Decision making as an act of freedom | Inna Mkhitaryan | TEDxAparan
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0:06 - 0:10Well, I was born and grew up
in this province, Aragatsotn, -
0:10 - 0:13in the Talin region
in the village of Katnaghbyur. -
0:13 - 0:19(Applause)
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0:19 - 0:26When I was a schoolgirl,
I was very tall compared to my classmates. -
0:26 - 0:30Let me give you an idea:
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0:30 - 0:33errr ... rrr ... errr
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0:37 - 0:41In our school various competitions
were held during physical education class. -
0:41 - 0:46One of them is stuck in my memory.
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0:46 - 0:50A red line on the floor
and a strong rope, -
0:50 - 0:54that was all that was needed
to organize the competition. -
0:54 - 0:58The two competitors
on opposite sides of the red line -
0:58 - 0:59holding the ends of the rope
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0:59 - 1:02were waiting until the whistle sounded,
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1:02 - 1:05when they pulled with all their strength
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1:05 - 1:10until the comparatively weak participant
crossed the red line. -
1:10 - 1:15The competition was held in groups
for girls and for boys. -
1:15 - 1:18First the girls competed, then the boys.
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1:18 - 1:24I don't know whether it was an expression
of patriarchal culture or a sports law. -
1:24 - 1:28Probably, it was a sports law.
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1:28 - 1:33When competing with the girls,
I won every one. -
1:33 - 1:40You remember errr ... rrr ... errr ?
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1:40 - 1:43Yeghish was the winner in the boys' group.
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1:43 - 1:49Yeghish was the same way in the boys group
as I - errr ... rrr ... errr -
1:51 - 1:54Then, I noticed the meaningful look
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1:54 - 1:58of our physical education
teacher towards me. -
1:58 - 2:01I understood immediately what he wanted.
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2:01 - 2:04He wanted me to compete with the boys.
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2:04 - 2:10And I competed with the boys
breaking the sports law. -
2:10 - 2:13This one: Ararat.
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2:13 - 2:16This one: Armen.
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2:16 - 2:17I beat them.
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2:17 - 2:20You see, don't you?
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2:20 - 2:27We didn't have many boys in our class:
Vahan, David, and Samvel. -
2:27 - 2:30And little by little I started to blush.
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2:30 - 2:36When competing with Yeghish, I didn't
pull the rope with all my strength, -
2:36 - 2:40and I was the one to cross the red line.
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2:40 - 2:45Why did I blush and not pull the rope
with all my strength -
2:45 - 2:48when competing with Yeghish?
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2:48 - 2:54Because suddenly I woke up to the fact
that if I continued like this - -
2:54 - 2:57you understand I had got rather far -
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2:57 - 3:00but if I continued like this,
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3:00 - 3:06I would not fit the image
of a beautiful, tender and lovely woman. -
3:08 - 3:12At that time, I was very small,
only 10 or 11 years old. -
3:12 - 3:19But my environment had already taught me
to take into account the stereotypes, -
3:19 - 3:24and I didn't dare object
to the popular stereotyping -
3:24 - 3:30that men are strong and women are weak.
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3:30 - 3:37I was embarrassed by my physical strength
and adjusted to social expectations. -
3:37 - 3:39I always spoke in such a way
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3:39 - 3:44that what I said fitted the stereotypes
and social expectations. -
3:44 - 3:46What are they?
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3:46 - 3:52How do they impact the steps we take,
our activities, our behaviour, -
3:52 - 3:57and consequently our quality of life.
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3:57 - 4:04Stereotypes are conventional concepts
formed by society -
4:05 - 4:10that provide ready solutions
and answers for various situations. -
4:10 - 4:15Probably, when they were formed,
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4:15 - 4:22they had their objective reasons
and met with the requirements of the time. -
4:23 - 4:28But as time goes on,
and life's requirements have changed, -
4:28 - 4:30quite naturally these stereotypes
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4:30 - 4:34will be outdated
and inadequate for the time -
4:34 - 4:37and simply harm us.
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4:37 - 4:40Now, let me give you an example.
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4:40 - 4:42In ancient times,
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4:42 - 4:49when man was responsible
for food and the safety of their families -
4:49 - 4:53to provide all this,
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4:53 - 4:57he did hard physical work,
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4:58 - 5:00went to war,
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5:00 - 5:04cultivated wheat fields with a yoked ox.
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5:04 - 5:11At that time, it was natural and logical
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5:11 - 5:13that the men were free
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5:13 - 5:18from house chores
and care of the children. -
5:19 - 5:24Today, most of our men,
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5:24 - 5:27let's not say every man, but most of them,
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5:29 - 5:33rarely or almost never deal
with physical work, -
5:33 - 5:38and continue to think
in terms of this stereotyping, -
5:38 - 5:43that household chores or childcare
are not for them. -
5:43 - 5:47These are all exclusively
women's responsibilities. -
5:47 - 5:53In many cases,
a woman in the family works, -
5:53 - 5:57cares for the family's material expenses,
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5:57 - 6:02but irrespective of this, nobody helps her
with the household chores or childcare. -
6:02 - 6:05She has all this to do by herself.
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6:05 - 6:08I am a photojournalist by profession.
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6:08 - 6:13I don't want to address the peculiarities
of my profession in detail, -
6:13 - 6:17but there is something that happens
to me very often. -
6:17 - 6:21With my backpack on my shoulders,
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6:21 - 6:25by bus, minibus, taxi, on foot,
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6:25 - 6:30with the help of maps, asking people,
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6:30 - 6:33I go and find the heroes of my articles.
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6:35 - 6:41It's unbelievable, but my simple backpack
has a magical quality. -
6:42 - 6:48It makes me younger
by about 10 to 15 years. -
6:48 - 6:55I don't think I look young for my age;
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6:55 - 6:57on the contrary,
I look just entirely my age. -
6:57 - 7:04But just because of having a backpack
and doing the work of photojournalist, -
7:04 - 7:08I must be rather young.
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7:11 - 7:18The fact, that the girl with a backpack
can be married, moreover, have a child, -
7:18 - 7:21simply sounds like a fantasy story.
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7:21 - 7:27Then the first question that arises is:
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7:27 - 7:30Why have you come here?
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7:32 - 7:39Before starting my job,
I need to work with my heroes -
7:39 - 7:42telling them that everything
is fine in my family, -
7:42 - 7:44there is food in the refrigerator,
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7:44 - 7:49my kids won't be left at kindergarten,
I am a good housewife, a good wife, -
7:49 - 7:52and a good mother.
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7:52 - 7:58Society has certain expectations of women.
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7:58 - 8:03It's very hard for women not to give up
at some time in their life. -
8:05 - 8:12It's accepted that, for women,
there is both work and family. -
8:14 - 8:18Fortunately, there are many cases
where women don't give in. -
8:18 - 8:21They don't concede
at any time in their life, -
8:21 - 8:23and they're none the worse for not doing.
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8:23 - 8:29On the contrary,
such women have everything: -
8:29 - 8:36a good job, a family, children,
and numerous other possibilities. -
8:38 - 8:40Again, due to my job,
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8:40 - 8:46very often I deal with women
and listen to their stories; -
8:46 - 8:50that is my favourite part of my job.
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8:50 - 8:57One common thing that I notice is
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8:57 - 9:01that, in the case of major issues,
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9:01 - 9:04what they think is of less value.
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9:05 - 9:09They don't take decisions.
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9:09 - 9:12They subjugate themselves
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9:12 - 9:17to their mother, father,
other members of the family, -
9:17 - 9:21husband, husband's parents.
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9:21 - 9:27And, indeed, I'm not talking about
trivial, secondary issues. -
9:27 - 9:30Completely the opposite.
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9:30 - 9:35Education, choice of profession,
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9:35 - 9:39marriage to this or that person,
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9:39 - 9:46number of children,
gender of children, health issues, -
9:46 - 9:50important key issues,
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9:50 - 9:54women leave the decisions to others.
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9:54 - 9:59And to the questions:
"Why didn’t you do as you wanted?" -
9:59 - 10:03"Why didn't you insist on your decision?"
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10:03 - 10:09most women, almost 10 out of 10, answer:
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10:09 - 10:11"Nobody asked me."
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10:12 - 10:14Can you imagine
she had a decision to make, -
10:14 - 10:20but not having been as much as asked,
she has conceded? -
10:20 - 10:25Because we must be led,
need it or not - -
10:25 - 10:30being a stereotype: "You are a woman,
you must be modest and obedient." -
10:33 - 10:39Social values are created
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10:41 - 10:44by different institutions.
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10:44 - 10:47Today I'll address two of them:
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10:50 - 10:52community and media.
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10:52 - 10:58And, by the way, these two institutions
have very pronounced differences. -
11:00 - 11:05The community expectations
of women are as follows: -
11:05 - 11:12a women should be educated
in limited professions, -
11:13 - 11:15marry in time,
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11:15 - 11:18have children, bring them up,
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11:18 - 11:21and if she can also take up a profession
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11:21 - 11:23that doesn't interfere
with peace in the family, -
11:23 - 11:28if it can be worked in,
then it just excels expectations. -
11:28 - 11:33Media expectations teach women
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11:33 - 11:36to have screen beauty from childhood:
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11:38 - 11:44long legs, neat waist, abundant breast,
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11:44 - 11:50lined lips, lined eye brows,
long eyelashes, -
11:50 - 11:52sleek long hair,
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11:53 - 11:58sleek long nails,
long is very important here, -
11:59 - 12:02accentuating clothes,
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12:02 - 12:08and high heels - so high,
that walking becomes impossible. -
12:09 - 12:12In other words, to be a woman
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12:12 - 12:16whose only purpose
is to be desirable to men. -
12:17 - 12:23They become victims of this stereotype
at different ages -
12:23 - 12:28and according to their level of education.
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12:28 - 12:34They spend most their time
and large amounts money -
12:34 - 12:39on beauty salons and plastic surgery,
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12:39 - 12:42to fit defined standards.
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12:42 - 12:46The victims of this stereotyping
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12:46 - 12:51include women from various social layers.
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12:52 - 12:57And, by the way, these women
will be loved, men will marry them, -
12:57 - 13:00they will have children,
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13:00 - 13:03they will be respected
as the mother of their children. -
13:03 - 13:05They will be given expensive gifts:
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13:05 - 13:07A car? - Here you are.
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13:07 - 13:10Money? - As much as you want.
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13:10 - 13:12You want to work?
You want to go out of the home? - -
13:12 - 13:14I will set up a business for you.
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13:14 - 13:18But don’t think and don't make decisions;
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13:18 - 13:23limit yourself to wishes -
I make the decisions. -
13:25 - 13:30Dear women and girls,
decision is the most important. -
13:33 - 13:35Let's concede everything,
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13:35 - 13:38keeping for ourselves
our own conscious decision. -
13:38 - 13:45Society will deprive us of our ability
to dream and make decisions, -
13:45 - 13:52and that is because we expected of it.
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13:56 - 14:01Let's concede all material things:
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14:01 - 14:08perfume, cars, money, shoes,
diamonds, fur coats. -
14:08 - 14:10Let's concede all these things
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14:10 - 14:15and keep for us the most important:
our own conscious decision. -
14:15 - 14:19(Applause)
- Title:
- Decision making as an act of freedom | Inna Mkhitaryan | TEDxAparan
- Description:
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We all have the right to make decisions for our own lives, but often
we are not the ones who decide for us.Inna Mkhitaryan, being specialized in TV, in 2006 took part in a photojournalism course organized by the Caucasus Institute and the World Press Photo Foundation, and, after that, started her photojournalistic career. Inna worked in such projects as ecology, refugees, trafficking, etc. She received a grant from the Open Society Foundations for documentary painting. In 2011, she took first place in the competition "Na/Ne Media Award 2010" organized by the British Council in Armenia, the Yerevan office of the OSCE and the United Nations Population Fund. Inna is also one of the co-founders of the Ruben Mangasaryan Memorial Foundation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- Armenian
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