to,
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5:04 - 5:08but because I would be forced
to finally make a move on this guy -
5:08 - 5:11that I'd been crushing on
for the last 18 months. -
5:11 - 5:15And I'm good with deadlines,
so I had to do it before my last day. -
5:15 - 5:18So I told the girls at work,
and they were so excited - -
5:18 - 5:19not about the quitting bit
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5:19 - 5:22but about this thing
I was going to do to this guy, -
5:22 - 5:24and they gave me suggestions
about how to pick him up. -
5:24 - 5:27Like, "Just totally
go out there, and go like, -
5:27 - 5:28'Ah, nice package, mate.'"
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5:28 - 5:30(Laughter)
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5:32 - 5:34I was like, "Leave the comedy to me.
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5:34 - 5:35No thanks."
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5:35 - 5:39And I also, you know, I wanted to stick
with this like nonverbal communication -
5:39 - 5:40that we'd already developed.
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5:40 - 5:42I didn't want to go in there full force.
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5:42 - 5:46I also - I was going through this stage
where I was really addicted to Bob Dylan, -
5:46 - 5:50and I loved his music video
"Subterranean Homesick Blues," -
5:50 - 5:53where he shows the lyrics to his songs
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5:53 - 5:54with these cards,
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5:54 - 5:56and I thought,
"That's what I'm going to do." -
5:56 - 6:00That's what I'm going to do -
I'm going to write love notes on cards, -
6:00 - 6:02and I'm going to stalk him
in the shopfront window -
6:02 - 6:05when he walks past on my last day.
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6:05 - 6:06So creative.
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6:06 - 6:08(Laughter)
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6:08 - 6:11So on my second-to-last day,
I go home, past the shops, -
6:11 - 6:13and I buy these colored cards,
and I take them home, -
6:13 - 6:16and I write on them with big black texta,
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6:16 - 6:18and then I see my handwriting
is really messy, -
6:18 - 6:20so I get my housemate to do it,
a graphic designer, -
6:20 - 6:21because for some reason,
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6:21 - 6:24I think when the delivery man
sees my messy handwriting, -
6:24 - 6:26he'll be like, "No deal."
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6:26 - 6:28(Laughter)
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6:28 - 6:30And so I take them
to work with me on my last day, -
6:30 - 6:32and I show the girls,
and they're well impressed. -
6:33 - 6:35They can't believe the effort
I've put in, actually, -
6:35 - 6:39and I say, "Like, I wouldn't do
anything less for the love of my life. -
6:39 - 6:41Come on, ladies."
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6:41 - 6:45And we're working away that morning;
I'm typing at my computer. -
6:45 - 6:48Anyone walking past the shopfront -
we're all like giddy with excitement. -
6:48 - 6:50So we're looking up at them.
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6:50 - 6:53And 11:30 passes - that's the time
he normally comes in. -
6:53 - 6:54I start to get a bit nervous;
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6:54 - 6:56I start freaking out because I'm like,
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6:56 - 6:59"I don't want to have to come in
on Monday and do this unpaid." -
6:59 - 7:02(Laughter)
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7:03 - 7:05And then, 11:45 comes to pass.
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7:05 - 7:07He still hasn't come.
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7:07 - 7:1012:00, the shop starts to get busy
with students booking flights. -
7:10 - 7:11My work colleagues are like,
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7:11 - 7:13"Stick around;
there's about to be a show." -
7:13 - 7:16So there's this like audience
that's developing. -
7:17 - 7:1812:30 comes along,
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7:18 - 7:20and I start to really kind of give up,
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7:20 - 7:23and I get up to go out the back
to grab my lunch, -
7:23 - 7:27and as I stand up, I see him
walk straight past the window. -
7:27 - 7:29And Shaz, my colleague,
starts panicking, like, -
7:29 - 7:32"Oh my God, you missed him.
Andrea, you missed him." -
7:32 - 7:33I'm like, "Calm down, Sharon.
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7:33 - 7:35I wanted to get him on the way back past.
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7:35 - 7:38That way he could whisk me away
into his van romantically -
7:38 - 7:39after he'd done all his jobs."
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7:39 - 7:41That doesn't sound right, does it?
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7:41 - 7:44"Whisk me away romantically in a van?"
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7:44 - 7:45(Laughter)
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7:45 - 7:49Anyway, I started to gather up my cards,
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7:49 - 7:51and I told my boss to crank up the radio,
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7:51 - 7:54you know, so that it was like
the Ruckus dead fiddle or something. -
7:54 - 7:56(Laughter)
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7:56 - 8:00And I see him walk out
of the shop next door. -
8:00 - 8:03I position myself near the window,
and I just go for it. -
8:03 - 8:05(Music: "Kiss" by Prince)
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8:05 - 8:06[Hey mister stop]
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8:06 - 8:08[Today is my last day]
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8:11 - 8:13[No more waving ever again]
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8:16 - 8:17[Will you miss me?]
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8:19 - 8:21[How much?]
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8:21 - 8:22(Laughter)
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8:24 - 8:25[Wow! That's loads!]
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8:25 - 8:27(Laughter)
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8:27 - 8:29[Do you like ... ]
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8:30 - 8:31[Beer?]
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8:34 - 8:36[Wow! Me too!]
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8:39 - 8:41[It's like we have so much in common!]
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8:44 - 8:46[Beer]
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8:46 - 8:48[And waving]
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8:48 - 8:50[Waving]
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8:51 - 8:53[and beer]
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8:55 - 8:57[I was wondering ... ]
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8:59 - 9:02[Do you have a girlfriend?]
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9:03 - 9:05[Wife?]
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9:07 - 9:08[Boyfriend?]
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9:08 - 9:10(Laughter)
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9:12 - 9:13[Me either!!!]
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9:15 - 9:17[Do you like the look of these?]
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9:19 - 9:20(Laughter)
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9:23 - 9:25[Great! Me too]
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9:27 - 9:29[Well then, you might need this ...]
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9:31 - 9:34[040810626]
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9:35 - 9:37(Cheers and applause)
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9:39 - 9:40Thanks.
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9:46 - 9:47Thanks.
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9:47 - 9:50I'm glad you guys appreciate it
because he didn't. -
9:50 - 9:52(Laughter)
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9:54 - 9:56He didn't even get to see
half the cards, right, -
9:56 - 10:00because I got to the card
that said, "Do you have a girlfriend?" -
10:00 - 10:02and he had a girlfriend.
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10:02 - 10:03(Audience) Awww.
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10:03 - 10:06And I didn't have a plan B.
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10:07 - 10:10I didn't know what to do;
I was so embarrassed. -
10:10 - 10:14And everyone that had been cheering me on
throughout the whole routine -
10:14 - 10:16was suddenly just looking
at their computers, working away. -
10:16 - 10:18(Laughter)
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10:19 - 10:23And I was so embarrassed and shocked
that I just put my head behind the card, -
10:23 - 10:25and I wanted the floor
to open up and just engulf me, -
10:25 - 10:28but, you know, science -
that doesn't happen. -
10:28 - 10:30But I tried to get it to happen
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10:30 - 10:34by putting my head against the window
and just sliding down the glass. -
10:34 - 10:36(Laughter)
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10:36 - 10:39I was squatting on the ground,
looking up at him, just thinking, -
10:39 - 10:42"Just walk away, mate. Just walk away."
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10:42 - 10:43But he didn't,
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10:43 - 10:45and Shaz goes, "He's coming in.
He's coming in." -
10:45 - 10:47And he came in;
I'm standing there red faced. -
10:47 - 10:49He's like, "It's your last day, isn't it?"
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10:49 - 10:51and I'm like, "Yeah, mate."
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10:51 - 10:55And he gives me a hug,
which feels really nice, right, -
10:55 - 10:56but not that nice,
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10:56 - 10:58because it's like just one
of those horrible sympathy hugs, -
10:58 - 11:01like, "You'll be all right, mate.
You'll be all right." -
11:01 - 11:02(Laughter)
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11:02 - 11:05And I work away that afternoon,
all embarrassed, -
11:05 - 11:08and the girls are saying, "You all right?"
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11:08 - 11:10And I'm like, "Yeah. I'm totally fine.
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11:10 - 11:11Do that all the time."
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11:11 - 11:12(Laughter)
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11:12 - 11:15Try to pick up guys with cards, you know.
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11:17 - 11:18I'm pretty upset.
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11:18 - 11:23I get home, and I kind of have
a little bit of a cry, you know. -
11:23 - 11:25And I'm thinking to myself,
"Who does that?" -
11:25 - 11:27Like, how'd I think
that I could get away with that? -
11:27 - 11:29Like life just doesn't happen like that.
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11:30 - 11:31You know?
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11:32 - 11:36"But," I think, "stuff it."
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11:36 - 11:39At least I brought
a little bit of joy into his life, -
11:39 - 11:40and now he's got a story
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11:40 - 11:44where someone made
a grand, romantic gesture to him. -
11:44 - 11:48And if he's ever feeling
a little bit unloved -
11:48 - 11:51or unhappy or just mediocre,
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11:51 - 11:54then when he thinks of that,
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11:54 - 11:55it might bring a smile to his face
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11:55 - 11:59and make him feel a little bit
less alone in the world. -
12:00 - 12:04We can't always choose the stories
that we have in our lives, -
12:04 - 12:08but if we take a risk
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12:08 - 12:12and we show that we're human
and vulnerable, -
12:12 - 12:14then that's where the best stories lie.
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12:15 - 12:16Cheers.
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12:16 - 12:18(Applause)
- Title:
- The power of storytelling | Andrea Gibbs | TEDxPerth
- Description:
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With lots of humor, Andrea Gibbs tells us a story about love.
Through storytelling, we can understand ourselves better and find our commonality with others. We can share passions, hardships, embarrassments, joys, griefs and our overall human experience. Using stories, we can connect and feel less alone in the world.
Andrea Gibbs is the co-creator of Barefaced Stories and a core comedian in The Big HOO-HAA!
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 12:37
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