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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.36,0:00:04.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started kindergarten\Nalready being able to read,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.00,0:00:08.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a skill a classmate\Nwould quickly take advantage of.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.16,0:00:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He whispered to me in the library one day,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.88,0:00:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hey Sofia, can you look up the word sex?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.04,0:00:17.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to see what\Nit says in the dictionary."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.60,0:00:21.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had never heard of this word,\Nso of course I was curious.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.44,0:00:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yeah. OK."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.56,0:00:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My fingers slowly trailed down the page,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.20,0:00:29.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eagerly searching for the letters
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.24,0:00:32.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,s-e-x, s-e-x,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.24,0:00:35.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but before I could land\Non the desired word,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.64,0:00:37.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt a firm tap on my shoulder
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.00,0:00:40.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a stern gaze hovered over me.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.24,0:00:43.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sat in the principal's office,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.88,0:00:46.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,terrified yet unsure of my crime.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.60,0:00:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He leaned in close and said, gently,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.04,0:00:54.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Now, Sofia, why would\Na little girl like yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.28,0:00:56.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be concerned with a word like that?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.92,0:01:00.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't think your parents\Nwould be too happy to hear of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.24,0:01:02.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But since this is your first time in here,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.60,0:01:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't think they need to be told."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.44,0:01:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In that simple moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.04,0:01:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he created the first secret\NI would ever keep from my parents --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.76,0:01:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.40,0:01:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a lifelong curiosity\Nabout this shameful word spelled s-e-x.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.76,0:01:21.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're going to share\Na lot of secrets today, you and I,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.72,0:01:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in doing so, I hope that we can lift
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.20,0:01:26.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of the shame\Nmany of us feel about sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.80,0:01:32.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many here have ever been\Ncatcalled by a stranger?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.96,0:01:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lots of women.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.36,0:01:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For me, the time I remember best
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.04,0:01:42.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when that stranger\Nwas a student of mine.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.48,0:01:46.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He came up to me after class that night
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.44,0:01:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and his words confirmed\Nwhat I already knew:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.32,0:01:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am so sorry, professor.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.12,0:01:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I had known it was you,\NI would never have said those things."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.04,0:01:57.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.36,0:02:01.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wasn't a person to him\Nuntil I was his professor.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.40,0:02:04.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This concept, called objectification,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.00,0:02:07.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the foundation of sexism,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.08,0:02:10.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we see it reinforced\Nthrough every aspect of our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.52,0:02:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We see it in the government
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.76,0:02:19.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that refuses to punish men
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.20,0:02:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for raping women.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.96,0:02:23.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We see it in advertisements.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.28,0:02:25.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you have seen an advertisement
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.31,0:02:30.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that uses a woman's breast\Nto sell and entirely unrelated product?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.40,0:02:36.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or movie after movie after movie
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.20,0:02:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that portrays women\Nas only love interests?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.08,0:02:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These examples might seem\Ninconsequential and harmless,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.72,0:02:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're insidious,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.00,0:02:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,slowly building into a culture\Nthat refuses to see women as people.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.84,0:02:53.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We see this in the school\Nthat sends home a 10-year-old girl
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.96,0:02:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because her clothes were\Na distraction to boys trying to learn,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.72,0:03:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the government that refuses\Nto punish men for raping women
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.92,0:03:04.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over and over,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.52,0:03:05.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the woman who is killed
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.00,0:03:10.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because she asked a man to stop\Ngrinding on her on the dance floor.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.40,0:03:18.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Media plays a large role in perpetuating\Nthe objectification of women.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.28,0:03:22.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's consider\Nthe classic romantic comedy.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.12,0:03:26.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're typically introduced\Nto two kinds of women in these movies,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.04,0:03:28.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two kinds of desirable women, anyway.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.80,0:03:31.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first is the sexy bombshell.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.24,0:03:34.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the unbelievably gorgeous woman\Nwith the perfect body.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.92,0:03:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our leading man\Nhas no trouble identifying her
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.56,0:03:39.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even less trouble having sex with her.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.64,0:03:42.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second is our leading lady,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.52,0:03:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the beautiful but demure woman\Nour leading man falls in love with
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.40,0:03:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,despite not noticing her at first
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.56,0:03:51.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or not liking her if he did.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.72,0:03:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first is the slut.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.76,0:03:55.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is to be consumed and forgotten.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.80,0:03:57.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is much too available.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.68,0:04:01.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second is desirable but modest,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.36,0:04:04.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and therefore worthy\Nof our leading man's future babies.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.84,0:04:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Marriage material.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.64,0:04:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're actually told\Nthat women have two roles,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.60,0:04:13.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but these two roles have a difficult time\Nexisting within the same woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.44,0:04:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the rare occasion\Nthat I share with a new acquaintance
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.12,0:04:19.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I study sex,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.88,0:04:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they don't end\Nthe conversation right then,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.28,0:04:24.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're usually pretty intrigued.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.20,0:04:26.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh. Tell me more."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.00,0:04:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I do.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.08,0:04:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm really interested\Nin studying the sexual behaviors
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.72,0:04:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of pregnant and postpartum couples."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.52,0:04:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At this point I get\Na different kind of response.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.08,0:04:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.08,0:04:41.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh. Huh.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.56,0:04:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do pregnant people even have sex?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.96,0:04:49.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you thought\Nabout studying sexual desire
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.92,0:04:51.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or orgasms?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.28,0:04:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That would be interesting and sexy."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.00,0:04:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell me. What are the first words\Nthat come to mind
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.56,0:05:00.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you picture a pregnant woman?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.16,0:05:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I asked this question\Nin a survey of over 500 adults,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.60,0:05:08.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and most responded with "belly" or "round"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.20,0:05:10.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and "cute."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.92,0:05:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This didn't surprise me too much.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.56,0:05:14.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What else do we label as cute?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.72,0:05:18.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Babies. Puppies. Kittens.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.24,0:05:19.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The elderly. Right?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.92,0:05:21.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.88,0:05:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we label an adult as cute, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.56,0:05:28.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we take away a lot of their intelligence,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.12,0:05:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their complexity.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.08,0:05:32.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We reduce them to childlike qualities.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.44,0:05:35.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also asked heterosexual men
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.12,0:05:38.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to imagine a woman that they're\Npartnered with is pregnant,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.28,0:05:41.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then asked women\Nto imagine that they are pregnant,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.08,0:05:43.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then tell me\Nthe first words that come to mind
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.72,0:05:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they imagine having sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.84,0:05:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of the responses were negative.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.04,0:05:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Gross."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.32,0:05:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Awkward."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.88,0:05:55.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Not sexy." "Odd."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.44,0:05:56.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uncomfortable."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.12,0:05:58.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"How?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.40,0:06:00.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.20,0:06:04.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Not worth the trouble."\N"Not worth the risk."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.32,0:06:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That last one really stuck with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.60,0:06:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We might think that because we divorce\Npregnant women and moms from sexuality,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.36,0:06:17.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are removing the constraints\Nof sexual objectification.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.40,0:06:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They experience less sexism. Right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.12,0:06:21.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not exactly.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.72,0:06:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What happens instead\Nis a different kind of objectification.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.64,0:06:27.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In my efforts to explain this to others,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.92,0:06:31.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one conversation\Nled to the Venus of Willendorf,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.72,0:06:36.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a Paleolithic figurine scholars assumed\Nwas a goddess of love and beauty,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.56,0:06:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hence the name Venus.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.40,0:06:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This theory was later revised, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.56,0:06:44.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when scholars noted\Nthe sculptor's obvious focus
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.28,0:06:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the figurine's reproductive features:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.72,0:06:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,large breasts,\Nconsidered ideal for nursing;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.00,0:06:53.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a round, possibly pregnant belly;
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.64,0:06:57.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the remnants of red dye,\Nalluding to menstruation or birth.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.44,0:07:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They also assumed that she was\Nmeant to be held or placed lying down
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.00,0:07:06.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because her tiny feet\Ndon't allow her to be standing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.40,0:07:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She also had no face.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.68,0:07:12.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For this reason, it was assumed\Nthat she was a representation of fertility
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.80,0:07:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not a portrait of a person.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.68,0:07:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was an object.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.56,0:07:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the history of her interpretation,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.40,0:07:22.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she went from object\Nof ideal beauty and love
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.56,0:07:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to object of reproduction.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.24,0:07:27.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think this transition speaks more
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.72,0:07:31.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the scholars\Nwho have interpreted her purpose
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.52,0:07:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the actual purpose\Nof the figurine herself.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.24,0:07:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When a woman becomes pregnant,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.36,0:07:42.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she leaves the realm\Nof men's sexual desire
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.12,0:07:46.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and slides into her reproductive\Nand child-rearing role.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.72,0:07:49.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In doing so, she also becomes
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.36,0:07:51.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the property of the community,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.16,0:07:55.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,considered very important\Nbut only because she's pregnant. Right?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.20,0:07:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've taken to calling this\Nthe Willendorf effect,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.72,0:08:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and once again we see it reinforced\Nin many aspects of her life.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.12,0:08:05.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Has anyone here\Never been visibly pregnant?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.64,0:08:06.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.88,0:08:08.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah. That's me, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.16,0:08:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how many of you ever had a stranger\Ntouch your belly during pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.32,0:08:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe without even asking\Nyour permission first?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.68,0:08:18.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or told what you can and cannot eat
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.44,0:08:22.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by somebody who is not your doctor,\Nyour medical care provider?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.08,0:08:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or asked private questions\Nabout your birth plan?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.96,0:08:28.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then told why\Nthose choices are all wrong?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.44,0:08:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, me too.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.68,0:08:34.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or had a server refuse\Nto bring you a glass of wine?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.96,0:08:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This one might give you pause,\NI know, but stay with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.72,0:08:39.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a huge secret.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.84,0:08:43.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is actually safe to drink\Nin moderation during pregnancy.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.40,0:08:45.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of us don't know this
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.96,0:08:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because doctors don't trust\Npregnant women with this secret --
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.72,0:08:51.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.24,0:08:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially if she's less educated\Nor a woman of color.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.52,0:09:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What this tells us is,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.28,0:09:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this Willendorf effect,\Nit's also classist and racist.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.52,0:09:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's present when\Nthe government reminds women
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.44,0:09:14.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with every new antichoice bill
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.12,0:09:16.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the contents of her uterus\Nare not her own,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.00,0:09:19.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or when an ob-gyn says,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.08,0:09:21.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"while it's safe\Nto have sex during pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.40,0:09:22.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes you never know.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.76,0:09:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Better safe than sorry, right?"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.28,0:09:29.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's denied basic privacy\Nand bodily autonomy
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.56,0:09:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,under the guise of "be a good mother."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.04,0:09:34.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't trust her\Nto make her own decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.00,0:09:36.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's cute, remember?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.68,0:09:41.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we tell women
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.00,0:09:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that sexual pleasure -- excuse me.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.96,0:09:49.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we tell women that sex\Nisn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.80,0:09:54.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we're telling her is that\Nher sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.08,0:09:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what we are telling her\Nis that she in fact doesn't matter,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.40,0:10:02.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though the needs of her fetus\Nare not at odds with her own needs.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.08,0:10:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So medical providers,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.36,0:10:08.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,such as the American College\Nof Obstetricians and Gynecologists
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.36,0:10:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have the opportunity to educate\Nabout the safety of sex during pregnancy.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.28,0:10:14.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what do the experts say?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.64,0:10:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ACOG actually has\Nno public official statement
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.16,0:10:21.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.88,0:10:24.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Guidance from the Mayo Clinic\Nis generally positive
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.00,0:10:27.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but presented with a caveat:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.52,0:10:30.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Although most women can safely\Nhave sex throughout pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.64,0:10:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes it's best to be cautious."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.84,0:10:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some women don't want\Nto have sex during pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.96,0:10:37.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's OK.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.24,0:10:39.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some women do want\Nto have sex during pregnancy,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.88,0:10:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's OK too.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.32,0:10:43.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What needs to stop\Nis society telling women
Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.00,0:10:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they can and cannot do\Nwith their bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.36,0:10:49.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.92,0:10:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pregnant women are not faceless,\Nidentity-less vessels of reproduction
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.60,0:11:00.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who can't stand on their own two feet.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.00,0:11:04.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the truth is, the real secret is,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.44,0:11:08.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we tell all women that\Ntheir sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.72,0:11:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We refuse to even acknowledge\Nthat women who have sex with women
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.96,0:11:14.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or women who don't\Nwant children even exist.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.72,0:11:16.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, it's just a phase."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.44,0:11:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"She just needs the right man\Nto come along."
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.04,0:11:22.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every time a women has sex
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.40,0:11:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,simply because it feels good,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.40,0:11:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is revolutionary.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.16,0:11:28.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is revolutionary.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.36,0:11:30.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is pushing back\Nagainst society's insistence
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.96,0:11:33.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she exist simply for men's pleasure
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.20,0:11:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or for reproduction.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.32,0:11:40.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A woman who prioritizes\Nher sexual needs is scary,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.32,0:11:45.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because a woman who prioritizes\Nher sexual needs prioritizes herself.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.48,0:11:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.28,0:11:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is a woman demanding\Nthat she be treated as an equal.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.72,0:11:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is a woman who insists
Dialogue: 0,0:11:55.28,0:11:58.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you make room for her\Nat the table of power,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.64,0:12:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is the most terrifying of all,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.56,0:12:03.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we can't make room for her
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.40,0:12:06.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without some of us giving up\Nthe extra space we hold.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:08.72,0:12:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.36,0:12:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have one last secret for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.84,0:12:18.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am the mother of two boys
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.72,0:12:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we could use your help.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.20,0:12:25.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though my boys hear me say regularly
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.92,0:12:29.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it's important for men\Nto recognize women as equals
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.48,0:12:32.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they see their father modeling this,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.04,0:12:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need what happens in the world\Nto reinforce what happens in our home.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.48,0:12:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not a men's problem\Nor a women's problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.80,0:12:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is everyone's problem,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.40,0:12:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we all play a role\Nin dismantling systems of inequality.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.40,0:12:49.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For starters, we have got\Nto stop telling women
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.04,0:12:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they can and cannot do\Nwith their bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.48,0:12:54.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.12,0:13:00.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This includes not treating pregnant women\Nlike community property.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.04,0:13:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't know her,\Ndon't even ask to touch her belly.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.76,0:13:05.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You wouldn't anybody else.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.48,0:13:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't tell her\Nwhat she can and cannot eat.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.64,0:13:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't ask her private details\Nabout her medical decisions.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.68,0:13:12.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This also includes understanding
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.60,0:13:15.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even if you are\Npersonally against abortion,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.20,0:13:17.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can still fight\Nfor a woman's right to choose.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.40,0:13:22.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it comes to women's equality,\Nthe two need not oppose one another.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.88,0:13:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're somebody who has sex with women,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:25.16,0:13:26.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,prioritize her pleasure.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.68,0:13:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't know how, ask.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.96,0:13:31.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have children --
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.48,0:13:33.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.44,0:13:37.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have conversations about sex\Nas early as possible,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.24,0:13:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because kids don't look up s-e-x\Nin the dictionary anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.64,0:13:43.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They look it up on the Internet,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.24,0:13:46.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you're having\Nthose conversations about sex,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.68,0:13:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't center them on reproduction only.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.64,0:13:51.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People have sex for many reasons,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.32,0:13:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some because they want a baby,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.12,0:13:56.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but most of us have sex\Nbecause it feels good.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.08,0:13:57.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Admit it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.68,0:14:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And regardless of whether\Nyou have children or not,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.28,0:14:05.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,support comprehensive sex education\Nthat doesn't shame our teenagers.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.56,0:14:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.04,0:14:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nothing positive comes from shaming teens
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.64,0:14:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for their sexual desires, behaviors,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.04,0:14:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,other than positive STD\Nand pregnancy tests.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.52,0:14:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every single day,\Nwe are all given the opportunity
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.60,0:14:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to disrupt patterns of inequality.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.88,0:14:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we can all agree\Nthat it's worth the trouble to do so.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:35.12,0:14:36.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.36,0:14:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)