Violence against women—it's a men's issue | Jackson Katz | TEDxFiDiWomen
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0:12 - 0:14Before I begin my presentation
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0:14 - 0:16I want to say it's a great honor for me
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0:16 - 0:20to be part of a program
with so many impressive women. -
0:20 - 0:22I also want to say --
and thank you to the organizers -
0:22 - 0:24to invite me to be part of this.
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0:24 - 0:28It's important that I say and that men say
when we do the work that we do, -
0:28 - 0:30especially in the field
of gender violence prevention -
0:30 - 0:33that I'm going to talk with you
about this morning, -
0:33 - 0:36it's important that we acknowledge
that the growing movement of men -
0:36 - 0:38in the United States
in a multicultural sense -
0:38 - 0:41and all around the world
in an international sense, -
0:41 - 0:43the growing movement of men
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0:43 - 0:46who are standing up and speaking out
about men's violence against women, -
0:46 - 0:48and going into parts of male culture
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0:48 - 0:51that have historically been
either apathetic about, -
0:51 - 0:54or openly hostile to women's efforts
to engage them, -
0:54 - 0:58that movement of men
is indebted to the leadership of women -
0:58 - 1:00on a personal level,
on a professional level, -
1:00 - 1:02on political level,
on an intellectual level, -
1:02 - 1:05on every level,
women built these movements -
1:05 - 1:09and these are movements that are affecting
in a positive way everybody. -
1:09 - 1:11Not just women and girls,
but also men and boys. -
1:11 - 1:16And often times men like myself
get a lot of credit and public acclaim -
1:16 - 1:19for doing the work that women
have been doing for a long time. -
1:19 - 1:21So one of the ways
that we can use the spotlight -
1:21 - 1:24is to thank women
and honor women's leadership, -
1:24 - 1:28going forward today,
tomorrow, into the future. -
1:28 - 1:29Now --
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1:29 - 1:33(Applause)
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1:33 - 1:35Having said that,
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1:35 - 1:38I'm going to share with you
a paradigm-shifting perspective -
1:38 - 1:41on the issues of gender violence:
sexual assault, domestic violence, -
1:41 - 1:44relationship abuse, sexual harassment,
sexual abuse of children. -
1:44 - 1:46That whole range of issues
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1:46 - 1:49that I'll refer to in shorthand
as "gender violence issues," -
1:49 - 1:53they've been seen as women's issues
that some good men help out with, -
1:53 - 1:56but I have a problem with that frame
and I don't accept it. -
1:56 - 1:59I don't see these as women's issues
that some good men help out with. -
1:59 - 2:02In fact, I'm going to argue
that these are men's issues, -
2:02 - 2:03first and foremost.
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2:03 - 2:04Now obviously --
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2:04 - 2:05(Applause)
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2:05 - 2:08Obviously, they're also women's issues,
so I appreciate that, -
2:08 - 2:13but calling gender violence
a women's issue is part of the problem, -
2:13 - 2:15for a number of reasons.
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2:15 - 2:18The first is that it gives men
an excuse not to pay attention, right? -
2:18 - 2:20A lot of men hear
the term "women's issues" -
2:20 - 2:22and we tend to tune it out, and we think,
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2:22 - 2:25"I'm a guy; that's for the girls,"
or "that's for the women." -
2:25 - 2:29And a lot of men literally don't get
beyond the first sentence as a result. -
2:29 - 2:31It's almost like a chip
in our brain is activated, -
2:31 - 2:35and the neural pathways take
our attention in a different direction -
2:35 - 2:37when we hear the term "women's issues."
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2:37 - 2:39This is also true, by the way,
of the word "gender," -
2:39 - 2:41because a lot of people
hear the word "gender" -
2:41 - 2:43and they think it means "women."
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2:43 - 2:46So they think that gender issues
is synonymous with women's issues. -
2:46 - 2:48There's some confusion
about the term gender. -
2:48 - 2:51And let me illustrate
that confusion by way of analogy. -
2:51 - 2:53So let's talk for a moment about race.
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2:53 - 2:55In the US, when we hear the word "race,"
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2:55 - 2:57a lot of people think
that means African-American, -
2:57 - 2:59Latino, Asian-American, Native American,
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2:59 - 3:02South Asian, Pacific Islander, on and on.
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3:02 - 3:05A lot of people, when they hear
the word "sexual orientation" -
3:05 - 3:08think it means gay, lesbian, bisexual.
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3:08 - 3:10And a lot of people,
when they hear the word "gender," -
3:10 - 3:11think it means women.
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3:11 - 3:14In each case, the dominant group
doesn't get paid attention to. -
3:14 - 3:17As if white people don't have
some sort of racial identity -
3:17 - 3:20or belong to some racial
category or construct, -
3:20 - 3:24as if heterosexual people
don't have a sexual orientation, -
3:24 - 3:26as if men don't have a gender.
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3:26 - 3:30This is one of the ways that dominant
systems maintain and reproduce themselves, -
3:30 - 3:32which is to say the dominant group
is rarely challenged -
3:32 - 3:34to even think about its dominance,
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3:34 - 3:37because that's one of the key
characteristics of power and privilege, -
3:37 - 3:39the ability to go unexamined,
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3:39 - 3:44lacking introspection, in fact being
rendered invisible, in large measure, -
3:44 - 3:47in the discourse about issues
that are primarily about us. -
3:47 - 3:51And this is amazing how this works
in domestic and sexual violence, -
3:51 - 3:54how men have been largely erased
from so much of the conversation -
3:54 - 3:57about a subject
that is centrally about men. -
3:57 - 3:59And I'm going to illustrate
what I'm talking about -
4:00 - 4:01by using the old tech.
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4:01 - 4:04I'm old school
on some fundamental regards. -
4:04 - 4:06I make films and I work with high tech,
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4:06 - 4:09but I'm still old school as an educator,
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4:09 - 4:12and I want to share with you this exercise
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4:12 - 4:14that illustrates
on the sentence-structure level -
4:14 - 4:19how the way that we think,
literally the way that we use language, -
4:19 - 4:21conspires to keep
our attention off of men. -
4:21 - 4:23This is about domestic
violence in particular, -
4:23 - 4:27but you can plug in other analogues.
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4:27 - 4:30This comes from the work
of the feminist linguist Julia Penelope. -
4:30 - 4:32It starts with a very basic
English sentence: -
4:32 - 4:35"John beat Mary."
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4:35 - 4:37That's a good English sentence.
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4:37 - 4:41John is the subject, beat is the verb,
Mary is the object, good sentence. -
4:41 - 4:43Now we're going to move
to the second sentence, -
4:43 - 4:45which says the same thing
in the passive voice. -
4:45 - 4:50"Mary was beaten by John."
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4:51 - 4:54And now a whole lot
has happened in one sentence. -
4:54 - 4:56We've gone from "John beat Mary"
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4:56 - 4:58to "Mary was beaten by John."
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4:58 - 5:01We've shifted our focus
in one sentence from John to Mary, -
5:02 - 5:04and you can see John is very close
to the end of the sentence, -
5:04 - 5:07well, close to dropping
off the map of our psychic plain. -
5:07 - 5:09The third sentence, John is dropped,
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5:09 - 5:12and we have, "Mary was beaten,"
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5:13 - 5:14and now it's all about Mary.
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5:14 - 5:17We're not even thinking about John,
it's totally focused on Mary. -
5:17 - 5:19Over the past generation,
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5:19 - 5:22the term we've used
synonymous with "beaten" is "battered," -
5:22 - 5:25so we have "Mary was battered."
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5:25 - 5:29And the final sentence in this sequence,
flowing from the others, is, -
5:29 - 5:32"Mary is a battered woman."
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5:32 - 5:38So now Mary's very identity --
Mary is a battered woman -- -
5:40 - 5:42is what was done to her by John
in the first instance. -
5:42 - 5:45But we've demonstrated that John
has long ago left the conversation. -
5:45 - 5:48Those of us who work
in the domestic and sexual violence field -
5:48 - 5:51know that victim-blaming
is pervasive in this realm, -
5:51 - 5:54which is to say, blaming the person
to whom something was done -
5:54 - 5:55rather than the person who did it.
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5:55 - 5:58And we say: why do they
go out with these men? -
5:58 - 6:01Why are they attracted to them?
Why do they keep going back? -
6:01 - 6:04What was she wearing at that party?
What a stupid thing to do. -
6:04 - 6:06Why was she drinking
with those guys in that hotel room? -
6:06 - 6:09This is victim blaming,
and there are many reasons for it, -
6:09 - 6:12but one is that our cognitive structure
is set up to blame victims. -
6:12 - 6:13This is all unconscious.
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6:14 - 6:16Our whole cognitive structure
is set up to ask questions -
6:16 - 6:20about women and women's choices
and what they're doing, thinking, wearing. -
6:20 - 6:23And I'm not going to shout down
people who ask questions about women. -
6:23 - 6:25It's a legitimate thing to ask.
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6:25 - 6:27But's let's be clear:
Asking questions about Mary -
6:27 - 6:30is not going to get us anywhere
in terms of preventing violence. -
6:30 - 6:32We have to ask a different
set of questions. -
6:32 - 6:34You can see
where I am going with this. -
6:34 - 6:37The questions are not about Mary,
they're about John. -
6:37 - 6:39They include things like,
why does John beat Mary? -
6:39 - 6:43Why is domestic violence still a big
problem in the US and all over the world? -
6:43 - 6:46What's going on?
Why do so many men abuse physically, -
6:46 - 6:48emotionally, verbally, and other ways,
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6:48 - 6:51the women and girls, and the men and boys,
that they claim to love? -
6:51 - 6:52What's going on with men?
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6:53 - 6:56Why do so many adult men
sexually abuse little girls and boys? -
6:56 - 6:58Why is that a common problem
in our society -
6:58 - 7:00and all over the world today?
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7:00 - 7:02Why do we hear over and over again
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7:02 - 7:05about new scandals erupting
in major institutions -
7:05 - 7:08like the Catholic Church
or the Penn State football program -
7:08 - 7:11or the Boy Scouts of America,
on and on and on? -
7:11 - 7:13And then local communities
all over the country -
7:13 - 7:14and all over the world.
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7:14 - 7:16We hear about it all the time.
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7:16 - 7:17The sexual abuse of children.
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7:17 - 7:21What's going on with men?
Why do so many men rape women -
7:21 - 7:22in our society and around the world?
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7:22 - 7:24Why do so many men rape other men?
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7:24 - 7:26What is going on with men?
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7:26 - 7:31And then what is the role
of the various institutions in our society -
7:31 - 7:33that are helping to produce
abusive men at pandemic rates? -
7:33 - 7:36Because this isn't
about individual perpetrators. -
7:36 - 7:39That's a naive way to understanding
what is a much deeper -
7:39 - 7:40and more systematic social problem.
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7:40 - 7:44The perpetrators aren't these monsters
who crawl out of the swamp -
7:44 - 7:46and come into town
and do their nasty business -
7:46 - 7:48and then retreat into the darkness.
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7:48 - 7:51That's a very naive notion, right?
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7:51 - 7:54Perpetrators are much more normal
than that, and everyday than that. -
7:54 - 7:58So the question is, what are we doing here
in our society and in the world? -
7:58 - 8:00What are the roles of various institutions
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8:00 - 8:03in helping to produce abusive men?
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8:03 - 8:05What's the role of religious
belief systems, -
8:05 - 8:07the sports culture,
the pornography culture, -
8:07 - 8:10the family structure, economics,
and how that intersects, -
8:10 - 8:12and race and ethnicity
and how that intersects? -
8:12 - 8:14How does all this work?
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8:14 - 8:17And then, once we start making
those kinds of connections -
8:17 - 8:19and asking those important
and big questions, -
8:19 - 8:22then we can talk about
how we can be transformative, -
8:22 - 8:24in other words, how can we do
something differently? -
8:24 - 8:26How can we change the practices?
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8:26 - 8:28How can we change
the socialization of boys -
8:28 - 8:31and the definitions of manhood
that lead to these current outcomes? -
8:31 - 8:34These are the kind of questions
that we need to be asking -
8:34 - 8:36and the kind of work
that we need to be doing, -
8:36 - 8:40but if we're endlessly focused
on what women are doing and thinking -
8:40 - 8:42in relationships or elsewhere,
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8:42 - 8:44we're not going to get to that piece.
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8:44 - 8:46I understand that a lot of women
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8:46 - 8:48who have been trying to speak out
about these issues, -
8:48 - 8:50today and yesterday
and for years and years, -
8:50 - 8:53often get shouted down for their efforts.
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8:53 - 8:58They get called nasty names
like "male-basher" and "man-hater," -
8:58 - 9:04and the disgusting
and offensive "feminazi", right? -
9:04 - 9:06And you know what all this is about?
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9:06 - 9:07It's called kill the messenger.
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9:07 - 9:09It's because the women who are standing up
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9:09 - 9:12and speaking out for themselves
and for other women -
9:12 - 9:14as well as for men and boys,
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9:14 - 9:16it's a statement to them
to sit down and shut up, -
9:16 - 9:18keep the current system in place,
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9:18 - 9:21because we don't like it
when people rock the boat. -
9:21 - 9:23We don't like it when people
challenge our power. -
9:23 - 9:25You'd better sit
down and shut up, basically. -
9:25 - 9:27And thank goodness
that women haven't done that. -
9:27 - 9:29Thank goodness that we live in a world
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9:29 - 9:32where there's so much women's leadership
that can counteract that. -
9:32 - 9:35But one of the powerful roles
that men can play in this work -
9:35 - 9:38is that we can say some things
that sometimes women can't say, -
9:38 - 9:41or, better yet, we can be heard
saying some things -
9:41 - 9:43that women often can't be heard saying.
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9:43 - 9:46Now, I appreciate that that's a problem,
it's sexism, but it's the truth. -
9:46 - 9:48So one of the things that I say to men,
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9:48 - 9:50and my colleagues and I always say this,
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9:50 - 9:53is we need more men
who have the courage and the strength -
9:53 - 9:55to start standing up and saying
some of this stuff, -
9:55 - 9:57and standing with women
and not against them -
9:57 - 10:00and pretending that somehow
this is a battle between the sexes -
10:00 - 10:02and other kinds of nonsense.
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10:02 - 10:03We live in the world together.
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10:03 - 10:06And by the way, one of the things
that really bothers me -
10:06 - 10:08about some of the rhetoric
against feminists and others -
10:08 - 10:12who have built the battered women's
and rape crisis movements around the world -
10:12 - 10:15is that somehow, like I said,
that they're anti-male. -
10:15 - 10:18What about all the boys who are profoundly
affected in a negative way -
10:18 - 10:22by what some adult man is doing against
their mother, themselves, their sisters? -
10:22 - 10:23What about all those boys?
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10:23 - 10:25What about all the young men and boys
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10:25 - 10:27who have been traumatized
by adult men's violence? -
10:27 - 10:28You know what?
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10:28 - 10:31The same system that produces
men who abuse women, -
10:31 - 10:32produces men who abuse other men.
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10:32 - 10:36And if we want to talk about male victims,
let's talk about male victims. -
10:36 - 10:39Most male victims of violence
are the victims of other men's violence. -
10:39 - 10:42So that's something that both women
and men have in common. -
10:42 - 10:44We are both victims of men's violence.
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10:44 - 10:46So we have it in our direct self-interest,
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10:46 - 10:48not to mention the fact
that most men that I know -
10:48 - 10:51have women and girls
that we care deeply about, -
10:51 - 10:54in our families and our friendship
circles and every other way. -
10:54 - 10:56So there's so many reasons
why we need men to speak out. -
10:56 - 10:59It seems obvious saying it
out loud, doesn't it? -
11:00 - 11:03Now, the nature of the work
that I do and my colleagues do -
11:03 - 11:07in the sports culture
and the US military, in schools, -
11:07 - 11:10we pioneered this approach
called the bystander approach -
11:10 - 11:12to gender-violence prevention.
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11:12 - 11:15And I just want to give you
the highlights of the bystander approach, -
11:15 - 11:18because it's a big thematic shift,
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11:18 - 11:19although there's lots of particulars,
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11:19 - 11:23but the heart of it is,
instead of seeing men as perpetrators -
11:23 - 11:24and women as victims,
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11:24 - 11:28or women as perpetrators, men as victims,
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11:28 - 11:29or any combination in there.
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11:29 - 11:31I'm using the gender binary.
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11:31 - 11:34I know there's more than men and women,
there's more than male and female. -
11:34 - 11:36And there are women who are perpetrators,
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11:36 - 11:38and of course there are
men who are victims. -
11:38 - 11:39There's a whole spectrum.
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11:39 - 11:42But instead of seeing it
in the binary fashion, -
11:42 - 11:44we focus on all of us
as what we call bystanders, -
11:44 - 11:48and a bystander is defined as anybody
who is not a perpetrator or a victim -
11:48 - 11:50in a given situation,
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11:50 - 11:54so in other words friends, teammates,
colleagues, coworkers, family members, -
11:54 - 11:58those of us who are not directly
involved in a dyad of abuse, -
11:58 - 12:01but we are embedded in social,
family, work, school, -
12:01 - 12:03and other peer culture relationships
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12:03 - 12:05with people who might be
in that situation. -
12:05 - 12:08What do we do? How do we speak up?
How do we challenge our friends? -
12:08 - 12:10How do we support our friends?
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12:10 - 12:12But how do we not remain silent
in the face of abuse? -
12:12 - 12:15Now, when it comes
to men and male culture, -
12:15 - 12:18the goal is to get men who are not abusive
to challenge men who are. -
12:18 - 12:22And when I say abusive, I don't mean just
men who are beating women. -
12:22 - 12:27We're not just saying a man whose friend
is abusing his girlfriend -
12:27 - 12:29needs to stop the guy
at the moment of attack. -
12:29 - 12:34That's a naive way
of creating a social change. -
12:34 - 12:38It's along a continuum, we're trying
to get men to interrupt each other. -
12:38 - 12:41So, for example, if you're a guy
and you're in a group of guys -
12:41 - 12:44playing poker, talking, hanging out,
no women present, -
12:44 - 12:50and another guy says something sexist
or degrading or harassing about women, -
12:50 - 12:53instead of laughing along
or pretending you didn't hear it, -
12:53 - 12:55we need men to say,
"Hey, that's not funny. -
12:55 - 12:57that could be my sister
you're talking about, -
12:57 - 12:59and could you joke about something else?
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12:59 - 13:01Or could you talk about something else?
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13:01 - 13:03I don't appreciate that kind of talk."
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13:03 - 13:05Just like if you're a white person
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13:05 - 13:08and another white person makes
a racist comment, you'd hope, I hope, -
13:08 - 13:11that white people would interrupt
that racist enactment -
13:11 - 13:12by a fellow white person.
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13:12 - 13:15Just like with heterosexism,
if you're a heterosexual person -
13:15 - 13:17and you yourself don't enact
harassing or abusive behaviors -
13:18 - 13:20towards people of varying
sexual orientations, -
13:20 - 13:23if you don't say something in the face
of other heterosexual people doing that, -
13:23 - 13:27then, in a sense, isn't your silence
a form of consent and complicity? -
13:27 - 13:30Well, the bystander approach
is trying to give people tools -
13:30 - 13:34to interrupt that process and to speak up
and to create a peer culture climate -
13:34 - 13:36where the abusive behavior
will be seen as unacceptable, -
13:36 - 13:39not just because it's illegal,
but because it's wrong -
13:39 - 13:41and unacceptable in the peer culture.
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13:41 - 13:43And if we can get to the place where men
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13:44 - 13:46who act out in sexist ways
will lose status, -
13:46 - 13:48young men and boys who act out in sexist
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13:48 - 13:50and harassing ways
towards girls and women, -
13:50 - 13:52as well as towards other boys and men,
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13:52 - 13:54will lose status
as a result of it, guess what? -
13:54 - 13:57We'll see a radical
diminution of the abuse. -
13:57 - 14:00Because the typical perpetrator
is not sick and twisted. -
14:00 - 14:03He's a normal guy
in every other way, isn't he? -
14:03 - 14:06Now, among the many great
things that Martin Luther King -
14:06 - 14:08said in his short life was,
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14:08 - 14:11"In the end, what will hurt the most
is not the words of our enemies -
14:11 - 14:13but the silence of our friends."
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14:13 - 14:16In the end, what will hurt the most
is not the words of our enemies -
14:16 - 14:18but the silence of our friends.
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14:18 - 14:20There's been an awful lot
of silence in male culture -
14:20 - 14:22about this ongoing tragedy
of men's violence -
14:22 - 14:24against women and children, hasn't there?
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14:24 - 14:26There's been an awful lot of silence.
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14:26 - 14:29And all I'm saying is that we need
to break that silence, -
14:29 - 14:31and we need more men to do that.
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14:31 - 14:35Now, it's easier said than done,
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14:35 - 14:36because I'm saying it now,
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14:36 - 14:39but I'm telling you
it's not easy in male culture -
14:39 - 14:41for guys to challenge each other,
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14:41 - 14:43which is one of the reasons
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14:43 - 14:45why part of the paradigm shift
that has to happen -
14:45 - 14:48is not just understanding
these issues as men's issues, -
14:48 - 14:50but they're also
leadership issues for men. -
14:50 - 14:54Because ultimately, the responsibility
for taking a stand on these issues -
14:54 - 14:56should not fall
on the shoulders of little boys -
14:56 - 14:59or teenage boys in high school
or college men. -
14:59 - 15:01It should be on adult men with power.
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15:01 - 15:04Adult men with power are the ones
we need to be holding accountable -
15:04 - 15:06for being leaders on these issues,
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15:06 - 15:08because when somebody
speaks up in a peer culture -
15:08 - 15:10and challenges and interrupts,
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15:10 - 15:12he or she is being a leader, really.
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15:12 - 15:16But on a big scale,
we need more adult men with power -
15:16 - 15:18to start prioritizing these issues,
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15:18 - 15:20and we haven't seen that yet, have we?
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15:20 - 15:24Now, I was at a dinner
a number of years ago, -
15:24 - 15:27and I work extensively
with the US military, all the services. -
15:27 - 15:30And I was at this dinner
and this woman said to me -- -
15:31 - 15:33I think she thought
she was a little clever -- -
15:33 - 15:37she said, "So how long have you been doing
sensitivity training with the Marines?" -
15:37 - 15:41And I said, "With all due respect,
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15:41 - 15:43I don't do sensitivity training
with the Marines. -
15:43 - 15:45I run a leadership program
in the Marine Corps." -
15:45 - 15:47Now, I know it's a bit
pompous, my response, -
15:48 - 15:49but it's an important distinction,
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15:49 - 15:52because I don't believe
that what we need is sensitivity training. -
15:52 - 15:55We need leadership training,
because, for example, -
15:55 - 15:59when a professional coach or a manager
of a baseball team or a football team -- -
15:59 - 16:01and I work extensively
in that realm as well -- -
16:01 - 16:04makes a sexist comment,
makes a homophobic statement, -
16:04 - 16:06makes a racist comment,
-
16:06 - 16:09there will be discussions on the sports
blogs and in sports talk radio. -
16:09 - 16:12And some people will say,
"He needs sensitivity training." -
16:12 - 16:14Other people will say, "Well, get off it.
-
16:14 - 16:16That's political correctness run amok,
-
16:16 - 16:18he made a stupid statement, move on."
-
16:18 - 16:21My argument is, he doesn't need
sensitivity training. -
16:21 - 16:22He needs leadership training,
-
16:22 - 16:24because he's being a bad leader,
-
16:24 - 16:27because in a society with gender diversity
and sexual diversity -- -
16:27 - 16:28(Applause)
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16:28 - 16:30and racial and ethnic diversity,
-
16:30 - 16:33you make those kind of comments,
you're failing at your leadership. -
16:33 - 16:35If we can make this point that I'm making
-
16:35 - 16:38to powerful men and women in our society
-
16:38 - 16:41at all levels of institutional
authority and power, -
16:41 - 16:44it's going to change
the paradigm of people's thinking. -
16:45 - 16:46You know, for example,
-
16:46 - 16:48I work a lot in college
and university athletics -
16:48 - 16:50throughout North America.
-
16:51 - 16:55We know so much about how to prevent
domestic and sexual violence, right? -
16:56 - 16:58There's no excuse
for a college or university -
16:58 - 17:01to not have domestic and sexual
violence prevention training -
17:01 - 17:04mandated for all student athletes,
coaches, administrators, -
17:04 - 17:06as part of their educational process.
-
17:06 - 17:09We know enough to know
that we can easily do that. -
17:09 - 17:11But you know what's missing?
The leadership. -
17:11 - 17:13But it's not the leadership
of student athletes. -
17:13 - 17:15It's the leadership
of the athletic director, -
17:15 - 17:18the president of the university,
the people in charge -
17:18 - 17:19who make decisions about resources
-
17:19 - 17:23and who make decisions about priorities
in the institutional settings. -
17:23 - 17:25That's a failure, in most cases,
of men's leadership. -
17:25 - 17:26Look at Penn State.
-
17:26 - 17:31Penn State is the mother of all teachable
moments for the bystander approach. -
17:31 - 17:33You had so many situations in that realm
-
17:33 - 17:37where men in powerful
positions failed to act -
17:37 - 17:39to protect children, in this case, boys.
-
17:39 - 17:40It's unbelievable, really.
-
17:40 - 17:44But when you get into it,
you realize there are pressures on men. -
17:44 - 17:46There are constraints
within peer cultures on men, -
17:46 - 17:51which is why we need to encourage men
to break through those pressures. -
17:51 - 17:52And one of the ways to do that is to say
-
17:53 - 17:56there's an awful lot of men
who care deeply about these issues. -
17:56 - 17:57I know this, I work with men,
-
17:57 - 17:59and I've been working
with tens of thousands, -
17:59 - 18:02hundreds of thousands of men
for many decades now. -
18:02 - 18:04It's scary, when you think
about it, how many years. -
18:04 - 18:08But there's so many men
who care deeply about these issues, -
18:08 - 18:10but caring deeply is not enough.
-
18:10 - 18:12We need more men with the guts,
-
18:12 - 18:16with the courage, with the strength,
with the moral integrity -
18:16 - 18:20to break our complicit silence
and challenge each other -
18:20 - 18:22and stand with women and not against them.
-
18:22 - 18:24By the way, we owe it to women.
-
18:24 - 18:25There's no question about it.
-
18:25 - 18:27But we also owe it to our sons.
-
18:27 - 18:30We also owe it to young men
who are growing up all over the world -
18:30 - 18:32in situations where they didn't
make the choice -
18:32 - 18:36to be a man in a culture that tells them
that manhood is a certain way. -
18:36 - 18:38They didn't make the choice.
-
18:38 - 18:43We that have a choice, have an opportunity
and a responsibility to them as well. -
18:43 - 18:45I hope that, going forward, men and women,
-
18:46 - 18:48working together, can begin the change
-
18:48 - 18:50and the transformation that will happen
-
18:50 - 18:53so that future generations
won't have the level of tragedy -
18:53 - 18:54that we deal with on a daily basis.
-
18:54 - 18:56I know we can do it, we can do better.
-
18:56 - 18:59Thank you very much.
- Title:
- Violence against women—it's a men's issue | Jackson Katz | TEDxFiDiWomen
- Description:
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Domestic violence and sexual abuse are often called "women’s issues.” But in this bold, blunt talk, Jackson Katz points out that these are intrinsically men’s issues -- and shows how these violent behaviors are tied to definitions of manhood. A clarion call for us all -- women and men -- to call out unacceptable behavior and be leaders of change.
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