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Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.12,0:00:07.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All right!
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.98,0:00:10.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today, I am going to talk about
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.09,0:00:11.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a worry that I have.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.78,0:00:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is one that I think
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.76,0:00:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of women in \Ntheir 30s and 40s might share.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.10,0:00:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I maybe forgot \Nto accidentally get pregnant.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.90,0:00:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.14,0:00:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, let me break that down \Na little bit, ok ?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.63,0:00:30.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Years ago, when the possibility
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.75,0:00:34.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of me accidentally becoming \Npregnant became a possibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.11,0:00:36.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I took care of business.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.57,0:00:38.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did my research,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.26,0:00:40.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made an appointment way ahead of time,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.89,0:00:42.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I read everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.68,0:00:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was my way. It is still my way.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.86,0:00:49.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can spend three hours researching \Nwhich to flanel sheets to buy,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.50,0:00:53.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I definitely read fine print \Non shampoo bottles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.22,0:00:54.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is my way.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.22,0:00:57.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, of course when the time came, \NI was on top of that.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.65,0:00:58.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was on top of that.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.64,0:01:03.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, of course, I was. \NI have been told for a long time
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.34,0:01:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it was... that having a baby \Ntoo young was bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.86,0:01:11.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having a baby outside of \Nthe committed relationship was bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.97,0:01:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Having a baby without enough\Nfolic acid in my blood was bad.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.11,0:01:18.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I listened to this.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.96,0:01:21.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, I took it very seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.96,0:01:25.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So of course, I was on top \Nof that situation by that time.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.28,0:01:29.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, in my 20's, I had things to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.88,0:01:32.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was busy having a life,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.34,0:01:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was busy having the experiences
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.98,0:01:35.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I needed \Nto get that first internship,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.70,0:01:40.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get that first job, \Nthe second job, then grad school...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.32,0:01:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was learning things,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.47,0:01:45.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was learning about myself, \Nand I dated.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.62,0:01:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I dated great people.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.14,0:01:49.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just nobody that ever \Nmade me feel like
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.06,0:01:51.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was really urgent \Nto have a baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.67,0:01:55.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, here I am, mid 30's.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.67,0:01:57.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have done neat things.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.41,0:01:58.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like who I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.86,0:02:00.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I even almost have Ph.D.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.06,0:02:04.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then I look around,\Nthen I think, Oh!
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.54,0:02:06.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh! So, if I'm going to have a baby,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.40,0:02:08.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is going to need to...\Nthis is gonna need to happen soon.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.42,0:02:12.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there is a lot of fear mongering \Nout there in the media.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.66,0:02:14.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of that is true.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.85,0:02:17.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a greater risk of\Nnot being able to get pregnant
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.98,0:02:19.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after a certain age.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.92,0:02:22.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are risks that \Nyour child might have a problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.07,0:02:26.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a lot of that is actually overblown.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.09,0:02:28.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But knowing that there are some risks,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.95,0:02:32.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'd think that a planner \Nlike myself would have a plan.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.26,0:02:33.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, I don't have a plan.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.78,0:02:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not sure how I feel about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.58,0:02:37.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not even sure \Nwhat a plan would look like.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.04,0:02:38.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would a plan be an Okcupid profile?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.05,0:02:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would the plan be freezing my eggs?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.39,0:02:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Would that be buying a house?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.38,0:02:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am... I really am not sure.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.62,0:02:49.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I know that I am not alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.23,0:02:50.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lots of women are waiting\Nto have children
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.99,0:02:52.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or deciding not to have children.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.52,0:02:55.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 2008,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.08,0:03:00.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the average age for a woman\Nto have her first child was 25.1 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.52,0:03:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In 1970's, it was 21.4.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.02,0:03:07.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was the average age \Nto have her first child.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.21,0:03:13.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also in 1970, only 1 out of 100 women \Nhad a baby past age 35.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.57,0:03:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now it is 1 in 5.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.54,0:03:19.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, this is changing that's \Naffecting a lot of people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.16,0:03:21.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there is a lot of reasons\Nfor this change.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.16,0:03:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, there is a birth control now,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.54,0:03:25.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so women have a lot more control \Nover their fertility.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.76,0:03:30.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We also getting married later \Nand less frequently.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.87,0:03:34.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then a lot of women\Nare also working more,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.32,0:03:36.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we have got issues to think about like
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.88,0:03:38.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we can take the maternity leave,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.07,0:03:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will we lose traction in our jobs,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.74,0:03:43.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lose money in our paychecks, maybe?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.66,0:03:47.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of women are also \Npursuing higher education,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.48,0:03:50.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you spend all that time in training
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.72,0:03:52.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is a different, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.62,0:03:54.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a different question at the end of that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.86,0:03:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do I want to risk my training,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.90,0:04:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the profitability I have, the career \NI worked for, to have a child?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.50,0:04:03.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is a question.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.78,0:04:05.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.01,0:04:07.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these reasons why women \Nmaybe are having children later
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.41,0:04:09.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or deciding not to,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.17,0:04:12.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tap into another debate \Nabout how we support
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.23,0:04:14.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,women with children \Nwho also choose to work.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.30,0:04:16.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there are policies \Nthat work great for that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.49,0:04:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example, maternity leave\Nis really important,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.62,0:04:23.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,flexible schedules are really important,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.17,0:04:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and child care is really important.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.08,0:04:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In some places, these are available.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.24,0:04:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But they're definitely not \Navailable consistently.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.07,0:04:30.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even when they are available,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.73,0:04:34.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they don't necessarily alleviate \Nall the anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.27,0:04:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of trying to "have it all".
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.80,0:04:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, there's this \Ncomplicated set of factors,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.34,0:04:43.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and women are making \Ntheir own decisions about
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.18,0:04:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what to do about this
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.84,0:04:47.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make sense with all this in flux.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.26,0:04:50.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And by the way, young women\Nknow all about the struggles
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.82,0:04:53.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that other women face \Nin having children.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.100,0:04:55.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they maybe \Nmaking decisions based on that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.87,0:04:58.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It makes sense to feel ambivalent about
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.29,0:04:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether you want to have a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.99,0:05:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, amid this complicated \Nset of factors though,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.82,0:05:05.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we see in the media
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.81,0:05:10.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,portrayals of women \Nin their 30's as baby crazy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.76,0:05:12.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is a walking uterus.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.84,0:05:14.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is baby-daddy hunting.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.97,0:05:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Baby panic...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.60,0:05:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for goodness sake, \Npoor Jennifer Aniston!
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.51,0:05:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.90,0:05:23.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're putting this out there
Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.44,0:05:25.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that women in the 30's \Nare baby crazy, or
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.41,0:05:26.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,need to be baby crazy or
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.44,0:05:28.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you partner with a woman in her 30's,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.77,0:05:31.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need to be worried\Nabout her baby crazy.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.47,0:05:34.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, being the researcher that I am,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.45,0:05:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I decided to take a look at
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.80,0:05:38.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what was in literature about \Nhow women like me
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.95,0:05:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feel about their future fertility.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.93,0:05:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What they were thinking about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.38,0:05:43.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How they were feeling about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.34,0:05:45.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.64,0:05:47.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is nothing out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.28,0:05:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no research.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.68,0:05:51.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is plenty of research \Non women experiencing in fertility.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.74,0:05:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, there is nothing on women
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.75,0:05:55.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this biological clock worry place
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.100,0:05:58.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we hear so much about.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.03,0:06:03.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, the whole baby panic thing\Nis totally anecdotal.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.07,0:06:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No research on it.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.89,0:06:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, I decided to change that
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.50,0:06:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I just recently completed\Nmy doctoral dissertation,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.56,0:06:12.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which I got information \Nfrom 600 women
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.75,0:06:15.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between the ages of 25 and 40,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.07,0:06:16.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about their thoughts and feelings,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.99,0:06:21.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how much they were worrying \Nabout this idea of future fertility.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.87,0:06:25.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,25... 600 women who had \Nnever had children so far.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.84,0:06:28.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here is what I found.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.37,0:06:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, women really, really \Nwant to talk about this topic.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.52,0:06:35.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had planned to get \N200 people to participate,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.89,0:06:37.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got that in 12 hours.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.37,0:06:38.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.53,0:06:41.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And ... women just \Nreally wanted to participate.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.49,0:06:43.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not only that they participated\Nfully in the survey,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.55,0:06:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I had open-ended questions \Nat the end
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.56,0:06:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they could elaborate on \Nwhat they were thinking and feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.39,0:06:50.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone filled it out in detail.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.19,0:06:53.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My poor boyfriend helped me \Nread all those, by the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.10,0:06:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what I found is women really,\Nreally want to talk about this.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.46,0:07:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, I am really excited \Nto be talking to them about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.71,0:07:04.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it is really interesting thing \Nthat we need to talk more about.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.55,0:07:07.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Two, I found that women are worrying.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.52,0:07:10.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This worry about future fertility is real.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.75,0:07:12.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, at the moderate level.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.34,0:07:14.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are worrying about it\Nalong with other things like
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.86,0:07:16.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how they are going to pay the bills,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.27,0:07:18.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how they are going \Nto take care of their parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.12,0:07:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's one of many background stressors
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.16,0:07:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we all have.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.84,0:07:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no baby panic.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.29,0:07:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The worriers are at moderate level.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.90,0:07:30.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Third, I found,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.31,0:07:31.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is really interesting,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.71,0:07:35.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I expected that the women\Nwho are worrying the most
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.46,0:07:38.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would be the oldest \Nof those women in my study.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.15,0:07:40.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That would actually increase with age.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.86,0:07:42.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, that's not the case,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.41,0:07:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not the case at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.64,0:07:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, the thing that was \Nmost closely related
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.84,0:07:48.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to high levels of worry \Nabout future fertility
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.04,0:07:50.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a little measure that I put in there
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.24,0:07:52.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about the importance of motherhood:
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.39,0:07:55.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much the women \Nvalued that as an identity;
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.27,0:07:57.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much she wanted that in her future.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.62,0:07:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which it makes sense, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.32,0:08:00.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The women who are worried
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.34,0:08:02.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are the ones who\Nreally care about this topic.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.34,0:08:05.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that was different across the board.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.41,0:08:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, fourth,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.70,0:08:09.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found that high levels of worry \Nabout future fertility
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.98,0:08:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were not necessarily related to \Nclinical depression or clinical anxiety.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:15.02,0:08:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no baby crazy, ok?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.54,0:08:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, yes.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.65,0:08:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Women are worried
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.28,0:08:24.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is an issue that \Nwe need to be talking about
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.06,0:08:26.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not in this myopic, baby panic way.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.92,0:08:29.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But also it's not the same\Nfor every woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.80,0:08:32.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Lots of women \Ndon't want to have kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.19,0:08:34.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that needs to be just ok
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.20,0:08:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as having kids late \Nor having kids early
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.25,0:08:37.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or having kids middle
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.29,0:08:39.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or whatever it is that \Nyou choose for yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.71,0:08:42.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what really matters are
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.98,0:08:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman's personal values
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.42,0:08:45.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how she makes that decision
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.52,0:08:48.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how she feels \Nabout her future fertility.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.69,0:08:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, people are marrying later;
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.10,0:08:52.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're having children later;
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.30,0:08:54.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're making different choices.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.43,0:08:57.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no perfect age to have a baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.92,0:09:01.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And women need not make that decision \Nbased on social pressures.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.55,0:09:02.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is nobody saying:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.67,0:09:03.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"it has to happen by 30."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.75,0:09:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"it has to happen by 35."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.14,0:09:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there shouldn't be.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.82,0:09:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because that is not \Nthe reality for every woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.97,0:09:12.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bottom line is that
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.39,0:09:14.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it'ss not fair to characterize,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.43,0:09:16.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,characterize women as baby crazy.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.99,0:09:18.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to stop doing that.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.60,0:09:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we do that, we devalue \Nthe individual experiences of women
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.88,0:09:26.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we really devalue \Nthe society that we've created
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.27,0:09:29.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that allows people to create \Ntheir lives the way they want.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.05,0:09:30.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which is a great thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.33,0:09:31.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we need to support that
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.61,0:09:33.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,also for women in their 30's.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.97,0:09:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we need to contextualize \Nthis biological clock thing better
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.20,0:09:41.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and stop yelling about our crazy ovaries.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.73,0:09:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to do a better job
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.62,0:09:46.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,supporting people who do parents
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.63,0:09:49.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that it’s not so scary\Nto have a child,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.40,0:09:52.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and is a rational choice for someone \Nwith a great career.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.07,0:09:56.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We definitely need\Nto let up on the baby panic,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.59,0:10:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we need to add this topic \Nto the overall conversation
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.25,0:10:02.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about "women having it all."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.27,0:10:06.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)