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Hey everyone! Happy Tuesday!

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Now today, is Tumblr Tuesday!

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I feel like I should tumble when I say that.

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Like I'm in a gymnastics class or something.

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Okay, so, before I get into Tumblr land

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I wanted to let you all know - drumroll -

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that the website is up! The new website! Yay!

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And I know that

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many of you have been asking for this,

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and hoping for this. Thank you so much

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for being patient. The last website -

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it's funny because I remember searching through

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all the website types, and thinking, that will be perfect!

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Because we can share love, and give people

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little extra hearts on their blog posts,

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but then it just got really difficult because

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how do we ask simple questions?

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And what if one of us just has a little question?

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And then, how quickly can we get back to one another?

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And then [mumbles] , right?

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And it was a lot for me to read through

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and make sure there was nothing triggering,

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and to approve all those blog posts,

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and set pictures to them, and yada yada yada, right?

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So the new website is up, and there are forums.

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And it's actually

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- I'm looking at my computer over here -

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it's actually a social network site now,

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where you can friend people, and follow people,

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and you can update your profile and answer

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these funny questions I've put in, like

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what are your favorite hobbies? And things like that.

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Favorite colors? I don't even know what I put in there.

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Chocolate, vanilla, strawberry? What favorite flavor?

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So yeah, you kind of create your own profile!

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And it will tell you like how much of that is done,

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and it's really exciting! So,

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if you haven't hopped on my website -

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KatiMorton.com - you can check it out.

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And I have opened up the forums.

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I am not looking through all of it

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and approving the forums, because

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I want you to have the support 24/7.

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And I am not awake 24/7, 'cause then I'd be like a zombie.

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So, I've opened it up. However, the same rules

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still apply. And I will check the forums very frequently

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But if you find any triggering information,

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let somebody know. Just say

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"Hey, we don't use numbers on here", or

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"Hey, you know we don't talk like that on this website"

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blah, blah, blah, or if you want to leave it up to me,

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you can let me know. And I will be happy

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to message them and let them know

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the rules of the website, because I want to keep it

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a safe and supportive environment like it's been

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and no way will this ever become a pro-

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unhealthy behavior website, okay?

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So even thought I've opened it up,

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the same rules apply. So don't, you know,

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don't break the rules, okay? And, let me see

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if there is anything else. So yeah,

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I think that's really it. Give me your feedback,

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let me know if somethings not quite working,

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or if you like the way that this is,

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or, you know I'm always looking for feedback

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because I'm just getting into this website

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in the back end, and trying different things out.

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So, I'm always welcoming the feedback. Okay?

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And, on to Tumblr-land.

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Oh, and I got my nails painted today, you see?

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I was real excited - I was like - I love purple. Yay!

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So, okay - and before I forget actually -

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on the website, you can still blog. I know many of you

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have been like, "Katie, where'd the blog option go?"

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And in the forums, you'll find my explaination

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for how you can still blog.

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So if you still want to do that, there's a forum about it

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so you can read. And if you have any

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questions about it, or sturuggles, you can

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hit me up on Twitter, okay?

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Now the questions, the first question is,

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"What's the difference between a setback,

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and a relapse?".

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Now, I'm assuming this would differ

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from person to person, because it's really just

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a definition thing. But a setback would be like

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"Ugh, it was my birthday, and I had two parties to go

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to. So I felt like I binged, and then I purged...

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so I'm feeling really guilty".

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But then we get back up the next day,

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and we get back on track.

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That would be like a setback or a slip-up, or

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how ever many kinds of words we could use

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to describe that, right?

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And then a relapse would be,

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when we go back to the way it used to be.

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Like, which we all have felt this -

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if you look up the definition - I think it says something

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like back-sliding, or getting back -

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they talk about it medically, so when the symptoms

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come back full-force, and I think that applies for

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eating disorders, self-harm, depression, anxiety,

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if we go back to the way it was, before we got help.

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So, if we are binging and pruging X-amount of times a day again,

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or we are exercising X-amount, or we're

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sitting in bed all day, and not getting out.

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Or, we're finding ourselves overly anxious in public,

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so we're not meeting up with our friends... etc.

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Does that make sense? So it's kind of all going back.

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And then, then the next part - so that was one

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persons question on Tumblr.

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And the next question was

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"how do we get through a relapse?"

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So that was another one, but I decided to

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mush it together. And, just like what I said

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a relapse is going back to the way it use to be.

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We have to go back to when we first started

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to recover, and use those same tools.

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Because all the work we have done - [apologizes] -

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all the work we have done, is a loss.

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It's not lost - it's still there - we just have to

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get back on track, use our tools,

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maybe start on my workbook again

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task one - which I know you all hate - but,

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get back on there, okay? And start doing that again

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because the same things that helped us before

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can help us now. And I know it's annoying,

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and we're like, "I've already done it". It's like

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kindergarten or something, and we're like,

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"We've already learned this", but we have to

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go back, okay?

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Question number two. This person

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- I'm not going to share anybody's name 'cause

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on Tumblr it's usually anonymous,

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or they really want to to keep their privacy,

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but this persons therapist was wanting them

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to give up their scale, and to give it to a friend.

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They are feeling really anxious about it obviously,

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because a lot of us folks on the numbers and weight,

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and all this calorie in and out, and -

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Right? Our eating disorder loves that stuff.

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And, she's feeling really anxious,

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so she wondered about my thoughts on that.

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I think giving it to a friend is a great idea

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a lot of times I'll take it from my client for a week,

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and give it back. Or give them the option

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to take it back. So, I think that it's a great idea.

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I know that it's really anxiety provoking and,

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I would encourage you to journal about it a little bit

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and see why you're feeling so anxious, and

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what does it mean to not be weighed?

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What are you afraid is going to happen?

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I can pretty much guess what it is, but sometimes

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it helps for us to write it out, and then to say,

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"Well, what if we can get it back any time?"

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Like, what it you gave it to your therapist,

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and they just said "let me know if you want it back,

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and I'll put it in a bag in the waiting room,

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and you can come get it.", then how would it feel?

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And maybe you should, before giving it to a friend,

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maybe we should just try not weighing ourselves

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for one day, or one afternoon. It depends on

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how often you weight yourself, and we'll start

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weaning off, you know?

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So, those are my thoughts on that. Your therapist

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is doing a great job, 'cause that's something I

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always encourage, you know,

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some kind of version of that, okay?

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Number three, someone wanted to know the process

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of getting a diagnosis. Now, this probably differs

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from Therapist to Therapist, but I'll just tell you mine.

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I'm going to see you the first time, and I'm going to

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ask you a lot of questions - about your history,

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and where you've been before, and if there is

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another Therapist I should talk to, and,

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I'd get you to sign a release if that's the case.

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I'd ask you about medical conditions, and things

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you struggled with physically that you had to go to

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the hospital for. I'd ask about medications, and

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the list goes on, and on, and on.

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And through the course of spending time with you

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and having other sessions, I'll ask you about

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your behaviors, like how many times

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do you feel depressed? Or how many times do you

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binge and purge? Or how many times do you

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cut yourself in a day, or week, or month?

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And I'll just start asking questions about that.

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And, I probably see my clients four times - I'm just

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giving you a rough estimate - unless there's some

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reason we have to make a diagnosis quicker,

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I usually see them for about a month,

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before I feel confident enough to give them

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a diagnosis. And then, I usually will jot in my notes

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what I'm ruling out. Like, to rule out major depressive

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disorder, or bulimia, or binging disorder

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borderline personality disorder. And then I'll start

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weeding them out, so that it doesn't quite meet

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criteria for this, it's more apt to meet that.

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And so that's how I do it. So think of it

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as a funnel - I'm taking all of this information

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and I'm getting it down to what I think is actually

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the struggle and the issue. But in the meantime,

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I'm also creating a treatment plan based on

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all those possibilities, so I like doing that

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because it gives a more well rounded treatment plan,

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so it's not just one thing that we're focusing on

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- even if it is one diagnosis, we have

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a lot of stuff going on, you know?

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So, that's just a little snippet about how that works.

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Okay, on to number four.

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"What do you do, if someone threatens

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to kill themselves, if you tell their parents?"

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And I know that this comes from someone on Twitter,