[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.78,0:00:53.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know I was asked many many times when I was in the front lines of the Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.48,0:00:57.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,--no, when the people in the death trade thought I was a good idea-- Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.96,0:01:04.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come and talk about finding meaning \Nat the end of life. Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.14,0:01:06.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was the standard request. Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.10,0:01:10.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can see the idea that meaning is somehow Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.86,0:01:18.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,potentially elusive or even fugitive and has to somehow be wrung from the circumstances Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.58,0:01:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is behind that question. Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.40,0:01:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a particularly modernist dilemma to find meaning, Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.04,0:01:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the real problem is in the conceiving of it as something you have to find. Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.41,0:01:35.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can hear the language implies that it's hidden, Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.51,0:01:37.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that you're not looking in the right place, Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.53,0:01:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that there's some nefarious architecture that keeps it from you, Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.51,0:01:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or that--you understand-- Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.46,0:01:48.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,--or that you have to just claim so-and-so as your own personal saviour, you know... Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.49,0:01:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what if meaning's not hidden? Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.94,0:01:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if it's not something to find? Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.11,0:02:00.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if that's not the story? Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.74,0:02:07.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What if the story is that meaning is not found at all--that it's made? Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.92,0:02:15.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's made by the willingness to proceed as if certain things must be: Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.72,0:02:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like life has to continue, not "you" have to continue; Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.94,0:02:28.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that life is not your lifespan or your children's lifespan or the lifespan of what you hold dear. Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.10,0:02:33.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How about holding dear the fact that nothing you hold dear lasts? Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.17,0:02:36.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How about holding that close to your bosom? Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.25,0:02:41.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's making meaning of the end of life, the willingness to do that. Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.08,0:02:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not hammered into the sky for all to see so that nobody could forget. Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.98,0:02:50.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see how precarious the whole proposition is, Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.43,0:02:57.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it actually has to be lived out and told\Nin order to pertain. Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.14,0:03:01.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It has no police, it has no enforcement branch, you know... Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.94,0:03:08.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It just, if you're kind of not willing for it to be so, it probably won't be. Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.12,0:03:11.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what's the consequence of that? Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.62,0:03:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, it's not a conjecture. Look around you. Our way of life is the consequence. Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.69,0:03:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Life does not feed life. Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.70,0:03:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Life is on the receiving end of life. Always. Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.50,0:03:31.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, it's death that feeds life. Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.94,0:03:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the end of life that gives life a chance. Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.79,0:03:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a hurtful kind of comfort, maybe, that the dominant culture of North America Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.30,0:03:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is in some kind of beginning stage \Nof a terminal swoon. Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.60,0:03:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it's beginning it's hard to tell the difference between that and dancing, Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.81,0:04:07.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or having a good time, but it's terminal alright, Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.53,0:04:14.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,meaning there's no turning back from it. \NThere's no undoing it. Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.94,0:04:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Alas, it's worse than talking about it as a punishment. Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.38,0:04:27.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not a punishment. No more than dying is a punishment for having been born. Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.78,0:04:33.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our particluar dilemma, I think, \Nis trying to live the realization that Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.34,0:04:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what the world requires of humans is not that they piss off already, Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.44,0:04:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and "why don't you all die and \Nthen we'll go back where we were." Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.58,0:04:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, I think the world whispers, Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.59,0:04:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"All we need of you is that you be human. That's it." Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.86,0:04:55.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The dilemma is in the meaning of the word 'human.' Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.16,0:05:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What has to die is your refusal to die, your refusal for things to end. Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.86,0:05:09.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If that dies, life can be fed by that. Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.65,0:05:14.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so the plea is not for punishment; it's for remembrance. Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.81,0:05:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're not supposed to feel bad about having forgotten; you're supposed to feel more. Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.78,0:05:23.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, that's the invitation.