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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.60,0:00:03.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pat Mitchell: Your first time back on the TEDWomen stage.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.27,0:00:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sheryl Sandberg: First time back. Nice to see everyone. It's always so nice to look out
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.21,0:00:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and see so many women.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.13,0:00:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's so not my regular experience, \Nas I know anyone else's.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.26,0:00:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: So when we first started talking about, maybe the subject wouldn't be social media,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.65,0:00:23.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which we assumed it would be, but \Nthat you had very much on your mind
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.31,0:00:30.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the missing leadership positions, particularly \Nin the sector of technology and social media.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.46,0:00:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how did that evolve for you as a thought, and end up being the TED Talk that you gave?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.24,0:00:39.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: So I was really scared to get on \Nthis stage and talk about women,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.81,0:00:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I grew up in the business \Nworld, as I think so many of us did.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.46,0:00:49.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You never talk about being a woman, because \Nsomeone might notice that you're a woman, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.79,0:00:53.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They might notice. Or worse, if you say "woman," \Npeople on the other end of the table
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.95,0:00:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,think you're asking for special \Ntreatment, or complaining.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.04,0:01:00.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or worse, about to sue them. \NAnd so I went through -- (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.75,0:01:02.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right? I went through my entire business career,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.93,0:01:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and never spoke about being a woman, \Nnever spoke about it publicly.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.56,0:01:09.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I also had noticed that it wasn't working.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.46,0:01:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I came out of college over \N20 years ago, and I thought
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.90,0:01:16.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that all of my peers were men and women, \Nall the people above me were all men,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.80,0:01:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that would change,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.90,0:01:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because your generation had done such \Nan amazing job fighting for equality,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.43,0:01:26.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,equality was now ours for the taking. And it wasn't.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.04,0:01:29.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because year after year, I was one of fewer and fewer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.38,0:01:31.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now, often the only woman in a room.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.33,0:01:33.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I talked to a bunch of people about,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.42,0:01:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,should I give a speech at TEDWomen \Nabout women, and they said, oh no, no.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.84,0:01:42.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It will end your business career. You \Ncannot be a serious business executive
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.03,0:01:45.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and speak about being a woman. \NYou'll never be taken seriously again.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.47,0:01:50.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But fortunately, there were the few, the proud -- like you -- who told me I should give the speech,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.35,0:01:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I asked myself the question \NMark Zuckerberg might --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.00,0:01:54.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the founder of Facebook and my boss --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.84,0:01:59.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,asks all of us, which is, what \Nwould I do if I wasn't afraid?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.42,0:02:03.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the answer to what would I do if I wasn't \Nafraid is I would get on the TED stage,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.24,0:02:10.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and talk about women, and leadership. \NAnd I did, and survived. (Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.75,0:02:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: I would say, not only survived. \NI'm thinking of that moment, Sheryl,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.58,0:02:18.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you and I were standing backstage \Ntogether, and you turned to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.91,0:02:20.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you told me a story.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.65,0:02:24.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said -- very last minute -- you know, \Nyou really should share that story.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.53,0:02:26.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: Oh, yeah.\NPM: What was that story?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.28,0:02:29.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: Well, it's an important part of the \Njourney. So I had -- TEDWomen --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.55,0:02:33.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the original one was in D.C. -- so I live here, \Nso I had gotten on a plane the day before,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.36,0:02:38.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my daughter was three, she was \Nclinging to my leg: "Mommy, don't go."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.40,0:02:42.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Pat's a friend, and so, not related \Nto the speech I was planning on giving,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.14,0:02:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which was chock full of facts and \Nfigures, and nothing personal,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.60,0:02:48.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told Pat the story. I said, well, \NI'm having a hard day.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.86,0:02:51.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yesterday my daughter was clinging \Nto my leg, and "Don't go."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.47,0:02:53.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you looked at me and said, \Nyou have to tell that story.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.21,0:02:57.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, on the TED stage? Are you kidding?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.45,0:02:59.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to get on a stage and admit \Nmy daughter was clinging to my leg?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.90,0:03:04.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you said yes, because if you want to talk \Nabout getting more women into leadership roles,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.07,0:03:07.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to be honest about how hard it is.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.21,0:03:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I did. And I think that's a really \Nimportant part of the journey.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.94,0:03:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The same thing happened when I wrote my book. \NI started writing the book. I wrote a first chapter,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.24,0:03:21.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought it was fabulous. It was \Nchock-full of data and figures,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.21,0:03:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had three pages on matrilineal Maasai \Ntribes, and their sociological patterns.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.07,0:03:34.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My husband read it and he was like, this \Nis like eating your Wheaties. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.13,0:03:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No one -- and I apologize to Wheaties if there's \Nsomeone -- no one, no one will read this book.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.50,0:03:45.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized through the process that I \Nhad to be more honest and more open,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.68,0:03:50.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had to tell my stories. My stories of still \Nnot feeling as self-confident as I should,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.43,0:03:56.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in many situations. My first and \Nfailed marriage. Crying at work.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.65,0:04:00.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Felling like I didn't belong there, \Nfeeling guilty to this day.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.32,0:04:04.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And part of my journey, starting on this stage, \Ngoing to "Lean In," going to the foundation,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.71,0:04:08.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is all about being more open and \Nhonest about those challenges,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.60,0:04:10.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that other women can be more open and honest,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.61,0:04:14.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all of us can work together towards real equality.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.24,0:04:17.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: I think that one of the most \Nstriking parts about the book,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.58,0:04:23.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in my opinion, one of the reasons it's hit such \Na nerve and is resonating around the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.45,0:04:29.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that you are personal in the book, \Nand that you do make it clear that,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.23,0:04:33.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while you've observed some things that are \Nvery important for other women to know,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.39,0:04:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you've had the same challenges \Nthat many others of us have,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.95,0:04:44.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as you faced the hurdles and the barriers and \Npossibly the people who don't believe the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.75,0:04:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So talk about that process: deciding \Nyou'd go public with the private part,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.38,0:04:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you would also put yourself in \Nthe position of something of an expert
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.10,0:04:56.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on how to resolve those challenges.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.54,0:04:58.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: After I did the TED Talk, what happened was --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.73,0:05:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, I never really expected to write \Na book, I'm not an author, I'm not a writer,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.47,0:05:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was viewed a lot, and it really \Nstarted impacting people's lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.14,0:05:10.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got this great --- one of the first \Nletters I got was from a woman
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.66,0:05:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who said that she was offered a really big \Npromotion at work, and she turned it down,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.79,0:05:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she told her best friend she turned \Nit down, and her best friend said,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.14,0:05:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you really need to watch this TED Talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.98,0:05:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so she watched this TED Talk, and she \Nwent back the next day, she took the job,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.39,0:05:29.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she went home, and she handed her \Nhusband the grocery list. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.24,0:05:30.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she said, I can do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.83,0:05:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really mattered to me -- it wasn't \Nonly women in the corporate world,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.98,0:05:36.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though I did hear from a lot of \Nthem, and it did impact a lot of them,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.95,0:05:40.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was also people of all different circumstances.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.78,0:05:44.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a doctor I met who was an \Nattending physician at Johns Hopkins,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.53,0:05:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he said that until he saw my TED \NTalk, it never really occurred to him
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.12,0:05:50.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even though half the students in \Nhis med school classes were women,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.50,0:05:53.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they weren't speaking as much as \Nthe men as he did his rounds.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.41,0:05:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So he started paying attention, and as he waited for \Nraised hands, he realized the men's hands were up.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.64,0:06:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So he started encouraging the \Nwomen to raise their hands more,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.92,0:06:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it still didn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.20,0:06:06.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So he told everyone, no more \Nhand raising, I'm cold-calling.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.75,0:06:10.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So he could call evenly on men and women. \NAnd what he proved to himself was that
Dialogue: 0,0:06:10.96,0:06:13.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the women knew the answers just as well or better,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.59,0:06:15.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was able to go back \Nto them and tell them that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.48,0:06:20.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there was the woman, stay-at-home \Nmom, lives in a really difficult neighborhood,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.60,0:06:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with not a great school, she said that TED \NTalk -- she's never had a corporate job,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.63,0:06:30.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that TED Talk inspired her to go to her school \Nand fight for a better teacher for her child.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.41,0:06:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I guess it was part of was finding my own voice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.70,0:06:38.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized that other women and \Nmen could find their voice through it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.75,0:06:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is why I went from the talk to the book.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.47,0:06:47.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: And in the book, you not only found your \Nvoice, which is clear and strong in the book,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.80,0:06:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you also share what you've learned --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.36,0:06:54.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the experiences of other people in the lessons.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.51,0:06:58.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's what I'm thinking about \Nin terms of putting yourself in a --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.69,0:07:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you became a sort of expert in how you lean in.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.64,0:07:08.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what did that feel like, and \Nbecome like in your life?\N
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.03,0:07:14.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To launch not just a book, not just \Na best-selling, best-viewed talk,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.25,0:07:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a movement, where people began to \Nliterally describe their actions at work as,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.09,0:07:22.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm leaning in.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.77,0:07:29.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: I mean, I'm grateful, I'm honored, \NI'm happy, and it's the very beginning.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.99,0:07:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I don't know if I'm an expert, or if anyone is \Nan expert. I certainly have done a lot of research.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.50,0:07:37.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have read every study, I have \Npored over the materials,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.71,0:07:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the lessons are very clear. \NBecause here's what we know:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.34,0:07:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we know is that stereotypes are holding women \Nback from leadership roles all over the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.05,0:07:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's so striking. "Lean In" is very global, \NI've been all over the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.66,0:07:51.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,talking about it, and -- cultures are so different.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.05,0:07:56.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even within our own country, to Japan, \Nto Korea, to China, to Asia, Europe,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:56.04,0:08:00.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're so different. Except for one thing: gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.23,0:08:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All over the world, no matter what our cultures are,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.15,0:08:06.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we think men should be strong, \Nassertive, aggressive, have voice;
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.48,0:08:10.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we think women should speak \Nwhen spoken to, help others.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.100,0:08:14.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now we have, all over the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.70,0:08:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,women are called "bossy." \NThere is a word for "bossy,"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.50,0:08:20.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for little girls, in every language there's one.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.81,0:08:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a word that's pretty much not used for little boys,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.02,0:08:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if a little boy leads, \Nthere's no negative word for it,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.95,0:08:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's expected. But if a little girl leads, she's bossy.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.74,0:08:32.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now I know there aren't a lot of \Nmen here, but bear with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.74,0:08:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're a man, you'll have \Nto represent your gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.27,0:08:40.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please raise your hand if you've been \Ntold you're too aggressive at work.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.83,0:08:46.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) There's always a few, it runs about \Nfive percent. Okay, get ready, gentlemen.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.72,0:08:53.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're a woman, please raise your hand if you've \Never been told you're too aggressive at work.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.28,0:08:56.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) That is what audiences have \Nsaid in every country in the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.89,0:08:59.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's deeply supported by the data.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.76,0:09:04.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, do we think women are more \Naggressive than men? Of course not.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.10,0:09:06.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just that we judge them through a different lens,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.45,0:09:11.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a lot of the character traits that you must \Nexhibit to perform at work, to get results, to lead,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.30,0:09:14.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are ones that we think, in a man, he's a boss,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.16,0:09:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in a woman, she's bossy.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.79,0:09:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the good news about this is that we \Ncan change this by acknowledging it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.87,0:09:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the happiest moments \NI had in this whole journey is,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.26,0:09:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after the book came out, I stood on a stage \Nwith John Chambers, the CEO of Cisco.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.20,0:09:30.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He read the book. He stood on a stage with me, he \Ninvited me in front of his whole management team,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.85,0:09:34.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men and women, and he said, I thought we \Nwere good at this. I thought I was good at this.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.25,0:09:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I read this book, and I \Nrealized that we -- my company --
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.31,0:09:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have called all of our \Nsenior women too aggressive,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.30,0:09:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm standing on this stage, and I'm sorry.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.74,0:09:47.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I want you to know we're \Nnever going to do it again.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.49,0:09:50.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Can we send that to a lot of other \Npeople that we know? (Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.87,0:09:54.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: And so John is doing that because \Nhe believes it's good for his company,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.78,0:09:57.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so this kind of acknowledgement \Nof these biases can change it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.83,0:10:01.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so next time you all see \Nsomeone call a little girl "bossy,"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.48,0:10:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you walk right up to that person, \Nbig smile, and you say,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.02,0:10:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"That little girl's not bossy. That little girl has \Nexecutive leadership skills." (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.56,0:10:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: I know that's what you're telling your daughter. \NSS: Absolutely.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.76,0:10:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: And you did focus in the book -- and \Nthe reason, as you said, in writing it,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.83,0:10:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to create a dialogue about this.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.76,0:10:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, let's just put it out there, \Nface the fact that women are --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.27,0:10:25.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a time when we have more open \Ndoors, and more opportunities --
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.95,0:10:29.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are still not getting to the leadership positions.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.25,0:10:31.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in the months that have come since the book,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.45,0:10:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which "Lean In" focused on that and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.00,0:10:38.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here are some of the challenges that remain, and \Nmany of them we have to own within ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.30,0:10:41.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and look at ourselves. What has changed?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.07,0:10:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you seen changes?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.15,0:10:45.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: Well, there's certainly more \Ndialogue, which is great.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.42,0:10:48.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what really matters to me, \Nand I think all of us, is action.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.46,0:10:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So everywhere I go, CEOs, \Nthey're mostly men, say to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.25,0:10:54.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're costing me so much money
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.87,0:10:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because all the women want to \Nbe paid as much as the men.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.04,0:11:02.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to them I say, I'm not sorry at all. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:11:02.32,0:11:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At all. I mean, the women should \Nbe paid as much as the men.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.56,0:11:08.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everywhere I go, women tell me they ask for raises.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.69,0:11:12.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everywhere I go, women say they're getting \Nbetter relationships with their spouses,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:12.69,0:11:16.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,asking for more help at home, asking for the \Npromotions they should be getting at work,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.67,0:11:19.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and importantly, believing it \Nthemselves. Even little things.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.67,0:11:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the governors of one of the states told me \Nthat he didn't realize that more women were, in fact,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.70,0:11:25.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,literally sitting on the side \Nof the room, which they are,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.93,0:11:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now he made a rule that all the women \Non his staff need to sit at the table.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.42,0:11:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The foundation I started along \Nwith the book "Lean In"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.57,0:11:36.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,helps women, or men, start circles -- small groups,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:36.92,0:11:40.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it can be 10, it can be however many \Nyou want, which meet once a month.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.17,0:11:43.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would have hoped that by now, we'd have \Nabout 500 circles. That would've been great.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.50,0:11:46.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, 500 times roughly 10.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.42,0:11:49.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are over 12,000 circles \Nin 50 countries in the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.65,0:11:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Wow, that's amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.21,0:11:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: And these are people who \Nare meeting every single month.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.28,0:11:56.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I met one of them, I was in Beijing.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.62,0:12:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A group of women, they're all about 29 or 30, \Nthey started the first Lean In circle in Beijing,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.32,0:12:05.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,several of them grew up in very poor, rural China.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:05.31,0:12:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These women are 29, they are told by \Ntheir society that they are "left over,"
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.12,0:12:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they are not yet married,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.14,0:12:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the process of coming together \Nonce a month at a meeting
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.92,0:12:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is helping them define who they are for themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.22,0:12:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What they want in their careers. The \Nkind of partners they want, if at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.55,0:12:25.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I looked at them, we went around \Nand introduced ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.54,0:12:27.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they all said their names \Nand where they're from,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.38,0:12:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I said, I'm Sheryl Sandberg, \Nand this was my dream.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.86,0:12:32.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I kind of just started crying.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:32.70,0:12:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right, which, I admit, I do. Right? \NI've talked about it before.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.46,0:12:42.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the fact that a woman so far away out in \Nthe world, who grew up in a rural village,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.03,0:12:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's being told to marry someone \Nshe doesn't want to marry,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.14,0:12:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can now go meet once a month with \Na group of people and refuse that,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.08,0:12:52.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and find life on her own terms.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.07,0:12:54.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the kind of change we have to hope for.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:54.01,0:12:57.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Have you been surprised by \Nthe global nature of the message?\N
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.56,0:13:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I think when the book first \Ncame out, many people thought,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.86,0:13:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, this is a really important handbook \Nfor young women on their way up.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.62,0:13:08.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need to look at this, anticipate \Nthe barriers, and recognize them,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.93,0:13:11.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,put them out in the open, have the dialogue about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.58,0:13:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that it's really for women who are that. \NDoing that. Pursuing the corporate world.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.70,0:13:21.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet the book is being read, as you \Nsay, in rural and developing countries.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.08,0:13:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What part of that has surprised you, and \Nperhaps led to a new perspective on your part?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.36,0:13:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: The book is about self-confidence, \Nand about equality.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.52,0:13:35.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it turns out, everywhere in the world, \Nwomen need more self-confidence,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.42,0:13:37.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the world tells us we're not equal to men.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.64,0:13:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everywhere in the world, we live in \Na world where the men get "and,"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.05,0:13:42.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and women get "or."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.36,0:13:46.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've never met a man who's been \Nasked how he does it all. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.03,0:13:49.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, I'm going to turn to the men in the audience:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.25,0:13:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please raise your hand if you've \Nbeen asked, how do you do it all?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:52.28,0:13:53.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.73,0:13:55.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men only.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.16,0:14:00.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women, women. Please raise your hand \Nif you've been asked how you do it all?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:00.04,0:14:06.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We assume men can do it all, \Nslash -- have jobs and children.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.40,0:14:08.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We assume women can't, and that's ridiculous,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.17,0:14:11.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the great majority of women everywhere \Nin the world, including the United States,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.75,0:14:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,work full time and have children.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.05,0:14:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think people don't fully understand \Nhow broad the message is.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:19.22,0:14:23.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a circle that's been started \Nfor rescued sex workers in Miami.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.58,0:14:28.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're using "Lean In" to help \Npeople make the transition
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.93,0:14:33.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,back to what would be a fair life, really rescuing \Nthem from their pimps, and using it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.67,0:14:37.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are dress-for-success groups \Nin Texas which are using the book,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.42,0:14:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for women who have never been to college.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.08,0:14:43.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we know there are groups \Nall the way to Ethiopia.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.01,0:14:48.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so these messages of equality -- of how women \Nare told they can't have what men can have --
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.89,0:14:53.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how we assume that leadership is for men, \Nhow we assume that voice is for men,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.12,0:14:56.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these affect all of us, and I \Nthink they are very universal.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.26,0:14:57.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's part of what TEDWomen does.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:57.92,0:15:01.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It unites all of us in a cause we have to believe in,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.71,0:15:05.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is more women, more voice, more equality.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.95,0:15:12.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: If you were invited now to \Nmake another TEDWomen talk,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.74,0:15:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what would you say that is a result \Nof this experience, for you personally,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:18.03,0:15:20.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what you've learned about women, and men,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.65,0:15:24.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as you've made this journey?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:24.33,0:15:27.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: I think I would say -- I tried to say this strongly,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.43,0:15:29.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think I can say it more strongly --
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.89,0:15:33.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to say that the status quo is not enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.29,0:15:36.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That it's not good enough, that it's \Nnot changing quickly enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:36.27,0:15:41.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since I gave my TED Talk and published my book, \Nanother year of data came out from the U.S. Census.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:41.40,0:15:43.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know what we found?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.19,0:15:45.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No movement in the wage gap \Nfor women in the United States.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.96,0:15:48.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seventy-seven cents to the dollar.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.51,0:15:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are a black woman, 64 cents.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.54,0:15:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are a Latina, we're at 54 cents.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.05,0:15:55.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know when the last \Ntime those numbers went up?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.48,0:15:59.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,2002.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.79,0:16:02.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are stagnating, we are \Nstagnating in so many ways.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:02.67,0:16:05.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think we are not really being honest about that,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:05.48,0:16:08.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for so many reasons. It's so \Nhard to talk about gender.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.72,0:16:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We shy away from the word "feminist," \Na word I really think we need to embrace.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.54,0:16:15.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have to get rid of the \Nword bossy and bring back --
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.73,0:16:18.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.89,0:16:23.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I would say in a louder voice, \Nwe need to get rid of the word "bossy"
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.22,0:16:26.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bring back the word "feminist," \Nbecause we need it.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:26.28,0:16:27.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.76,0:16:30.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: And we all need to do a lot more leaning in.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.80,0:16:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: A lot more leaning in.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.00,0:16:33.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,PM: Thank you, Sheryl.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:33.23,0:16:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thanks for leaning in and saying yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.47,0:16:36.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,SS: Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.63,0:16:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)