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Let me expand on that just a little.
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Let me make the distinction here
between a question and a quiz –
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because it's very important.
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Now, if I'm walking, as I do,
on the streets of Boston --
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(I don't own a car.)
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– and a car comes up along side,
and somebody sticks his head
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out the window and says,
"Hey, Mister," or whatever,
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"can you tell us how to
get to Newbury Street?"
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or "Copley Square," or
wherever it happens to be,
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that's a question.
They don't know.
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They want to know.
They think I know.
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So they ask me a question, hoping
to get from me the right answer --
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which they don't have.
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Now that's a legitimate question.
That's a search for information.
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A quiz is something very different.
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It sounds like a question –
It uses the same words.
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But the intention is
altogether different.
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I would be asking you a quiz if, believing
that I had the answer to something,
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I asked you a question to
make sure that you had it.
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In other words, this is a way
of testing your knowledge --
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of making sure that your
knowledge agrees with mine.
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Now little children understand very clearly
the difference between quizzes and questions.
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Some of you will have had
the experience of asking
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your little three year old or
four year old a quiz-type question.
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And you may get the
answer, "I don't know" --
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which is just a child's way
of refusing to answer what he/she
knows is not a real question,
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not a serious question,
not an honest question.
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Or you may get some silly answer.
That's another way of disposing of it.
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One mother tells me that when she occasionally
loses her common sense for a second,
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and asks her child a kind of quiz type question,
the child turns right around and asks her one.
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Little children understand
that this is a quiz, not a question.
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And they further understand
that all that all quiz-type questions
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are a statement of lack of confidence.
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This is a vote of no confidence.
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Children resist being asked quiz-type questions
for the same type of reason they resist
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being taught things when they
haven't asked for them --
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because they realize
that this is you stating:
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"I don't really think you know this."
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This is a statement of
lack of trust and confidence.
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And so they tend to react to it
with a lot of anger and resistance --
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which I think is altogether proper.
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And I'd hope when we get these signals,
we would pay attention to them.