1 00:00:00,786 --> 00:00:04,757 I'm five years old, and I am very proud. 2 00:00:04,781 --> 00:00:08,316 My father has just built the best outhouse 3 00:00:08,340 --> 00:00:10,906 in our little village in Ukraine. 4 00:00:10,930 --> 00:00:14,455 Inside, it's a smelly, gaping hole in the ground, 5 00:00:14,479 --> 00:00:18,461 but outside, it's pearly white formica 6 00:00:18,485 --> 00:00:22,089 and it literally gleams in the sun. 7 00:00:22,113 --> 00:00:25,646 This makes me feel so proud, so important, 8 00:00:25,670 --> 00:00:28,686 that I appoint myself the leader of my little group of friends 9 00:00:28,710 --> 00:00:31,466 and I devise missions for us. 10 00:00:31,490 --> 00:00:33,779 So we prowl from house to house 11 00:00:33,803 --> 00:00:37,146 looking for flies captured in spider webs 12 00:00:37,170 --> 00:00:39,533 and we set them free. 13 00:00:39,557 --> 00:00:41,841 Four years earlier, when I was one, 14 00:00:41,865 --> 00:00:43,286 after the Chernobyl accident, 15 00:00:43,310 --> 00:00:45,617 the rain came down black, 16 00:00:45,641 --> 00:00:47,817 and my sister's hair fell out in clumps, 17 00:00:47,841 --> 00:00:50,374 and I spent nine months in the hospital. 18 00:00:50,398 --> 00:00:51,926 There were no visitors allowed, 19 00:00:51,950 --> 00:00:55,938 so my mother bribed a hospital worker. 20 00:00:55,962 --> 00:00:58,669 She acquired a nurse's uniform, 21 00:00:58,693 --> 00:01:03,014 and she snuck in every night to sit by my side. 22 00:01:03,038 --> 00:01:06,074 Five years later, an unexpected silver lining. 23 00:01:06,098 --> 00:01:10,176 Thanks to Chernobyl, we get asylum in the U.S. 24 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:14,395 I am six years old, and I don't cry when we leave home 25 00:01:14,419 --> 00:01:15,446 and we come to America, 26 00:01:15,470 --> 00:01:19,194 because I expect it to be a place filled with rare 27 00:01:19,218 --> 00:01:23,374 and wonderful things like bananas and chocolate 28 00:01:23,398 --> 00:01:25,815 and Bazooka bubble gum, 29 00:01:25,839 --> 00:01:29,908 Bazooka bubble gum with the little cartoon wrappers inside, 30 00:01:29,932 --> 00:01:33,025 Bazooka that we'd get once a year in Ukraine 31 00:01:33,049 --> 00:01:37,061 and we'd have to chew one piece for an entire week. 32 00:01:37,085 --> 00:01:38,867 So the first day we get to New York, 33 00:01:38,891 --> 00:01:41,100 my grandmother and I find a penny 34 00:01:41,124 --> 00:01:44,843 in the floor of the homeless shelter that my family's staying in. 35 00:01:44,867 --> 00:01:46,378 Only, we don't know that it's a homeless shelter. 36 00:01:46,402 --> 00:01:49,469 We think that it's a hotel, a hotel with lots of rats. 37 00:01:49,493 --> 00:01:54,051 So we find this penny kind of fossilized in the floor, 38 00:01:54,075 --> 00:01:57,047 and we think that a very wealthy man must have left it there 39 00:01:57,071 --> 00:01:59,541 because regular people don't just lose money. 40 00:01:59,565 --> 00:02:02,098 And I hold this penny in the palm of my hand, 41 00:02:02,122 --> 00:02:04,760 and it's sticky and rusty, 42 00:02:04,784 --> 00:02:07,791 but it feels like I'm holding a fortune. 43 00:02:07,815 --> 00:02:10,101 I decide that I'm going to get my very own piece 44 00:02:10,125 --> 00:02:11,916 of Bazooka bubble gum. 45 00:02:11,940 --> 00:02:15,901 And in that moment, I feel like a millionaire. 46 00:02:15,925 --> 00:02:18,211 About a year later, I get to feel that way again 47 00:02:18,235 --> 00:02:20,970 when we find a bag full of stuffed animals in the trash, 48 00:02:20,994 --> 00:02:22,701 and suddenly I have more toys 49 00:02:22,725 --> 00:02:25,445 than I've ever had in my whole life. 50 00:02:25,469 --> 00:02:27,830 And again, I get that feeling when we get a knock 51 00:02:27,854 --> 00:02:29,807 on the door of our apartment in Brooklyn, 52 00:02:29,831 --> 00:02:32,116 and my sister and I find a deliveryman 53 00:02:32,140 --> 00:02:34,669 with a box of pizza that we didn't order. 54 00:02:34,693 --> 00:02:37,858 So we take the pizza, our very first pizza, 55 00:02:37,882 --> 00:02:40,697 and we devour slice after slice 56 00:02:40,721 --> 00:02:44,086 as the deliveryman stands there and stares at us from the doorway. 57 00:02:44,110 --> 00:02:47,086 And he tells us to pay, but we don't speak English. 58 00:02:47,110 --> 00:02:49,514 My mother comes out, and he asks her for money, 59 00:02:49,538 --> 00:02:50,872 but she doesn't have enough. 60 00:02:50,896 --> 00:02:54,224 She walks 50 blocks to and from work every day 61 00:02:54,248 --> 00:02:56,893 just to avoid spending money on bus fare. 62 00:02:56,917 --> 00:02:58,759 Then our neighbor pops her head in, 63 00:02:58,783 --> 00:03:01,349 and she turns red with rage when she realizes 64 00:03:01,373 --> 00:03:03,695 that those immigrants from downstairs 65 00:03:03,719 --> 00:03:07,704 have somehow gotten their hands on her pizza. 66 00:03:07,728 --> 00:03:09,260 Everyone's upset. 67 00:03:09,284 --> 00:03:13,101 But the pizza is delicious. 68 00:03:13,125 --> 00:03:19,062 It doesn't hit me until years later just how little we had. 69 00:03:19,086 --> 00:03:21,376 On our 10 year anniversary of being in the U.S., 70 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:23,484 we decided to celebrate by reserving a room 71 00:03:23,508 --> 00:03:26,366 at the hotel that we first stayed in when we got to the U.S. 72 00:03:26,390 --> 00:03:28,785 The man at the front desk laughs, and he says, 73 00:03:28,809 --> 00:03:31,667 "You can't reserve a room here. This is a homeless shelter." 74 00:03:31,691 --> 00:03:33,804 And we were shocked. 75 00:03:33,828 --> 00:03:37,810 My husband Brian was also homeless as a kid. 76 00:03:37,834 --> 00:03:40,900 His family lost everything, and at age 11, 77 00:03:40,924 --> 00:03:43,653 he had to live in motels with his dad, 78 00:03:43,677 --> 00:03:46,586 motels that would round up all of their food 79 00:03:46,610 --> 00:03:50,266 and keep it hostage until they were able to pay the bill. 80 00:03:50,290 --> 00:03:52,471 And one time, when he finally got his box 81 00:03:52,495 --> 00:03:56,067 of Frosted Flakes back, it was crawling with roaches. 82 00:03:56,091 --> 00:03:57,983 But he did have one thing. 83 00:03:58,007 --> 00:04:00,627 He had this shoebox that he carried with him everywhere 84 00:04:00,651 --> 00:04:03,090 containing nine comic books, 85 00:04:03,114 --> 00:04:06,236 two G.I. Joes painted to look like Spider-Man 86 00:04:06,260 --> 00:04:09,299 and five Gobots. And this was his treasure. 87 00:04:09,323 --> 00:04:12,294 This was his own assembly of heroes 88 00:04:12,318 --> 00:04:14,497 that kept him from drugs and gangs 89 00:04:14,521 --> 00:04:17,293 and from giving up on his dreams. 90 00:04:17,317 --> 00:04:18,341 I'm going to tell you about one more 91 00:04:18,365 --> 00:04:21,132 formerly homeless member of our family. 92 00:04:21,156 --> 00:04:22,831 This is Scarlett. 93 00:04:22,855 --> 00:04:25,900 Once upon a time, Scarlet was used as bait in dog fights. 94 00:04:25,924 --> 00:04:28,316 She was tied up and thrown into the ring 95 00:04:28,340 --> 00:04:32,352 for other dogs to attack so they'd get more aggressive before the fight. 96 00:04:32,376 --> 00:04:36,592 And now, these days, she eats organic food 97 00:04:36,616 --> 00:04:39,283 and she sleeps on an orthopedic bed with her name on it, 98 00:04:39,307 --> 00:04:43,535 but when we pour water for her in her bowl, 99 00:04:43,559 --> 00:04:47,524 she still looks up and she wags her tail in gratitude. 100 00:04:47,548 --> 00:04:50,742 Sometimes Brian and I walk through the park with Scarlett, 101 00:04:50,766 --> 00:04:53,161 and she rolls through the grass, 102 00:04:53,185 --> 00:04:55,562 and we just look at her 103 00:04:55,586 --> 00:04:57,382 and then we look at each other 104 00:04:57,406 --> 00:05:01,389 and we feel gratitude. 105 00:05:01,413 --> 00:05:05,020 We forget about all of our new middle-class frustrations 106 00:05:05,044 --> 00:05:06,895 and disappointments, 107 00:05:06,919 --> 00:05:09,579 and we feel like millionaires. 108 00:05:09,603 --> 00:05:10,729 Thank you. 109 00:05:10,753 --> 00:05:14,746 (Applause)