[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.74,0:00:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad called me \Nfrom Seattle last spring, Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.03,0:00:23.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling me about\Nhis new ground-breaking novel Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.22,0:00:26.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,entitled "Harry Potter goes to college," Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.21,0:00:28.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which would follow \Nthe newly ripened wizard Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.36,0:00:32.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and document his experiences,\Nbut on an American campus. Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.48,0:00:35.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I already know \Nwhat you are thinking: Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.88,0:00:37.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"This guy is crazy." Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.31,0:00:38.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are right. Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.89,0:00:42.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In wilful ignorance, my father planned\Nto completely ignore copyright laws, Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.66,0:00:44.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,steal intellectual property, Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.43,0:00:47.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, most importantly,\Nmake millions in the process. Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.82,0:00:49.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on top of this, on top of tackling Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.68,0:00:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of the most successful series\Nof books of all time, Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.53,0:00:55.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was also in the process\Nof writing two other memoirs, Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.100,0:00:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about something that many \Nof us have experience with, Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.17,0:01:02.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but yet we shy away \Nfrom talking openly about. Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.22,0:01:04.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is mental illness. Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.85,0:01:06.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, my dad is bipolar. Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.99,0:01:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, while we were brainstorming\Nover the phone, Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.39,0:01:13.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the static connecting our voices \Nfrom two seemingly different realities, Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.53,0:01:15.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I once again felt the familiar weight\N Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.98,0:01:18.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that accompanied \Nmy father's bipolarity return as well. Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.85,0:01:24.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I'm obviously totally open\Nto the whole process, Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.14,0:01:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the first time that I was forced\Nto face my father's bipolarity, Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.36,0:01:29.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd barely turned 12 years old. Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.62,0:01:32.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, as this kid, I was confused, Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.88,0:01:35.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because my dad is already a bit manic Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.04,0:01:38.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so, as a 12-year old boy,\NI just thought he was overly excited. Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.89,0:01:42.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I saw him throwing himself\Ninto every facet of human experience, Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.06,0:01:44.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I wanted to jump in there with him. Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.49,0:01:48.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But granted, I wasn't around to experience\Nthe darker side of the mania, Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.59,0:01:52.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the hallucinations and the nights \Nspent in the hospital, Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.11,0:01:54.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was there when it all came down. Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.72,0:01:56.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, let me tell you from experience Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.61,0:01:59.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that depression is immeasurably crippling. Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.75,0:02:03.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The days are hazy in memory, I'll admit, Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.04,0:02:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I do remember a few details clearly: Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.68,0:02:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,coming home to our house \Ncompletely reorganized Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.49,0:02:11.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by my completely unorganized dad, Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.04,0:02:14.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the nights spent with my ear \Npressed to the floor boards Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.13,0:02:17.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to listen to my father \Ncry softly below me, Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.64,0:02:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the fan above me did nothing \Nbut stir the summer heat. Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.99,0:02:27.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hearing your father cry is an act\Nthat kids experience all too rarely. Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.09,0:02:30.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so in my immaturity,\NI was embarrassed and afraid of Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.59,0:02:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot more than just the fact \Nthat my Dad was slowly going crazy. Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.28,0:02:37.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to not only face \Nthe vulnerability in a man Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.80,0:02:41.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who had literally \Nand emotionally raised me, Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.01,0:02:43.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but also confront my own ideas Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.14,0:02:45.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of what I thought it meant \Nto have a mental disorder. Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.30,0:02:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Through this experience, however,\NI've come to learn more about myself Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.60,0:02:54.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the human condition\Nthan I'd ever thought possible. Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.31,0:02:55.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm so grateful for that, Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.73,0:02:58.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially because \Nwhen the inevitable call came Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.04,0:03:01.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to extend my father's journey \Nfor another bout with mania and depression Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.66,0:03:03.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the second time around, Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.16,0:03:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was able to accept my father's condition\Ndespite my own vulnerability. Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.88,0:03:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, the fluidity of mental disorders\Nis what I find so fascinating. Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.42,0:03:15.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But yet at the same time it has prevented\Nthose very same disorders Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.70,0:03:19.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from gaining societal acceptance\Nin the same way that physical illness has. Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.86,0:03:23.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our society is so driven \Naround self-improvement Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.08,0:03:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that sometimes mental illness\Ngets confused with mental weakness. Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.79,0:03:30.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is just not the case. Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.56,0:03:35.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In talking with family and friends,\NI became increasingly frustrated Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.14,0:03:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by how we, as this support network\Njumped to totally ineffective ways Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.20,0:03:43.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of showing our support;\Nand we're all equally guilty. Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.44,0:03:46.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've all said: "Oh, you're so strong. Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.76,0:03:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know you can do it. Just keep \Nyour chin up one day at a time." Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.51,0:03:54.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while I'm a huge advocate \Nof positive thinking, Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.15,0:03:57.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just take a moment and imagine\Nsaying that to a diabetic: Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.39,0:04:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, I love you. You're so strong. Just \Nkeep producing insulin one day at a time." Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.94,0:04:04.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.17,0:04:09.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's laughable. Our current perspective\Nof mental disorders is laughable.\N Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.44,0:04:13.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's not our fault. \NIt's just how we've been raised. Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.66,0:04:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,More importantly, however, our perception\Nof mental illness is skewed Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.94,0:04:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we understand much less about \Nthe mechanisms and treatment Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.32,0:04:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,behind mental disorders \Nthan we do of physical ones. Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.35,0:04:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We just don't understand. Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.48,0:04:29.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this, this is what makes grappling \Nwith a mental disorder perhaps, Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.90,0:04:32.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of the most difficult challenges\Nthat one can experience. Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.84,0:04:36.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because even if you lived \Nin a perfect world, full of perfect people Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.68,0:04:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who fully understood that mental illness\Nis just the same as physical illness, Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.90,0:04:44.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this idea is so ingrained \Ninto our society, Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.21,0:04:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that convincing yourself\Nthat you are not weak, Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.49,0:04:51.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that mental illness is normal,\Nthat you are normal Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.68,0:04:55.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is perhaps one \Nof the most difficult things to do. Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.95,0:04:58.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what can we do? Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.99,0:05:02.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For starters, I want each and every one \Nof you right now to raise your hand, Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.65,0:05:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you know someone closely and personally\Nwho suffers from a mental illness. Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.32,0:05:10.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, take a look around.\NIt's not exactly surprising. Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.54,0:05:13.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I want each and every one \Nof you to realize is that we, Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.90,0:05:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as this massive support network, Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.93,0:05:18.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can do just as much\Nin the way of treatment Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.24,0:05:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we can to change \Nour own perspectives. Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.84,0:05:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, if nothing else, Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.03,0:05:26.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just learning more about what your friend\Nor loved one is suffering with Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.42,0:05:27.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can never hurt. Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.88,0:05:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because for someone who's dealing\Nwith mental illness, even talking openly, Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.62,0:05:36.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,eating right, and exercising can be just\Nas important as medication for treatment. Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.48,0:05:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Again, treatment should be holistic\Nbecause we're talking about Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.75,0:05:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mothers, daughters, fathers, and sons, Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.50,0:05:51.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not just cerebral soup \Nthat is somehow missing an ingredient. Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.67,0:05:55.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The years between 12 \Nand where I'm standing today Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.12,0:05:57.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were spent marking \Nmuch more than just time. Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.59,0:06:00.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In an effort to understand \Nthe drastic change in my father, Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.47,0:06:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I sought high school courses,\NI shadowed psychiatrists, Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.62,0:06:07.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I read articles online;\Nand I learned a ton. Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.06,0:06:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But not everything that I learned\Nwas exactly reassuring. Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.55,0:06:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in order to illustrate this point,\Nlet's briefly extend the analogy Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.94,0:06:18.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between diabetics and those suffering\Nfrom mental illness, just one more time. Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.63,0:06:23.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you were concerned \Nthat you are suffering with diabetes, Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.17,0:06:24.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you walk into a doctor's office Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.76,0:06:26.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you are given\Nmultiple blood work tests, Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.84,0:06:29.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a concrete answer \Nthat varies by only half a percent. Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.97,0:06:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Half a percent. Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.10,0:06:33.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And yet at the same time, Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.58,0:06:38.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I was concerned that I'm dealing \Nwith depression for example, Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.01,0:06:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd walk into that same doctor's office\Nand I'm given what? Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.43,0:06:46.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A questionnaire and a pamphlet. Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.69,0:06:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's 2014 and yet,\Nthis is how we diagnose a disorder Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.76,0:06:53.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that affects \Nmore than 15 million Americans. Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.86,0:06:57.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And our medications \Nlike Prozac, Paxel, and lithium Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.75,0:06:59.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have shown to work for many people. Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.56,0:07:01.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But again, they're grossly inefficient Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.41,0:07:04.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they change the chemistry\Nof the brain as a whole, Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.17,0:07:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as opposed to those specific pathways\Nthat are actually affected. Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.62,0:07:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What we need to do, \Nusing American ingenuity Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.00,0:07:13.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the medical technology \Nthat we do have, Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.40,0:07:16.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is design a new generation of medications Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.02,0:07:20.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that specifically targets those regions\Nthat are affected, in order to get rid of Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.05,0:07:23.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the awful side effects\Nof our current options. Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.54,0:07:25.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Essentially, what I'm trying to say Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.25,0:07:29.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that our perspective and treatment\Nof mental illness should reflect Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.86,0:07:32.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the complexity \Nof those disorders themselves. Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.23,0:07:38.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, there are many things\Nthat can and need to be changed Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.10,0:07:40.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about our mental health care system, Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.25,0:07:44.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the bottom line \Nis that we, as human beings, Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.29,0:07:47.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,owe it to ourselves \Nto be a part of this change. Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.62,0:07:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I've learned one thing, having been \Nraised in a patriarchal society, Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.08,0:07:55.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that there is nothing more weak Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.68,0:07:58.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than telling another man \Nthat you truly love him. Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.64,0:08:00.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And dad, I love you. Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.18,0:08:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe in part that your journey \Nhas made us the men that we are today. Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.75,0:08:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've laughed harder \Nfor all the times spent crying, Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.82,0:08:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,appreciated spring for all the winters, Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.94,0:08:12.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and marveled on mountain tops Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.61,0:08:15.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at all the valleys \Nthat lay below and behind us. Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.89,0:08:21.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Through your precipitous highs\Nand seemingly endless lows, Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.17,0:08:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we've both loved more\Nand been loved more. Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.00,0:08:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All in all, I've just come\Nto the realization Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.94,0:08:31.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the intense beauty that exists\Nin an uneven balance Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.74,0:08:34.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between mania and depression. Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.52,0:08:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So call those people \Nwho you've just raised your hand for. Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.66,0:08:40.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And thank you. Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.15,0:08:42.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.08,0:08:47.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hey, hold on. Come back here. Come here. Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.55,0:08:49.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.49,0:08:55.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's awesome, that was awesome. Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.59,0:08:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)