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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.30,0:00:02.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted to just start\Nby asking everyone a question:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.14,0:00:05.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you are completely comfortable
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.21,0:00:06.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with calling yourselves a leader?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.29,0:00:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've asked that question\Nall across the country,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.58,0:00:12.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everywhere I ask it, no matter where,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.58,0:00:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a huge portion of the audience\Nthat won't put up their hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.14,0:00:18.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I've come to realize\Nthat we have made leadership
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.66,0:00:21.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into something bigger than us;\Nsomething beyond us.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.09,0:00:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've made it about changing the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.99,0:00:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've taken this title of "leader"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.65,0:00:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and treat it as something\Nthat one day we're going to deserve.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.60,0:00:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But to give it to ourselves right now
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.41,0:00:32.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,means a level of arrogance or cockiness\Nthat we're not comfortable with.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.87,0:00:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I worry sometimes\Nthat we spend so much time
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.42,0:00:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,celebrating amazing things\Nthat hardly anybody can do,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.28,0:00:41.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we've convinced ourselves those\Nare the only things worth celebrating.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.85,0:00:44.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We start to devalue the things\Nwe can do every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.28,0:00:46.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We take moments\Nwhere we truly are a leader
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.46,0:00:49.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we don't let ourselves take credit\Nfor it, or feel good about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.99,0:00:52.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been lucky enough\Nover the last 10 years
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.12,0:00:55.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to work with amazing people\Nwho've helped me redefine leadership
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.17,0:00:57.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a way that I think has made me happier.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.22,0:00:58.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With my short time today,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.46,0:01:02.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to share with you the one story\Nthat is probably most responsible
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.15,0:01:03.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for that redefinition.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.34,0:01:05.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to a little school
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.33,0:01:08.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called Mount Allison University\Nin Sackville, New Brunswick.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.17,0:01:10.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on my last day there,\Na girl came up to me and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.85,0:01:12.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I remember the first time I met you."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.02,0:01:16.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she told me a story\Nthat had happened four years earlier.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.17,0:01:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "On the day\Nbefore I started university,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.53,0:01:20.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in the hotel room\Nwith my mom and dad,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.62,0:01:23.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was so scared\Nand so convinced that I couldn't do this,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.51,0:01:26.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I wasn't ready for university,\Nthat I just burst into tears.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.60,0:01:27.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom and dad were amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.96,0:01:31.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were like, "We know you're scared,\Nbut let's just go tomorrow,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.15,0:01:34.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go to the first day, and if at any point\Nyou feel as if you can't do this,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.66,0:01:36.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's fine; tell us,\Nand we'll take you home.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.84,0:01:38.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We love you no matter what.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.26,0:01:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She says, "So I went the next day.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.91,0:01:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was in line for registration,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.42,0:01:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I looked around and just knew\NI couldn't do it; I wasn't ready.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.75,0:01:45.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew I had to quit.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.92,0:01:48.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made that decision\Nand as soon as I made it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.10,0:01:50.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an incredible feeling\Nof peace came over me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.19,0:01:53.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I turned to my mom and dad\Nto tell them we needed to go home,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.29,0:01:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at that moment, you came\Nout of the student union building
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.23,0:01:58.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wearing the stupidest hat\NI've ever seen in my life."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.75,0:01:59.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.77,0:02:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"It was awesome.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.05,0:02:03.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you had a big sign\Npromoting Shinerama," --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.28,0:02:05.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is Students Fighting\NCystic Fibrosis,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.33,0:02:07.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a charity I've worked with for years --
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.22,0:02:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"And you had a bucketful of lollipops.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.06,0:02:11.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You were handing the lollipops out\Nto people in line,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.59,0:02:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and talking about Shinerama.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.96,0:02:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of the sudden, you got to me,\Nand you just stopped.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.12,0:02:18.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you stared. It was creepy."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.29,0:02:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.76,0:02:21.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This girl knows what I'm talking about.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.72,0:02:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.74,0:02:26.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Then you looked at the guy next to me,\Nsmiled, reached into your bucket,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.40,0:02:28.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pulled out a lollipop,\Nheld it out to him and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.88,0:02:32.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'You need to give a lollipop\Nto the beautiful woman next to you.'"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.04,0:02:35.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "I've never seen anyone\Nget more embarrassed faster in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.01,0:02:38.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He turned beet red,\Nhe wouldn't even look at me.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.28,0:02:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He just kind of held\Nthe lollipop out like this."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.65,0:02:41.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.98,0:02:44.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I felt so bad for this dude\Nthat I took the lollipop.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.57,0:02:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As soon as I did, you got\Nthis incredibly severe look on your face,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.79,0:02:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looked at my mom and dad\Nand said, 'Look at that! Look at that!
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.10,0:02:52.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First day away from home,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.52,0:02:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and already she's taking candy\Nfrom a stranger?'"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.05,0:02:57.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.22,0:02:58.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "Everybody lost it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.64,0:03:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Twenty feet in every direction,\Neveryone started to howl.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.35,0:03:04.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know this is cheesy, and I don't know\Nwhy I'm telling you this,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.49,0:03:07.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but in that moment when everyone\Nwas laughing, I knew I shouldn't quit.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.93,0:03:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew I was where I was supposed\Nto be; I knew I was home.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.79,0:03:14.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I haven't spoken to you\Nonce in the four years since that day.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.15,0:03:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I heard that you were leaving,\Nand I had to come and tell you
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.25,0:03:19.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've been an incredibly\Nimportant person in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.85,0:03:21.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to miss you. Good luck."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.68,0:03:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she walks away, and I'm flattened.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.75,0:03:26.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She gets six feet away,\Nturns around, smiles and goes,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.36,0:03:28.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You should probably know this, too:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.12,0:03:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm still dating that guy,\Nfour years later."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.33,0:03:31.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.50,0:03:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A year and a half\Nafter I moved to Toronto,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.00,0:03:35.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got an invitation to their wedding.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.90,0:03:36.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.94,0:03:39.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here's the kicker: I don't remember that.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.96,0:03:41.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have no recollection of that moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.87,0:03:43.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've searched my memory banks,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.34,0:03:46.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that is funny and I should\Nremember doing it and I don't.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.53,0:03:49.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was such an eye-opening,\Ntransformative moment for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.34,0:03:52.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to think that maybe the biggest impact\NI'd ever had on anyone's life,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.66,0:03:56.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a moment that had a woman walk up\Nto a stranger four years later and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.17,0:03:58.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You've been an important\Nperson in my life,"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.35,0:04:00.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a moment that I didn't even remember.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.40,0:04:02.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you guys\Nhave a lollipop moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.48,0:04:04.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a moment where someone\Nsaid or did something
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.58,0:04:07.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you feel fundamentally\Nmade your life better?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.09,0:04:10.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All right. How many of you have told\Nthat person they did it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.49,0:04:11.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.67,0:04:12.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We celebrate birthdays,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.84,0:04:15.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where all you have to do\Nis not die for 365 days --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.54,0:04:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.72,0:04:19.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yet we let people\Nwho have made our lives better
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.03,0:04:20.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,walk around without knowing it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.54,0:04:23.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every single one of you\Nhas been the catalyst
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.08,0:04:24.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a lollipop moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.25,0:04:27.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've made someone's life better\Nby something you said or did.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.30,0:04:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you think you haven't,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.51,0:04:31.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,think of all the hands\Nthat didn't go up when I asked.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.07,0:04:33.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're just one of the people\Nwho hasn't been told.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.48,0:04:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's scary to think of ourselves\Nas that powerful,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.84,0:04:38.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,frightening to think we can matter\Nthat much to other people.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.76,0:04:41.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As long as we make leadership\Nsomething bigger than us,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.45,0:04:43.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as long as we keep leadership beyond us
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.39,0:04:45.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make it about changing the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.18,0:04:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we give ourselves an excuse\Nnot to expect it every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.79,0:04:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from ourselves and from each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.73,0:04:53.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Marianne Williamson said, "Our greatest\Nfear is not that we are inadequate.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.33,0:04:55.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[It] is that we are powerful\Nbeyond measure.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.42,0:04:58.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is our light and not our darkness\Nthat frightens us."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.10,0:05:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My call to action today\Nis that we need to get over our fear
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.32,0:05:04.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of how extraordinarily powerful\Nwe can be in each other's lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.34,0:05:06.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to get over it\Nso we can move beyond it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.62,0:05:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our little brothers and sisters\Nand one day our kids --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.42,0:05:11.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or our kids right now --\Ncan watch and start to value
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.92,0:05:14.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the impact we can have\Non each other's lives,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.10,0:05:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more than money and power\Nand titles and influence.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.71,0:05:19.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to redefine leadership\Nas being about lollipop moments --
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.87,0:05:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many of them we create,\Nhow many we acknowledge,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.43,0:05:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many of them we pay forward\Nand how many we say thank you for.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.64,0:05:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we've made leadership\Nabout changing the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.28,0:05:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there is no world.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.46,0:05:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's only six billion\Nunderstandings of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.65,0:05:34.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you change\None person's understanding of it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.09,0:05:36.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understanding of what they're capable of,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.14,0:05:38.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understanding of how much\Npeople care about them,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.47,0:05:41.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understanding of how powerful\Nan agent for change
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.10,0:05:42.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can be in this world,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.50,0:05:43.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've changed the whole thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.02,0:05:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we can understand\Nleadership like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.56,0:05:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think if we can redefine\Nleadership like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.10,0:05:50.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we can change everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.97,0:05:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's a simple idea,\Nbut I don't think it's a small one.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.76,0:05:56.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to thank you so much\Nfor letting me share it with you today.