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I never met my biological father.

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My mother had a relationship with someone

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and then never told me who this guy was.

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And when you're a youngster[br]you start to imagine.

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You watch Star Wars[br]and think you're Luke Skywalker,

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and that at any moment

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Darth Vader is going to come[br]and take you to the dark side.

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I thought, "Dude, [br]I wonder who my father is?"

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My cousins started some stories[br]that my father was an adventurous diver

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who died before I was born.

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Then I discovered my mother[br]was a friend of Falcão of Inter team.

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So I said, "Bro, he's my father.

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My father is Falcão of Inter, dude."

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And someday I'll be[br]Cristina Ranzolin's godson.

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(Laughter)

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And then I thought,

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"Wow, I could be[br]Eike Batista's son, couldn't I?"

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The richest guy. Not now,[br]but when he was very rich.

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I thought, "Dude, he could be my father.

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This guy could just appear[br]from nowhere and say,

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"Piangers, I'm your father[br]and now you're a billionaire."

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And I, "Yes, daddy, I love you!"

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(Laughter)

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And in March this year,

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March of 2015, my mother[br]discovered a cancer...

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of the uterus...

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and...

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she decided to tell me who my father is.

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And my father is not Eike Batista.

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(Soft laughter)

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My father is just a guy,

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just a guy.

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A guy she had a relationship with,

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got pregnant and I was born.

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This is the most[br]common story in the world,

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the most common story in Brazil:

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children born without their fathers.

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My mother was my father,

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and this is a shame

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because she raised me very well.

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But it's a shame that a woman[br]assumes all the responsibility

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of being a father, mother, grandmother;

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in brief, teacher, [br]and everything at the same time.

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It's a shame for the kid,

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because the kid grows up a bit insecure.

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And for some time

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I was somewhat aggressive[br]in what I said or what I did

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because I was feeling this insecurity.

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And finally, it's a shame for the father,

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because he doesn't know what he's lost.

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He doesn't know what he loses.

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Each guy that abandons a pregnant woman,

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doesn't know what he's losing, bro.

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Because having a child...

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I don't know how it is to have a father,[br]but I know how it is to have a child.

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And it's the best thing in the world.

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I have two daughters,

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and sometimes I wake up[br]with one of them calling, "Daddy!"

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And it's like the sun was by my side

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lighting me up, keeping me warm.

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Each hug from a three-year-old child

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saves you money with a psychologist[br]or psychiatrist a few years from now.

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(Laughter)

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When you walk holding hands[br]with your 10-year-old daughter

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and she's telling you stories,

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you feel like the luckiest person [br]in the world.

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And this is what those guys[br]who abandon pregnant women lose.

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A series of stories, dude.

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And a series of emotional,[br]funny, interesting moments.

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And more and more, I see that fathers

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are more concerned about being[br]more present, more loving, more attentive.

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And it seems to me[br]that we live in a Zeitgeist,

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a moment when fathers[br]are more participative, dude.

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The fathers want these little stories,[br]they want to wake up near their children,

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they want to take them to nursery school,[br]they want to enjoy these little stories.

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And I think we're getting to a point[br]that we're the best fathers in history.

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Back in the 80s, 70s, [br]do you remember what fathers were like?

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Fathers were like mobsters, you know?

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You'd be playing with Lego in the [br]living room when dad arrives, "Ah!"

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You mother would say, "Daddy's here!"

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And you'd run, everyone hiding,[br]pretending to be asleep.

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"Oh, I think he didn't see me!"

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It was terrifying!

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But now, our children[br]wake us up with a kick,

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"Dad, wake up!"

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And we say, "Ah, son, I love you!"

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(Laughter)

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Because we love that,[br]we love being a father.

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And this is amazing!

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We're always blaming ourselves,

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"I'm a bad father. I don't know[br]if I chose the right school."

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"I don't know if my son eats well."

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But you remember how it was in the 80s?

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Our mother used to give us[br]powdered juice and biscuits for lunch.

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I'd ride in the back with no seat belt.

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Today my daughters have a child car seat[br]which I swiftly change when they're seven.

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I used to ride in the trunk of a Fiat 147.

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Did you too?

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Our fathers weren't worried, dude.

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We're the best,

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the best generation of fathers is here.

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The most attentive fathers,[br]who pay more attention,

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who observe these stories.

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Because I started to observe these stories

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ever since the day my first daughter[br]was born back in 2005.

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People would say, "Oh, it's love[br]at first sight, it's a magical moment."

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It is not, dude. It's like "Alien."

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It's a baby coming out[br]of your wife's belly,

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your wife's all broken,[br]that baby full of blood.

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People said to me,

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"You're going to fall in love,[br]like love at first sight."

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No, dude, it's terrifying.

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The first night my wife[br]breastfed from one side to the other,

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one side to the other side.

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She couldn't take any more[br]and slept, and I took over.

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I called the nurse and said,[br]"For God's sake, help me!"

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And the nurse said,[br]"No, dude, now it's up to you."

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(Laughter)

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This moment was supposed to be romantic[br]because people say it's romantic.

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And I started to write about it.

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"I didn't think it was romantic."

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The first time my daughters[br]started to talk and tell stories,

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my five-year-old said she wanted to marry.

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I said, "Why so soon?"

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She said, "I also want[br]to boss someone around!"

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(Laughter)

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Once we were walking in the mall[br]and I pointed out Santa Claus,

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"Look, Santa Claus!"

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She said, "Dad, it's not Santa Claus,[br]it's a guy dressed like Santa Claus."

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(Laughter)

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My second daughter was born[br]and she's totally the opposite.

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The first one is super cerebral,[br]the second is super festive.

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She believes in fairies,[br]rabbits, Santa Claus,

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in the Big Bad Wolf.

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If I'll tell her I'm the bad wolf[br]she'll scream.

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(Laughter)

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"No, I'm your dad."

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"Oh, thank goodness, dad,[br]the big bad wolf was right here."

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(Laughter)

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And I kept writing these stories[br]because being a father is amazing.

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And these texts went on the Internet,

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and began to reach more than[br]a million people each week.

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And then we turned this into a book

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called "O Papai é Pop."

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And then we launched this book.

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I was expecting to sell like 300 copies.

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Apparently, the book found an audience

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among these fathers[br]who didn't abandon pregnant women.

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These fathers who decided to be fathers.

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Who decided to participate[br]in the biggest mission of being human:

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which is to raise another person, man.

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And these fathers read the books,

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are touched by them[br]and share their stories.

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This is my payment, dude.

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This is what feeds my soul today:

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fathers telling how good[br]it is to be a father,

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and fathers who abandoned their children

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and now converse with them[br]because of the book.

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And mothers who have raised[br]their children alone

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and now listen to these stories,[br]and see themselves in my mother,

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and share them and create[br]a community of people

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that help each other[br]throughout parenthood,

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and in the raising of these amazing[br]people that change our lives.

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And the book was one[br]of the best-sellers in Brazil.

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I was on TV and became friends[br]with Henri Castelli, you know?

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(Laughter)

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To me, that was the most[br]bizarre thing in the world.

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And the book sold over 50 thousand copies,

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and that generates money.

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And all the money we give back

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to kids in socially fragile situations,

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to kids in need of money.

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My daughters are fine.

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I have my job, I write my stories,

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I manage to pay their school.

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The money from the book[br]will go to the kids,

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because my payment[br]are the stories that people share.

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My daughters don't need[br]any more money,

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I don't need more money.

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My daughters and I need[br]a fairer world for them.

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We need a world where women[br]are paid the same as men,

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where they aren't harassed,

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where their intimacy [br]doesn't leak on the Internet.

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We need a world where[br]my daughters won’t go through

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what my mother went through,

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when men simply abandon pregnant women[br]saying, "You're on your own."

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Yesterday I said to my daughter.

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"I want a world where you’re paid [br]the same as men, Anita."

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And she said, "No, dad.[br]I want to earn much more!"

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(Laughter)

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The two stories I hear[br]the most at book launches

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are first: "I was also a single mother,"[br]or "My mother raised me by herself."

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The most common story in Brazil,

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one of the most[br]common stories in the world.

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And the second story I hear the most:

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"My father was awesome, I love my father."

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Thank you very much.

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(Applause)