WEBVTT 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 ...Right? Be aware of that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So when you're doing it, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 when you're not conscious about it, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 what you're doing is you're grasping it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Your deep insides are saying, "I hate this." 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Very quietly, but "I hate." 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But if you're conscious of it, in that moment, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you look at a famous person, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you look at them from a place of openness. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You have to look at the image, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because the image is where you're storing that information and emotion. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You look, but you're trying to look from a different place 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You're reprogramming it you're restructuring it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You are healing the relationship. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So if you look with that openness to that same image, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 At some point that image will have different meaning for you. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It will not carry the same meaning. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If you look at it in your own body, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if you look at it in your health, probably the same thing 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You know, wherever the cells are in your body 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 producing a kind of disease, like a cancerous cell, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if you look at that, if you're being aware of that in your body 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 aware of yourself, the whole aspect of yourself, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it will begin to give different information to the rest of your body. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And therefore, that information helps begin to restructure 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 your biological conditions. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It is what we believe, how to understand it's going to happen to the body. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Reproduction of cells, like cancerous cells, the same principle. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That's how the cancerous cell knows how to reproduce the cancerous cell. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It will do wonderful thing if it forgets one day. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And it's producing some new cell. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Probably that's what happens if the deep pattern of identity 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it shifts something inside you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It shifts what it brings in the body. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So the principle here is 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the power of openness and awareness is able to change things 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 in our body, able to change the way we identify ourselves, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it's able to change the way we relate to the world, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it's able to change everything. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That's why it's called vision, it's able to cut those things. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So that's a bit of explanation. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Any questions? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm happy to see that many European people are staying up really late. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 They are participating with us. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So any questions? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Do you think that in openness, there's a possibility to maintain curiosity? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Curiosity? Yeah, and there is some degree of curiosity in ourselves. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And there's also curiosity on some survival level, you know 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm curious to know what I need, and so on. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Curiosity has a lot of playfulness, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and you cannot have playfulness 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if you're not open to it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 What we use, what we say, we are serious. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That's what happens in a relationship, when people are very serious 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 in a relationship, that is the beginning of divorce. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [laughs] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 They are curious about each other? Yes. Too curious about each other. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 They are not that curious, they are very open to each other, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 that doesn't mean loyalty and things like that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 There's some sort of sense of openness 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and that brings a lot of playfulness. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I was in a place in a country where people are usually serious, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and I was making a little joke, saying, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "How are you going to be a little more playful here?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So how are you going to be a little more playful? Of course, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 first thing, you kind of have to go inside yourself, wherever this 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 seriousness is stuck. You have to go to that place inside and loosen that up. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You have to feel some confidence. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I think that confidence is clearly a key to be playful. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So if you're confident that you can be a bit more playful, if you're playful you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 can have humor, and you can have curiosity in a good way. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If whatever you're curious about is not showing up, you're curious 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 why it's not showing up! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Rather than feeling pain that it's not showing up. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You're open to every direction. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So yes, I don't think openness prevents anything. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Openness makes life richer not poorer. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Openness is the source of knowledge, more than the knowledge we conceptually know. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 There was a study in Netherlands about these 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 executive people making big decisions about a big company. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The research was based on, did they make a better decision when they're taught alot? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Or did they make a better decision when they didn't think much? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The conclusion was, they made a much better decision when 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 they didn't think much. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So of course, people who think a lot, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 they believe we have to think. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 we have to think to not to think. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But, some sense of these practices call for a direct path. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Direct path means you don't have to think about it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You can just be aware of it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Any other questions? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 We have a group of people in Brazil who we've met with before, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 they're asking, "Please, what do you mean by the essence of sky?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [laughs] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [he repeats the question.] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 First, when I say essence, the sense or meaning of essence is "the truth" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the truth of the sky, the truth of the phenomena, the truth of the mind. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So in some sense, the essence of sky I mean, the truth of the sky. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So what is the truth of the sky? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It's that boundlessness. When I'm gazing the sky and I'm aware 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 of that boundlessness, because the sky is boundless. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 When I'm aware of that, it's something deep. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Psychologically it does something to me inside. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I feel that boundlessness. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But when I'm looking at the sky I have to be aware that that's what I'm feeling. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That's what I'm seeing, that's what I'm experiencing, that's what I'm aware of. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Very often people will not be aware of it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I gave one example where people were doing a sky gazing practice in New Mexico. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Everybody was having this wonderful experience! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But one guy was getting really agitated about it. He looked around, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and it seemed like everyone seems like they were having a good time. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 He's wondering why they're having a good time and he's looking up at the empty sky 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And he said, "What am I supposed to see?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [laughs] 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Well, he's not seeing the essence of the sky. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 He's not seeing the boundlessness of the sky. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 He's expecting some stuff to show up right in front of him, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 what he would desire. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So that's what I mean. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I saw a cartoon in New York Times one time, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 there was this wall street person, and he's in Tibet with all the 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 hiking shoes and all those things, and really getting up in the mountain. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And on top of the mountain he sees a clear vision of himself; 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Not with the hiking shoes. He sees himself with the suit and tie 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and breathless with this pure vision. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, no matter where you go, you might see your impure visions 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you're not even able to see what you're seeing. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You're only seeing what you're wanting to see. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Yeah. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [asking question] This is somewhat related. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Kelly is in Vietnam right now, and she's watching the broadcast. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 She says, "Here in Vietnam I'm more lonely than I was even in the dark retreat 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Everything truly appears to be illusion. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 How can I keep myself connected when there are so few supports?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It seems like she's in a place where she's lacking support. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Sure. Well, you know, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the opportunity for you to be completely open to the 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 lonely person in you. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So that basically means what we were saying earlier when we said, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "It really hurts me. I really feel lonely, I really feel lonely." 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And probably that sense of loneliness, probably everybody feels it. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 At some times we have to go so far away to feel it really strong. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So when you feel it really strong, you have the opportunity to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to know that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And to know that will be fully open to that 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and when you're fully open to that, it will go away. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 When it goes away, the voice saying, "I'm lonely," and the energy 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 bringing a sense of loneliness, and the one who's thinking, "I'm far away," 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or "I'm thinking maybe to move away," 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Out of all those voices and cards and the way you relate to yourself, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 all those somehow are like a cloud. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The way you let them go away is by being fully aware and connect. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Connect with them, so it's like a loving mother sending this love to this 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 napping child. So radiate the love and attention with your open awareness 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to that lonely experience in yourself. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That awareness, when you open to that, it will help. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It will dissolve. And when it dissolves, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you come to a place where you don't feel that loneliness. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So you need to become familiar with that place where you don't feel familiar. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The question is, how do you get to that place where you can feel 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "it's okay." So that's what I was saying earlier that pain body. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The principle is the same. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And we all, right now with the internet, you're not lonely, you know? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Everybody's together. Yes? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 [questioner:] Could you comment on the role of medical diagnosis 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 when one experiences certain aches and pains? Does seeking that 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 diagnostic action from a Western medical practitioner, is that a way of 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 staying attached to the story of the pain rather than being with it 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and allowing it to disappear? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Well, I think in the West, all the doctors are trained to tell some sense of truth. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So people say, "Okay you only have five months to live," or something like that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So if somebody has 5 months to live, do they really need to know that? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I mean, how important is it for a doctor to tell you you have 5 months to live? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 From my point of view, I don't think it's that important. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If you have some suggestion about what you can do to do something, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so somehow the way people... 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 bring this kind of energy, there's a sense of harshness. Maybe not a lack of 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 compassion, but maybe it feels like a lack of compassion and attention 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because there's so much time pressure of so many patients he needs to see 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, the point is, when somebody labels themselves as something, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or "now I am this," I think it's terrible for sure. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So how you don't do that? Again, You have to try to be open. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 If you're not identifying with being something else, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 why do you have to identify with being sick? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You're sick maybe, but you don't have to identify with that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 You know, last moment of breath for a woman, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you can live with full sense of joy, no matter how sick you are 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or how much pain you have, that awareness, that joy, that openness, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it doesn't take away. But again, the point is how we can feel confidence 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to know that is the case. To even attempt to try, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 that have glimpse of experience. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It's true, and people do have those trusts in themselves to not be influenced 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 by those labels. For sure it's a challenge 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 The question is practice.