How I'm working for change inside my church
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0:01 - 0:04Religion is more than belief.
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0:04 - 0:06It's power, and it's influence.
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0:06 - 0:09And that influence affects all of us,
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0:09 - 0:13every day, regardless of your own belief.
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0:13 - 0:17Despite the enormous influence
of religion on the world today, -
0:17 - 0:21we hold them to a different standard
of scrutiny and accountability -
0:21 - 0:24than any other sector of our society.
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0:24 - 0:28For example, if there were
a multinational organization, -
0:28 - 0:31government or corporation today
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0:31 - 0:36that said no female
could be on a leadership board, -
0:36 - 0:40not one woman could have
a decision-making authority, -
0:40 - 0:44not one woman could handle
any financial matter, -
0:44 - 0:45we would have outrage.
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0:45 - 0:47There would be sanctions.
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0:47 - 0:52And yet this is a common practice
in almost every world religion today. -
0:52 - 0:55We accept things in our religious lives
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0:55 - 0:58that we do not accept
in our secular lives, -
0:58 - 1:02and I know this because I've been
doing it for three decades. -
1:02 - 1:07I was the type of girl that fought every
form of gender discrimination growing up. -
1:07 - 1:11I played pickup basketball games
with the boys and inserted myself. -
1:11 - 1:14I said I was going to be the first
female President of the United States. -
1:14 - 1:16I have been fighting
for the Equal Rights Amendment, -
1:17 - 1:19which has been dead for 40 years.
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1:19 - 1:22I'm the first woman
in both sides of my family -
1:22 - 1:26to ever work outside the home
and ever receive a higher education. -
1:26 - 1:31I never accepted being excluded
because I was a woman, -
1:31 - 1:33except in my religion.
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1:33 - 1:35Throughout all of that time,
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1:35 - 1:39I was a part of a very patriarchal
orthodox Mormon religion. -
1:39 - 1:42I grew up in an enormously
traditional family. -
1:42 - 1:44I have eight siblings,
a stay-at-home mother. -
1:44 - 1:47My father's actually
a religious leader in the community. -
1:48 - 1:53And I grew up in a world believing
that my worth and my standing -
1:53 - 1:57was in keeping these rules
that I'd known my whole life. -
1:57 - 2:00You get married a virgin,
you never drink alcohol, -
2:00 - 2:02you don't smoke, you always do service,
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2:02 - 2:04you're a good kid.
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2:04 - 2:08Some of the rules we had were strict,
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2:08 - 2:11but you followed the rules
because you loved the people -
2:11 - 2:13and you loved the religion
and you believed. -
2:13 - 2:16Everything about Mormonism
determined what you wore, -
2:16 - 2:18who you dated, who you married.
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2:18 - 2:20It determined what underwear we wore.
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2:21 - 2:24I was the kind of religious
where everyone I know -
2:24 - 2:27donated 10 percent of everything
they earned to the church, -
2:28 - 2:29including myself.
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2:29 - 2:33From paper routes and babysitting,
I donated 10 percent. -
2:33 - 2:36I was the kind of religious
where I heard parents tell children -
2:36 - 2:39when they're leaving
on a two-year proselytizing mission -
2:39 - 2:42that they would rather have them die
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2:42 - 2:45than return home
without honor, having sinned. -
2:45 - 2:48I was the type and the kind of religious
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2:48 - 2:51where kids kill themselves
every single year -
2:51 - 2:56because they're terrified
of coming out to our community as gay. -
2:56 - 2:58But I was also the kind of religious
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2:58 - 3:00where it didn't matter
where in the world I lived, -
3:00 - 3:04I had friendship,
instantaneous mutual aid. -
3:04 - 3:08This was where I felt safe.
This is certainty and clarity about life. -
3:08 - 3:10I had help raising my little daughter.
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3:10 - 3:15So that's why I accepted without question
that only men can lead, -
3:15 - 3:18and I accepted without question
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3:18 - 3:21that women can't have the spiritual
authority of God on the Earth, -
3:21 - 3:22which we call the priesthood.
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3:22 - 3:27And I allowed discrepancies between
men and women in operating budgets, -
3:27 - 3:30disciplinary councils,
in decision-making capacities, -
3:30 - 3:33and I gave my religion a free pass
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3:33 - 3:35because I loved it.
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3:35 - 3:37Until I stopped,
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3:37 - 3:41and I realized that I had
been allowing myself to be treated -
3:41 - 3:46as the support staff
to the real work of men. -
3:46 - 3:48And I faced this contradiction in myself,
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3:48 - 3:51and I joined with other activists
in my community. -
3:51 - 3:55We've been working very, very, very hard
for the last decade and more. -
3:55 - 3:57The first thing we did
was raise consciousness. -
3:57 - 4:00You can't change what you can't see.
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4:00 - 4:03We started podcasting,
blogging, writing articles. -
4:03 - 4:06I created lists of hundreds of ways
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4:06 - 4:09that men and women
are unequal in our community. -
4:09 - 4:12The next thing we did
was build advocacy organizations. -
4:12 - 4:16We tried to do things
that were unignorable, -
4:16 - 4:22like wearing pants to church
and trying to attend all-male meetings. -
4:22 - 4:24These seem like simple things,
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4:24 - 4:29but to us, the organizers,
they were enormously costly. -
4:29 - 4:32We lost relationships. We lost jobs.
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4:32 - 4:34We got hate mail on a daily basis.
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4:34 - 4:37We were attacked in social media
and national press. -
4:37 - 4:39We received death threats.
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4:39 - 4:43We lost standing in our community.
Some of us got excommunicated. -
4:43 - 4:46Most of us got put
in front of a disciplinary council, -
4:46 - 4:49and were rejected
from the communities that we loved -
4:49 - 4:53because we wanted to make them better,
because we believed that they could be. -
4:54 - 4:58And I began to expect this reaction
from my own people. -
4:58 - 5:02I know what it feels like when you feel
like someone's trying to change you -
5:02 - 5:04or criticize you.
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5:04 - 5:08But what utterly shocked me
was throughout all of this work -
5:08 - 5:12I received equal measures of vitriol
from the secular left, -
5:13 - 5:17the same vehemence as the religious right.
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5:17 - 5:21And what my secular friends didn't realize
was that this religious hostility, -
5:21 - 5:25these phrases of, "Oh, all religious
people are crazy or stupid." -
5:25 - 5:27"Don't pay attention to religion."
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5:27 - 5:31"They're going to be
homophobic and sexist." -
5:31 - 5:33What they didn't understand
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5:33 - 5:37was that that type of hostility
did not fight religious extremism, -
5:37 - 5:41it bred religious extremism.
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5:41 - 5:44Those arguments don't work,
and I know because I remember -
5:44 - 5:48someone telling me
that I was stupid for being Mormon. -
5:50 - 5:54And what it caused me to do
was defend myself and my people -
5:54 - 5:57and everything we believe in,
because we're not stupid. -
5:59 - 6:03So criticism and hostility doesn't work,
and I didn't listen to these arguments. -
6:04 - 6:06When I hear these arguments,
I still continue to bristle, -
6:06 - 6:08because I have family and friends.
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6:08 - 6:11These are my people,
and I'm the first to defend them, -
6:11 - 6:13but the struggle is real.
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6:13 - 6:16How do we respect
someone's religious beliefs -
6:16 - 6:20while still holding them accountable
for the harm or damage -
6:20 - 6:22that those beliefs may cause others?
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6:22 - 6:25It's a tough question.
I still don't have a perfect answer. -
6:25 - 6:29My parents and I have been walking
on this tightrope for the last decade. -
6:29 - 6:32They're intelligent people.
They're lovely people. -
6:32 - 6:36And let me try to help you
understand their perspective. -
6:36 - 6:39In Mormonism, we believe
that after you die, -
6:39 - 6:42if you keep all the rules
and you follow all the rituals, -
6:42 - 6:45you can be together as a family again.
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6:45 - 6:48And to my parents,
me doing something as simple -
6:48 - 6:51as having a sleeveless top right now,
showing my shoulders, -
6:51 - 6:53that makes me unworthy.
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6:53 - 6:56I won't be with my family
in the eternities. -
6:56 - 7:00But even more, I had a brother
die in a tragic accident at 15, -
7:00 - 7:05and something as simple as this
means we won't be together as a family. -
7:05 - 7:08And to my parents, they cannot understand
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7:08 - 7:11why something as simple
as fashion or women's rights -
7:11 - 7:14would prevent me
from seeing my brother again. -
7:14 - 7:17And that's the mindset
that we're dealing with, -
7:17 - 7:20and criticism does not change that.
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7:20 - 7:23And so my parents and I
have been walking this tightrope, -
7:23 - 7:26explaining our sides,
respecting one another, -
7:26 - 7:30but actually invalidating
each other's very basic beliefs -
7:30 - 7:33by the way we live our lives,
and it's been difficult. -
7:33 - 7:36The way that we've been able to do that
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7:36 - 7:38is to get past those defensive shells
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7:38 - 7:42and really see the soft inside
of unbelief and belief -
7:42 - 7:47and try to respect each other
while still holding boundaries clear. -
7:47 - 7:51The other thing that the secular left
and the atheists and the orthodox -
7:51 - 7:55and the religious right,
what they all don't understand -
7:55 - 7:58was why even care
about religious activism? -
7:58 - 8:01I cannot tell you the hundreds
of people who have said, -
8:01 - 8:04"If you don't like religion, just leave."
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8:04 - 8:06Why would you try to change it?
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8:07 - 8:09Because what is taught on the Sabbath
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8:09 - 8:12leaks into our politics,
our health policy, -
8:12 - 8:14violence around the world.
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8:14 - 8:18It leaks into education,
military, fiscal decision-making. -
8:18 - 8:21These laws get legally
and culturally codified. -
8:21 - 8:26In fact, my own religion has had
an enormous effect on this nation. -
8:26 - 8:31For example, during Prop 8,
my church raised over 22 million dollars -
8:31 - 8:34to fight same-sex marriage in California.
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8:35 - 8:39Forty years ago,
political historians will say, -
8:39 - 8:43that if it wasn't for the Mormon
opposition to the Equal Rights Amendment, -
8:43 - 8:47we'd have an Equal Rights Amendment
in our Constitution today. -
8:47 - 8:50How many lives did that affect?
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8:51 - 8:54And we can spend time
fighting every single one -
8:54 - 8:57of these little tiny laws and rules,
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8:57 - 8:58or we can ask ourselves,
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8:58 - 9:05why is gender inequality
the default around the world? -
9:05 - 9:07Why is that the assumption?
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9:07 - 9:13Because religion doesn't just
create the roots of morality, -
9:13 - 9:17it creates the seeds of normality.
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9:17 - 9:21Religions can liberate or subjugate,
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9:21 - 9:24they can empower or exploit,
they can comfort or destroy, -
9:24 - 9:28and the people that tip the scales
over to the ethical and the moral -
9:28 - 9:32are often not those in charge.
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9:32 - 9:34Religions can't be dismissed or ignored.
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9:35 - 9:37We need to take them seriously.
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9:37 - 9:42But it's not easy to influence a religion,
like we just talked about. -
9:42 - 9:44But I'll tell you
what my people have done. -
9:44 - 9:46My groups are small,
there's hundreds of us, -
9:46 - 9:49but we've had huge impact.
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9:49 - 9:52Right now, women's pictures
are hanging in the halls next to men -
9:52 - 9:53for the first time.
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9:53 - 9:56Women are now allowed
to pray in our church-wide meetings, -
9:56 - 9:59and they never were before
in the general conferences. -
9:59 - 10:01As of last week, in a historic move,
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10:01 - 10:05three women were invited
down to three leadership boards -
10:05 - 10:07that oversee the entire church.
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10:07 - 10:09We've seen perceptual shifts
in the Mormon community -
10:09 - 10:12that allow for talk of gender inequality.
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10:12 - 10:15We've opened up space,
regardless of being despised, -
10:15 - 10:19for more conservative women
to step in and make real changes, -
10:19 - 10:24and the words "women" and "the priesthood"
can now be uttered in the same sentence. -
10:24 - 10:27I never had that.
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10:27 - 10:31My daughter and my nieces are inheriting
a religion that I never had, -
10:31 - 10:34that's more equal -- we've had an effect.
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10:35 - 10:38It wasn't easy standing in those lines
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10:38 - 10:41trying to get into those male meetings.
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10:42 - 10:44There were hundreds of us,
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10:44 - 10:46and one by one, when we got to the door,
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10:46 - 10:50we were told, "I'm sorry,
this meeting is just for men," -
10:50 - 10:55and we had to step back
and watch men get into the meeting -
10:55 - 10:57as young as 12 years old,
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10:57 - 11:01escorted and walked past us
as we all stood in line. -
11:01 - 11:04But not one woman in that line
will forget that day, -
11:04 - 11:08and not one little boy
that walked past us will forget that day. -
11:10 - 11:15If we were a multinational corporation
or a government, and that had happened, -
11:15 - 11:17there would be outrage,
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11:17 - 11:19but we're just a religion.
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11:19 - 11:22We're all just part of religions.
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11:23 - 11:26We can't keep looking
at religion that way, -
11:26 - 11:29because it doesn't only affect me,
it affects my daughter -
11:29 - 11:32and all of your daughters
and what opportunities they have, -
11:32 - 11:34what they can wear,
who they can love and marry, -
11:34 - 11:37if they have access
to reproductive healthcare. -
11:37 - 11:40We need to reclaim morality
in a secular context -
11:41 - 11:43that creates ethical scrutiny
and accountability -
11:43 - 11:45for religions all around the world,
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11:45 - 11:48but we need to do it in a respectful way
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11:48 - 11:51that breeds cooperation and not extremism.
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11:51 - 11:55And we can do it through
unignorable acts of bravery, -
11:55 - 11:59standing up for gender equality.
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11:59 - 12:01It's time that half
of the world's population -
12:01 - 12:04had voice and equality
within our world's religions, -
12:04 - 12:09churches, synagogues, mosques
and shrines around the world. -
12:09 - 12:12I'm working on my people.
What are you doing for yours? -
12:13 - 12:19(Applause)
- Title:
- How I'm working for change inside my church
- Speaker:
- Chelsea Shields
- Description:
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How do we respect someone's religious beliefs, while also holding religion accountable for the damage those beliefs may cause? Chelsea Shields has a bold answer to this question. She was raised in the orthodox Mormon tradition, and she spent the early part of her life watching women be excluded from positions of importance within the LDS Church. Now, this anthropologist, activist and TED Fellow is working to reform her church's institutionalized gender inequality. "Religions can liberate or subjugate, they can empower or exploit, they can comfort or destroy," she says. "What is taught on the Sabbath leaks into our politics, our health policy, violence around the world."
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 12:36
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