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Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text
Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.58,0:00:02.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to talk to you today
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.85,0:00:07.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about a whole new way to think\Nabout sexual activity
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.04,0:00:11.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sexuality education, by comparison.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.11,0:00:13.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you talk to someone today in America
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.78,0:00:15.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.60,0:00:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll find pretty soon\Nyou're not just talking
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.25,0:00:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.91,0:00:23.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're also talking about baseball.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.95,0:00:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because baseball is the dominant\Ncultural metaphor
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.19,0:00:30.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that Americans use to think about
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.70,0:00:33.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and talk about sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.55,0:00:35.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we know that because there's
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.10,0:00:37.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all this language in English
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.68,0:00:40.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that seems to be talking about baseball
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.63,0:00:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that's really talking\Nabout sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.49,0:00:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, for example, you can\Nbe a pitcher or a catcher,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.69,0:00:49.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that corresponds to whether you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.62,0:00:53.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,perform a sexual act\Nor receive a sexual act.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.38,0:00:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, there are the bases,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.39,0:00:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which refer to specific sexual activities
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.61,0:01:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that happen in a very specific order,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.82,0:01:03.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ultimately resulting in scoring a run
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.60,0:01:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or hitting a home run,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.60,0:01:06.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is usually having\Nvaginal intercourse
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.91,0:01:08.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the point of orgasm,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.62,0:01:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least for the guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.02,0:01:12.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.95,0:01:14.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can strike out, which means
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.45,0:01:16.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't get to have any sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.93,0:01:18.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you're a benchwarmer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.29,0:01:20.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you might be a virgin or somebody who for
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.70,0:01:22.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whatever reason isn't in the game,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.95,0:01:26.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe because of your age\Nor because of your ability
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.12,0:01:29.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or because of your skillset.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.16,0:01:30.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A bat's a penis,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.78,0:01:34.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a nappy dugout\Nis a vulva, or a vagina.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.85,0:01:37.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A glove or a catcher's mitt is a condom.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.96,0:01:40.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A switch-hitter is a bisexual person,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.88,0:01:44.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we gay and lesbian folks\Nplay for the other team.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.57,0:01:47.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there's this one:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.17,0:01:51.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"if there's grass\Non the field, play ball."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.19,0:01:53.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that usually refers to
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.60,0:01:56.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if a young person, specifically\Noften a young woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.95,0:01:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is old enough to have pubic hair,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.68,0:02:01.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's old enough to have sex with.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.41,0:02:04.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This baseball model\Nis incredibly problematic.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.39,0:02:06.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's sexist. It's heterosexist.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.74,0:02:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's competitive. It's goal-directed.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.12,0:02:11.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it can't result in healthy sexuality
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.90,0:02:14.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,developing in young people or in adults.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.95,0:02:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we need a new model.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.67,0:02:19.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm here today to offer\Nyou that new model.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.23,0:02:20.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's based on
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.01,0:02:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.83,0:02:26.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now pizza is something\Nthat is universally understood
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.28,0:02:29.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that most people associate\Nwith a positive experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.18,0:02:30.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's do this.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.16,0:02:33.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's take baseball\Nand pizza and compare it
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.13,0:02:36.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when talking about three aspects\Nof sexual activity:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.57,0:02:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the trigger for sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.22,0:02:40.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens during sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.44,0:02:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the expected outcome\Nof sexual activity.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.59,0:02:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when do you play baseball?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.40,0:02:48.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You play baseball when\Nit's baseball season
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.84,0:02:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when there's a game on the schedule.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.12,0:02:53.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not exactly your choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.43,0:02:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if it's prom night or a wedding night
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.33,0:02:59.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or at a party or if our parents\Naren't home,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.40,0:03:02.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hey, it's just batter up.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.13,0:03:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine saying to your coach,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.92,0:03:06.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uh, I'm not really feeling it today,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.42,0:03:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I'll sit this game out."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.48,0:03:10.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's just not the way it happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.58,0:03:12.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you get together\Nto play baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.65,0:03:15.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,immediately you're\Nwith two opposing teams,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.10,0:03:17.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one playing offense, one playing defense,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.43,0:03:20.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somebody's trying to move\Ndeeper into the field.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.22,0:03:22.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's usually a sign to the boy.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.16,0:03:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Somebody's trying to defend\Npeople moving into the field.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.19,0:03:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's often given to the girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.42,0:03:28.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's competitive.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.46,0:03:30.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're not playing with each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.25,0:03:31.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're playing against each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.65,0:03:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you show up to play baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.59,0:03:36.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nobody needs to talk\Nabout what we're going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.13,0:03:38.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or how this baseball game\Nmight be good for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.67,0:03:39.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody knows the rules.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.93,0:03:44.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just take your position\Nand play the game.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.31,0:03:46.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when do you have pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.67,0:03:50.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, you have pizza when\Nyou're hungry for pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.92,0:03:54.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It starts with an internal sense,\Nan internal desire, or a need.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.01,0:03:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Huh. I could go for some pizza."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.68,0:04:00.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.94,0:04:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And because it's an internal desire,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.92,0:04:06.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we actually have some sense\Nof control over that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.27,0:04:07.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could decide that I'm hungry
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.83,0:04:11.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but know that it's not\Na great time to eat.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.36,0:04:13.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then when we get together\Nwith someone for pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.02,0:04:16.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're not competing with them,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.87,0:04:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're looking for an experience
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.37,0:04:19.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that both of us will share
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.66,0:04:21.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's satisfying for both of us,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.63,0:04:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you get together\Nfor pizza with somebody,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:24.64,0:04:26.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's the first thing you do?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.18,0:04:28.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.10,0:04:29.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about what you want.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.64,0:04:31.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You talk about what you like.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.13,0:04:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may even negotiate it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.68,0:04:35.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"How do you feel\Nabout pepperoni?" (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.45,0:04:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Not so much, I'm kind\Nof a mushroom guy myself."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.08,0:04:40.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, maybe we can go half and half."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.15,0:04:42.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even if you've had pizza with somebody
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.17,0:04:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for a very long time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.21,0:04:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't you still say things like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.27,0:04:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Should we get the usual?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.26,0:04:50.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.42,0:04:54.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Or maybe something\Na little more adventurous?"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.18,0:04:55.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so when you're playing baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.02,0:04:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so if we talk\Nabout during sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.13,0:04:59.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're playing baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.54,0:05:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're just supposed to round the bases
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.07,0:05:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the proper order one at a time.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.55,0:05:06.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can't hit the ball\Nand run to right field.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.76,0:05:07.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.98,0:05:10.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you also can't get\Nto second base and say,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.30,0:05:14.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I like it here. I'm going to stay here."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.70,0:05:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.12,0:05:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And also, of course,\Nwith baseball, there's, like,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.53,0:05:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the specific equipment\Nand a specific skill set.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.03,0:05:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not everybody can play baseball.\NIt's pretty exclusive.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.65,0:05:26.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, but what about pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.31,0:05:28.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we're trying to figure\Nout what's good for pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.91,0:05:31.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't it all about what's our pleasure?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.59,0:05:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a million different\Nkinds of pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.32,0:05:35.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a million different toppings.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.11,0:05:37.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a million different\Nways to eat pizza.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.41,0:05:40.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And none of them are wrong.\NThey're different.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.36,0:05:42.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in this case, difference is good,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.81,0:05:44.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that's going\Nto increase the chance
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.88,0:05:47.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we're having a satisfying experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.47,0:05:50.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And lastly, what's the expected\Noutcome of baseball?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.43,0:05:54.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, in baseball, you play to win.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.12,0:05:56.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You score as many runs as you can.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.66,0:05:58.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's always a winner in baseball,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.64,0:06:02.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that means there's always\Na loser in baseball.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.07,0:06:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what about pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.72,0:06:05.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, in pizza, we're not really --
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.93,0:06:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's no winning. How do you win pizza?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.60,0:06:12.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't. But you do look for,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.86,0:06:14.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Are we satisfied?"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.58,0:06:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes that can\Nbe different amounts
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.65,0:06:18.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,over different times\Nor with different people
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.82,0:06:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or on different days.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.73,0:06:23.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we get to decide\Nwhen we feel satisfied.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.86,0:06:26.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we're still hungry,\Nwe might have some more.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.70,0:06:28.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you eat too much, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.24,0:06:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just feel gross.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.14,0:06:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:32.55,0:06:35.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what if we could take this pizza model
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.24,0:06:38.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and overlay it on top\Nof sexuality education?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.61,0:06:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of sexuality education\Nthat happens today
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.15,0:06:44.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is so influenced by the baseball model,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.58,0:06:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it sets up education that can't help
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.37,0:06:52.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but produce unhealthy\Nsexuality in young people.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.10,0:06:54.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those young people\Nbecome older people.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.36,0:06:57.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if we could create sexuality education
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.82,0:07:00.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was more like pizza,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.17,0:07:03.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we could create education\Nthat invites people
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.62,0:07:05.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to think about their own desires,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.92,0:07:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make deliberate decisions\Nabout what they want,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.17,0:07:11.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk about it with their partners,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.80,0:07:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to ultimately look for
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.47,0:07:16.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not some external outcome
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.62,0:07:19.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for what feels satisfying,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:19.77,0:07:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we get to decide that.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.29,0:07:23.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may have noticed
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.05,0:07:25.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the baseball and pizza comparison,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.93,0:07:28.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,under the baseball, it's all commands.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.77,0:07:30.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're all exclamation points.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.87,0:07:33.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But under the pizza\Nmodel, they're questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.94,0:07:35.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And who gets to answer those questions?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.82,0:07:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do. I do.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.48,0:07:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So remember, when we're thinking about
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.38,0:07:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sexuality education and sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.13,0:07:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,baseball, you're out.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.32,0:07:49.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pizza is the way to think about healthy,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.55,0:07:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,satisfying sexual activity,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.99,0:07:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and good, comprehensive\Nsexuality education.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.93,0:07:57.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much for your time.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.16,0:08:01.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)