How beautiful is your mermaid tail? | Sofia Righetti | TEDxVerona
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0:27 - 0:29Such a pretty girl, huh?
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0:32 - 0:34Ouch.
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0:34 - 0:37Such a pretty girl, too bad she…
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0:38 - 0:40I am almost certain
that somewhere in your head, -
0:40 - 0:43those were your exact words: "Too bad."
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0:44 - 0:49Well, I will prove to you
that life is a matter of editing. -
0:49 - 0:52Choosing to add
or take out a certain detail -
0:52 - 0:55changes the whole picture.
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0:55 - 0:58At least, that’s what it looks like.
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0:59 - 1:03There are one too many clichés
when it comes to disabled people. -
1:03 - 1:06For example, no matter what we do,
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1:06 - 1:09even the easiest, most trivial chore,
like going shopping, -
1:09 - 1:11becomes sort of epic
in the eyes of beholders. -
1:12 - 1:16This has gotten me
quite a few laughs over the years. -
1:16 - 1:19You may not know, but I'm also
a heavy metal guitar player. -
1:19 - 1:21Here I am, on stage,
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1:21 - 1:24with my cool guitar and my cool hair.
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1:25 - 1:28One night I was backstage,
waiting to go up and play with my band, -
1:29 - 1:32electric guitar in one hand,
and a drink in the other, -
1:33 - 1:35when this journalist comes up to me
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1:35 - 1:38and, trying to give a compliment
I suppose, he says: -
1:38 - 1:41“You must be very brave
to go on stage in your condition!” -
1:43 - 1:45I looked at him and replied,
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1:45 - 1:48“Hey, what conditions?
I am perfectly sober!” -
1:49 - 1:52I had no idea what he was talking about!
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1:52 - 1:55(Applause)
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1:58 - 2:01Another prejudice has to do
with my wheelchair. -
2:01 - 2:05I have lost count of the times I heard
people say, “Confined to a wheelchair.” -
2:06 - 2:12It appeals me how much ignorance
this sentence is infused with, -
2:12 - 2:14and how it increases
that very horrible sense of pity -
2:14 - 2:16we're trying to get over.
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2:17 - 2:20A wheelchair is an incredible
piece of equipment, -
2:20 - 2:25halfway between technology and design,
which allows you to go wherever you want, -
2:26 - 2:29to wear, to dance, to run,
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2:29 - 2:32even to wear five-inch heels
without fearing cobblestones. -
2:33 - 2:36There is nothing “confining” about it.
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2:36 - 2:39A wheelchair gives you the freedom
to move around the world, -
2:39 - 2:41it does not take it from you.
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2:42 - 2:45I guess you are now wondering
why I'm sitting on a wheelchair. -
2:46 - 2:47When I was five months old,
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2:47 - 2:50I was diagnosed with
a congenital heart condition. -
2:51 - 2:53I was not given much chance of survival,
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2:53 - 2:54so I had to undergo emergency surgery.
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2:55 - 2:57The heart surgery was a success,
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2:57 - 2:59and I quickly got healthy again.
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3:00 - 3:03However, during the procedure,
the doctors hadn’t noticed -
3:03 - 3:06that blood wasn't reaching my spinal cord.
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3:06 - 3:09The result was a bone marrow injury:
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3:09 - 3:12a very low one, thankfully,
but it took away my legs. -
3:13 - 3:15Yes, that was a medical accident.
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3:16 - 3:19Most of you may say:
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3:19 - 3:20“How unfortunate!”
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3:21 - 3:24Instead, I think of it
as a simple "collateral effect'" -
3:24 - 3:27of being healthy, alive,
and here with you today. -
3:28 - 3:32Back then, I was one of very few cases
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3:32 - 3:36when a spinal cord injury
occurs in a newborn. -
3:36 - 3:38Thanks to this, however,
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3:38 - 3:42nobody explained to me
what I could or couldn't do with my body. -
3:43 - 3:47So I simply learnt on my own
while I grew up, like all children do, -
3:47 - 3:49adapting the circumstances
to my abilities, -
3:49 - 3:51learning to take advantage
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3:51 - 3:54of all the potential
that my body could give, -
3:54 - 3:56and not being worried
about my limitations. -
3:56 - 4:00Don't get me started on how many times
I caused my parents goosebumps -
4:00 - 4:05when they found me climbing trees
or kitchen shelves. -
4:05 - 4:10From then on, my free spirit
and my eagerness to explore the world -
4:10 - 4:12have taken me far away.
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4:13 - 4:17Fresh out of high school
I moved to Bologna, -
4:17 - 4:20where I graduated in philosophy,
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4:20 - 4:22and I traveled far and wide in Europe,
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4:23 - 4:27sometimes with other people,
but more often by myself, -
4:27 - 4:28to festivals and concerts,
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4:28 - 4:33with the very goal of seeing new places,
meeting new people, and cities. -
4:35 - 4:39One day, my travels
took me to the mountains. -
4:40 - 4:43I met my latest challenge in 2012
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4:43 - 4:45when I tried skiing for the first time.
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4:46 - 4:51I had never done any sport before then,
mind you, and I did not even like sports. -
4:52 - 4:55But when I saw these
high-power carbon mono-skis, -
4:56 - 5:01that can get you to 120km per hour,
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5:01 - 5:03the speed I take on the highway
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5:03 - 5:04down by the steepest slopes,
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5:04 - 5:07balancing on a single ski,
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5:07 - 5:10I fell in love hard,
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5:10 - 5:14and I decided I was going to become
a professional Alpine skiing athlete. -
5:15 - 5:18This is me, and then it started,
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5:18 - 5:23a very challenging time of my life.
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5:23 - 5:28I used to wake up at six AM
to load my mono-ski in my car, -
5:28 - 5:3125 kilograms with one arm only,
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5:31 - 5:33since I was balancing on the other,
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5:34 - 5:38and I would drive almost two hours
to get to the ski slopes of Folgaria, -
5:40 - 5:43singing along to Motley Crue or Testament
to keep me company on the road. -
5:44 - 5:47Then I would train for three
to four hours between the poles, -
5:47 - 5:50and I would jump back in my car
and head back home. -
5:51 - 5:54Three times a week,
plus competition weekends, -
5:54 - 5:57no matter what the weather was like.
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5:57 - 6:02I faced storms, snow, fog,
freezing ice, sun, heat, whatever. -
6:04 - 6:06After as little as two years of training,
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6:06 - 6:10in March 2014, I was awarded the title
of Alpine Skiing National Champion -
6:10 - 6:14with a gold medal in Giant Slalom
and the silver in Slalom. -
6:15 - 6:18Not too bad for a girl
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6:18 - 6:20who was used to staying up
all night playing in clubs. -
6:22 - 6:25Anyway, I can’t deny
that life on a wheelchair -
6:25 - 6:29isn't always rock events,
parties and sport winnings. -
6:30 - 6:32Often, yes, but not always.
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6:33 - 6:36As it happens in everybody's life
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6:36 - 6:39there are also challenges
you have to confront. -
6:40 - 6:44One of mine came about when I was 13.
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6:44 - 6:48I found myself with a serious scoliosis
and two possibilities ahead of me. -
6:49 - 6:51I could either wear
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6:51 - 6:55a plastic orthopedic corset
all day, every single day, -
6:55 - 6:56until I was at least 20.
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6:56 - 7:00Or I could undergo a surgery
called 'posterior arthrodesis,' -
7:02 - 7:05where two metal bars are inserted
on both sides of your spine, -
7:05 - 7:07in order to support, extend and fix it.
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7:11 - 7:12It is not an easy procedure.
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7:13 - 7:16Your backbone is open
and you stay there, under the knife, -
7:16 - 7:19in general anesthesia for four hours,
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7:19 - 7:21with no certainty of a positive outcome.
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7:22 - 7:24OK. Great.
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7:25 - 7:28I had to make my choice. What do I do?
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7:29 - 7:33On the one hand,
I was literally scared to death -
7:33 - 7:36thinking that something bad
could happen during the procedure. -
7:37 - 7:38On the other hand,
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7:38 - 7:40I sure didn’t want to be stuck
with a crooked back -
7:40 - 7:43and a plastic corset
for the rest of my life. -
7:44 - 7:49But then I thought of something:
I thought of butterflies. -
7:50 - 7:54Butterflies are not born as such:
they start off as chrysalides. -
7:55 - 7:59Still, hiding in their cocoon
in the dark, clammed up. -
8:00 - 8:04I thought of how much strength
and courage those chrysalises must have -
8:04 - 8:06to break free from their cocoon
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8:07 - 8:10and reach the open air, finally free
to fly in their most beautiful form. -
8:10 - 8:13I did not want to stay
a chrysalis forever. -
8:13 - 8:16I also wanted to fly, I wanted
to make all of my colors shine. -
8:17 - 8:21So I decided to become a butterfly
and I gathered up all the strength I had -
8:26 - 8:30to break free from my cocoon,
and undergo surgery. -
8:30 - 8:34When I woke up, I had a straight back
and a new awareness: -
8:36 - 8:42I had become a butterfly, and nobody
would ever be able to break me. -
8:43 - 8:46Having a straight back again
made me feel more beautiful, -
8:48 - 8:51and admittedly, more self-confident.
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8:52 - 8:57You know, it is not easy to go unnoticed
when you sit on four wheels. -
8:57 - 9:01But instead of hiding away
or feeling uneasy -
9:01 - 9:03under all of the stares, I thought,
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9:03 - 9:07“OK, if people really can’t quit
looking at me when I pass by, -
9:08 - 9:11let them at least look at the most
beautiful thing they’ll ever see!” -
9:11 - 9:14Here is another cliché
on people with disabilities: -
9:14 - 9:18the ever so irreconcilable contrast
between disability and beauty. -
9:19 - 9:23This one time I went to see
an American rock band -
9:23 - 9:26and when the gig was over
the singer came after me, -
9:26 - 9:28looked me deep in the eyes and said
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9:29 - 9:32“You can’t be in a wheelchair!
You are so beautiful!” -
9:36 - 9:37Excuse me?!
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9:38 - 9:41That’s what our traditional iconography
taught us about people with disabilities. -
9:41 - 9:42We're losers.
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9:43 - 9:44Even Mattel,
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9:44 - 9:47in an attempt to include disabilities
in Barbie’s perfect world, -
9:48 - 9:51produced Becky, Barbie’s friend
on a wheelchair. -
9:51 - 9:53And this is what she looks like.
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9:54 - 9:55We can see:
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9:55 - 9:59Lumberjack shirt, long loose jeans,
trainers, and a wheelchair as old as time. -
10:02 - 10:04Quite different from Barbie:
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10:05 - 10:07sexy, blond, slender,
with her colorful makeup, -
10:07 - 10:11glitter micro tops, and high heels.
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10:14 - 10:18Sadly, people with disabilities
often tend to reject their own bodies, -
10:18 - 10:21or the parts that can’t work anymore,
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10:21 - 10:23or what is not considered to be normal.
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10:23 - 10:26In fact, more often than not,
we don’t even need a disability -
10:26 - 10:29to feel uncomfortable with our own bodies.
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10:30 - 10:33Let me tell you a story on this subject.
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10:34 - 10:37Do you know what mermaids are?
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10:38 - 10:42Mermaids are creatures
of exquisite beauty, -
10:43 - 10:44much beyond the ordinary.
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10:44 - 10:49For centuries, sailors and pirates
have hoped to see one. -
10:51 - 10:54These creatures of sublime femininity,
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10:54 - 10:58whose allure seduced
and caught any human being, -
11:02 - 11:04have a peculiar trait:
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11:05 - 11:07A sinuous fish tail in place of legs.
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11:08 - 11:11And thus they swim in their immense sea,
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11:11 - 11:13quick and lively.
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11:14 - 11:15There is a well-known tale
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11:16 - 11:19where a young mermaid
falls in love with a human prince -
11:20 - 11:24and chooses to give up
her tail and her voice -
11:24 - 11:27in exchange for legs,
so that she can seduce her prince. -
11:29 - 11:32Deprived of her most
important features, though, -
11:32 - 11:34and contrary to what Disney
would have us believe, -
11:35 - 11:40the young mermaid fails, and the prince
never falls in love with her. -
11:42 - 11:43Did you get what this means?
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11:44 - 11:46It means that the mermaid,
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11:46 - 11:48refusing the very feature
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11:48 - 11:51that made her wonderfully unique,
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11:52 - 11:55thus not expressing her true self,
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11:56 - 11:58she ended up grey, dull, uninteresting.
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11:59 - 12:00Normal.
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12:01 - 12:06I know for a fact that, had the prince
seen her for who she really was, -
12:07 - 12:09not only would he have
fallen in love with her, -
12:09 - 12:12he would have loved her tail too.
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12:13 - 12:18And here lies the secret
to a mermaid’s seductive power: -
12:19 - 12:24not only is she proud of her look
and her tail's look, -
12:24 - 12:27she celebrates it,
she makes it her strongest point. -
12:28 - 12:30And here lies the secret of seduction.
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12:31 - 12:33Loving yourself, your peculiarities,
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12:33 - 12:36anything that makes you
different and unique. -
12:37 - 12:40I also - thank you.
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12:41 - 12:45(Applause)
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12:51 - 12:55There was a time when I used to wonder
how my life could have been, -
12:55 - 12:59had I had a pair of strong legs
in place of my “tail." -
13:01 - 13:04But then I closed my eyes
and I realized that yes, -
13:04 - 13:07my legs would never allow me
to climb up stairs. -
13:08 - 13:12but they let me feel
the heat from the sun, -
13:12 - 13:14the sand and the grass between my toes.
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13:15 - 13:19I started loving my body
and every single part of it -
13:19 - 13:23and I was grateful for all that they
allowed me to do in this world. -
13:24 - 13:28I never saw my legs
as too skinny to be shown again, -
13:28 - 13:31because they are slender and light…
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13:31 - 13:32and I started to highlight them,
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13:32 - 13:36maybe with just a miniskirt or shorts.
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13:37 - 13:42I believed in this so much
that I became a model. -
13:43 - 13:49A disability, per se,
is neither good nor bad. -
13:49 - 13:51It is a physical feature.
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13:51 - 13:55We all have features that make us
stand out from the rest of the people. -
13:57 - 14:01A disability only becomes a handicap
in relation to the environment, -
14:01 - 14:04that is, when the environment
is not suitable for it. -
14:05 - 14:07We need to remove
architectural boundaries, -
14:08 - 14:10to enhance our technology,
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14:10 - 14:14to allow all people to express
their potential to the fullest. -
14:19 - 14:22Only then can we judge people
for who they are -
14:23 - 14:24and for their true merits,
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14:24 - 14:28instead of appreciating them
in a cheap, slightly pathetic way -
14:28 - 14:30just because of their disabilities.
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14:31 - 14:33Similarly, being sexy
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14:33 - 14:36has nothing to do
with any prearranged model. -
14:36 - 14:38It is all in the confidence that we have,
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14:38 - 14:42in feeling at ease
in our own skin and mind -
14:42 - 14:45and in transmitting all of this to others.
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14:46 - 14:49You need to be aware
of how wonderful your mermaid tail is. -
14:52 - 14:57Loving our details
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14:57 - 14:59will make us love those
of other people too, -
15:00 - 15:04all of those small or big peculiarities
that make us all unique and beautiful. -
15:05 - 15:11That's the only way for disabled people
to be seen as they are: -
15:12 - 15:15beautiful in our entirety
and in our full seductive potential. -
15:17 - 15:20Life is just a matter
of editing, of choices. -
15:21 - 15:25Choose to keep your details.
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15:26 - 15:28Thank you.
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15:28 - 15:31(Applause)
- Title:
- How beautiful is your mermaid tail? | Sofia Righetti | TEDxVerona
- Description:
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This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.
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Sofia was born in 1988 in Negrar, near Verona. When she was 5 months old, she lost the ability to walk because of a bone marrow ischemia caused by a surgical complication. Graduated in philosophy of medicine, rock/metal player, model, national champion of ski, vegan and animal rights advocate, in this talk she explains to us how disability is a relative condition. It only becomes a disadvantage when there is no suitable environment around it.
- Video Language:
- Italian
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- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 15:43
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Edited 15/06/17
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