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Pershendetje, kalamaja.

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(Te qeshura)

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Une jam 71 vjece.

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(Duartrokitje)

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Burri im eshte 76 vjec.

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Prinderit e mi jane ne fund te 90-tave,

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dhe Olivia, qeni eshte 16 vjec.

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Keshtu qe le te flasim per plakjen.

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Me lejoni t'ju them sesi ndihem

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kur shoh rrudhat e mia ne pasqyre

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dhe kur kuptoj se disa pjese te
miat me kane rene

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dhe nuk mund ti gjej aty poshte.

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(Te qeshura)

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Mary Oliver thote ne nje nga poemat e saj,

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"Me tregoni, se cfare planifikoni te beni

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me jeten tuaj te vetme te eger e te vyer?"

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Une, kisha per qellim te jetoja me pasion.

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Kur ne fillojme te plakemi?

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Shoqeria vendos se kur ne jemi te plakur,

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zakonisht rreth moshes 65, kur ne marrim
ndihmen shendetesore Medicare,

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por ne te vertete ne fillojme te plakemi 
kur lindim.

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Ne po plakemi dhe ne kete moment,

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dhe te gjithe ne e perjetojme ne 
menyra te ndryshme.

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Ne te gjithe ndjehemi me te rinj 
sesa mosha jone reale,

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sepse shpirti kurre nuk plaket.

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Une jam akoma 17 vjece.

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Sophia Loren. Shikojeni ate.

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Ajo thote se cdo gje qe ju shihni

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ajo ia detyron spagetit.

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Une e provova dhe shtova 5 kg

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ne vendet e gabuara.

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Por sjellja, plakja eshte gjithashtu
menyre te sjelluri dhe shendet.

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Por mentorja ime e vertete 
ne kete udhetim te plakjes

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eshte Olga Murray.

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Kjo vajze kaliforniane ne moshen 60 vjec

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filloi te punoje ne Nepal 
per te shpetuar vajzat e reja

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nga skllaveria familjare.

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Ne moshen 88 vjecare, ajo kishte
shpetuar 12 mije vajza,

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dhe kishte ndryshuar kulturen e vendit.

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(Duartrokitje)

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Tani eshte e paligjshme per baballaret

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te shesin vajzat e tyre ne roberi.

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Ajo gjithashtu ka themeluar jetimore

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dhe klinika ushqyerje.

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AJo eshte gjithmone e lumtur

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dhe perjetesisht e re.

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Cfare kam humbur une ne dekadat e fundit?

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Njerezit sigurisht,

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vendet, dhe energjine e pashtershme
te rinise sime,

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dhe kam filluar te humb pavaresine,

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dhe kjo me frikeson mua.

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Ram Dass thote qe varesia te dhemb,

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por nese e pranon ate, 
atehere vuan me pak.

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Pas nje ishemie te rende,

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shpirti i tij i pamoshe shikon ndryshimet

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ne trup me butesi,

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dhe ai eshte mirenjohes 
per njerezit qe e ndihmojne ate.

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Cfare kam fituar?

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Liri: Nuk kam cfare 
ti provoj asgje, askujt.

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Nuk kam ngecur ne idene se kush isha,

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se kush duhet te behem,

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ose se cfare njerezit e tjere 
presin qe une te jem.

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Nuk kam pse te kenaq burrat me,

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vetem kafshet.

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Vazhdoj ti them egos sime shume
te madhe te zbrapset

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dhe te me lejoje te shijoj 
ato qe akoma kam.

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Trupi im mund te jete duke u shperbere,

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por truri im akoma jo.

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E dashuroj trurin tim.

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Ndjehem me e lehte.

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Nuk mbaj me vete inate, ambicie, kotesi,

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asnje nga mekatet vrastare per te cilat as

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nuk ia vlen te shqetesohesh.

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Eshte e mrekullueshme te lesh te shkoje.

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Duhet te kisha filluar me pare.

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Dhe gjithashtu ndjehem me e bute

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sepse nuk kam frike te ndjehem e prekshme.

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Nuk e shoh me kete si dobesi.

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Dhe kam fituar shpirterisht.

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Jam e ndergjegjshme se me pare,

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vdekja ishte ne rrethinat e lagjes.

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Tani, eshte tek shtepia ngjitur 
ose ne shtepine time.

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Perpiqem te jetoj e vetedijshme

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dhe te jem e pranishme ne moment.

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Meqe ra fjala, Dalai Lama

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eshte dikush qe eshte plakur me hijeshi,

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por kush do te jete vegjetarian dhe beqar?

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(Te qeshura)

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Meditimi ndihmon.

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(Video) Femija : Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.

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Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ja ku eshte.

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Dhe eshte mire te fillosh sa me heret.

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E dini, per nje femer mendjemadhe si une,

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eshte e veshtire te plakesh ne kete kulture.

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Shpirterisht, ndjehem mire, 
ndjehem sharmante, joshese, seksi.

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Askush tjeter nuk e sheh kete.
(Te qeshura)

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Jam e padukshme.

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Une dua te jem qendra e vemendjes.

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Une e urrej te jem e padukshme,

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(Te qeshura) (Duartrokitje)

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Kjo eshte Grace Damman.

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Ajo ka qene ne karrige me rrota per 6 vjet

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pas nje aksidenti te tmerrshem me makine.

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Ajo thote se nuk ka asgje me sensuale

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sesa nje dush i nxehte,

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se cdo pike uje

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eshte nje bekim per shqisat.

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Ajo nuk e sheh veten si te paafte.

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Ne mendjen e saj, ajo eshte akoma 
duke serfuar ne oqean.

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Ethel Sederman, nje aktiviste 
shume e dashur dhe festive

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ne nje vend ku une jetoj ne Kaliforni.

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Ajo vesh kepuce te kuqe me shkelqim

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dhe motoja e saj eshte qe nje
shall eshte kendshem

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por 2 eshte me mire.

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AJo eshte e ve prej 9 vitesh,

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por ajo nuk eshte duke kerkuar per nje tjeter partner.

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Ajo thote qe eshte nje numer i limituar

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e menyrave sesi mund te besh seks-

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ajo e thote ne nje tjeter menyre -

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dhe se ajo i ka provuar te gjitha.

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(Te qeshura)

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Une, ne anen tjeter,

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akoma kam fantazi erotike
me Antonio Banderas -

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(Te qeshura)-

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dhe burri im i gjore 
duhet ta duroje kete gje.

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Keshtu qe si mund te ndjehem e apasionuar?

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Une nuk mund te detyroj veten 
te jem e pasionuar ne moshen 71 vjecare.

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Jam perpjekur per disa kohe,

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dhe kur ndjehesha e merzitur, shtiresha.

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Sjellja, sjellja.

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Si stervitem une? Stervitem duke thene po

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te cfaredo gjeje qe me del perpara:

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drames, komedise, tragjedise,

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dashurise, vdekjes, humbjeve.

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PO, jetes.

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Dhe stervitem duke u perpjekur
te qendroj e dashuruar.

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Nuk eshte se fuksionon gjithmone,

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por nuk mund te me fajesosh
mua qe perpiqem.

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Dhe, si shenim perfundimtar,

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pensioni ne spanjisht eshte "jubilacion".

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Ngazellim. Festim.

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Ne kemi paguar detyrimet tona,

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Ne kemi kontribuar ne shoqeri.

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Tani eshte koha jone, dhe
eshte nje kohe fantastike,

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Duke perjashtuar rastet kur je i semure
ose shume i varfer,

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ti ke zgjedhje.

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Une kam zgjedhur te qendroj e apasionuar,

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e angazhuar me nje zemer te madhe.

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Po punoj me kete cdo dite.

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Deshironi te bashkoheni me mua?

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Faleminderit.

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(Duartrokitje)

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June Cohen: Keshtu Isabel —
IA: Faleminderit.

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JC: Fillimisht,

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Nuk po supozoj se flas
ne emer te komunitetit te TED,

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por kam deshire t'ju them
qe mendoj

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se te gjithe jemi ne nje mendje
se ju jeni akoma sharmante,

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joshese dhe seksi. PO?

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IA: Ahh, faleminderit.
(Duartrokitje)

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JC: Pa diskutim.
IA: JO, eshte make up.

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Moderator: Tani, do te ishte e cuditshme

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nese do t'ju beja disa pyetje per
fantazite e tua erotike?

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IA: Oh, sigurisht. Per cfare?

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(Te qeshura)

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Moderatorja: Per fantazite e tua erotike.
IA: Me Antonio Banderas.

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Moderatorja: Po pyesja veten nese ke ndonje 
gje tjeter per te ndare me ne.

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IA: Mire, njera prej tyre eshte
- (Te qeshura)

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NJera prej tyre eshte se une vendos 
nje Antonio Banderas te zhveshur

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nje nje omlete meksikane

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hedh mbi te guacemole dhe salsa

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e mbledh dhe me pas e ha. 
(Te qeshura)

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Faleminderit.

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(Duartrokitje)