What makes life complete? | Gaur Gopal Das | TEDxMITP
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0:08 - 0:12One of my friends in Mumbai,
a Gujarati gentleman, -
0:13 - 0:19he purchased a very expensive,
high-end, upmarket car: -
0:20 - 0:26a slick, posh, yellow Lamborghini.
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0:28 - 0:32You know cars are expensive in Mumbai,
things can't get more expensive than that. -
0:32 - 0:35If you have watched
this Hindi movie "Deewar," -
0:36 - 0:38Amitabh Bachchan and Shashi Kapoor.
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0:38 - 0:40Amitabh Bachchan talking to Shashi Kapoor:
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0:40 - 0:46(Hindi) "I have a car, a house, money,
and servants. What do you have?!" -
0:47 - 0:49(Laughter)
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0:49 - 0:51Amitabh replies, "I have a mother."
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0:51 - 0:55(English) The rhyme of today
has changed, ladies and gentlemen. -
0:55 - 1:00Amitabh says, (Hindi) "I have Lamborghini,
I have a Jaguar, I have a Bentley, -
1:00 - 1:04I have a BMW, I have a Rolls-Royce.
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1:04 - 1:05What do you have?!"
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1:05 - 1:08(English) Shashi Kapoor says,
"I have parking space!" -
1:08 - 1:09(Laughter)
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1:09 - 1:13(Applause) (Cheers)
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1:13 - 1:18Here in Mumbai, parking space
is more expensive than cars. -
1:18 - 1:23This friend of mine, a Gujarati,
purchased a yellow Lamborghini -
1:23 - 1:26and called me up and said,
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1:26 - 1:28"Would you like to bless my car?"
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1:28 - 1:30(Laughter)
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1:30 - 1:34Now in India, everything gets blessed:
babies, marriages, job contracts; -
1:35 - 1:36all the stuff gets blessed.
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1:36 - 1:40"So would you like to bless my car,
we'll go for an inaugural drive with it." -
1:41 - 1:43I said, "Well, it's a Lamborghini.
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1:43 - 1:45When do swamis get to bless
Lamborghinis? Come here. -
1:45 - 1:47(Laughter)
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1:47 - 1:49The gentlemen drove to our temple
in the Lamborghini, -
1:49 - 1:52and he said, "We'll go on
a 15-minutes drive." -
1:52 - 1:54I sat in the passenger seat,
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1:54 - 1:57and the gentleman sat
in the driver's seat, obviously; -
1:57 - 1:58he was driving.
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1:58 - 1:59I was the first one!
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1:59 - 2:02He didn't even have
his wife to drive first. -
2:02 - 2:03Choose your career wisely, you know!
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2:03 - 2:07(Laughter) (Applause)
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2:09 - 2:12This gentleman, we went on a drive.
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2:12 - 2:15The car encountered
a traffic light at Peddar Road. -
2:15 - 2:18And there was some car standing there;
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2:18 - 2:21I can't even remember what model,
I'm sitting in a Lamborghini. -
2:21 - 2:23I'm sitting there,
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2:23 - 2:28and this gentleman in the next car,
he turned his head around, -
2:28 - 2:31and his eyes were, like, big.
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2:31 - 2:36Never in the streets or roads of Mumbai
had he seen a slick, yellow Lamborghini. -
2:36 - 2:41And his eyes went even bigger
when he saw me sitting inside the car! -
2:41 - 2:43You should have seen
the expression on his face, -
2:43 - 2:46he was, like, "Swamiji, you too?!"
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2:46 - 2:48(Laughter)
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2:48 - 2:52I wanted to pull the windscreen down
and say, "Man, this is not my car. -
2:52 - 2:55I'm the blessing man,
15 minutes blessing and it's done!" -
2:55 - 2:57(Laughter)
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2:57 - 3:00The 15 minutes drive
turned into 35 minutes. -
3:00 - 3:03I suggested to the gentleman
that I need to get back -
3:03 - 3:06because there's a very important meeting
that I need to attend. -
3:06 - 3:10Ladies and gentlemen, what this man did,
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3:10 - 3:13when I just suggested I need to get back,
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3:13 - 3:14shocked me to the core.
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3:16 - 3:18I believe most of you
would be shocked to the core -
3:18 - 3:20when I tell you what he did.
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3:21 - 3:23This guy broke down crying like a baby.
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3:24 - 3:27I don't think any of you would cry
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3:27 - 3:30the first day when you have possession
of a slick, yellow Lamborghini, -
3:30 - 3:32and you're driving it for the first time.
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3:32 - 3:36And these were tears of anguish.
How do you know what tears they are? -
3:36 - 3:39When tears are cold, they're tears of joy.
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3:39 - 3:41When tears are warm,
they're tears of pain and anguish. -
3:41 - 3:43Check it out next time.
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3:43 - 3:45When someone is crying,
don't take a thermometer, -
3:45 - 3:46"This is tears of joy!"
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3:46 - 3:50Don't test on others,
you can test it for yourself, you know. -
3:51 - 3:52I asked him what had happened.
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3:53 - 3:57This man, with great difficulty, spoke up
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3:57 - 4:03and said, "Just three days back
my wife has filed papers for divorce." -
4:03 - 4:07He was driving a car - fancy car -
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4:07 - 4:09he loved his wife,
his children loved his wife, -
4:09 - 4:13for some reason the wife
had filed papers for divorce. -
4:13 - 4:16And this fancy Lamborghini,
expensive, high-end car -
4:16 - 4:18couldn't wipe his tears;
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4:19 - 4:24this fancy, expensive, plush car
couldn't bring him any hope. -
4:25 - 4:28While I was driving with him
I was thinking to myself, -
4:28 - 4:32"God. Look at this gentleman,
with all of the achievements that he has: -
4:32 - 4:36a first-class business,
incredible amounts of money, -
4:37 - 4:39tremendous influence and affluence,
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4:39 - 4:42and with all of that he had,
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4:42 - 4:45and the cherry on top of the cake
was a Lamborghini: -
4:45 - 4:46(Laughter)
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4:46 - 4:49Bugged. No hope.
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4:49 - 4:52Ladies and gentlemen, therefore I say
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4:52 - 4:54if you truly want to know how rich you are
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4:54 - 4:57then count all those things
that you have that money cannot buy. -
4:58 - 5:05Hope, love, respect, dignity,
character, integrity, acceptance. -
5:06 - 5:08Wealth is a very broad term.
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5:09 - 5:12Money is not wealth.
Money is just a part of wealth. -
5:13 - 5:14And you must have it obviously -
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5:14 - 5:17all of you are looking forward
to having money, -
5:17 - 5:18and you must obviously have it.
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5:18 - 5:21But it's just a part of wealth.
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5:21 - 5:23February 2, 2005,
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5:24 - 5:28I was lying in a monastery
in an ashram on the wooden floor, -
5:28 - 5:32exhausted, tired
from the anxiety last night, -
5:33 - 5:37and suddenly a fellow monk,
one of my friends, -
5:38 - 5:41came up to me and woke me up
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5:42 - 5:47saying, "He's leaving. He's leaving!"
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5:48 - 5:54I got up, gathering myself together,
rushing to go to the room, -
5:54 - 6:00where my dear friend
Stoka Krishna Das was leaving his body. -
6:02 - 6:07Memories were flashing through my mind
as I was rushing towards this room. -
6:08 - 6:11He was a monk with me,
we had stayed together. -
6:12 - 6:16At a certain point, he had decided
to move on and get married. -
6:16 - 6:17He went out.
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6:17 - 6:22He'd taken a job at the hospital
we run, as a librarian. -
6:22 - 6:26He'd just gotten married;
his wife was pregnant. -
6:27 - 6:31While the wife was pregnant,
he was diagnosed with melanoma cancer. -
6:32 - 6:35He decided that he wanted
to leave the body in the monastery -
6:35 - 6:37where he spent most of his time.
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6:37 - 6:40We had brought him to our monastery.
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6:40 - 6:43As the memories flashed in my mind
as I was rushing there, -
6:44 - 6:48I remembered everyday I went to sing
God's names to him on the harmonium. -
6:48 - 6:51My tears filled the eyes.
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6:51 - 6:56As I cried, seeing a dear friend
struggling with melanoma cancer. -
6:58 - 7:02Every single time I looked at him,
my vision was blurred. -
7:03 - 7:06Because it was someone so dear.
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7:06 - 7:09Yet, this gentleman was amazing,
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7:09 - 7:11he had a beaming face,
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7:12 - 7:15all the excruciating pain
that he went through -
7:15 - 7:17hadn't affected his determined resolve.
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7:17 - 7:21Yeah, look at his face,
look at that smile. -
7:21 - 7:24No morphine was working on him.
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7:24 - 7:26I realized: this stuff works.
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7:27 - 7:30His wife had given birth to a baby girl;
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7:30 - 7:34they brought the baby girl
right next to him. -
7:35 - 7:38It was the last time she would see him;
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7:38 - 7:42it was the last time
his wife would ever be with him. -
7:42 - 7:44Ladies and gentlemen,
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7:45 - 7:46as I walked to the room,
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7:48 - 7:50my guru Radhanath Swami,
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7:50 - 7:53the author of the popular book
The Journey Home, -
7:53 - 7:56was right next to him, giving him hope.
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7:56 - 7:59I was astounded inside the little room,
there were so many people. -
7:59 - 8:02I was standing right next to him
with my guru Radhanath Swami, -
8:02 - 8:07outside were 450 members of our community,
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8:07 - 8:09all together chanting the names of God.
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8:10 - 8:13What I saw here was a man
who didn't have a Lamborghini. -
8:13 - 8:15What I saw here was support.
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8:16 - 8:18What I saw here was people:
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8:18 - 8:21people who were there
to financially support him, -
8:21 - 8:23people who were there
to medically support him, -
8:23 - 8:25people who were there
to spiritually support him, -
8:25 - 8:28people who were there
to emotionally support him. -
8:28 - 8:31I was amazed
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8:32 - 8:34at the kind of support this man had.
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8:34 - 8:35You know something,
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8:35 - 8:37when you're born, people love you,
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8:37 - 8:39and when you die, people love you;
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8:39 - 8:41in between you have to manage.
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8:41 - 8:42(Laughter)
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8:42 - 8:44And this man had managed truly well,
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8:44 - 8:47he'd invested so much
in relationships with his people -
8:47 - 8:49that when he was in dire need
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8:50 - 8:52people had come to him.
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8:52 - 8:53Ladies and gentlemen,
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8:53 - 8:58yes, it is important for us
to have support. -
8:59 - 9:01Wealth doesn't just mean money.
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9:01 - 9:03Wealth means money plus
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9:03 - 9:06people and support.
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9:06 - 9:08One gentleman said,
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9:08 - 9:11do you know what's the difference
between complete and finished? -
9:11 - 9:13He said if you find
the right partner, you're complete; -
9:13 - 9:16If you find the wrong partner,
you're finished. -
9:16 - 9:19But if you were caught with the wrong one
by the right one: completely finished. -
9:19 - 9:22(Laughter) (Applause) (Cheers)
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9:22 - 9:26I must tell you:
we definitely need partners, -
9:26 - 9:28we definitely need friends,
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9:28 - 9:31we definitely need
professional therapists, -
9:31 - 9:34we definitely need people
who can support us. -
9:34 - 9:37Therefore, I say if you wanted
to know truly how rich you are, -
9:37 - 9:41drop a tear and see how many hands
come forward to wipe that tear. -
9:41 - 9:42That's how rich you actually are,
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9:42 - 9:43that's wealth.
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9:43 - 9:45(Applause)
-
9:46 - 9:49Sanskrit is an amazing language.
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9:49 - 9:53If people want to call
someone a donkey in Sanskrit, -
9:53 - 9:55you say Vaishakhnandan.
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9:55 - 9:56(Laughter)
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9:56 - 9:59You want to know what you call
ice cream in Sanskrit? -
9:59 - 10:02Dughdasharkarayuktahima ganagolagattu.
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10:03 - 10:05And if you say mango ice cream, you'd say,
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10:05 - 10:08Aamra dughdasharkarayuktahima
ganagolagattu. -
10:08 - 10:11It will melt before you place the order!
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10:11 - 10:12(Laughter)
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10:12 - 10:16But I'm sure most of us
love to eat ice cream. Yes, indeed. -
10:17 - 10:19People who eat ice cream,
it is good to eat ice cream -
10:19 - 10:22because the ideology
behind the ice cream is: -
10:23 - 10:25enjoy your life before it melts.
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10:27 - 10:31And then there is a candle
where the ideology is: -
10:31 - 10:33give light to others before it melts.
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10:33 - 10:34Ladies and gentlemen,
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10:34 - 10:38yes, the live world is full of ice creams;
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10:38 - 10:41what we need is candles.
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10:42 - 10:44Yes, there was a gentleman
here in this country, Chennai, -
10:44 - 10:47Mr. Palam Kalyanasundaram,
-
10:47 - 10:51giving away each of his salary
to educate the poor. -
10:51 - 10:54He was recognized
by the U.S., given an award, -
10:54 - 10:59about five million American dollars,
approximately 30 crore Indian Rupees. -
10:59 - 11:02He gave away all of that money
to educate the poor. -
11:03 - 11:05How many of you are ready to be candles?
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11:07 - 11:08Contact me later, I need a lot!
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11:08 - 11:10(Laughter)
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11:10 - 11:13To be honest, we cannot be that extreme,
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11:13 - 11:15selfless candles,
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11:15 - 11:19and just because we can't be candles
should we continue being ice creams? -
11:20 - 11:25Journey means move
from being an ice cream to a candle. -
11:25 - 11:29How many of you like to look beautiful?
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11:29 - 11:32How many of you like to look handsome?
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11:32 - 11:36Those who are not raising their hands,
they think they're already beautiful. -
11:36 - 11:37I must tell you,
-
11:37 - 11:41a teacher wrote down on the whiteboard:
I am beautiful. "Which tense is it?" -
11:41 - 11:44The student said,"Past tense, Madam."
Visible beauty just goes away. -
11:44 - 11:46One of my friends, ladies and gentlemen,
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11:46 - 11:49I'd like to introduce you
to a very handsome guy. -
11:49 - 11:53One of my friends,
Prem Raheja, wonderful man, -
11:54 - 11:56from a well-to-do,
high middle-class family. -
11:56 - 11:57This man,
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11:58 - 12:02his accountant's daughter stood first
in the KEM medical college -
12:02 - 12:05and wanted to go the U.S to study
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12:05 - 12:08and didn't have any money,
didn't have a sponsor for the visa. -
12:08 - 12:10He sponsored her visa;
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12:10 - 12:13paid for her tuition fee,
paid for the travel fee, -
12:13 - 12:18all of his staff, paid for the fees
of all the children of his staff, -
12:18 - 12:21paid for the house
of every single staff member, -
12:21 - 12:24paid for the marriages
of the every single person -
12:24 - 12:26in his staff's family.
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12:26 - 12:30And what's amazing
is no one ever even knew. -
12:30 - 12:34And there are so many such people
across the country and across the world -
12:34 - 12:40who are trying to move
from being an ice cream to being a candle. -
12:40 - 12:42Ladies and gentlemen,
-
12:42 - 12:45if you truly want to know
how handsome you are, -
12:45 - 12:47just extend your "hand" to "some,"
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12:47 - 12:50and you will definitely be considered
to be extremely handsome. -
12:50 - 12:52It's not about the looks, which fade,
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12:52 - 12:54but it's definitely
about how we help others. -
12:54 - 12:56It is important for us
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12:56 - 13:02that wealth is equal to
money + people + purpose in life, -
13:02 - 13:05to serve, share and contribute.
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13:05 - 13:10It was July 9, 2009.
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13:10 - 13:13I had just returned from England, London.
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13:13 - 13:15As I got back from London,
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13:16 - 13:18it was half one in the morning,
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13:19 - 13:21for some reason my telephone was on,
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13:21 - 13:22cellular phone.
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13:24 - 13:26My phone rang.
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13:28 - 13:32My mind started going into guesses:
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13:33 - 13:35Who could it be?
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13:35 - 13:38My mom had rung me up.
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13:38 - 13:40As I picked up the phone,
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13:42 - 13:45I didn't want to hear the news
that my father had gone. -
13:46 - 13:48He was diagnosed with Parkinson's.
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13:48 - 13:51Just before I had traveled to London,
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13:51 - 13:54I had gone and seen him;
he was bed ridden. -
13:54 - 13:56From all the way
as I'd become a monk till now, -
13:56 - 13:59it had been an amazing journey for them.
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13:59 - 14:02Hard in the beginning,
definitely appreciated later. -
14:06 - 14:07My dad had gone.
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14:08 - 14:12I drove from Mumbai,
it was pouring cats and dogs. -
14:13 - 14:15The cremation was done.
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14:16 - 14:20The next day I went to the crematorium,
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14:21 - 14:23and what came in my hand
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14:24 - 14:26was a pot.
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14:29 - 14:30A pot of ashes.
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14:33 - 14:36As I held this pot of ashes in my hands,
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14:37 - 14:41I was stunned, shocked,
couldn't think for a while. -
14:41 - 14:45And this is 2009,
I took this life as a monk in 1996 -
14:45 - 14:47after having worked at Hewlett Packard.
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14:47 - 14:49And as I was now there,
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14:49 - 14:50I'm wondering:
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14:51 - 14:54is this my father?
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14:56 - 15:01Is this what's left out of my father?
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15:02 - 15:05God heard all what I'd spoken,
read, heard and spoken -
15:05 - 15:08in so many different forums
including the British Parliament -
15:11 - 15:14had dawned upon me
suddenly in that one moment. -
15:16 - 15:17That's all gone.
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15:19 - 15:20I'll tell you something,
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15:21 - 15:24it's quite amazing
how these sobering moments are. -
15:24 - 15:27They bring to your heart
those important priorities -
15:27 - 15:30which truly matter to you.
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15:30 - 15:32Ladies and gentlemen,
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15:33 - 15:37you all have to evaluate
what is of importance to us. -
15:37 - 15:38What are we going to hold?
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15:38 - 15:40Grudges? Anger? What?
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15:41 - 15:45When we go we need
to leave a legacy behind -
15:46 - 15:48and not just leave a legacy behind.
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15:48 - 15:53When we go we must
carry something along with us. -
15:54 - 15:58On my way to London,
on the flight, British Airways, -
15:59 - 16:03I had a mango milkshake bottle
with me in the lunch pack. -
16:04 - 16:07And at the X-ray machine
as the mango milkshake passed through it, -
16:07 - 16:10the security guard said,
"Sir, this can't go ahead." -
16:10 - 16:13I asked him, "Why?"
He said, "There's liquid in it." -
16:13 - 16:15I said, "This is not liquid,
this is sublime." -
16:15 - 16:16(Laughter)
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16:16 - 16:19He said, "What is sublime?"
"This is mango milkshake, sir." -
16:19 - 16:24"One liter of steel bottle."
"Sorry sir, only 100 ml is allowed." -
16:25 - 16:28So I said, "I'll throw it away,"
but I won't give it to him. -
16:28 - 16:30"Let me take it."
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16:30 - 16:31So I found someone -
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16:31 - 16:34I know someone the airport, he took me out
and we gave it to the beggar - -
16:34 - 16:36and came back.
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16:36 - 16:41As I boarded the flight
I put on my laptop with one thought: -
16:43 - 16:46when you board a flight
you must know what you can take along. -
16:46 - 16:48Everything else is left behind.
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16:49 - 16:55And similarly, when the flight ends,
you have to know what you can take along; -
16:55 - 16:57and therefore, I must say,
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16:58 - 17:01there is a need for a divine
spiritual connection. -
17:01 - 17:04Yes, when the flight ends,
there are three things we must do: -
17:04 - 17:07not have anything
in the mind left thinking, -
17:07 - 17:08"Oh! I should have done that!"
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17:08 - 17:11Second, we leave a legacy behind,
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17:11 - 17:15and three, we have something
to carry on, even if it's 100 ml, -
17:15 - 17:17(Laughter)
-
17:17 - 17:21but it will be allowed
with us as we move on; -
17:21 - 17:24and thus I say what makes life complete:
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17:24 - 17:26Wealth makes life complete.
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17:26 - 17:32Be super wealthy,
have a lot of money, no problem. -
17:32 - 17:35Be super wealthy, have a lot of support.
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17:36 - 17:37Be super wealthy,
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17:37 - 17:41have a lot of purposes to move
from an ice cream to a candle and share. -
17:42 - 17:45Be super wealthy,
by leaving a legacy behind, -
17:45 - 17:51and having something that you can
carry along with you as the flight lands. -
17:51 - 17:52Ladies and gentlemen,
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17:52 - 17:54I must thank all of you
for your kind attention. -
17:54 - 17:55Thank you very much.
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17:55 - 17:57(Applause)
- Title:
- What makes life complete? | Gaur Gopal Das | TEDxMITP
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Gaur Gopal Prabhu explains how Life is like a jigsaw puzzle and we can only experience completeness when all pieces are in their right place. Explore the different dimensions of life and put them together to make it holistic and fulfilling.
For over two decades, Gaur Gopal Das has been guiding students, celebrities and corporate leaders all over the world.
Based on the timeless wisdom coming down from ages, his talks make the audience think deeper and find simple solutions to difficult problems.This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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