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Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.35,0:00:17.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I date younger men,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.63,0:00:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,predominantly men in their 20s.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.00,0:00:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I date younger men,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.00,0:00:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have sex with younger men.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.00,0:00:26.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I have sex with younger men
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.00,0:00:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I encounter, very directly and personally,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.00,0:00:33.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the real ramifications of the creeping ubiquity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.00,0:00:36.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of hardcore pornography in our culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.00,0:00:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, in an era where
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.00,0:00:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hardcore porn is more freely
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.00,0:00:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and widely available on the Internet than ever before,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.00,0:00:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and where kids are therefore able to access it
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.00,0:00:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at a younger and younger age than ever before,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.00,0:00:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is an entire generation growing up
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.00,0:00:55.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that believes that what you see in hardcore pornograpy
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.00,0:00:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the way that you have sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.00,0:01:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is particularly exacerbated
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.00,0:01:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we live in a puritanical, double-standards culture
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.00,0:01:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where people believe that a teen abstinence campaign
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.00,0:01:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will actually work,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.00,0:01:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where parents are too embarrassed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.00,0:01:13.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have conversations about sex with their children,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.00,0:01:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and where educational institutions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.00,0:01:19.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are terrified of being politically incorrect
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.00,0:01:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they pick up those conversations.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.00,0:01:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so it's not surprising
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.00,0:01:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that hardcore pornography, de facto,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.00,0:01:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has become sex education.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.00,0:01:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, as a mature, experienced, confident, older woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.00,0:01:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I encounter this
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.00,0:01:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have no problem realizing that a certain amount of reeducation,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.00,0:01:41.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rehabilitation and reorientation has to take place.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.00,0:01:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.00,0:01:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anybody who is offended by sexually explicit language,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.00,0:01:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please cover their ears now,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.00,0:01:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I will raise my hand when you can uncover them.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.00,0:01:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I have no problem
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.00,0:01:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,responding, as I have regularly had to,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.00,0:02:00.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Actually no, thank you very much, I would much rather
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.00,0:02:03.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you did not come on my face."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.00,0:02:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My concern is both with a young guy who believes,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.00,0:02:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because hardcore pornography has taught him,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.00,0:02:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but my concern is particularly with a young girl
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.00,0:02:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whose boyfriend wants to come on her face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.00,0:02:16.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she does not want him to come on her face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.00,0:02:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but hardcore porn has taught her
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.00,0:02:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that all men love coming on women's faces,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.00,0:02:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all women love having their faces come on,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.00,0:02:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and therefore she must let him come on her face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.00,0:02:27.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she must pretend to like it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.00,0:02:32.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.00,0:02:34.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I am launching, at TED today ...
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.00,0:02:38.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am unveiling MakeLoveNotPorn.com.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.00,0:02:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.00,0:02:45.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a website that posts the myths of hardcore porn,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.00,0:02:49.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and balances them with the reality.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.00,0:02:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's important to say, by the way,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.00,0:02:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that this is absolutely not about judgement.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.00,0:02:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not about good and bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.00,0:02:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sex is the area of human experience
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.00,0:03:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that embraces the vastest possible range of proclivities.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.00,0:03:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is also not anti-porn.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.00,0:03:06.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am a fan of hardcore porn;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.00,0:03:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I watch it regularly myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.00,0:03:10.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although my overriding criteria when selecting it
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.00,0:03:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has to be to find something
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.00,0:03:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that does not resemble, overly, open-heart surgery.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.00,0:03:17.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.00,0:03:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But because the porn industry is
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.00,0:03:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,driven by men, funded by men,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.00,0:03:25.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,managed by men, directed by men and targeted at men,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.00,0:03:28.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,porn tends to present one worldview.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.00,0:03:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Porn says, "This is the way it is."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.00,0:03:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I want to say is, "Not necessarily."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.00,0:03:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, please go to MakeLoveNotPorn.com.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.00,0:03:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to ask the TED audience to do two things.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.00,0:03:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be aware this is an issue,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.00,0:03:47.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I would never have realized it if I had not encountered it myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.00,0:03:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And please visit the website.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.00,0:03:52.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please see what you think.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.00,0:03:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.00,0:03:59.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Comment. And please pass it on.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.00,0:04:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please send the link to anybody you think would be intereseted
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.00,0:04:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and use it to start a dialogue.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.00,0:04:12.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Use it to reframe an open, healthy conversation around sex,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.00,0:04:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to help and facilitate
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.00,0:04:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,open, healthy and better sexual relationships. Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.00,0:04:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)