Why everyone should be an outsider | Andrew Grenfell | TEDxSadovoeRing
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0:07 - 0:08I am a foreigner.
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0:09 - 0:10(Laughter)
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0:10 - 0:15(Applause)
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0:15 - 0:20And for the Muscovites, I will reveal
some insights on how to be back at home. -
0:20 - 0:23It may sound strange, but I will explain.
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0:23 - 0:29If you cannot see your home
from the outside, -
0:29 - 0:34you can see neither the house itself,
nor who is in it with real perspective. -
0:34 - 0:38Unless you leave your own home,
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0:39 - 0:41you will never be able
to solve the problems, -
0:41 - 0:46stemming from childhood,
your domestic problems. -
0:47 - 0:51I will explain using
the example of "The Lion King". -
0:51 - 0:54In this movie, the main character,
Simba, the son of the king, -
0:54 - 0:56is growing up in the pride's territory,
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0:56 - 0:59knowing that someday,
he will become the king. -
0:59 - 1:02But he is too naughty,
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1:02 - 1:08and this disobedience
leads to the tragic loss of his father. -
1:08 - 1:11Blamed for his father's death
by his uncle Scar, -
1:11 - 1:13who himself wanted to become the king,
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1:13 - 1:15Simba had to run away.
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1:16 - 1:23In the jungle the poor child met two
merry fellows; Pumbaa and Timon. -
1:24 - 1:27Soon he adopted their way of life,
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1:27 - 1:30and forgot about his past.
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1:32 - 1:38But Scar, with his army of hyenas,
devastated the Pride Lands. -
1:38 - 1:42And the lions, suffering from hunger,
fled, in search of food. -
1:42 - 1:46Once one of the lionesses
came across Simba, -
1:46 - 1:50and tried to persuade him to go back.
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1:50 - 1:52But Simba refused.
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1:55 - 1:59The shaman baboon tried to convince him,
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1:59 - 2:05and Simba decided to return,
and fight Scar for the throne -
2:05 - 2:07But I am not a lion, nor a king.
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2:07 - 2:11How can I apply this story to my life?
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2:12 - 2:13There are three points.
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2:13 - 2:19First, what Pride Land, and domestic
problems have in common for me? -
2:20 - 2:24I used to be unsure of myself,
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2:24 - 2:28have a fear of not being
successful enough, -
2:28 - 2:30and feel guilty
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2:30 - 2:35about wasting my education
and the opportunities I had. -
2:35 - 2:38These sound like silly problems,
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2:39 - 2:41but for me they were very real.
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2:43 - 2:48Second point; how do I get rid
of this problem? -
2:48 - 2:52First of all, by not worrying about
my classmate's workplace, -
2:52 - 2:55whether it is a bank or a consulting firm.
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2:55 - 2:59I had to work in the local government,
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2:59 - 3:02good but not prestigious work.
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3:02 - 3:04It was no use.
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3:04 - 3:08Then I got a job
in the international program, -
3:08 - 3:10and happily escaped to Russia.
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3:10 - 3:12(Laughter)
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3:12 - 3:13Why did I choose Russia?
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3:13 - 3:17I fell in love with Russia at an early
age, during a school trip. -
3:17 - 3:22I behaved like a real expat,
without realizing it. -
3:23 - 3:27Arriving in Russia, I became a novelty.
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3:28 - 3:32I became proud of my good pronunciation.
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3:32 - 3:37I tried not to admit that I am English;
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3:37 - 3:40to completely forget
who I had been before. -
3:40 - 3:43I started to eat a lot of cabbage
and dressed herring. -
3:43 - 3:44(Laughter)
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3:44 - 3:46Started to drink a lot of vodka,
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3:46 - 3:47(Laughter)
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3:47 - 3:51one for the road before leaving home.
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3:51 - 3:53(Laughter)
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3:53 - 3:55I got involved in different projects.
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3:55 - 4:00I am a co-founder of the Center
of Expertise for Social Entrepreneurs, -
4:00 - 4:05organic farm for refugees
in the Moscow region, -
4:05 - 4:09and real estate agency
for English-speaking people in Moscow. -
4:09 - 4:13Prior to that I conducted
a culinary project for orphans. -
4:14 - 4:16Third point.
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4:16 - 4:21What was the return
to the territory of my pride for me? -
4:23 - 4:28After a year in Russia I returned
to England for a new visa. -
4:28 - 4:32That time I felt a change
of my perspective. -
4:32 - 4:38I started to accept what was given to me;
my strengths and weaknesses. -
4:38 - 4:42My family, my name, my English accent.
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4:42 - 4:49I realized that otherwise,
I would try to become someone else, -
4:49 - 4:50but not myself.
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4:52 - 4:54Now I feel better.
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4:54 - 4:58I am more aware of what
I would consider a success. -
4:58 - 5:02That it's rather my privilege
to define it, not my pride's. -
5:02 - 5:05I am happy to hear
of the success of my friends. -
5:05 - 5:10And when there is little money
and problems with all my projects, -
5:10 - 5:14I remember that it is my choice,
and this is what I want. -
5:16 - 5:20My home has become a real kingdom for me.
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5:21 - 5:25Like Simba, I am willing
to accept my past. -
5:25 - 5:27I have realized that my homeland,
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5:27 - 5:31my pride, is not the only place on Earth,
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5:31 - 5:36but one of many
other homelands and prides. -
5:36 - 5:39At the same time I also realized
that my pride is still mine, -
5:39 - 5:42and if I denied it
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5:42 - 5:46I would abandon myself, and who I am.
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5:49 - 5:52Like a fish that cannot understand
what water is, -
5:52 - 5:54until it jumps out of it,
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5:54 - 5:58I could not understand my homeland
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5:58 - 6:03until I plunged into something else
and became a stranger. -
6:05 - 6:11I left a lot of work in Moscow,
took a visa and came back. -
6:11 - 6:15I used to introduce myself
as "Andrey", not "Andrew". -
6:15 - 6:19But after coming to realize
a lot about myself and my country, -
6:19 - 6:22I have started to introduce
myself as "Andrew". -
6:22 - 6:23I have begun to drink less vodka.
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6:23 - 6:25(Laughter)
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6:25 - 6:30And I have to confess to you that I am not
so in love with Russian cuisine. -
6:30 - 6:32Although I still love cabbage and herring.
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6:32 - 6:34(Laughter)
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6:34 - 6:38I am not from here.
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6:38 - 6:41I am a stranger,
and for that I don't apologize. -
6:41 - 6:47I hope you are starting to feel
how it will look in your case. -
6:47 - 6:52You can be on different stages
on different issues at the same time -
6:52 - 6:57More, I hope you can see a second step
after throwing back yours, -
6:57 - 7:04which does not have to mean to go abroad,
though that has its benefits. -
7:04 - 7:09Outside there is no temptation
to quit and pull back, -
7:09 - 7:11as you are surrounded by a new environment
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7:11 - 7:15and have to live with it
whether you like it or not. -
7:15 - 7:20The new language also helps
to separate you from the old world. -
7:20 - 7:23So, if you choose to be a stranger,
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7:23 - 7:26and decide to go live abroad,
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7:26 - 7:30here are five tips from me,
a foreigner and a stranger. -
7:33 - 7:34Find people of your own;
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7:34 - 7:38meet them, and leave them.
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7:38 - 7:40They might be a mirror,
where you see yourself, -
7:40 - 7:43and realize what is happening around you.
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7:43 - 7:48But for you, they should not be a window
through which you conceive the world. -
7:48 - 7:52Become a guide, and a translator
for your friends. -
7:52 - 7:56Look for places where you can mediate
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7:56 - 7:59between your old and new world.
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7:59 - 8:05You will translate in terms
of both language and culture -
8:05 - 8:09what you have had to learn, and settle in.
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8:10 - 8:12Take the stereotypes about yourself.
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8:12 - 8:14Because it is through these that people
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8:14 - 8:18show sincere interest in you.
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8:21 - 8:23Explore the local culture.
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8:23 - 8:28To show your highest
respect for their culture. -
8:29 - 8:31Be open to new adventures,
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8:31 - 8:35acquaintances and knowledge.
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8:38 - 8:43If you are scared to run
the Lake Baikal marathon, do it. -
8:43 - 8:46If you are scared to meet new people,
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8:46 - 8:49even with this audience,
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8:49 - 8:52or to speak at TEDx,
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8:52 - 8:55you know what to do.
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8:57 - 8:59When you interact with a person
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8:59 - 9:02don't stand back from the fear of unknown.
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9:02 - 9:06Find out how his lifestyle
is better than yours, -
9:06 - 9:09and immerse yourself
in his way of thinking. -
9:09 - 9:13Thus, you will become a stranger.
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9:13 - 9:18But foreigners also show
how it is not done. -
9:18 - 9:23They are not aliens,
but expats, who don't want -
9:25 - 9:29to immerse into something new and strange.
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9:30 - 9:35The journey doesn't enlarge mentality,
but makes it narrow. -
9:35 - 9:39I had a friend from Canada;
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9:39 - 9:42a talented young construction expert.
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9:43 - 9:48But he couldn't adapt
to the Russian mentality of his employees; -
9:48 - 9:50he always argued with them.
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9:50 - 9:53After six months he returned home,
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9:53 - 9:55and when asked, "How is life in Russia?",
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9:55 - 10:00he answered, "You know,
it really sucks there. -
10:02 - 10:04It is very strange there!
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10:04 - 10:08Can you imagine that each escalator
has a woman on duty. -
10:08 - 10:11She doesn't do anyhing.
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10:11 - 10:16She just looks at the people
and sometimes argues with them. -
10:16 - 10:18(Laughter)
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10:18 - 10:23Also, there are different brands
of vodka in the supermarkets, -
10:23 - 10:28but there is none of the normal
brands of peanut butter. -
10:28 - 10:31Only in Russia one can find such things!"
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10:31 - 10:35This is what it means
to "narrow mentality". -
10:35 - 10:38Now you can have two responses.
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10:38 - 10:41First; "Well, it's wonderful,
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10:41 - 10:44but I'm not ready to go to Peru
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10:44 - 10:48to find some Kingdom in textiles."
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10:49 - 10:53But think about your local problems.
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10:53 - 10:58Are there those in this room who think
there are no problems in Russia? -
10:58 - 11:02(Laughter)
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11:02 - 11:06(Applause)
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11:06 - 11:09Yes, there are.
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11:10 - 11:13If you've never been
outside of your pride, -
11:13 - 11:17how can you figure out how things
could be different? -
11:17 - 11:19Second response;
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11:19 - 11:23"You, Andrew, such a fine fellow,
a dreamboat, and an Oxford man, -
11:23 - 11:27with so much money and time to travel.
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11:27 - 11:31But I have neither money nor time.
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11:31 - 11:35Whether it means
I have not got any chance of travel?" -
11:35 - 11:38You can be a stranger in Textiles as well.
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11:38 - 11:41(Laughter)
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11:41 - 11:48(Applause)
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11:48 - 11:52This is when your usual
and uninteresting habits -
11:52 - 11:58turn into obvious, strange,
and eccentric features; -
11:59 - 12:03when you listen to a person,
but don't understand him, -
12:03 - 12:06even knowing his language;
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12:06 - 12:11when you get offended
and hurt by accident; -
12:11 - 12:15when you speak to someone
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12:15 - 12:20and do not know where his culture, values,
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12:20 - 12:26his lifestyle, view of world and life,
upbringing, and where he is from. -
12:26 - 12:30At this point, you are a stranger to him.
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12:30 - 12:36Which of you understands people
outside the MKAD, -
12:36 - 12:38or those in their yard?
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12:38 - 12:43Who knows their neighbours,
the head of their apartment building, -
12:43 - 12:47or the salesman in the dairy shop
in their neighborhood? -
12:47 - 12:51Who gets befriended with Muslim mothers,
or talks with Tadjik janitors? -
12:51 - 12:55Which of you has a friend,
begging in the subway, -
12:55 - 12:58or handing out paper flyers in the street?
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12:58 - 13:02Who knows the policeman,
the subway operator, -
13:02 - 13:06pilot, ballet dancer, systems engineer?
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13:07 - 13:08(Laughter)
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13:09 - 13:15Whether those who are interested in art,
are aware of engineers? -
13:15 - 13:19Do you, scientists and engineers,
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13:20 - 13:24understand the language and values
of that young pianist who played before? -
13:24 - 13:28That looks different for each of us.
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13:28 - 13:31We all have our own pride,
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13:32 - 13:38which either has to remain
just a home, or become a real kingdom. -
13:38 - 13:42But for this to happen, you have to try
to become a stranger. -
13:42 - 13:44At least a little bit.
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13:44 - 13:45Thank you.
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13:45 - 13:48(Applause)
- Title:
- Why everyone should be an outsider | Andrew Grenfell | TEDxSadovoeRing
- Description:
-
Englishman Andrew Grenfell shares his experience of living in Russia and discusses why everyone needs to spend some time as an outsider, whether at home or abroad.
Founder of "Impact Hub Moscow" and of various social projects in Russia.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- Russian
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 13:55
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