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I could ask directions in just about any romance language.
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I was a voracious reader.
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I was well respected for my business, savvy?
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I could talk to anyone on just about anything
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people used to say to me. So anything you haven't done so anything you don't know.
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I knew I was smart
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because of the information I had in my head.
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and everyone else knew it too.
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And then, 2 years ago.
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almost to this day
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I fell in a bathtub
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in Germany.
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as I was getting into the top to take a shower.
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had one foot in the tub and the other foot out of the tub.
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and the foot that was in the top slipped out from under me, and I went bunk forward, forehead first
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into a tile wall.
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The leg that was behind me hit the side of the top. Oh, that smarts!
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I didn't lose consciousness. I felt
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a little drunk. Afterwards
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I slurred my words a little bit.
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but I felt mostly okay. So I flew home the next day.
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Then I returned to work. A couple of days later, and things began to get progressively worse.
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I was stumbling a lot.
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I was slurring my words.
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and then I began to vomit.
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but still I thought.
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Hey, I've given birth at home in my living room with no drugs. I can handle this.
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I've got you.
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but I couldn't handle it.
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and I finally left work that day and went straight to my doctors.
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and they sent me straight to the hospital.
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What I found out I had had is called a coup contracu head injury.
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And what that means is this
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picture
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your brain like a bowl full of jello.
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So the jello is your brain.
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and the bowl is your skull.
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Now imagine what happens if you take that bowl and you shove it with all the force of your body weight
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into a tile wall.
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What happens to that, Jello?
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Well.
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it hits the side of the bowl where the impact happened.
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and then what happens?
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Well, as Jello does, it will bounce back and hit the other side of the bowl.
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So a coup contrecoup head injury means
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that there is damage to the brain
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both
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the point of impact
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and the point opposite the impact
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when I first got to the hospital.
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This is what my brain injury looked like.
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Lovely. Huh!
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I know it's not. That's not. My head
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made a mistake.
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That's the leg that hit the side of the tub. As I fell forward
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I thought that was my problem.
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I'd show you a picture of my brain and my head.
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but it actually looked pretty good
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from the outside.
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But truly
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I could have died.
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Falls are a leading source of traumatic brain injury or TBI related death.
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and what I had
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is considered a mild traumatic brain injury or an mTBI.
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account for about 75% of all brain injuries in this country
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turns out
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I had suffered damage to both
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frontal lobe
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and my occipital lobe.
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The prescription was brain rest.
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brain rest means
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no stimulation, no activity.
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It means no TV,
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no reading, no computer, no driving, no exercise.
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It basically means shut off your brain.
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That's kind of like asking a fish not to swim.
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It's really hard for a smart person.
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After about 3 months of brain rest
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things had only improved slightly.
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I had to quit my job.
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My whole life was falling apart
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because I fell in a bathtub.
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Things that had been previously very easy, that I had done without even thinking.
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were suddenly very difficult.
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I used to be the fastest reader in the world. Now
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a page of text
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looks like this.
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Crossing a street is really difficult for me. It's very hard for me to process information when it's coming from multiple directions.
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and
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that can get you run over.
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Going downstairs is very difficult for me.
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It's really hard for me to see where one step ends and where I need to put my foot to step down
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short-term memory
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on.
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I can't even remember what day it is.
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I'm not just talking about the day I'm talking about like the day of the week, and then I go to look it up, and it's out of my head in
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a minute or 2,
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and then I got really depressed.
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And it wasn't because
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of what I couldn't do anymore.
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It was because I was no longer
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smart.
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In case you haven't noticed. I am fiercely independent.
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So as time went on and some things did did gradually improve, I decided I wanted to go out and start doing things again. I wanted to take a walk.
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but to do that you have to be able to cross a street.
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So I developed this adaptation for crossing a street, but I didn't even realize I was doing it. So this is how I cross a street when I need to cross a busy street like out here.
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I scan
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the crowd.
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and I find the most responsible looking person. Often
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I wasn't expecting a laugh. But thank you often. That's a mother with a small child they are responsible. So then I kind of just like attach myself to them
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and follow them across the street until I feel safe.
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When I go downstairs
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I grip the banister with all my might.
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and then I use my foot
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as a feeler to feel where I need to step down.
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Every morning
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when I get up
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I look up the day of the week.
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and then I write it down on any little scrap of paper I can find many of them, and I put them everywhere. Saturday, Saturday, Saturday, Saturday, Saturday, Saturday.
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I remembered what today was.
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and still, I'll forget later.
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What's life like now?
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Well, I judge every day
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by how I feel when I wake up in the morning
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by how many beers it may seem like I've had the night before. So
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a 2 beer morning
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bearable
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a 4 beer morning.
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Seems
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I may still be lots of fun. I look normal. I might stumble a little. I might slur my words, but I still look pretty good.
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A Shakespeare morning
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6, beer, morning means I'm definitely going to fall. I'm going to walk into walls, and I might get into the car to go to the grocery store and forget how to get there.
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Sometimes
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on a 6 beer morning.
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I can see words in my head.
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simple words like
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cat dog coffee.
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I can see them, but I can't get them out of my mouth.
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So on a 6 beer morning, I know I'm going to have to rest until the beer wears off.
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So my life now, 2 years later.
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slower.
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simpler.
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less stress
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back when I was that woman, that smart woman with a high-powered job
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power through anything I could use my intellect to override my body.
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Guess what
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can't do that anymore?
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My brain shuts off
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and it commands me to rest.
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I used to think
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that smart was all about information.
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but it wasn't until
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my husband and others pointed out the creative adaptations that I had made that I realized the true paradox of smart.
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maybe
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still smart.
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maybe in a different way.
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thinking a lot about thinking
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and about what makes people smart.
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creative, adaptive mechanisms make us smart.
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Creative innovation.
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I realized now that was always a part of me.
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but it took an unplugging of my brain
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from that intellectual piece
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to get back in touch with that.
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It used to be a very small part of me.
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Now
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I lead with it.
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Resilience makes us smart.
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When I look back at my life, my career, parenting, education, all of the things that I've done.
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I realize also that resilience has always been part of my innate core smart.
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And again.
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when I had to unplug my brain.
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I learned to rely on that again.
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Remember that movie big with Tom Hanks.
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Remember how he was a little kid in a man's body.
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and he was working in that toy company, and he was working his way up to an executive position.
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He didn't have
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adult knowledge or ideas, adult ideas of how things should be.
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He was using his imagination.
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He had no perceptual notions of how
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he should be in that job.
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Curiosity
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that made him smart.
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I used to think
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that Smart was about how much knowledge I had.
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Now
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I define, smart
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as my craving to learn
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creative, adaptive mechanisms.
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resilience.
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creativity.
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curiosity.
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This is the new smart.
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Thank you.