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Dialogue: 0,0:00:01.94,0:00:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ MUSIC... ]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.65,0:00:15.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ Leah ] I don't want to ever have sex with anyone, but another chronically ill or disabled person ever again.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.52,0:00:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I'm just so into like the crip lust moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.36,0:00:21.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just like, oh god, it's such a relief.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.71,0:00:28.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Loving and having really good sex \Nin a very broadly defined way
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.92,0:00:31.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with another disabled or chronically ill person
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.68,0:00:35.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you're lusting towards each other \Nin a sexual fashion.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.97,0:00:42.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ Ellery ] Leah and I have both been writing down all, a lot of our crip sex moments
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.59,0:00:44.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ Leah ] The first thing that comes to my mind
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.08,0:00:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when like, my lover at the time and me were at this like queer club night
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.98,0:00:50.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they like threw me up against the wall \Nand we were making out
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.55,0:00:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we both lost our balance at the same time
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.71,0:00:55.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we totally fell over on to the ground
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.29,0:00:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on to the ass of my best friend who had been hit by a car a year ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.46,0:00:59.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so then she fell over.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.66,0:01:03.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we're all on the floor in this writhing mass of disabled bodies
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.19,0:01:04.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was really great. [ {\i1}Laughing{\i0} ]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.90,0:01:09.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] I've had a disability for 14 years \Nand I've dated a lot of people [ *both laughing* ].
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.86,0:01:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been in...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.34,0:01:13.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, I've had a lot of primary partners,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.21,0:01:16.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but none of them have lasted more than like 2 years or so.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.81,0:01:21.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, in between there's been a lot of like dating of different kinds of people,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.12,0:01:25.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've dated a lot of different people with disabilities...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.22,0:01:27.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like... and really, really different disabilities than me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.81,0:01:28.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I've never...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.69,0:01:31.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well, ok, once I dated someone who was also an amputee.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.29,0:01:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so when I think of crip sex, I think about things like sex...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.70,0:01:39.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The sex can sometimes be the same, it's really not that different;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.84,0:01:42.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then sometimes it can be really, really different.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.54,0:01:48.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like... you don't feel in your body \Nfrom here all the way down your entire body,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.85,0:01:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you have a catheter and a leg bag with urine in it and that's in the bed with us.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.65,0:01:58.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Um, and, oh I kiss you in the elevator and oops,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.54,0:02:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the force of me kissing you knocks you over in your wheelchair,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.29,0:02:07.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you're on the ground and then we have to figure out how to transfer you back in to your wheelchair.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.64,0:02:08.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like all that kind of stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.90,0:02:14.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there's the parts where \NI have like a new partner and they're not disabled,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.21,0:02:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I've dated a lot of people who aren't disabled,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.84,0:02:20.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, y'know, it's like \Nthey don't know how my legs work
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.81,0:02:25.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have to explain how my legs work \Nbecause my legs come off.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.11,0:02:27.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Um, and usually that's not a big deal.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.16,0:02:35.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's only been like, I feel like I've only really dated one person who wasn't really comfortable with my disability, you know.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.88,0:02:42.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was like um, *oh, hospitals, they just make me feel uncomfortable; I just don't like them.*
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.21,0:02:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was like, wow, I've spent a lot of time in hospitals,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.84,0:02:47.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're kind of my home away from home
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.79,0:02:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just because I've had to spend so much time in them \Nfor my own appointments and stuff.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.42,0:02:53.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I was like, *that's cool,*
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.95,0:02:55.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,*I think we're just in a really different place.*
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.82,0:02:57.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She also bicycled a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.55,0:03:00.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and like would go on like these 40 mile bike trips \Nand I just couldn't relate.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.45,0:03:02.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] You were really compatible [ {\i1}joking{\i0} ].
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.02,0:03:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] yeah, we were incompatible [ {\i1}laughing{\i0} ].
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.98,0:03:08.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But like, on the other hand, like... \NI'm dating someone right now who bikes a lot,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.72,0:03:14.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we've had really cool conversations about how that whole bicycling culture can be really alienating
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.66,0:03:16.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're super awesome about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.38,0:03:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And like, they don't feel bad \Nwhen we drive around in my truck,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.74,0:03:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a lot of people have car guilt.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.24,0:03:27.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, I don't know, when you have a \Nmobility related disability,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.12,0:03:29.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you like kinda have to get over the car guilt.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.28,0:03:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, we totally make-out in my truck all the time,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.78,0:03:34.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have to say, it's pretty great. [ {\i1}Laughs{\i0} ].
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.80,0:03:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] When I was 26, like I'd been celibate for a couple years
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.61,0:03:39.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was dealing with being a sexual abuse survivor
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.82,0:03:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then like, I kinda re-broke my virginity
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.56,0:03:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with this like totally awesome queer man of color \Nwho was really perverted,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.43,0:03:51.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who had severe RSI [ *repetitive strain injury* ]
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.07,0:03:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who was this total, like, black, science fiction, polyamorous geek, porn-maker,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.66,0:04:00.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with like injury stuff \Nand whose primary partner had fibromyalgia too.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.54,0:04:05.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, not only was I fucking this amazing hot \NQPOC [ *queer person of colour* ] pervert in leather pants,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.25,0:04:07.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was like, *oh my hips just went out!*, \Nand he was like, *yeah, no problem.*
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.99,0:04:09.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,*Great. Let's just move positions.*
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.79,0:04:12.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, and then there's the stuff \Nthat's just like the hard stuff we go through,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.12,0:04:15.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then also just the really weird stuff \Nthat we don't get to talk about.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.62,0:04:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, like, what happens when you lose control \Nof your bowels during sex? [ {\i1}Laughing{\i0} ]
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.98,0:04:24.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or like, you know, all kinds of stuff, right? \NLike, what's it really like?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.14,0:04:30.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] I think we were talking about the healing of recognition,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.71,0:04:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or like, the erotics of recognition?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.61,0:04:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] We talked about the lust of recognition.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.59,0:04:37.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] The lust of recognition! Yes!
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.13,0:04:41.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I don't know, when it's just like, \NI think it's like any identity stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.80,0:04:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I mean, the first time I fucked someone else \Nwho was South Asian, and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.96,0:04:47.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I mean I know it's corny to talk about "going home", but like, I felt that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.86,0:04:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there was something really healing about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.56,0:04:51.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And like, when I was lovers with David and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:51.93,0:04:55.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,oh I never have to worry about you being freaked out \Nabout me needing to take a break
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.77,0:04:57.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I'm an incest survivor,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.20,0:05:00.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or me needing to like, negotiate my body in different ways.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.20,0:05:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know? You don't freak out over that \Nbecause you're really...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.64,0:05:04.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've dated a lot of crips, you {\i1}are{\i0} a crip,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.70,0:05:07.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your primary partner has a whole bunch \Nof chronic illnesses.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.02,0:05:10.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're just like, *right, yeah, bodies, work it out.*
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.53,0:05:12.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And how amazing that was
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.15,0:05:17.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and like, how that crip knowledge was so tied to that persons', like, awareness around consent,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.22,0:05:20.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know? In the middle of being a big pervert who's into a lot of pretty intense SM.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.69,0:05:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, I mean, it was amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.53,0:05:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, it was really, really amazing.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.63,0:05:26.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt so lucky; I was so lucky.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.46,0:05:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] Going back to this idea that we were talking about earlier today about the lust of recognition.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.19,0:05:36.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that was like, you know, I identify a lot \Nwith people who use a wheelchair sometimes
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.47,0:05:40.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also walk with a cane or crutches sometimes \Nbecause that's my experience.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.85,0:05:46.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, like, y'know, and so that's like, \Nnot every day looks the same in terms of how you get around,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.35,0:05:48.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I just realize, y'know, I really relate to that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.86,0:05:52.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,obviously, because that's what happens for me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.13,0:05:56.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Um, but, you know, like...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.86,0:05:59.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,y'know... \Nyou see this person around,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.28,0:06:01.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you think they're cute, they have a cane,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.77,0:06:04.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's something hot about that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.17,0:06:07.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, like, y'know, \Nthey're pretty nice and they're very cute
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.57,0:06:12.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, like, some other time like you notice they have a brace, or like... something
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.17,0:06:17.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and y'know, and then you get to know them and you realize like you're really attracted to the...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.21,0:06:18.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, for me, anyways.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.27,0:06:22.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realize {\i1}I'm{\i0} really attracted to the fact that like, \Nthey're walking with a cane AND they're cute.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.97,0:06:25.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then you know there's this process I go through:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.52,0:06:28.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, am I fetishizing their cane?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.44,0:06:35.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Um. And, but, and so...I've kind of been writing about that on and off the last couple of years.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.100,0:06:37.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Cuz it's like... is it a fetish?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.84,0:06:40.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or is it that I recognize myself in the cane,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.91,0:06:43.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's that lust of recognition?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.07,0:06:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, that, there's something really charged for me,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.47,0:06:48.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I just crush out.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.31,0:06:50.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just crushed out; it's hot.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.11,0:06:54.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I just, I don't know, I feel drawn like a magnet to the person.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.00,0:06:58.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, they have to be an awesome person \Nthat's also cute in other ways,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.69,0:07:00.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not just the cane [ *Leah laughing* ],
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.47,0:07:01.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there's something....
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.98,0:07:06.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like this extra electric charge \Nthat's like there for me and it's very real.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.86,0:07:11.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And y'know, I don't need to sleep always \Nwith people who have disabilities,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.61,0:07:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that a lot of those experiences \Nhave been really powerful,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.71,0:07:24.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not always lasting, um, \Nand I need to be fed in so many other ways too.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.15,0:07:29.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, a lot of my primary relationships have not been with other people with disabilities.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.37,0:07:31.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel comfortable with that,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.00,0:07:35.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I've also dated so many other people with disabilities, I think I've needed this.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.69,0:07:38.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And who's to say \Nwhat the rest of my life will look like,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.55,0:07:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but um yeah, there's something about that lust of recognition, that connection.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.57,0:07:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know, there's something...
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.20,0:07:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think it's good to check in with myself,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.14,0:07:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like am I fetishizing them?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.60,0:07:53.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I don't really have a lot of like \Nguilt or weirdness around that,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.08,0:07:55.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I don't necessarily think that I am.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.52,0:07:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] I wouldn't waste your time.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.24,0:07:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] Yeah.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.30,0:08:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] So when you were like, *"what's crip sex, Leah?"*
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.92,0:08:03.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was like, well, I think it's crips lusting for other crips. Yes, that.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.88,0:08:06.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think what youre were just saying, Ellery,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.42,0:08:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,makes me think that I think it's any form of sex that involves someone who is disabled.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.04,0:08:12.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, like, I've had crip sex that was shitty,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.60,0:08:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was like me being a disabled person \Nhaving sex with a partner who didn't get it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.60,0:08:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, like, who was just...One of my long-term partners was white, working class, gender queer...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.43,0:08:24.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually was raised rural poor,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.11,0:08:29.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and y'know, we bonded over class, because I grew up like working class, lower middle class;
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.82,0:08:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of working class.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.35,0:08:33.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we both identified as being people who were less than middle class
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.95,0:08:36.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in movements that were very middle class.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.55,0:08:39.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And y'know, I really got where she was coming from,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.04,0:08:41.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because she was like, *yeah, y'know, we don't admit disability!*
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.89,0:08:44.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,*we just tough it out, 'cause we don't have that option!*
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.53,0:08:46.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was like, totally, yeah.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.24,0:08:50.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My mom had polio \Nand they didn't have money for health care,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.41,0:08:55.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so her doctor that she saw -true story- was like, *here's a bicycle, ride it out.*
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.45,0:08:58.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my mom [ *Ellery laughing *]... no, seriously.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.18,0:08:59.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ E ] Wow.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.54,0:09:05.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ L ] Yeah. And my mom y'know worked two or three jobs the whole time that I knew her,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.15,0:09:08.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was only when I was older that I was like,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.00,0:09:14.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,oh she can't really walk that far, without being in a lot of pain, but she would never identify as disabled.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.39,0:09:16.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway, so back to my girlfriend:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.71,0:09:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I got that she was like, \N*Whatever! We just tough it out! No problem!*
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.23,0:09:21.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, she had worked construction and she'd be like,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.96,0:09:25.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,*Yeah I got a nail gun through my finger, I just kept going!* [ {\i1}Laughing{\i0} ].
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.84,0:09:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah, that was a fascinating relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.06,0:09:31.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, um, y'know, the sex that I had with that person \Nwas crip sex because I was in it,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.28,0:09:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it wasn't necessarily crip-accepting sex \Nand that's what a lot of us have too.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.02,0:09:39.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess Im trying to spin something off of what you said about like expanding your idea of sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.48,0:09:43.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Y'know, and like, I don't know, \NI mean I get what youre saying that like...
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.12,0:09:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when Audre Lorde is like, *the uses of the erotic*..
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.56,0:09:48.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm like, ok, but sometimes y'know, Audre, \Nyou like to cum too, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.60,0:09:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like It wasn't just like, *I feel really turned on about liberation and shit*. [ {\i1}Laughing{\i0} ]
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.76,0:09:58.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But like, so that's real, but at the same time I do think that there's a lot about that's important
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.20,0:10:00.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about just expanding our concepts of sexuality
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.47,0:10:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think that crips have to do that so much anyway \Nwhen our bodies are different.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:03.66,0:10:07.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One thing that we're trying to do with this project \Nof writing Crip Sex Stories is like...
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.19,0:10:11.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...I don't know, I kind of think of it as like: the good, the bad, the ugly and the real, y'know?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.65,0:10:14.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I feel like there's the good stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.12,0:10:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's like the secrets of like,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:15.66,0:10:18.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wow, y'know, the ways that we find \Nto have really amazing hot sex in our bodies
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.30,0:10:23.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is incredible and like the kind of like \Ncross-crip solidarity through fucking.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.16,0:10:25.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, maybe you're fucking someone who has \Nyour exact disability;
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.29,0:10:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe they have a different one?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.36,0:10:29.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But like even though you don't have the same experience,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.07,0:10:31.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're giving each other love and appreciation
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.67,0:10:33.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're like, wow you're really fucking hot
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.55,0:10:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm gonna figure out how to \Nmake you feel pleasure in your body
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.72,0:10:37.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm gonna respect your body
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.72,0:10:40.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're gonna do the same thing, awesome.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.11,0:10:43.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[ {\i1}music{\i0}...]