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Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.28,0:00:03.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was on a long road trip this summer,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.53,0:00:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was having\Na wonderful time listening
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.41,0:00:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the amazing Isabel Wilkerson's\N"Warmth of Other Suns."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.35,0:00:16.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It documents six million black folks
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.11,0:00:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fleeing the South from 1915 to 1970
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.87,0:00:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking for a respite\Nfrom all the brutality
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.24,0:00:28.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and trying to get to a better\Nopportunity up North,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.21,0:00:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was filled with stories\Nof the resilience and the brilliance
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.53,0:00:34.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of African-Americans,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.36,0:00:37.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was also really hard to hear
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.10,0:00:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the stories of the horrors\Nand the humility,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.63,0:00:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all the humiliations.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.23,0:00:49.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was especially hard to hear\Nabout the beatings and the burnings
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.20,0:00:51.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the lynchings of black men.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.71,0:00:54.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "You know,\Nthis is a little deep.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.63,0:00:59.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I need a break. I'm going\Nto turn on the radio."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.48,0:01:02.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I turned it on, and there it was:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.27,0:01:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ferguson, Missouri.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.45,0:01:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Michael Brown,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.78,0:01:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,18-year old black man,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.86,0:01:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,unarmed, shot by a white police officer,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.16,0:01:15.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,laid on the ground dead,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.06,0:01:18.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,blood running for four hours
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.48,0:01:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while his grandmother and little children
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.36,0:01:23.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and his neighbors watched in horror,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.49,0:01:26.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.35,0:01:29.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,here it is again,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.53,0:01:33.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This violence, this brutality\Nagainst black men
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.15,0:01:35.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been going on for centuries.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.87,0:01:37.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, it's the same story.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.94,0:01:40.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just different names.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.40,0:01:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Amadou Diallo.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.74,0:01:47.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Sean Bell.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.08,0:01:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Oscar Grant.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.54,0:01:54.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could have been Trayvon Martin.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.16,0:01:57.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This violence, this brutality,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.04,0:02:00.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is really something that's part\Nof our national psyche.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.13,0:02:02.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's part of our collective history.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.94,0:02:07.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What are we going to do about it?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.45,0:02:10.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know that part of us that still
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.44,0:02:12.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,crosses the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.95,0:02:15.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,locks the doors,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.06,0:02:17.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,clutches the purses,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.62,0:02:19.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we see young black men?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.96,0:02:22.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That part.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.35,0:02:26.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, I know we're not\Nshooting people down in the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.23,0:02:30.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm saying that the same\Nstereotypes and prejudices
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.25,0:02:33.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that fuel those kinds of tragic incidents
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.40,0:02:35.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.63,0:02:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've been schooled in them as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.68,0:02:45.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that we can stop\Nthese types of incidents,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.76,0:02:49.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these Fergusons from happening,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.01,0:02:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by looking within
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.00,0:02:54.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and being willing to change ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.49,0:02:57.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I have a call to action for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.67,0:03:01.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are three things that I want\Nto offer us today to think about
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.45,0:03:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as ways to stop Ferguson\Nfrom happening again;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.56,0:03:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three things that I think will help us
Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.86,0:03:12.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reform our images of young black men;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.58,0:03:14.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,three things that I'm hoping
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.92,0:03:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will not only protect them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.17,0:03:21.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but will open the world\Nso that they can thrive.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.97,0:03:23.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine that?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.64,0:03:28.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can you imagine our country\Nembracing young black men,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.19,0:03:30.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seeing them as part of our future,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.54,0:03:33.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,giving them that kind of openness,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.02,0:03:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that kind of grace we give\Nto people we love?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.76,0:03:41.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How much better would our lives be?\NHow much better would our country be?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.05,0:03:44.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let me just start with number one.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.40,0:03:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We gotta get out of denial.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.42,0:03:50.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop trying to be good people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.04,0:03:53.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need real people.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.96,0:03:55.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I do a lot of diversity work,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.54,0:03:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and people will come up to me\Nat the beginning of the workshop.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.70,0:04:02.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're like, "Oh, Ms. Diversity Lady,\Nwe're so glad you're here"
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.07,0:04:03.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,-- (Laughter) --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.65,0:04:07.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"but we don't have a biased bone in our body."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.13,0:04:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm like, "Really?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.10,0:04:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I do this work every day,\Nand I see all my biases."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.70,0:04:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, not too long ago, I was on a plane
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.70,0:04:21.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I heard the voice of a woman\Npilot coming over the P.A. system,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.20,0:04:23.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was just so excited, so thrilled.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.38,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was like, "Yes, women,\Nwe are rocking it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are now in the stratosphere." You know?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was all good, and then it started\Ngetting turbulent and bumpy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was like,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I hope she can drive."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know. Right.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's not even like\NI knew that was a bias
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until I was coming back on the other leg\Nand there's always a guy driving
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's often turbulent and bumpy,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've never questioned\Nthe confidence of the male driver.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The pilot is good.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, here's the problem.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like if you ask me explicitly,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say "Female pilot awesome."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it appears that when things get funky\Nand a little troublesome, a little risky,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lean on a bias that I didn't\Neven know thatI had.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, fast-moving planes in the sky,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want a guy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's my default.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men are my default.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who is your default?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you trust?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who are you afraid of?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you implicitly feel connected to?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who do you run away from?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to tell you\Nwhat we have learned.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The implicit association test,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which measures unconscious bias,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can go online and take it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Five million people have taken it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Turns out, our default is white.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We like white people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We prefer white. What do I mean by that?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When people are shown images of black men
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and white men,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are more quickly able to associate
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that picture with a positive word,\Nthat white person with a positive word,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we are trying to associate\Npositive with a black face,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and vice versa.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we see a black face,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is easier for us to connect
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,black with negative
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than it is white with negative.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Seventy percent of white people\Ntaking that test prefer white.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fifty percent of black people\Ntaking that test prefer white.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see, we were all outside\Nwhen the contamination came down.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do we do about the fact\Nthat our brain automatically associates?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, one of the things
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you probably are thinking about,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're probably like, you know what,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just going to double down\Non my color-blindness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, I'm going to recommit to that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to suggest to you no.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've gone about as far as we can go\Ntrying to make a difference
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to not see color.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem was never that we saw color.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was what we did when we saw the color.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a false ideal.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while we're busy pretending not to see
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are not being aware of the ways\Nin which racial difference
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is changing people's possibilities,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's keeping them from thriving,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes it's causing them
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an early death.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So in fact, what the scientists\Nare telling us is no way.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't even think about color blindness.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, what they're suggesting is,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stare at awesome black people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Look at them directly in their faces
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and memorize them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when we look\Nat awesome folks who are black,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it helps to dissociate
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the association that happens\Nautomatically in our brain.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do you think I'm showing you\Nthese beautiful black men behind me?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were so many, I had to cut them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so here's the thing:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm trying to reset your automatic\Nassociations about who black men are.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm trying to remind you
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that young black men
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,grow up to be amazing human beings
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have changed our lives
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and made them better.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So here's the thing.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other possibility in science,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's only temporarily changing\Nour automatic assumptions,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one thing we know
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that if you take a white person\Nwho is, like, odious, that you know,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and stick it up next to a person of color,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a black person, who is fabulous,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than that sometimes actually\Ncauses us to disassociate too.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So think, like, Jeffrey Dahmer\Nand Colin Powell.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, just stare at them, right?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But these are the things.\NSo go looking for your bias.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please, please, just get out of denial
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and go looking for disconfirming data\Nthat will prove that in fact
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your old stereotypes are wrong.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, so that's number one: number two,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what I'm going to say is move toward\Nyoung black men instead of away from them.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, you know, it's not\Nthe hardest thing to do,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's one of these things where
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to be conscious\Nand intentional about it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I was on\Na Wall Street area one time,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,several years ago when\NI was with a colleague of mine,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she's really wonderful\Nand she does diversity work with me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she's a woman of color, she's Korean.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we were outside,\Nit was late at night,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were sort of wondering where\Nwe were going, we were lost.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I saw this person across the street,\Nand I was thinking, "Oh great, black guy."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I was going toward him\Nwithout even thinking about it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she was like,\N"Oh, that's interesting."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The guy across the street, you know,\Nhe was a black guy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think black guys generally\Nknow where they're going.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know why exactly I think that,\Nbut that's what I think.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So she was saying, "Oh, you\Nwere going, 'Yay, a black guy'?"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "I was going,\N'Ooh, a black guy.'"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Other direction. Same need,\Nsame guy, same clothes,\N
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,same time, same street,\Ndifferent reaction.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she said, "I feel so bad.\NI'm a diversity consultant.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did the black guy thing.\NI'm a woman of color. Oh my God!"
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "You know what? Please.\NWe really need to relax about this."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, you gotta realize\NI go way back with black guys.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My dad is a black guy.\NYou see what I'm saying?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've got a 6'5" black guy son.\NI was married to a black guy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My black guy thing\Nis so wide and so deep
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I can pretty much sort\Nand figure out who that black guy is,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was my black guy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said, "Yes ladies, I know\Nwhere you're going. I'll take you there."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, biases are the stories\Nwe make up about people
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before we know who they actually are.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how are we going to know who they are
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we've been told to avoid
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be afraid of them?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm going to tell you\Nto walk toward your discomfort.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm not asking you\Nto take any crazy risks.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm saying, just do an inventory,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,expand your social\Nand professional circles.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's in your circle?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's missing?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many authentic relationships
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you have with young black people,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,folks, men, women?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or any other major difference\Nfrom who you are
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how you roll, so to speak?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because you know what?\NJust look around your periphery.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There may be somebody at work,\Nin your classroom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in your house of worship, somewhere,\Nthere's some black young guy there.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're nice. You say hi.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm saying go deeper, closer, further,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and build the kinds of relationships,\Nthat actually cause you to see
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the holistic person
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to really go against the stereotypes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know some of you are out there,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,\NI know because I have some white\Nfriends in particular that will say,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You have no idea how awkward I am.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, I don't think this\Nis going to work for me.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sure I'm going to blow this."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, maybe,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but this thing is not about perfection.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about connection.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're not going to get comfortable
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before you get uncomfortable.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, you just have to do it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And young black men,\Nwhat I'm saying is
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if someone comes your way genuine\Nand authentically, take the invitation.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not everyone is out to get you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go looking for those people\Nwho can see your humanity.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, it's the empathy\Nand the compassion
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that comes out of having relationships
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with people who are different from you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something really powerful\Nand beautiful happens:
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you start to realize that they are you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they are part of you,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they are you in your family,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we cease to be bystanders
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become actors,\Nwe become advocates,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become allies.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So go away from your comfort\Ninto a bigger, brighter thing,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that is how we will stop\Nanother Ferguson from happening.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's how we create a community
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where everybody, especially\Nyoung black men, can thrive.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this last thing is going to be harder,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know it, but I'm just going\Nto put it out there anyway.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we see something, we have to have\Nthe courage to say something,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even to the people we love.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, it's holidays\Nand it's going to be a time
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're sitting around the table
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and having a good time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of us, anyways, will be in holidays,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you go to listen to\Nthe conversations around the table.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You start to say things like,\N"Grandma's a bigot."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uncle Joe is racist."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know, we love Grandma\Nand we love Uncle Joe. We do.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what they're saying is wrong,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we need to be able to say something,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you know who else is at the table?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Children are at the table.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we wonder why these biases don't die
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and move from generation to generation?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we're not saying anything.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We gotta be willing to say, "Grandma,\Nwe don't call people that anymore."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Uncle Joe, it isn't true\Nthat he deserved that.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No one deserves that."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we've got to be willing
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to not shelter our children\Nfrom the ugliness of racism
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when black parents don't\Nhave the luxury to do so,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially those who have
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young black sons.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We gotta take our lovely darlings,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our future, and we've got to tell them
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have an amazing country
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with incredible ideals.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have worked incredibly hard,\Nand we have made some progress,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we are not done.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We still have in us this old stuff
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about superiority and it is causing us
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to embed those further\Ninto our institutions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our society and generations,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it is making for despair
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and disparities and a devastating\Ndevaluing of young black men.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We still struggle, you have to tell them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with seeing both the color
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the character of young black men,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that you, and you expect them
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be part of the forces of change
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in this society
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that will stand against injustice
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and is really above all other things
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make a society where
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young black men can be seen\Nfor all of who they are.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So many amazing black men,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those who are the most amazing\Nstatesmen that have ever lived,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,brave soldiers,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,awesome, hardworking laborers.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are people who\Nare powerful preachers.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are incredible scientists\Nand artists and writers.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are dynamic comedians.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are doting grandpas,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caring sons.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are strong fathers,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they are young men
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with dreams of their own.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)