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Joe Kowan: I have stage fright.

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I've always had stage fright,

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and not just a little bit,

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it's a big bit.

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And it didn't even matter until I was 27.

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That's when I started writing songs, and even then

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I only played them for myself.

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Just knowing my roommates were in the [br]same house made me uncomfortable.

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But after a couple of years, [br]just writing songs wasn't enough.

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I had all these stories and ideas,[br]and I wanted to share them with people,

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but physiologically, I couldn't do it.

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I had this irrational fear.

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But the more I wrote, and the more I practiced,

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the more I wanted to perform.

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So on the week of my 30th birthday,

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I decided I was going to go to this local open mic,

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and put this fear behind me.

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Well, when I got there, it was packed.

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There were like 20 people there.

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(Laughter)

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And they all looked angry.

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But I took a deep breath, and I signed up to play,

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and I felt pretty good.

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Pretty good, until about 10 minutes before my turn,

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when my whole body rebelled, and [br]this wave of anxiety just washed over me.

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Now, when you experience fear, [br]your sympathetic nervous system kicks in.

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So you have a rush of adrenaline, [br]your heart rate increases,

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your breathing gets faster.

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Next your non-essential systems start [br]to shut down, like digestion. (Laughter)

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So your mouth gets dry, and blood is routed[br]away from your extremities,

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so your fingers don't work anymore.

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Your pupils dilate, your muscles contract,[br]your Spidey sense tingles,

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basically your whole body is trigger-happy.[br](Laughter)

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That condition is not conducive [br]to performing folk music.

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(Laughter)

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I mean, your nervous system is an idiot.

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Really? Two hundred thousand years of human evolution, and it still can't tell the difference

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between a saber tooth tiger and 20 folksingers

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on a Tuesday night open mic?

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(Laughter)

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I have never been more terrified -- until now.

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(Laughter and cheers)

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So then it was my turn,

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and somehow, I get myself onto [br]the stage, I start my song,

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I open my mouth to sing the first line,

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and this completely horrible vibrato --

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you know, when your voice wavers -- [br]comes streaming out.

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And this is not the good kind of vibrato, [br]like an opera singer has,

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this is my whole body just convulsing with fear.

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I mean, it's a nightmare.

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I'm embarrassed, the audience [br]is clearly uncomfortable,

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they're focused on my discomfort.

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It was so bad.

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But that was my first real experience [br]as a solo singer-songwriter.

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And something good did happen --[br]I had the tiniest little glimpse

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of that audience connection that I was hoping for.

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And I wanted more. But I knew [br]I had to get past this nervousness.

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That night I promised myself: [br]I would go back every week

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until I wasn't nervous anymore.

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And I did. I went back every single week,

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and sure enough, week after week,

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it didn't get any better. The same [br]thing happened every week. (Laughter)

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I couldn't shake it.

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And that's when I had an epiphany.

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And I remember it really well, because I [br]don't have a lot of epiphanies. (Laughter)

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All I had to do was write a song [br]that exploits my nervousness.

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That only seems authentic when I have stage fright,

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and the more nervous I was,

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the better the song would be. Easy.

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So I started writing a song about having stage fright.

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First, fessing up to the problem,

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the physical manifestations, how I would feel,

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how the listener might feel.

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And then accounting for things like my shaky voice,

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and I knew I would be singing about a [br]half-octave higher than normal,

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because I was nervous.

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By having a song that explained [br]what was happening to me,

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while it was happening,

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that gave the audience permission to think about it.

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They didn't have to feel bad [br]for me because I was nervous,

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they could experience that with me,

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and we were all one big happy, nervous, [br]uncomfortable family. (Laughter)

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By thinking about my audience, [br]by embracing and exploiting my problem,

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I was able to take something [br]that was blocking my progress,

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and turn it into something that [br]was essential for my success.

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And having the stage fright song let [br]me get past that biggest issue

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right in the beginning of a performance.

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And then I could move on, [br]and play the rest of my songs

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with just a little bit more ease.

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And eventually, over time, I didn't [br]have to play the stage fright song at all.

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Except for when I was really [br]nervous, like now. (Laughter)

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Would it be okay if I played the [br]stage fright song for you?

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(Applause)

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Can I have a sip of water?

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(Music)

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Thank you.

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♫ I'm not joking, you know, ♫

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♫ this stage fright is real. ♫

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♫ And if I'm up here trembling and singing, ♫

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♫ well, you'll know how I feel. ♫

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♫ And the mistake I'd be making, ♫

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♫ the tremolo caused by my whole body shaking. ♫

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♫ As you sit there feeling embarrassed for me, ♫

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♫ well, you don't have to be. ♫

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♫ Well, maybe just a little bit. ♫

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(Laughter)

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♫ And maybe I'll try to imagine [br]you all without clothes. ♫

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♫ But singing in front of all naked strangers[br]scares me more than anyone knows. ♫

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♫ Not to discuss this at length, ♫

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♫ but my body image was never my strength. ♫

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♫ So frankly, I wish that you all would get dressed, ♫

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♫ I mean, you're not even really naked. ♫

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♫ And I'm the one with the problem. ♫

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♫ And you tell me, don't worry [br]so much, you'll be great. ♫

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♫ But I'm the one living with me ♫

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♫ and I know how I get. ♫

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♫ Your advice is gentle but late. ♫

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♫ If not just a bit patronizing. ♫

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♫ And that sarcastic tone doesn't [br]help me when I sing. ♫

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♫ But we shouldn't talk about [br]these things right now, ♫

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♫ really, I'm up on stage, and [br]you're in the crowd. Hi. ♫

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♫ And I'm not making fun of [br]unnurtured, irrational fear, ♫

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♫ and if I wasn't ready to face this, ♫

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♫ I sure as hell wouldn't be here. ♫

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♫ But if I belt one note out clearly, ♫

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♫ you'll know I'm recovering slowly but surely. ♫

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♫ And maybe next week, I'll set my guitar ringin' ♫

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♫ my voice clear as water, and everyone singin'. ♫

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♫ But probably I'll just get up and start groovin', ♫

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♫ my vocal cords movin', ♫

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♫ at speeds slightly faster than sound. ♫

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(Applause)