WEBVTT 00:00:00.935 --> 00:00:03.548 Hey everyone! Happy Tuesday! 00:00:03.731 --> 00:00:06.808 Now today, is Tumblr Tuesday! 00:00:06.808 --> 00:00:08.739 I feel like I should tumble when I say that. 00:00:08.739 --> 00:00:10.829 Like I'm in a gymnastics class or something. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Okay, so, before I get into Tumblr land 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I wanted to let you all know - drumroll - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 that the website is up! The new website! Yay! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And I know that 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 many of you have been asking for this, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and hoping for this. Thank you so much 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 for being patient. The last website - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it's funny because I remember searching through 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 all the website types, and thinking, that will be perfect! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Because we can share love, and give people 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 little extra hearts on their blog posts, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 but then it just got really difficult because 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 how do we ask simple questions? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And what if one of us just has a little question? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And then, how quickly can we get back to one another? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And then [mumbles] , right? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And it was a lot for me to read through 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and make sure there was nothing triggering, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and to approve all those blog posts, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and set pictures to them, and yada yada yada, right? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So the new website is up, and there are forums. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And it's actually 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 - I'm looking at my computer over here - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it's actually a social network site now, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 where you can friend people, and follow people, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and you can update your profile and answer 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 these funny questions I've put in, like 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 what are your favorite hobbies? And things like that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Favorite colors? I don't even know what I put in there. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Chocolate, vanilla, strawberry? What favorite flavor? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So yeah, you kind of create your own profile! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And it will tell you like how much of that is done, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and it's really exciting! So, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if you haven't hopped on my website - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 KatiMorton.com - you can check it out. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And I have opened up the forums. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I am not looking through all of it 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and approving the forums, because 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I want you to have the support 24/7. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And I am not awake 24/7, 'cause then I'd be like a zombie. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, I've opened it up. However, the same rules 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 still apply. And I will check the forums very frequently 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But if you find any triggering information, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 let somebody know. Just say 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "Hey, we don't use numbers on here", or 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "Hey, you know we don't talk like that on this website" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 blah, blah, blah, or if you want to leave it up to me, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you can let me know. And I will be happy 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to message them and let them know 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the rules of the website, because I want to keep it 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a safe and supportive environment like it's been 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and no way will this ever become a pro- 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 unhealthy behavior website, okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So even thought I've opened it up, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the same rules apply. So don't, you know, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 don't break the rules, okay? And, let me see 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if there is anything else. So yeah, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I think that's really it. Give me your feedback, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 let me know if somethings not quite working, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or if you like the way that this is, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or, you know I'm always looking for feedback 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because I'm just getting into this website 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 in the back end, and trying different things out. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, I'm always welcoming the feedback. Okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And, on to Tumblr-land. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Oh, and I got my nails painted today, you see? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I was real excited - I was like - I love purple. Yay! 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, okay - and before I forget actually - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 on the website, you can still blog. I know many of you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 have been like, "Katie, where'd the blog option go?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And in the forums, you'll find my explaination 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 for how you can still blog. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So if you still want to do that, there's a forum about it 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so you can read. And if you have any 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 questions about it, or sturuggles, you can 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 hit me up on Twitter, okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Now the questions, the first question is, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "What's the difference between a setback, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and a relapse?". 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Now, I'm assuming this would differ 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 from person to person, because it's really just 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a definition thing. But a setback would be like 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "Ugh, it was my birthday, and I had two parties to go 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to. So I felt like I binged, and then I purged... 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so I'm feeling really guilty". 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 But then we get back up the next day, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and we get back on track. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 That would be like a setback or a slip-up, or 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 how ever many kinds of words we could use 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to describe that, right? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And then a relapse would be, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 when we go back to the way it used to be. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Like, which we all have felt this - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if you look up the definition - I think it says something 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 like back-sliding, or getting back - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 they talk about it medically, so when the symptoms 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 come back full-force, and I think that applies for 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 eating disorders, self-harm, depression, anxiety, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 if we go back to the way it was, before we got help. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, if we are binging and pruging X-amount of times a day again, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or we are exercising X-amount, or we're 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 sitting in bed all day, and not getting out. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Or, we're finding ourselves overly anxious in public, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so we're not meeting up with our friends... etc. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Does that make sense? So it's kind of all going back. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And then, then the next part - so that was one 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 persons question on Tumblr. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And the next question was 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "how do we get through a relapse?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So that was another one, but I decided to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 mush it together. And, just like what I said 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a relapse is going back to the way it use to be. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 We have to go back to when we first started 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to recover, and use those same tools. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Because all the work we have done - [apologizes] - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 all the work we have done, is a loss. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 It's not lost - it's still there - we just have to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 get back on track, use our tools, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 maybe start on my workbook again 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 task one - which I know you all hate - but, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 get back on there, okay? And start doing that again 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because the same things that helped us before 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 can help us now. And I know it's annoying, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and we're like, "I've already done it". It's like 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 kindergarten or something, and we're like, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "We've already learned this", but we have to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 go back, okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Question number two. This person 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 - I'm not going to share anybody's name 'cause 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 on Tumblr it's usually anonymous, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 or they really want to to keep their privacy, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 but this persons therapist was wanting them 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to give up their scale, and to give it to a friend. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 They are feeling really anxious about it obviously, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because a lot of us folks on the numbers and weight, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and all this calorie in and out, and - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Right? Our eating disorder loves that stuff. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And, she's feeling really anxious, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so she wondered about my thoughts on that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I think giving it to a friend is a great idea 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a lot of times I'll take it from my client for a week, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and give it back. Or give them the option 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to take it back. So, I think that it's a great idea. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I know that it's really anxiety provoking and, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I would encourage you to journal about it a little bit 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and see why you're feeling so anxious, and 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 what does it mean to not be weighed? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 What are you afraid is going to happen? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I can pretty much guess what it is, but sometimes 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 it helps for us to write it out, and then to say, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "Well, what if we can get it back any time?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Like, what it you gave it to your therapist, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and they just said "let me know if you want it back, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and I'll put it in a bag in the waiting room, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and you can come get it.", then how would it feel? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And maybe you should, before giving it to a friend, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 maybe we should just try not weighing ourselves 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 for one day, or one afternoon. It depends on 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 how often you weight yourself, and we'll start 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 weaning off, you know? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, those are my thoughts on that. Your therapist 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 is doing a great job, 'cause that's something I 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 always encourage, you know, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 some kind of version of that, okay? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Number three, someone wanted to know the process 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 of getting a diagnosis. Now, this probably differs 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 from Therapist to Therapist, but I'll just tell you mine. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm going to see you the first time, and I'm going to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 ask you a lot of questions - about your history, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and where you've been before, and if there is 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 another Therapist I should talk to, and, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'd get you to sign a release if that's the case. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'd ask you about medical conditions, and things 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 you struggled with physically that you had to go to 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the hospital for. I'd ask about medications, and 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the list goes on, and on, and on. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And through the course of spending time with you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and having other sessions, I'll ask you about 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 your behaviors, like how many times 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 do you feel depressed? Or how many times do you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 binge and purge? Or how many times do you 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 cut yourself in a day, or week, or month? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And I'll just start asking questions about that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And, I probably see my clients four times - I'm just 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 giving you a rough estimate - unless there's some 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 reason we have to make a diagnosis quicker, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I usually see them for about a month, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 before I feel confident enough to give them 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a diagnosis. And then, I usually will jot in my notes 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 what I'm ruling out. Like, to rule out major depressive 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 disorder, or bulimia, or binging disorder 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 - whatever it is I'm looking at - 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 borderline personality disorder. And then I'll start 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 weeding them out, so that it doesn't quite meet 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 criteria for this, it's more apt to meet that. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And so that's how I do it. So think of it 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 as a funnel - I'm taking all of this information 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 and I'm getting it down to what I think is actually 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 the struggle and the issue. But in the meantime, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 I'm also creating a treatment plan based on 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 all those possibilities, so I like doing that 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 because it gives a more well rounded treatment plan, 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 so it's not just one thing that we're focusing on 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 - even if it is one diagnosis, we have 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 a lot of stuff going on, you know? 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 So, that's just a little snippet about how that works. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 Okay, on to number four. 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 "What do you do, if someone threatens 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 to kill themselves, if you tell their parents?" 99:59:59.999 --> 99:59:59.999 And I know that this comes from someone on Twitter,