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[This talk contains graphic language[br]and descriptions of sexual violence]

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[Viewer discretion is advised]

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"Ashley Judd, stupid fucking slut."

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"You can't sue someone[br]for calling them a cunt."

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"If you can't handle the Internet,[br]fuck off, whore."

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"I wish Ashley Judd[br]would die a horrible death.

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She is the absolute worst."

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"Ashley Judd, you're the reason[br]women shouldn't vote."

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"'Twisted' is such a bad movie,

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I don't even want to rape it."

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"Whatever you do,

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don't tell Ashley Judd.[br]She'll die alone with a dried out vagina."

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"If I had to fuck an older woman,

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oh my God,

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I would fuck the shit out of Ashley Judd,

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that bitch is hot af.

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The unforgivable shit I would do to her."

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Online misogyny is a global[br]gender rights tragedy,

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and it is imperative that it ends.

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(Applause)

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Girls' and women's voices,

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and our allies' voices[br]are constrained in ways

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that are personally, economically,

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professionally and politically damaging.

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And when we curb abuse,

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we will expand freedom.

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I am a Kentucky basketball fan,

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so on a fine March day last year,

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I was doing one of the things I do best:

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I was cheering for my Wildcats.

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The daffodils were blooming,

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but the referees were not blowing[br]the whistle when I was telling them to.

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(Laughter)

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Funny, they're very friendly[br]to me before the opening tip,

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but they really ignore me during the game.

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(Laughter)

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Three of my players were bleeding,[br]so I did the next best thing ...

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I tweeted.

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[@ArkRazorback dirty play can kiss[br]my team's free throw making a --

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@KySportsRadio @marchmadness[br]@espn Bloodied 3 players so far.]

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It is routine for me to be treated[br]in the ways I've already described to you.

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It happens to me every single day

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on social media platforms[br]such as Twitter and Facebook.

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Since I joined Twitter in 2011,

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misogyny and misogynists[br]have amply demonstrated

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they will dog my every step.

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My spirituality, my faith,

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being a hillbilly --[br]I can say that, you can't --

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all of it is fair game.

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And I have responded to this[br]with various strategies.

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I've tried engaging people.

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This one guy was sending me[br]hypersexual, nasty stuff,

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and there was a girl in his avatar.

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I wrote him back and said ...

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"Is that your daughter?

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I feel a lot of fear[br]that you may think about

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and talk to women this way."

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And he surprised me by saying,

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"You know what?[br]You're right. I apologize."

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Sometimes people[br]want to be held accountable.

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This one guy was musing[br]to I don't know who

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that maybe I was the definition of a cunt.

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I was married to a Scot for 14 years,

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so I said, "Cunt means many[br]different things in different countries --

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(Laughter)

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but I'm pretty sure you epitomize[br]the global standard of a dick."

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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I've tried to rise above it,[br]I've tried to get in the trenches,

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but mostly I would scroll through[br]these social media platforms

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with one eye partially closed,[br]trying not to see it,

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but you can't make[br]a cucumber out of a pickle.

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What is seen goes in.

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It's traumatic.

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And I was always secretly hoping[br]in some part of me

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that what was being said to me[br]and about me wasn't ...

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true.

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Because even I,

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an avowed, self-declared feminist,

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who worships at the altar of Gloria --

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(Laughter)

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internalize the patriarchy.

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This is really critical.

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Patriarchy is not boys and men.

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It is a system[br]in which we all participate,

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including me.

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On that particular day, for some reason,

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that particular tweet[br]after the basketball game

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triggered something called a "cyber mob."

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This vitriolic, global outpouring[br]of the most heinous hate speech:

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death threats, rape threats.

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And don't you know,

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when I was sitting at home[br]alone in my nightgown,

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I got a phone call,[br]and it was my beloved former husband,

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and he said on a voice mail,

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"Loved one ...

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what is happening to you is not OK."

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And there was something about him[br]taking a stand for me that night ...

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that allowed me[br]to take a stand for myself.

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And I started to write.

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I started to write about sharing the fact

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that I'm a survivor[br]of all forms of sexual abuse,

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including three rapes.

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And the hate speech[br]I get in response to that --

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these are just some of the comments[br]posted to news outlets.

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Being told I'm a "snitch" is really fun.

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[Jay: She enjoyed every second of it!!!!!]

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Audience: Oh, Lord Jesus.

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Ashley Judd: Thank you, Jesus.[br]May your grace and mercy shine.

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So, I wrote this feminist op-ed,[br]it is entitled,

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"Forget Your Team:

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It Is Your Online Gender Violence[br]Toward Girls And Women

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That Can Kiss My Righteous Ass."

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(Laughter)

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(Applause)

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And I did that alone,[br]and I published it alone,

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because my chief advisor said,

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"Please don't,

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the rain of retaliatory garbage[br]that is inevitable --

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I fear for you."

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But I trust girls and I trust women,

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and I trust our allies.

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It was published, it went viral,

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it proves that every single day

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online misogyny is a phenomenon[br]endured by us all,

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all over the world,

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and when it is intersectional,

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it is worse.

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Sexual orientation, gender identity,

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race, ethnicity, religion --

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you name it,

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it amplifies the violence[br]endured by girls and women,

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and for our younger girls, it is worse.

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It's clearly traumatizing.

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Our mental health,[br]our emotional well-being

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are so gravely affected

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because the threat of violence

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is experienced[br]neurobiologically as violence.

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The cortisol shoots up,[br]the limbic system gets fired,

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we lose productivity at work.

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And let's talk about work.

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Our ability to work is constrained.

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Online searches of women applying for jobs[br]reveal nude pictures of them,

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false allegations they have STDs,

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their addresses indicating[br]that they are available for sex

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with real examples

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of people showing up[br]at this house for said sex.

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Our ability to go to school is impaired.

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96 percent of all postings

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of sexual images of our young people ...

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girls.

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Our girls.

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Our boys are two to three[br]times more likely --

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nonconsensually --

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to share images.

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And I want to say a word[br]about revenge porn.

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Part of what came out of this tweet

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was my getting connected[br]with allies and other activists

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who are fighting[br]for a safe and free internet.

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We started something[br]called the Speech Project;

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curbing abuse, expanding freedom.

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And that website[br]provides a critical forum,

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because there is no global, legal thing

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to help us figure this out.

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But we do provide on that website[br]a standardized list of definitions,

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because it's hard to attack[br]a behavior in the right way

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if we're not all sharing[br]a definition of what that behavior is.

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And I learned that revenge porn[br]is often dangerously misapplied.

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It is the nonconsensual[br]sharing of an image

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used tactically to shame[br]and humiliate a girl or woman

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that attempts to pornography us.

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Our natural sexuality is --

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I don't know about yours --[br]pretty gorgeous and wonderful.

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And my expressing it[br]does not pornography make.

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(Applause)

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So, I have all these resources

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that I'm keenly aware[br]so many people in the world do not.

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I was able to start[br]the Speech Project with colleagues.

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I can often get a social media[br]company's attention.

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I have a wonderful visit[br]to Facebook HQ coming up.

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Hasn't helped the idiotic[br]reporting standards yet ...

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I actually pay someone[br]to scrub my social media feeds,

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attempting to spare my brain

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the daily iterations[br]of the trauma of hate speech.

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And guess what?

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I get hate speech for that.

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"Oh, you live in an echo chamber."

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Well, guess what?

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Having someone post a photograph[br]of me with my mouth open

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saying they "can't wait[br]to cum on my face,"

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I have a right to set that boundary.

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(Applause)

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And this distinction[br]between virtual and real is specious

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because guess what --

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that actually happened to me[br]once when I was a child,

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and so that tweet brought up that trauma,

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and I had to do work on that.

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But you know what we do?[br]We take all of this hate speech,

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and we disaggregate it,

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and we code it,

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and we give that data

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so that we understand[br]the intersectionality of it:

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when I get porn,

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when it's about political affiliation,

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when it's about age,[br]when it's about all of it.

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We're going to win this fight.

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There are a lot of solutions --

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thank goodness.

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I'm going to offer just a few,

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and of course I challenge you[br]to create and contribute your own.

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Number one: we have to start[br]with digital media literacy,

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and clearly it must have a gendered lens.

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Kids, schools, caregivers, parents:

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it's essential.

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Two ...

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shall we talk about our friends in tech?

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Said with dignity and respect,

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the sexism in your workplaces must end.

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(Applause)

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(Cheers)

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EDGE,

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the global standard for gender equality,

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is the minimum standard.

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And guess what, Silicon Valley?

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If L'Oréal in India,

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in the Philippines, in Brazil

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and in Russia can do it,

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you can, too.

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Enough excuses.

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Only when women have critical mass[br]in every department at your companies,

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including building platforms[br]from the ground up,

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will the conversations[br]about priorities and solutions change.

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And more love for my friends in tech:

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profiteering off misogyny[br]in video games must end.

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I'm so tired of hearing you[br]talk to me at cocktail parties --

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like you did a couple[br]weeks ago in Aspen --

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about how deplorable #Gamergate was,

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when you're still making[br]billions of dollars off games

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that maim and dump women for sport.

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Basta! -- as the Italians would say.

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Enough.

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(Applause)

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Our friends in law enforcement[br]have much to do,

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because we've seen

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that online violence[br]is an extension of in-person violence.

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In our country,

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more girls and women have been[br]murdered by their intimate partners

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than died on 9/11

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and have died since[br]in Afghanistan and Iraq combined.

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And it's not cool to say that,

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but it is true.

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We care so much geopolitically[br]about what men are doing over there

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to women over there ...

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In 2015,

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72,828 women used intimate[br]partner violence services in this country.

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That is not counting the girls[br]and women and boys who needed them.

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Law enforcement must be empowered

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with up-to-date internet technology,

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the devices and an understanding[br]of these platforms --

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how they work.

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The police wanted to be helpful[br]when Amanda Hess called

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about the death threat[br]she was getting on Twitter,

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but they couldn't really when they said,

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"What's Twitter?"

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Our legislators must write[br]and pass astute legislation

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that reflects today's technology

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and our notions of free and hate speech.

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In New York recently, the law[br]could not be applied to a perpetrator

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because the crimes[br]must have been committed --

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even if it was anonymous --

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they must have been committed[br]by telephone, in mail,

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by telegraph --

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(Laughter)

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The language must be[br]technologically neutral.

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So apparently,

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I've got a pretty bold voice.

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So, let's talk about our friends ...

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white men.

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You have a role to play[br]and a choice to make.

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You can do something,

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or you can do nothing.

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We're cool in this room,

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but when this goes out, everyone will say,

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"Oh my God, she's a reverse racist."

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That quote was said[br]by a white man, Robert Moritz,

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chairperson, PricewaterhouseCoopers,

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he asked me to include it in my talk.

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We need to grow support lines[br]and help groups,

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so victims can help each other

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when their lives and finances[br]have been derailed.

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We must as individuals disrupt[br]gender violence as it is happening.

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92 percent of young people

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29 and under witness it.

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72 percent of us have witnessed it.

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We must have the courage and urgency

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to practice stopping it[br]as it is unfolding.

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And lastly,

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believe her.

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Believe her.

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(Applause)

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This is fundamentally[br]a problem of human interaction.

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And as I believe that human interaction[br]is at the core of our healing,

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trauma not transformed[br]will be trauma transferred.

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Edith Wharton said,[br]"The end is latent in the beginning,"

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so we are going to end this talk[br]replacing hate speech with love speech.

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Because I get lonely in this,

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but I know that we are allies.

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I recently learned

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about how gratitude and affirmations[br]offset negative interactions.

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It takes five of those[br]to offset one negative interaction,

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and gratitude in particular --

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free, available globally[br]any time, anywhere,

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to anyone in any dialect --

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it fires the pregenual anterior cingulate,

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a watershed part of the brain

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that floods it with great, good stuff.

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So I'm going to say[br]awesome stuff about myself.

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I would like for you[br]to reflect it back to me.

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It might sound something like this --

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(Laughter)

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I am a powerful and strong woman,[br]and you would say, "Yes, you are."

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Audience: Yes, you are.

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Ashley Judd: My mama loves me.

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A: Yes, she does.

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AJ: I did a great job with my talk.

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A: Yes, you did.

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AJ: I have a right to be here.

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A: Yes, you do.

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AJ: I'm really cute.

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(Laughter)

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A: Yes, you are.

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AJ: God does good work.

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A: Yes, He does.

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AJ: And I love you.

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Thank you so much[br]for letting me be of service.

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Bless you.

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(Applause)