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[This talk contains graphic language
and descriptions of sexual violence]

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[Viewer discretion is advised]

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"Ashley Judd, stupid fucking slut."

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"You can't sue someone
for calling them a cunt."

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"If you can't handle the Internet,
fuck off, whore."

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"I wish Ashley Judd
would die a horrible death.

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She is the absolute worst."

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"Ashley Judd, you're the reason
women shouldn't vote."

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"'Twisted' is such a bad movie,

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I don't even want to rape it."

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"Whatever you do,

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don't tell Ashley Judd.
She'll die alone with a dried out vagina."

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"If I had to fuck an older woman,

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oh my God,

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I would fuck the shit out of Ashley Judd,

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that bitch is hot af.

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The unforgivable shit I would do to her."

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Online misogyny is a global
gender rights tragedy,

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and it is imperative that it ends.

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(Applause)

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Girls' and women's voices,

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and our allies' voices
are constrained in ways

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that are personally, economically,

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professionally and politically damaging.

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And when we curb abuse,

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we will expand freedom.

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I am a Kentucky basketball fan,

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so on a fine March day last year,

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I was doing one of the things I do best:

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I was cheering for my Wildcats.

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The daffodils were blooming,

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but the referees were not blowing
the whistle when I was telling them to.

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(Laughter)

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Funny, they're very friendly
to me before the opening tip,

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but they really ignore me during the game.

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(Laughter)

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Three of my players were bleeding,
so I did the next best thing ...

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I tweeted.

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[@ArkRazorback dirty play can kiss
my team's free throw making a --

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@KySportsRadio @marchmadness
@espn Bloodied 3 players so far.]

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It is routine for me to be treated
in the ways I've already described to you.

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It happens to me every single day

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on social media platforms
such as Twitter and Facebook.

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Since I joined Twitter in 2011,

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misogyny and misogynists
have amply demonstrated

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they will dog my every step.

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My spirituality, my faith,

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being a hillbilly --
I can say that, you can't --

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all of it is fair game.

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And I have responded to this
with various strategies.

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I've tried engaging people.

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This one guy was sending me
hypersexual, nasty stuff,

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and there was a girl in his avatar.

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I wrote him back and said ...

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"Is that your daughter?

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I feel a lot of fear
that you may think about

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and talk to women this way."

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And he surprised me by saying,

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"You know what?
You're right. I apologize."

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Sometimes people
want to be held accountable.

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This one guy was musing
to I don't know who

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that maybe I was the definition of a cunt.

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I was married to a Scot for 14 years,

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so I said, "Cunt means many
different things in different countries --

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(Laughter)

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but I'm pretty sure you epitomize
the global standard of a dick."

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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I've tried to rise above it,
I've tried to get in the trenches,

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but mostly I would scroll through
these social media platforms

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with one eye partially closed,
trying not to see it,

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but you can't make
a cucumber out of a pickle.

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What is seen goes in.

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It's traumatic.

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And I was always secretly hoping
in some part of me

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that what was being said to me
and about me wasn't ...

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true.

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Because even I,

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an avowed, self-declared feminist,

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who worships at the altar of Gloria --

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(Laughter)

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internalize the patriarchy.

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This is really critical.

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Patriarchy is not boys and men.

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It is a system
in which we all participate,

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including me.

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On that particular day, for some reason,

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that particular tweet
after the basketball game

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triggered something called a "cyber mob."

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This vitriolic, global outpouring
of the most heinous hate speech:

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death threats, rape threats.

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And don't you know,

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when I was sitting at home
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I got a phone call,
and it was my beloved former husband,

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and he said on a voice mail,

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"Loved one ...

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what is happening to you is not OK."

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And there was something about him
taking a stand for me that night ...

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that allowed me
to take a stand for myself.

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And I started to write.

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I started to write about sharing the fact

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that I'm a survivor
of all forms of sexual abuse,

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including three rapes.

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And the hate speech
I get in response to that --

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these are just some of the comments
posted to news outlets.

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Being told I'm a "snitch" is really fun.

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[Jay: She enjoyed every second of it!!!!!]

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Audience: Oh, Lord Jesus.

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Ashley Judd: Thank you, Jesus.
May your grace and mercy shine.

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So, I wrote this feminist op-ed,
it is entitled,

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"Forget Your Team:

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It Is Your Online Gender Violence
Toward Girls And Women

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That Can Kiss My Righteous Ass."

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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And I did that alone,
and I published it alone,

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because my chief advisor said,

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"Please don't,

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the rain of retaliatory garbage
that is inevitable --

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I fear for you."

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But I trust girls and I trust women,

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and I trust our allies.

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It was published, it went viral,

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it proves that every single day

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online misogyny is a phenomenon
endured by us all,

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all over the world,

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and when it is intersectional,

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it is worse.

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Sexual orientation, gender identity,

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race, ethnicity, religion --

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you name it,

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it amplifies the violence
endured by girls and women,

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and for our younger girls, it is worse.

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It's clearly traumatizing.

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Our mental health,
our emotional well-being

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are so gravely affected

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because the threat of violence

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is experienced
neurobiologically as violence.

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The cortisol shoots up,
the limbic system gets fired,

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we lose productivity at work.

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And let's talk about work.

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Our ability to work is constrained.

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Online searches of women applying for jobs
reveal nude pictures of them,

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false allegations they have STDs,

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their addresses indicating
that they are available for sex

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with real examples

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of people showing up
at this house for said sex.

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Our ability to go to school is impaired.

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96 percent of all postings

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of sexual images of our young people ...

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girls.

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Our girls.

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Our boys are two to three
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nonconsensually --

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to share images.

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And I want to say a word
about revenge porn.

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Part of what came out of this tweet

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was my getting connected
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who are fighting
for a safe and free internet.

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We started something
called the Speech Project;

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curbing abuse, expanding freedom.

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And that website
provides a critical forum,

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because there is no global, legal thing

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to help us figure this out.

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But we do provide on that website
a standardized list of definitions,

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because it's hard to attack
a behavior in the right way

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if we're not all sharing
a definition of what that behavior is.

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And I learned that revenge porn
is often dangerously misapplied.

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It is the nonconsensual
sharing of an image

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used tactically to shame
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that attempts to pornography us.

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Our natural sexuality is --

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I don't know about yours --
pretty gorgeous and wonderful.

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And my expressing it
does not pornography make.

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So, I have all these resources

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that I'm keenly aware
so many people in the world do not.

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I was able to start
the Speech Project with colleagues.

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I can often get a social media
company's attention.

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I have a wonderful visit
to Facebook HQ coming up.

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Hasn't helped the idiotic
reporting standards yet ...

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I actually pay someone
to scrub my social media feeds,

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attempting to spare my brain

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the daily iterations
of the trauma of hate speech.

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And guess what?

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I get hate speech for that.

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"Oh, you live in an echo chamber."

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Well, guess what?

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Having someone post a photograph
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saying they "can't wait
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I have a right to set that boundary.

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And this distinction
between virtual and real is specious

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because guess what --

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that actually happened to me
once when I was a child,

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and so that tweet brought up that trauma,

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and I had to do work on that.

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But you know what we do?
We take all of this hate speech,

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and we disaggregate it,

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and we code it,

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and we give that data

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so that we understand
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when I get porn,

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when it's about political affiliation,

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when it's about age,
when it's about all of it.

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We're going to win this fight.

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There are a lot of solutions --

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thank goodness.

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I'm going to offer just a few,

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and of course I challenge you
to create and contribute your own.

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Number one: we have to start
with digital media literacy,

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and clearly it must have a gendered lens.

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Kids, schools, caregivers, parents:

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it's essential.

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Two ...

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shall we talk about our friends in tech?

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Said with dignity and respect,

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the sexism in your workplaces must end.

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(Applause)

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(Cheers)

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EDGE,

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the global standard for gender equality,

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is the minimum standard.

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And guess what, Silicon Valley?

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If L'Oréal in India,

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in the Philippines, in Brazil

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and in Russia can do it,

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you can, too.

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Enough excuses.

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Only when women have critical mass
in every department at your companies,

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including building platforms
from the ground up,

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will the conversations
about priorities and solutions change.

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And more love for my friends in tech:

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profiteering off misogyny
in video games must end.

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I'm so tired of hearing you
talk to me at cocktail parties --

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like you did a couple
weeks ago in Aspen --

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about how deplorable #Gamergate was,

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when you're still making
billions of dollars off games

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that maim and dump women for sport.

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Basta! -- as the Italians would say.

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Enough.

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(Applause)

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Our friends in law enforcement
have much to do,

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because we've seen

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that online violence
is an extension of in-person violence.

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In our country,

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more girls and women have been
murdered by their intimate partners

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than died on 9/11

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and have died since
in Afghanistan and Iraq combined.

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And it's not cool to say that,

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but it is true.

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We care so much geopolitically
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to women over there ...

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In 2015,

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72,828 women used intimate
partner violence services in this country.

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That is not counting the girls
and women and boys who needed them.

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Law enforcement must be empowered

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with up-to-date internet technology,

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the devices and an understanding
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how they work.

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The police wanted to be helpful
when Amanda Hess called

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about the death threat
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but they couldn't really when they said,

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"What's Twitter?"

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Our legislators must write
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that reflects today's technology

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and our notions of free and hate speech.

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In New York recently, the law
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because the crimes
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even if it was anonymous --

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they must have been committed
by telephone, in mail,

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by telegraph --

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The language must be
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So apparently,

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I've got a pretty bold voice.

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So, let's talk about our friends ...

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white men.

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You have a role to play
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You can do something,

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or you can do nothing.

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We're cool in this room,

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but when this goes out, everyone will say,

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"Oh my God, she's a reverse racist."

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That quote was said
by a white man, Robert Moritz,

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chairperson, PricewaterhouseCoopers,

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he asked me to include it in my talk.

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We need to grow support lines
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so victims can help each other

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when their lives and finances
have been derailed.

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We must as individuals disrupt
gender violence as it is happening.

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92 percent of young people

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29 and under witness it.

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72 percent of us have witnessed it.

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We must have the courage and urgency

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to practice stopping it
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believe her.

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Believe her.

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This is fundamentally
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And as I believe that human interaction
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trauma not transformed
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Edith Wharton said,
"The end is latent in the beginning,"

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so we are going to end this talk
replacing hate speech with love speech.

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Because I get lonely in this,

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but I know that we are allies.

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I recently learned

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about how gratitude and affirmations
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It takes five of those
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and gratitude in particular --

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free, available globally
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to anyone in any dialect --

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it fires the pregenual anterior cingulate,

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a watershed part of the brain

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that floods it with great, good stuff.

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So I'm going to say
awesome stuff about myself.

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I would like for you
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It might sound something like this --

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I am a powerful and strong woman,
and you would say, "Yes, you are."

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Audience: Yes, you are.

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Ashley Judd: My mama loves me.

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A: Yes, she does.

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AJ: I did a great job with my talk.

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A: Yes, you did.

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AJ: I have a right to be here.

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A: Yes, you do.

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AJ: I'm really cute.

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A: Yes, you are.

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AJ: God does good work.

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A: Yes, He does.

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AJ: And I love you.

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Thank you so much
for letting me be of service.

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Bless you.

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(Applause)