A warrior’s cry against child marriage
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0:01 - 0:03I'll begin today
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0:03 - 0:05by sharing a poem
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0:05 - 0:08written by my friend from Malawi,
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0:08 - 0:10Eileen Piri.
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0:10 - 0:14Eileen is only 13 years old,
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0:14 - 0:19but when we were going through
the collection of poetry that we wrote, -
0:19 - 0:22I found her poem so interesting,
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0:22 - 0:24so motivating.
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0:24 - 0:26So I'll read it to you.
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0:27 - 0:31She entitled her poem
"I'll Marry When I Want." -
0:31 - 0:33(Laughter)
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0:33 - 0:36"I'll marry when I want.
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0:36 - 0:41My mother can't force me to marry.
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0:41 - 0:44My father cannot force me to marry.
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0:46 - 0:48My uncle, my aunt,
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0:48 - 0:51my brother or sister,
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0:51 - 0:53cannot force me to marry.
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0:54 - 0:56No one in the world
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0:56 - 1:00can force me to marry.
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1:00 - 1:02I'll marry when I want.
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1:02 - 1:05Even if you beat me,
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1:05 - 1:08even if you chase me away,
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1:08 - 1:11even if you do anything bad to me,
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1:11 - 1:14I'll marry when I want.
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1:14 - 1:17I'll marry when I want,
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1:17 - 1:21but not before I am well educated,
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1:21 - 1:25and not before I am all grown up.
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1:25 - 1:28I'll marry when I want."
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1:29 - 1:32This poem might seem odd,
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1:32 - 1:35written by a 13-year-old girl,
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1:35 - 1:40but where I and Eileen come from,
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1:40 - 1:44this poem, which I have just read to you,
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1:44 - 1:48is a warrior's cry.
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1:48 - 1:51I am from Malawi.
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1:51 - 1:55Malawi is one of the poorest countries,
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1:55 - 1:58very poor,
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1:58 - 2:03where gender equality is questionable.
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2:03 - 2:05Growing up in that country,
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2:05 - 2:08I couldn't make my own choices in life.
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2:08 - 2:10I couldn't even explore
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2:10 - 2:13personal opportunities in life.
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2:13 - 2:16I will tell you a story
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2:16 - 2:18of two different girls,
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2:18 - 2:22two beautiful girls.
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2:22 - 2:25These girls grew up
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2:25 - 2:27under the same roof.
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2:27 - 2:29They were eating the same food.
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2:29 - 2:32Sometimes, they would share clothes,
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2:32 - 2:35and even shoes.
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2:35 - 2:40But their lives ended up differently,
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2:40 - 2:42in two different paths.
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2:43 - 2:47The other girl is my little sister.
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2:47 - 2:52My little sister was only 11 years old
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2:52 - 2:54when she got pregnant.
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2:56 - 3:00It's a hurtful thing.
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3:01 - 3:05Not only did it hurt her, even me.
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3:05 - 3:08I was going through a hard time as well.
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3:08 - 3:12As it is in my culture,
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3:12 - 3:15once you reach puberty stage,
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3:15 - 3:19you are supposed to go
to initiation camps. -
3:19 - 3:21In these initiation camps,
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3:21 - 3:25you are taught how
to sexually please a man. -
3:25 - 3:27There is this special day,
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3:27 - 3:30which they call "Very Special Day"
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3:30 - 3:33where a man who is hired
by the community -
3:33 - 3:35comes to the camp
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3:35 - 3:38and sleeps with the little girls.
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3:39 - 3:42Imagine the trauma that these young girls
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3:42 - 3:45go through every day.
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3:47 - 3:50Most girls end up pregnant.
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3:50 - 3:53They even contract HIV and AIDS
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3:53 - 3:55and other sexually transmitted diseases.
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3:56 - 4:01For my little sister,
she ended up being pregnant. -
4:01 - 4:05Today, she's only 16 years old
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4:05 - 4:08and she has three children.
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4:08 - 4:11Her first marriage did not survive,
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4:11 - 4:15nor did her second marriage.
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4:15 - 4:19On the other side, there is this girl.
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4:19 - 4:21She's amazing.
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4:21 - 4:23(Laughter)
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4:23 - 4:26(Applause)
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4:28 - 4:30I call her amazing because she is.
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4:30 - 4:33She's very fabulous.
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4:33 - 4:37That girl is me. (Laughter)
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4:37 - 4:40When I was 13 years old,
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4:40 - 4:43I was told, you are grown up,
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4:43 - 4:46you have now reached of age,
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4:46 - 4:50you're supposed to go
to the initiation camp. -
4:50 - 4:53I was like, "What?
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4:53 - 4:57I'm not going to go
to the initiation camps." -
4:58 - 5:01You know what the women said to me?
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5:01 - 5:05"You are a stupid girl. Stubborn.
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5:05 - 5:12You do not respect the traditions
of our society, of our community." -
5:12 - 5:16I said no because I knew
where I was going. -
5:16 - 5:18I knew what I wanted in life.
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5:20 - 5:23I had a lot of dreams as a young girl.
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5:24 - 5:28I wanted to get well educated,
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5:28 - 5:30to find a decent job in the future.
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5:30 - 5:32I was imagining myself as a lawyer,
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5:32 - 5:35seated on that big chair.
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5:35 - 5:37Those were the imaginations that
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5:37 - 5:40were going through my mind every day.
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5:40 - 5:42And I knew that one day,
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5:42 - 5:47I would contribute something,
a little something to my community. -
5:47 - 5:49But every day after refusing,
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5:49 - 5:51women would tell me,
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5:51 - 5:55"Look at you, you're all grown up.
Your little sister has a baby. -
5:55 - 5:56What about you?"
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5:56 - 6:01That was the music
that I was hearing every day, -
6:01 - 6:05and that is the music
that girls hear every day -
6:05 - 6:09when they don't do something
that the community needs them to do. -
6:12 - 6:15When I compared the two stories
between me and my sister, -
6:15 - 6:20I said, "Why can't I do something?
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6:20 - 6:25Why can't I change something
that has happened for a long time -
6:25 - 6:28in our community?"
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6:28 - 6:30That was when I called other girls
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6:30 - 6:33just like my sister, who have children,
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6:33 - 6:36who have been in class but they have
forgotten how to read and write. -
6:36 - 6:38I said, "Come on, we can
remind each other -
6:38 - 6:40how to read and write again,
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6:40 - 6:44how to hold the pen,
how to read, to hold the book." -
6:44 - 6:48It was a great time I had with them.
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6:48 - 6:52Nor did I just learn a little about them,
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6:52 - 6:56but they were able to tell me
their personal stories, -
6:56 - 6:57what they were facing every day
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6:57 - 7:00as young mothers.
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7:00 - 7:02That was when I was like,
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7:02 - 7:06'Why can't we take all these things
that are happening to us -
7:06 - 7:10and present them and tell our mothers,
our traditional leaders, -
7:10 - 7:12that these are the wrong things?"
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7:12 - 7:14It was a scary thing to do,
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7:14 - 7:16because these traditional leaders,
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7:16 - 7:18they are already accustomed to the things
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7:18 - 7:21that have been there for ages.
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7:21 - 7:22A hard thing to change,
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7:22 - 7:25but a good thing to try.
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7:25 - 7:27So we tried.
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7:27 - 7:30It was very hard, but we pushed.
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7:30 - 7:33And I'm here to say that in my community,
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7:33 - 7:36it was the first community after girls
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7:36 - 7:39pushed so hard to our traditional leader,
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7:39 - 7:43and our leader stood up for us
and said no girl has to be married -
7:43 - 7:46before the age of 18.
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7:46 - 7:50(Applause)
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7:54 - 7:55In my community,
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7:55 - 7:58that was the first time a community,
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7:58 - 8:00they had to call the bylaws,
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8:00 - 8:04the first bylaw that protected girls
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8:04 - 8:06in our community.
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8:06 - 8:08We did not stop there.
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8:08 - 8:11We forged ahead.
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8:11 - 8:15We were determined to fight for girls
not just in my community, -
8:15 - 8:17but even in other communities.
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8:17 - 8:22When the child marriage bill
was being presented in February, -
8:22 - 8:25we were there at the Parliament house.
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8:25 - 8:29Every day, when the members
of Parliament were entering, -
8:29 - 8:32we were telling them,
"Would you please support the bill?" -
8:32 - 8:37And we don't have
much technology like here, -
8:37 - 8:39but we have our small phones.
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8:39 - 8:44So we said, "Why can't we get
their numbers and text them?" -
8:44 - 8:47So we did that. It was a good thing.
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8:47 - 8:49(Applause)
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8:49 - 8:52So when the bill passed,
we texted them back, -
8:52 - 8:55"Thank you for supporting the bill."
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8:55 - 8:56(Laughter)
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8:56 - 8:59And when the bill was signed
by the president, -
8:59 - 9:03making it into law, it was a plus.
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9:03 - 9:08Now, in Malawi, 18 is the legal
marriage age, from 15 to 18. -
9:08 - 9:12(Applause)
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9:14 - 9:18It's a good thing to know
that the bill passed, -
9:18 - 9:21but let me tell you this:
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9:21 - 9:26There are countries where 18
is the legal marriage age, -
9:26 - 9:30but don't we hear cries
of women and girls every day? -
9:30 - 9:35Every day, girls' lives
are being wasted away. -
9:35 - 9:42This is high time for leaders
to honor their commitment. -
9:42 - 9:44In honoring this commitment,
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9:44 - 9:50it means keeping girls' issues
at heart every time. -
9:50 - 9:54We don't have to be subjected as second,
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9:54 - 9:58but they have to know that women,
as we are in this room, -
9:58 - 10:01we are not just women,
we are not just girls, -
10:01 - 10:03we are extraordinary.
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10:03 - 10:05We can do more.
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10:05 - 10:08And another thing for Malawi,
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10:08 - 10:11and not just Malawi but other countries:
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10:11 - 10:15The laws which are there,
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10:15 - 10:20you know how a law is not a law
until it is enforced? -
10:20 - 10:24The law which has just recently passed
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10:24 - 10:26and the laws that in other countries
have been there, -
10:26 - 10:30they need to be publicized
at the local level, -
10:30 - 10:33at the community level,
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10:33 - 10:38where girls' issues are very striking.
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10:38 - 10:43Girls face issues, difficult issues,
at the community level every day. -
10:43 - 10:48So if these young girls know
that there are laws that protect them, -
10:48 - 10:51they will be able to stand up
and defend themselves -
10:51 - 10:55because they will know that
there is a law that protects them. -
10:57 - 11:01And another thing I would say is that
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11:01 - 11:06girls' voices and women's voices
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11:06 - 11:09are beautiful, they are there,
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11:09 - 11:12but we cannot do this alone.
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11:12 - 11:15Male advocates, they have to jump in,
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11:15 - 11:17to step in and work together.
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11:17 - 11:19It's a collective work.
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11:19 - 11:22What we need is what girls elsewhere need:
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11:22 - 11:28good education, and above all,
not to marry whilst 11. -
11:30 - 11:33And furthermore,
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11:33 - 11:36I know that together,
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11:36 - 11:40we can transform the legal,
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11:40 - 11:43the cultural and political framework
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11:43 - 11:48that denies girls of their rights.
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11:48 - 11:53I am standing here today
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11:53 - 12:00and declaring that we can
end child marriage in a generation. -
12:01 - 12:03This is the moment
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12:03 - 12:07where a girl and a girl,
and millions of girls worldwide, -
12:07 - 12:10will be able to say,
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12:10 - 12:13"I will marry when I want."
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12:13 - 12:16(Applause)
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12:23 - 12:25Thank you. (Applause)
- Title:
- A warrior’s cry against child marriage
- Speaker:
- Memory Banda
- Description:
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Memory Banda’s life took a divergent path from her sister’s. When her sister reached puberty, she was sent to a traditional “initiation camp” that teaches girls “how to sexually please a man.” She got pregnant there — at age 11. Banda, however, refused to go. Instead, she organized others and asked her community’s leader to issue a bylaw that no girl should be forced to marry before turning 18. She pushed on to the national level … with incredible results for girls across Malawi.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 12:38
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Kacper Borowiecki
I think, that we should correct a mistake. In 0:13 should be written:
"but when we were going through
the collection of poetry that [she] wrote,"
beacuse they were going through the poetry written not by themselves, but by this girl...