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Have you ever felt pressured
to get married?
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Who makes the decisions
in your household...
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and how does this affect you?
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My parents are pressuring m
to get married.
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What? Again?
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Unless we have equal laws
in the country...
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I am never getting married.
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Come on, it isn't about that.
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Of course the law matters.
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If the law is already unequal...
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how are you going to have
an equal partnership?
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Okay, but what unequal laws
are you talking about?
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In Malaysia the ages for marriage
between boys and girls...
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are different.
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The minimum age for marriage
for boys is 18...
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and for girls it is 16.
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For Muslims, at the discretion
of the Sharia code...
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parents can apply for their daughters
to get married younger.
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When there are unequal laws...
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it is the husband or the father
that has access to these rights.
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But the mother does not.
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More often than not, in reality...
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it is the mother who is undertaking
all the responsibility.
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Without the rights.
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You are still young, right?
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I don't understand why they are
pressuring you to get married now.
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I know, I am 22,
but to them I am not.
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I'm a baby,
why would I want to have a baby?
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I think in recent years
there seems to be some acceptance...
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that child marriage is actually okay.
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We need to figure out why.
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It has a lot of negative impact
on the girl...
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especially in terms of welfare,
well being, education...
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opportunities of employment,
being independent...
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being someone who contributes
to the family or the nation.
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I just need to be sure
that whoever I marry understands...
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that we both wear the pants
in the household.
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I think it is a personal matter
between the couple.
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It is not only between them.
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What about domestic violence?
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There are so many factors that shift
gender equality in the household.
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Gender stereotyping
begins in the home.
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The moment they say
"It's a girl! It's a boy!"...
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you are asked to play a role.
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You are a good daughter, good sister,
you are going to be a good wife.
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Then when you get into
a relationship...
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you tend to play a role, whereby
you look up to the man...
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because the boy is also
brought up in a particular way.
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Therefore that leads to control.
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Because all your life in the home
you are being controlled...
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then in a relationship
you will also be controlled.
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That control and power
the man has...
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can then translate
into violence.
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Either emotional or physical,
called domestic violence.
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So, to get rid of the villains,
everyone should share responsibilities.
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Of course. And that means
daddies should change diapers too.
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When all members in a household
are unable to participate...
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in decision making on equal terms...
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the entire household
is at disadvantage.
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On the other hand, when families
are based upon equal partnerships...
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this increased sharing of roles,
involvement of men in parenting...
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greater respect and intimacy
between couples...
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better family planning,
lower divorce rates.
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And children grow up having
learned and seen...
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what mutual respect and
partnerships look like.
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Gender equality is essential
for happy, stable families...
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that can better handle challenges
that come their way.
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