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If I could meet me when I was 16,

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I think the first thing that I would say

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is that it is so tempting to do something

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for somebody to get them to like you.

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Don't.

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Really be mindful that you are so wise right now

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because of all the things that you don't know.

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So just, really before somebody

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asks you to do something,

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really take time to think about

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whether or not it's going to be good for you,

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that if, after you do it, you're going to go,

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"Oh, I'm so glad I did that!

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That was so good for me,

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that was so wonderful."

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You know, whether that's, whatever it is,

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whether it's eating something,

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drinking something,

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being with somebody,

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taking a job,

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whatever it is,

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just really check into the wisdom

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that you already have

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to see how you're going to feel after you to do it.

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That's the first thing.

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And the second thing,

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I think there's loads,

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but the second thing is jealousy.

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Jealousy is a wonderful engine.

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When you have it,

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really, really take it in

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and ask yourself,

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"Ooh, I'm really jealous of so-and-so.

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What is it I'm jealous about?

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What is it that they have that I want?"

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And then trust that you already have it

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and act as if you do,

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and if you don't,

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if you really feel,

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"Ooh, I don't have that thing or that attribute,"

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then trust that somewhere you have some quality

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that resembles that and let it grow in you.

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