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Audio: Man: Hello, this is Simon speaking.

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Well, during sex, I sometimes think[br]about my ex-girlfriend.

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I am wondering if it's normal,[br]considering I have a girlfriend and all.

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Woman: Hello, Miss G.

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My name is Maëva, I am 18.

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I often hear that women always[br]reach orgasm after men,

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like if we were actually[br]programmed this way.

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I've heard that it takes more time[br]for women to come,

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and for men, it is supposed[br]to happen faster.

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I actually have the opposite problem[br]with my lover.

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He always comes after me.

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Should I worry about this?

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Are we abnormal, or what?

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Thank you, Miss G. Cheers.

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Man: Hello.

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I'm Pierre, calling Miss G.

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After sex, I don't like to cuddle.

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My lover would like to hug me,

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but I'd rather be on my own a little bit,[br]before hugging.

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He tells me that it is not normal[br]and it's a concern for me.

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I would like to get your opinion on this.[br]Thank you. [Beep]

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(Applause)

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Giulia Fois: Am I normal?

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There it is.

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The question I hear on the air,[br]every night or so,

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it bothers nearly each listener,[br]explicitly or not.

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It is the same question[br]sex therapists hear in their sessions,

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time and time again.

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I know it can seem foolish.

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But, every single one of you here,[br]deep within yourselves,

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at least once in your life[br]haven't you pondered:

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"Why? Why this sudden urge?[br]Why this specific desire?

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Why did I have this dream?[br]Why this fantasy?

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Why him? Why her? And why this way?

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Why, now? Is this all normal, really?"

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Consequently, I asked myself,

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"With sex, what does it mean[br]to be normal?

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Is there a sexual norm?

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Can sexuality actually be normal?

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Is it something we should wish for?"

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When such questions are popping up,

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the best approach is to go back to basics.

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Let's take a look at what the dictionary[br]has to say about it.

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First, the dictionary tells us that:

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normal: conforming to the nature[br]of a being or a thing,

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to the organization of that thing,[br]something usual, logical, ordinary.

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Second option:

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normal: complying to an average[br]considered as a norm,

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that has no exceptional features;

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and finally,

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normal: can be used as a rule,[br]a model, a reference.

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Let me suggest you to examine[br]these definitions together,

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one after the other,[br]to check if they make sense.

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Let's check if sexuality can conform[br]to the nature of a being or a thing,

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if it can be usual, logical or ordinary.

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Voice: Woman: Hi Miss G, I'm Charlotte.

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I'm calling you[br]because tonight's theme is orgasm.

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For me, the best way to summarize[br]that state is:

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"I can't be held responsible[br]for my actions."

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When it occurs, it captures[br]the whole body and eclipses all the rest.

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Strangely, it's a bit like when sneezing,[br]or someone tickling you.

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We might never be as aware of our own self[br]as in that very moment

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and it can even lead[br]to embarrassing situations.

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I remember, I recently reacted[br]rather violently

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after my lover accidentally[br]interrupted my orgasm.

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I told him, "I hate you![br]Don't you ever do that again!"

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I apologized afterwards.[br]Shame on me to act like a brute.

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Well, that's also what orgasm is.[br]That's why we love it so much!

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Thank you, and have a good show!

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[Ringtone]

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GF: That's right.[br]Orgasm means complete abandon.

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A total letting-go[br]that shakes us to the core.

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This means that when we love,[br]when we desire,

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nothing conforms to the nature[br]of things anymore.

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We are out of ourselves,[br]we are beyond ourselves.

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We all know it: heart beating hard,[br]butterflies in the stomach,

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depending on the situation.

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Dilated pupils.

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Our body refuses to obey us,[br]and the mind plays in a loop.

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It's totally abnormal,[br]yet totally natural.

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Poets called it the intoxication[br]of senses.

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And science and medicine finally[br]admitted they were right.

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Yes, when we love[br]we are always a bit drunk, a bit insane.

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Actually, in response[br]to a sexual or sensual stimulus,

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our brain releases[br]a mixture of hormones

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that will give us a natural high.

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First of all, the brain secretes dopamine,

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the hormone of motivation and reward,[br]that makes us come back for more.

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When everything goes well,[br]the brain also secretes endorphins,

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the hormone of pleasure.

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Finally, it secretes oxytocin,[br]the hormone of attachment.

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We could say we are in overdrive.

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It appears clearly with brain imaging.

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All the brain areas linked to motivation[br]are hyper-excited

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When this state goes on,[br]it is called love.

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Love is biologically blind,[br]because at the same time,

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all brain areas related to critical[br]judgment are somehow dormant.

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Love is totally abnormal,[br]that's its essence.

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When we reach the peeks[br]of sexual pleasure, it gets even worse.

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Voice: Man: Hi Miss G, Felix speaking.

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I am calling for tonight's show.

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What does it feel like to achieve orgasm?

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For me, having an orgasm means[br]to feel and sense everything,

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as well as not feeling[br]nor sensing anything.

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Contradictory feelings that come and go,[br]like shot from a machine gun.

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I am happy, I am comfortable,[br]and then I am sad, and melancolic,

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I feel like laughing, I feel like crying.

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I feel like...

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We call the orgasm "the little death",

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and with reason.

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Because we feel alive,[br]we merge with our partner.

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We don't talk about her or me anymore,[br]we talk about us.

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We are a whole, a unity.

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The world can end right now[br]and nothing else matters.

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Having an orgasm is somehow[br]like dying, in a certain way.

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Have a great evening. Bye.

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GF: I can see that some of you[br]relate to this,

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and it is actually good news.

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Indeed, when sexual pleasure increases,

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it reaches our guts,

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towards something more spontaneous,[br]even animalistic.

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An animality that we spend our lives[br]trying to tame, to civilize,

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because "this is the way",[br]or "that is not how we behave".

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Then, all of a sudden,[br]none of that matters.

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Our self loses part of its grandeur,[br]it gets less reasonable,

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less polished, it's an exalting self.

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Yes, it is disturbing.[br]It's troubling, and it's scary.

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So we feel the need to cling[br]to the familiar, to stereotypes,

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to "ready-made thinking",[br]to common-place ideas,

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and to others,[br]to all the others surrounding us,

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We think that they know[br]and do better than us,

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because they do "do things",[br]at least in our minds.

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Therefore, we cling to our beliefs,

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in another word, to the average behavior,[br]the norm.

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More precisely, the statistical norm.

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I've got a piece of great news for you!

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Every single week, every single day,

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a new investigation, survey, research,

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or new data on sexual activity[br]is released on the Web, or on TV,

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and there's a lot to ponder about.

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Here's an example:

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13.5 cm:

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the average length[br]of the French man's penis,

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according to a Ulster University.

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It places us at a decent position,[br]in a European rating,

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not too shabby, at least.

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Gentlemen, refrain yourself[br]from checking right away.

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We all know, there is more than size!

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Size hasn't stopped anyone[br]from making love 97 times a year,

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according to a Durex study.

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That's an average of twice a week,[br]and it seems to satisfy most of us.

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And especially left-handers!

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86% of left-handed people,

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I am left-handed,

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86% of the left-handers claim to be[br]very satisfied with their sexual life,

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while only 15% of the right-handers are.

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But, what's the point?

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I have no idea.

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Of course the authors of this study[br]do not explain anything.

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It'd be too good to be true.

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Let's get back to our 2 times a week.

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Twice a week, it's pretty good.

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Pretty good.

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You are left-handed, aren't you?[br]I am so happy for you!

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You are among the 86%, no doubt!

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So, twice a week, it's fine.

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But we can do better.

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Look at this data! 3 times a week.

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According to a study conducted

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by the University of Edinburgh,[br]it's no small matter,

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people who have sex 3 times a week

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look 7 to 12 years younger[br]than their actual age.

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Wow!

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Ever better than Botox!

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Let's add one more time:[br]you hit the jackpot!

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People who have sex 4 times a week

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are 5% richer than others.

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Another side effect: they are also[br]less depressed, and more intelligent.

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You see...[br]Just don't ask me why!

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Of course, nobody explains why.

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It shows that what matters is to do it,[br]and to do it a lot.

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The cult of performance[br]that we have all followed

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for the last 20 years or so,[br]hasn't spared our sexuality.

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The statistical norm[br]for our sexual activity is "always more",

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always further, always stronger,

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and the only question that matters today[br]is not "How?" anymore, but "How much?"

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Voice: Woman:[br]Hi! I am calling for "Miss G like Giulia".

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I would like to know[br]whether sexual normality exists.

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I would think that there isn't any,[br]because as people usually say:

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"We all have our own rhythm",[br]"We all have our own balance",

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How to define a good rhythm?

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Twice, 3 times, 10 times, 20 times a week?

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It sounds weird to count how many times,

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but is there a magic number, a norm?

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GF: Don't laugh!

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I feel like laughing too, actually,

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were I not convinced[br]that right here, right now,

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there are at least a few among you[br]pondering the same question:

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"Wait a minute, how many times[br]was it already? Am I okay?

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Am I in the right range?"

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Here, I'll give you the stats,[br]so we can move on.

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The real numbers,[br]not the bogus Internet studies.

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Actually, only one enquiry[br]about our sexuality is valid today

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It's a research conducted by INSERM,

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published in 2008 and titled:

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"Context of sexuality in France" (CSF).

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According to the CSF study,

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we, French people, make love[br]on average 9 times a month.

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Okay? Everybody's alright?

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9 times a month, but wait, wait, wait!

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When a couple lives together,[br]the number goes down.

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and down...

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and down.

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Still according to the researchers[br]at INSERM,

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among those who are in a relationship[br]for 2 or 3 years,

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10% have told the researchers[br]that they hadn't had sex for 3 months.

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Let's talk about sexual practices.

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If we believe what our favorite[br]magazines tell us,

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you know, the ones that nobody reads,[br]but that everybody secretly does,

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and according to TV documentary,

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we should all have become S&M,[br]swingers, libertines,

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or all the three together, why not.

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We would all have a sex toy hidden[br]in the kitchen drawer, just in case.

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We are good to go!

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Here again, the CSF study shows[br]that 3,6% of men and 1,7% of women

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claimed to have been once in their life[br]to a partner-swinging club.

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That's not exactly a societal phenomenon.

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Sex toys: a famous weekly[br]women magazine, don't ask me the name,

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recently titled its front page:

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"Going crazy for sex toys these days!"

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The article was based on a study stating[br]that 45% of French people use sex toys.

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Okay.

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We should always check[br]how the surveys were conducted

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and who did them.

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It's always useful.

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Considering that this study was done[br]by a sex toy manufacturing company,

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that only its clients[br]were actually surveyed,

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and that the results serves[br]the company well...

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who will ever know that?

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We don't care either if the other 55%[br]of French people don't use sex toys.

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All what matters is the nice headline:

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"Going crazy for sex toys these days!"

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What does the CSF study have to say[br]about sex toys?

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78% of French people[br]have never used a sex toy.

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Never.[br]

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Generally speaking, the CSF study's[br]conclusions are definitive.

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I'm afraid the great Gang Bang[br]hasn't occurred yet.

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Since the Sexual Revolution, in the 1970s,

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very little or nothing has changed.

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We still consider our sexuality[br]as essentially heterosexual,

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with penetration, in a conjugal context.

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Not exactly a revolution, is it?

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But that's not very sexy.

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You need to be flashy,[br]to make much ado,

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because in front of the alcove's silence,[br]the mysteries of intimacy, the unknown,

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we are scared.

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It's very scary.

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It's scary because, what happens there?

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What happens when we make love?[br]Nobody knows.

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You can put word to desire.[br]You can't quantify pleasure.

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Feeling experiences[br]is subjective, per definition.

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And that, too, eludes us.

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That's scary too.

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You know, numbers are suitable.[br]They make sense, they are comfortable.

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So we measure, we compare, we analyze.

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Then, suddenly, magic occurs!

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Meaning shifts,

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and a neutral and objective norm[br]turns into a moral judgment.

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From what the average person does,[br]it becomes what everybody must do.

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Sexuality has become mandatory,[br]what society accepts, or prohibits.

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When we imagine everybody is having sex,

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all the time and everywhere,

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as soon as we feel awkward,[br]at the slightest decrease in performance

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we feel so very has-been,[br]close to a loser,

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somehow abnormal.

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But, we forget that these studies[br]say nothing about us.

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Yes, they are important,[br]because they serve a purpose:

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they take the pulse of society,[br]at a specific time.

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On the other hand,[br]they say nothing at all about us.

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They say nothing about me either.

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Frankly, I'd rather make love[br]only once a month,

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if that one time is glorious,

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instead of 10 lame times a week.

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You'll agree with me on this one.

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(Applause)

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Thank you.

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What pleases me,[br]doesn't necessary suit you.

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My sexuality belongs to me,[br]and solely to me.

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It is yours, and yours only.

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For once, hard sciences agree[br]with social sciences:

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Psychoanalysts, sex therapist[br]or neurobiologists, they all agree:

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We are all somehow programmed[br]to have various desires,

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to have fantasies, more or less intently,

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and more or less powerful orgasms.

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That is the result of a combination[br]of environmental factors,

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cultural and biological factors,[br]and our emotional journey.

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These are the ingredients[br]that make our very own sexuality.

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We combines them in our own personal way.

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The process is more or less conscious.

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We reach a result that is deeply personal,[br]and unique to each of us.

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Actually, these are variations [br]we should focus on:

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those within your usual sexual appetite,[br]your usual pleasure.

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What really matters[br]is to be truthful to yourself.

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Sexuality cannot be normal,

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because it cannot be normalized.

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Sexuality is, by definition and by nature,[br]unique, individual, singular.

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That's scary too,[br]because there is no reference, no compass.

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Basically, within legality,[br]and between two consensual partners,

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we all do what we can,[br]and what we want.

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So, the good question is not to ponder[br]whether we are normal.

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There real question is,[br]"What do I want?"

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"What do I want?"

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It is a difficult question.

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We can spend a lifetime[br]looking for the answer.

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Even worse, the answer can[br]change the next day.

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Sexuality is like an organism;[br]it moves and shifts.

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What is true today[br]might not be true tomorrow.

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Nevertheless, that complicated[br]and scary question,

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that can sometimes be painful,

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this very question makes us free.

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It opens doors to countless possibilities.

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And it is, most importantly,[br]more accurate.

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Naturally, I will ask you[br]this very question.

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All of you, here today.

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What do you want?

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Thank you.

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(Applause)