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Men juda bir mehribon

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egizak akam bilan voyaga yetganman.

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Egizak bo'lishning bir tomoni bor,

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u sizni favoritizmni 
aniqlashda ekspert qiladi.

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Agar uning shirinligi menikidan 
zig’ircha kattaroq bo’ldimi,

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menda savollar tug’ilardi.

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Rostini aytganda, qornim to’q edi.

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(Kulgu)

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Psixolog bo'lganimda esa
favoritizmning boshqa bir turiga

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guvoh bo’la boshladim;

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bu ham bo’lsa, ongimizdan ko’ra 
tanamizni nechog'lik ko’proq qadrlashimiz.

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Psixologiyada doktorlik himoyasi uchun
oliygohga umrimning sakkiz yili ketti.

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Qanchadan qancha odamlar 
tashrif qog’ozimga qarab,

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“Iye, psixologmisiz, men sizni shifokor
debman,” deganlari menga qorong’u,

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go'yo vizitkada shunday yozilsin.

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[Dr Gay Uinch, shunchaki psixolog
(haqiqiy shifokor emas)]

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(Kulgu)

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Tanani ongdan ustun qo’yishdan 
iborat bunday favoritizmga --

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har yerda duch kelaman.

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Yaqinda do’stimning xonadonida edim

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ularning besh yosh farzandi 
uyquga hozirlanayotgandi.

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U rakovina oldidagi kursiga 
chiqib olib, tishlarini yuvayotgandi,

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yiqilib tushdi-yu, oyog’ini o’zi yiqilgan 
kursida jarohatlab oldi.

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Bir daqiqacha yig’ladi, biroq keyin 
o’rnidan turib,

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jarohati uchun malhamlar solingan 
quttini olish ilinjida

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kursiga yana chiqdi.

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Qarang, bu bolakay poyabzal ipini 
arang bog’lay olsa ham,

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yallig’lanmasligi uchun jarohatni 
bog’lab qo’yishingiz kerakligi va kuniga

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ikki marta tishlaringiz ozodaligini 
saqlashingiz lozimligini biladi.

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Hammamiz qanday qilib tanamiz 
sog’ligini saqlash va tishlar

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gigiyenasiga amal qilishni bilamiz, 
to'g'rimi?

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Bularni besh yasharligimizdan 
buyon bilamiz.

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Ammo psixologik salomatligimizni 
saqlash borasida nimalarni bilamiz?

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Aytarli hech narsa.

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Hissiy gigiyena haqida 
farzandlarimizga nimani o’rgatamiz?

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Hech narsa.

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Qanday qilib ongimizdan ko’ra 
tishlarimizga g’amxo’rlik qilish uchun

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ko’proq vaqt sarflashimiz mumkin?

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Nega tanamiz salomatligi 
ruhiy salomatligimizdan

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ko'ra o'ta muhimroq?

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Mag’lubiyat yoki rad etilish, yolg’izlik
kabi jarohatlarga, ruhiy jarohatlarimizga

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tana jarohatlarimizga
qaraganchalik qaramaymiz.

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Agar e’tibor bermasak, ularning 
ahvoli ham tanglashishi

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va hayotimizni butkul o’zgartirib 
yuborishi mumkin.

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Buku mayli, bunday ruhiy 
yaralarni davolashda foydalanishimiz

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mumkin bo’lgan ilmiy isbotlagan usullar 
bo’lishiga qaramay,

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g'aflatdamiz.

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Buning zarurligi xayolimizga 
ham kelmaydi.

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"Tushkunlikdamisiz? Qo'ying, 
siqilmang; Bularning bari boshingizda,"

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Oyog’i singan biror kimsaga 
shunday deb ko'ringchi?:

51
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"Shunchaki yurib keting; Buning 
boisi oyog’ingizda."

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(Kulgu)

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Jismoniy va ruhiy salomatlik 


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o’rtasidagi bo’shliqqa yakun 
yasashning vaqti yetdi.

55
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Ularning mavqeyini xuddi egizaklarnikidek

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tenglashtirish vaqti keldi.

57
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Ha, aytgancha akam ham psixolog.

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Shunday ekan, u ham shifokor emas.

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(Kulgu)

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Shunday bo’lsa-da, biz birga o’qimadik.

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Aslida hayotimdagi eng og’ir 
narsa psixologiya yo’nalishida

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doktorlik unvoniga ega bo’lish 
uchun Atlantika bo’ylab

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Nyu Yorkka ko’chib kelish edi.

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Ana shunda umrimizda ilk bor
bir-birimizdan yiroqda edik,

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va ayriliqdan har ikkimiz ozor chekdik.

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Ammo, u oila va do’stlar davrasida 
qolgan,

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men esa begona yurtda yolg’iz edim.

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Bir-birimizni juda qumsadik, lekin

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o’shanda xalqaro telefon 
qo’ng’iroqlari nihoyatda qimmat edi.

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va biz bor-yog'i haftada bir marta
5 daqiqa gaplashishga qurbimiz yetardi.

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Tug’ilgan kunlarimiz yaqinlashdi

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bu ilk bor bir-birimizdan 
yiroqda nishonlashimiz edi.

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Pulni ayamay ishlatishga,

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va bu hafta 10 daqiqa 
gaplashishga kelishdik.

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(Kulgu)

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Tongni uning qo’ng’irog'iga intiq 
xonam bo'ylab yurish bilan o'tkazdim --

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kutaverdim ...

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kutaverdim.

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Ammo telefon jiringlamadi.

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Vaqt hisobidagi farqdan “Hoynahoy, u

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do’stlari bilan, salroq qilar” degan 
fikr keldi.

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U paytda mobil telefonlar yo'q.

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Lekin u qilmadi.

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10 oydan oshiq vaqt uzoqda 
bo’lganimdan so’ng, men uni

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sog’inganchalik sog’inmay qo’yganini 
anglay boshladim.

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Tongda qo’ng’iroq qilishini bilardim,

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ammo o’sha tun umrimdagi eng 
qayg’uli va uzoq tunlardan biri bo’ldi.

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Ertasi kuni uyg’ondim.

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Telefonga qarab, go’shakni

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kechagi tun o'zim bilan olib yurib 
telefonga

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ildirib qo’ymaganimni angladim.

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Karovatimdan qoqilib tushib,

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go’shakni telefonga qaytib 
qo’ydim va sekund o'tib, u jiringladi.

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U akam edi,

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u mendan nihoyatda qizishgandi,

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(Kulgu)

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Bu ham uning hayotidagi eng 
qayg’uli va uzoq tunlardan biri edi.

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O’tgan voqealarni 
tushuntirishga tushdim, u esa

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"Tushunmayapman.

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Agar senga qilmaganimni ko’rib tursang,

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nega go’shakni olib, menga 
qo’ng’iroq qilmading?

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U haq edi.

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Nega unga qo’ng’iroq qilmadim?

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o'shanda savolga javobim yo’q edi

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Biroq bugun bor,

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u ham bo’lsa soddagina:

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yolg’izlik.

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Yolg’izlik idrokimizni yanglishtiruvchi 
va fikrlarimiz

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shaffofligiga barham beruvchi chuqur 
ruhiy jarohatni yaratadi.

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U atrofimizdagi insonlar aslida 
unchalik qayg’urmasligiga ishontiradi.

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U insonlarga qo’shilishdan 
qattiq qo’rqitadi,

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chunki qalbingiz allaqachon 
chidamgizdan chandon og’rib turganda,

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nega o'zingizni rad javobi va qalb 
og’rig’iga tutqazasiz?

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O’sha damlarda men chinakam 
yolg’izlik og’ushida, ammo har kuni

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odamlar orasida edim, shu sababdan 
bu sira xayolimga kelmagan.

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Ammo yolg’izlikni har kim o’zicha 
talqin qiladi.

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U siz atrofdagilardan hissiy yoki 
jamoaviy ayro his etishingizgagina

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bog’liq.

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Men yolg’iz edim.

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Yolg’izlik borasida ko’plab tadqiqotlar 
mavjud va ularning bari daxshatli.

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Yolg'izlik ayanchli ahvolgagina solmaydi.

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U sizni o’ldiradi.

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Bu hazil emas.

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Surunkali yolg’izlik erta o’lim 
xavfi ehtimolini

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14 foizga ko’paytiradi.

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O’n to’rt foiz!

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Yolg’izlik qon bosimi va xolesterinning

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oshishiga olib keladi.

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U hatto immun tizimingiz 
faoliyatini susaytirib,

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barcha turdagi kasallik va 
xastaliklarga chalinish xatarini oshiradi.

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Darhaqiqat, olimlar surunkali 
yolg’izlikning

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inson salomatligi va umr ko’rish yoshiga

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xuddi tamaki chekish kabi halokatli

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ekanligini aniqlashgan.

135
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Tamaki quttilarida ogohlantiruvchi yozuv 
bor “Chekish insonni o’ldiradi.”

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Ammo yolg’izlikda yo’q.

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Va aynan shuning uchun ruhiy

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salomatligimizni eng oldinga qo’yish, 
hissiy-emotsional

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gigiyenaga amal qilish shunchalik muhim.

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Negaki agarda siz hatto 
yaralanganligingizni bilmasangiz,

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ruhiy jarohatingizni tuzata olmaysiz.

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Idrokimizni yanglishtirib, bizni 
chalg’itadigan

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jarohat faqatgina yolg’izlik emas.

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Bu mag’lubiyatning ham ishidir.

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Bir kuni bolalar bog’chasiga borib,

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bir xil plastik o’yinchoqlar bilan 
o’ynayotgan uch go’dakka ko’zim tushdi.

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Qizil tugmani sursangiz, undan 
yoqimtoy kuchukcha chiqib kelardi.

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Bir qizaloq siyoh rangli tugmani 
tortishga, so’ngra itarishga urindi,

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va undan so’ng qaytib o’tirdi 
va quttiga pastki labi

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titragancha qarab qoldi.

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Uning yonida o’tirgan bolakay 
bu jarayonga guvoh bo’lib,

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quttisiga qayrilib qaradi va unga qo’lini 
ham tekizmay, yig’lab yubordi.

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Bu orada boshqa bir qizaloq qizil 
tugmani surmagunicha xayoliga kelgan

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hamma narsani qilib ko’rdi,

155
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yoqimtoy kuchukcha chiqdi-yu, 
u quvonchdan qiqirlab kuldi.

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Xullas: uch go’dak sira farq 
qilmaydigan plastik o’yinchoqlar bilan,

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ammo mag’lubiyatga turlicha munosabatda.

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Birinchi ikki go'dakda qizil tugmani 
surish imkoniyatlari yetarlicha edi.

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Ularni bu ishni uddalashdan 
to'xtatgan yagona narsa,

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ularning onggi bu ishni eplay 
olmaslik aldoviga chuv tushirdi.

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Kattalar ham bu aldovga chuv tushadilar.

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Darhaqiqat, har gal xafagarchilik 
va omadsizliklarga duch kelganimizda

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eshik qoqmay bostirib keladigan 
his va qarashlar hammamizda bor.

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Ongingizning mag'lubiyatga 
munosabatidan xabardormisiz?

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Boxabar bo'lish kerak.

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Chunki ongingiz sizni biror narsada
noqobilligingizga ishontirmoqchi bo'lsa

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va siz bunga ishonsangiz,

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u holda xuddi o'sha ikki go'dak 
kabi o'zingizni ilojsiz his eta

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boshlaysiz va osongina chekinasiz yoki 
butkul qo'l urmaysiz.

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Undan so'ng muvaffaqiyat qozona
olmasligingizga to'la ishonasiz.

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Shu sabab ko'plab insonlar o'z
imkoniyatlaridan to'la foydalana olmaydi.

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Yo'lning qaysidir bir manzilida ba'zida 
birgina mag'lubiyat g'alaba

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qozona olmasliklariga ishontirgan va 
ular bunga chuv tushishgan.

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Biror narsaga ishonsak, fikrlarimizni 
o'zgartirish juda qiyin kechadi.

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Akam bilan o'smirlik chog'imizda 
bu saboqni kech angladim.

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Militsiya mashinasi to'xtatganida, 
tunda og'aynilar bilan mashinada

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qorong'u yo'ldan borardik.

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O'sha atrofda o'g'irlik bo'lgan va 
ular gumondor shaxslarni izlayotgandi.

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Militsiya xodimi mashinaga yaqiniga 
kelib, fonarini haydovchiga tutdi,

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so’ng mashina oldida o'tirgan akamga

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va oxirida menga.

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Ko'zlari katta ochildi-yu, shunday dedi,

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"Yuzingizni oldin qayerda ko'rganman?"

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(Kulgu)

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Men

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"Old o'rindiqda." dedim.

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(Kulgu)

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U zig’ircha tushunmadi, ana endi u meni

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narkotik qabul qilgan deb o’yladi.

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(Kulgu)

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U meni mashinadan chiqarib olib, 
tintuv qildi,

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militsiya mashinasi oldiga yetaklab,

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jinoyatchilik tarixim yo’qligini 
tasdiqlagandan keyingina

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old o’rindiqda egizak akam borligini 
ko’rsata oldim.

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Ammo ketar mahalimiz ham,

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uning yuz ifodasidan men 
nimadandir qochib ketayotganimga

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aminligi yaqqol ko’rinardi.

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(Kulgu)

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Bir narsaga ishonganimizdan 
so’ng ongizmizni o’zgartirish mushkul.

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Shu sababli omadingiz chopmaganidan 
so’ng tushkunlik

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va mag’lubiyatni his qilish tabiiy.

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Lekin omadingiz chopmasligiga o’zingizni 
ishontirishga izn bera olmaysiz.

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Nochorlik hislariga qarshi 
kurashishingiz lozim.

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Vaziyatni o’z qo’lingizga 
olishingiz kerak.

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Bunday salbiy hislar girdobiga 
aslo tushib

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qolmasligingiz darkor.

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[Hissiy qon ketishini to’xtating]

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Fikrlarimiz va hislarimiz –

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ular biz o’ylaganimiz kabi sodiq 
do’stlar emas.

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Ular ko’proq kayfiyati 
tez ayniydigan do’stlarga

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o’xshaydilar, bir qarasangiz sizni 
ko’klarga ko’taradi, so'ng o’ta sovuqqon.

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Qachonlardir 20 yillik turmushidan 
so’ng oilaviy munosabatlari achinarli

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yakun topgan bir ayol bilan ishlagandim,

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nihoyat ilk uchrashuvga 
yuragi betlagandi.

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o’sha inson bilan onlayn tanishgan,

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u yaxshigina, muvaffaqiyatli ko’rindi,

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va eng asosiysi, uning ayolda ko’ngli
borligi sezildi.

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U juda hayajonda edi, 
yangi liboslar sotib oldi,

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shu tariqa ular Nyu York ichimliklar 
barida uchrashdilar.

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Uchrashuvga o’n daqiqa yetar-yetmas, 
erkak o’rnidan turib, dedi

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“Menga yoqmadingiz," va tark etdi.

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Rad etilish nihoyatda og’riqli kechadi.

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Ayol shunchalar iztirobda ediki, 
qilt etmadi.

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Qo’lidan kelgani do’stiga qo’ng’iroq

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qilish bo’ldi, xolos. Do’sti esa 
shunday dedi: "Xo’sh, nimani kutganding?

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Beling beso’naqay, aytishga 
arzirli aytarli hech narsang yo’q.

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Nega endi uningdek 
kelishgan, muvaffaqiyatli inson

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senga o’xshash betayinga qaylig’ bo’lsin?"

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Daxshat, to’g’rimi, do’st ham 
shunchalar bag’ritosh bo’ladimi?

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Ammo bu so’zlarni aytgan inson emasligini

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aytganimda bunchalik 
hayratga tushmasdingiz.

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Bu so’zlarni ayol o’ziga aytgandi.

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Va bu holat barchamizga tanish,

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ayniqsa mag’lubiyatdan so’ng.

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Barcha xatolarimiz va bor 
kamchiliklarimiz, bo’lsam qani edi,

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bo’lmasam qani edilarni 
o’ylay boshlaymiz.

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O’zimizga laqablar to’qiymiz

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Unchalik darajada bo’lmasa-da, 
hammamiz qo’l uramiz.

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Shunday qilishimiz qiziq, chunki

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o’z-o’zimizga beriladigan baho 
allaqachon aziyat chekyapti.

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Nega endi davom etib, 
yanayam parchalash kerak?

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Tanamizni ataylab jarohatlamaymiz-ku?

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Qo’lingizni kesib, "To’xtab tur! 
– Qo’limga pichoqni tiqib,

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qanchalik ichkariroq kirishim 
mumkinligiga qarab ko’raman." demasdingiz.

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Ammo buni ruhiy jarohatlarimizga 
har doim ravo ko’ramiz.

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Nega? Zaif hissiy gigiyenamiz tufayli.

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Negaki ruhiy salomatligimizni 
eng oldinga qo’ymaymiz.

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O’zingizga beriladigan baho pasayganda, 
stress va bezovtalikka berilish

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xatari kuchayishi, mag’lubiyat va 
rad etilishlar yanada og’riqli

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kechishi va ulardan o'nglanish uzoq vaqt

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talab qilishini o’nlab tadqiqotlardan 
bilamiz.

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Shu bois rad etilganingizda, 
birinchi qilishingiz kerak bo’lgan ish

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Jang klubiga qo’shilish va kimgadir musht

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tushurish emas, o’zingizga beriladigan 
bahoni tiklashdir.

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Hissiy iztirob chekkaningizda,

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chinakam sodiq do’stdan kutiladigan

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mehr bilan o’zingizni siylang.

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[O’zingizga bo'lgan bahoni himoyalang]

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Nosog’lom psixologik odatlarimizni 
payqab, ularni o’zgartirishimiz lozim.

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Va bularning ichida eng nosog’lomi 
shilqim fikrlar deb nomlanadi.

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Shilqim fikrlar tin olmay o’ylayverishdir.

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Rahbaringiz sizga o’shqirib berdi

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yoki auditoriyada professor sizni 
ahmoqqa chiqardi,

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yo do’stingiz bilan qattiq urushdingiz

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va bu manzara xayolingizdan 
bir necha kunlab o’chmasligi,

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ba’zida haftalab davom etishidir.

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Ko’ngilsiz voqealar to’g’risida bu 
yo’sinda o’ylayverish osongina odatga

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aylanishi mumkin va bu sizga

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qimmatga tushadi, chunki noxush va 
salbiy hislarga uzoq vaqt berilish

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natijasida o’zingizni klinik 
depressiya, alkogolizm, ovqat

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buzulishlari va hatto yurak va

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qon-tomir kasalliklari

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vujudga kelish xatarini

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birmuncha oshirasiz.

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Muammo shundaki,

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shilqim firlarga berilish ehtiyojdek va 
o’ta zarurdek tuyilishi mumkin,

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shu bois bu odatdan voz kechish mushkul.

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Ishonch bilan aytishimga sabab

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bir yilcha avval bu odatni 
o’zimda rivojlantirdim.

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Egizak akamga 3-darajali
Xodginning limfomasi tashxisi qo’yildi.

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Undagi saraton nihoyatda shafqatsiz edi.

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O’simtalar uning butun tanasi 
bo’ylab tarqalgandi.

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Va u og’ir kimyoterapiyani boshlashi 
kerak edi.

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Uning kechinmalari haqida 
o’ylashdan o’zimni tiyolmasdim.

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U ahvolidan sira nolimagan,
atigi bir martayam, ammo uning

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nechog’lik azob tortayotgani 
haqidagi fikr meni tinch qo'ymasdi.

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Unda g’aroyib ijobiy munosabat bor edi.

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Uning ruhiy sog'ligi havas qilarli edi.

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Men jismonan sog’lom, ammo ruhiy 
jihatdan yaroqsiz holda edim.

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Lek nima qilishni bilardim

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Tadqiqotlarning ko’rsatishicha, bor-yog’i 
ikki daqiqaga o’zingizni chalg’tish o'sha

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daqiqadayoq shilqim fikrlardan qutulish
chun yetarli

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Va har gal menda tashvishlanarli, 
dilni xufton qiluvchi salbiy fikrlar paydo

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bo’lsa, boshqa narsaga diqqat 
qaratishga tirishdim.

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Bir haftadayoq, mening barcha 
qarashlarim o’zgardi

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va yanada ijobiy, umidga to'la inson 
bo'la boshladim.

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[Salbiy fikrlarga qarshi kurashing]

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Kimyoterapiyadan to’qqiz hafta o’tib, 
akam kompyuter tomografiyasidan o’tdi,

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natijalarini qo’liga olganda, uning 
oldida edim.

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Barcha o’simtalar g’oyib bo’lgan.

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U yana uch kimyoterapiyani bardosh 
berishi kerak edi,

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ammo tuzalishini bilardi.

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Bu sur’at uch hafta oldin olingan.

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Yolg’izligingizda biror chora ko’rish,

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mag’lubiyatga bo’lgan 
munosabatingizni o’zgartirish,

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o’zingizga bo’lgan bahoni avaylash,

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salbiy fikrlashga qarshi kurashish orqali

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ruhiy jarohatingizni tuzatibgina 
qolmaysiz,

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balki ruhiy chidamlilikni yaratasiz,

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o’sa boshlaysiz.

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Bundan yuz yil muqaddam, odamlar 
shaxsiy gigiyenaga amal qila boshlaganlar

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va umr ko’rish yoshi bor-yog’I bir asr 
ichida

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50 foizdan ortiq o’sgan.

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Agar barchamiz hissiy gigiyenaga 
amal qilsak, turmushimiz

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sifati ham xuddi shunday 
o’sishiga aminman.

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Hamma ruhiy sog’lomroq bo’lgan 
sayyora

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ko'rinishini tasavvur qila olasizmi?

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Yolg’izlik va depressiya kamroq
bo’lganida? Odamlar

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qanday qilib mag’lubiyatni 
yengishni bilganlarida?

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O’zi tog’risida iliqroq hislarni tuyganda 
va yengilmas his etganda?

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Baxtliroq va qanoatliroq bo’lganlarida?

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Men tasavvur qila olaman, chunki 
bu men yashashni istaydigan dunyo.

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Akam ham shunday dunyoda 
umrguzaronlik qilishni istaydi.

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Kerakli ma'lumotlarga ega bo'lib bir ikki 
oddiy odatlarni o’zgartirsangiz, xo'sh --

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bunday sayyorada hammamiz yashay olamiz.

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Katta rahmat.

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(Qarsaklar)