Where is home?
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0:01 - 0:03Where do you come from?
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0:03 - 0:05It's such a simple question,
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0:05 - 0:07but these days, of course,
simple questions -
0:07 - 0:10bring ever more complicated answers.
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0:10 - 0:13People are always asking
me where I come from, -
0:13 - 0:16and they're expecting me to say India,
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0:16 - 0:19and they're absolutely right
insofar as 100 percent -
0:19 - 0:23of my blood and ancestry
does come from India. -
0:23 - 0:27Except, I've never lived
one day of my life there. -
0:27 - 0:29I can't speak even one word
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0:29 - 0:32of its more than 22,000 dialects.
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0:32 - 0:34So I don't think I've really
earned the right -
0:34 - 0:37to call myself an Indian.
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0:37 - 0:38And if "Where do you come from?"
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0:38 - 0:41means "Where were you born
and raised and educated?" -
0:41 - 0:44then I'm entirely
of that funny little country -
0:44 - 0:45known as England,
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0:45 - 0:48except I left England
as soon as I completed -
0:48 - 0:50my undergraduate education,
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0:50 - 0:51and all the time I was growing up,
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0:51 - 0:54I was the only kid in all my classes
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0:54 - 0:57who didn't begin to look
like the classic English heroes -
0:57 - 1:00represented in our textbooks.
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1:00 - 1:01And if "Where do you come from?"
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1:01 - 1:03means "Where do you pay your taxes?
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1:03 - 1:05Where do you see your doctor
and your dentist?" -
1:05 - 1:08then I'm very much of the United States,
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1:08 - 1:10and I have been for 48 years now,
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1:10 - 1:12since I was a really small child.
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1:12 - 1:14Except, for many of those years,
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1:14 - 1:17I've had to carry around this
funny little pink card -
1:17 - 1:19with green lines running through my face
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1:19 - 1:21identifying me as a permanent alien.
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1:21 - 1:25I do actually feel more alien
the longer I live there. -
1:25 - 1:28(Laughter)
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1:28 - 1:29And if "Where do you come from?"
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1:29 - 1:32means "Which place goes deepest inside you
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1:32 - 1:35and where do you try
to spend most of your time?" -
1:35 - 1:36then I'm Japanese,
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1:36 - 1:39because I've been living as much as I can
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1:39 - 1:42for the last 25 years in Japan.
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1:42 - 1:45Except, all of those years
I've been there on a tourist visa, -
1:45 - 1:47and I'm fairly sure not many Japanese
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1:47 - 1:50would want to consider me one of them.
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1:50 - 1:53And I say all this just to stress
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1:53 - 1:56how very old-fashioned and straightforward
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1:56 - 1:57my background is,
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1:57 - 2:01because when I go to Hong
Kong or Sydney or Vancouver, -
2:01 - 2:03most of the kids I meet
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2:03 - 2:07are much more international
and multi-cultured than I am. -
2:07 - 2:09And they have one home
associated with their parents, -
2:09 - 2:13but another associated
with their partners, -
2:13 - 2:16a third connected maybe with the place
where they happen to be, -
2:16 - 2:19a fourth connected with the place
they dream of being, -
2:19 - 2:21and many more besides.
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2:21 - 2:25And their whole life will be
spent taking pieces -
2:25 - 2:28of many different places
and putting them together -
2:28 - 2:31into a stained glass whole.
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2:31 - 2:33Home for them is really
a work in progress. -
2:33 - 2:36It's like a project
on which they're constantly adding -
2:36 - 2:39upgrades and improvements and corrections.
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2:39 - 2:41And for more and more of us,
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2:41 - 2:45home has really less to do
with a piece of soil -
2:45 - 2:48than, you could say, with a piece of soul.
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2:48 - 2:51If somebody suddenly asks
me, "Where's your home?" -
2:51 - 2:53I think about my sweetheart
or my closest friends -
2:53 - 2:58or the songs that travel with me
wherever I happen to be. -
2:58 - 3:00And I'd always felt this way,
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3:00 - 3:02but it really came home to me, as it were,
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3:02 - 3:05some years ago when
I was climbing up the stairs -
3:05 - 3:08in my parents' house in California,
-
3:08 - 3:11and I looked through the living
room windows -
3:11 - 3:16and I saw that we were
encircled by 70-foot flames, -
3:16 - 3:18one of those wildfires
that regularly tear through -
3:18 - 3:22the hills of California
and many other such places. -
3:22 - 3:25And three hours later,
that fire had reduced -
3:25 - 3:28my home and every last thing in it
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3:28 - 3:31except for me to ash.
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3:31 - 3:34And when I woke up the next morning,
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3:34 - 3:35I was sleeping on a friend's floor,
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3:35 - 3:38the only thing I had
in the world was a toothbrush -
3:38 - 3:40I had just bought
from an all-night supermarket. -
3:40 - 3:42Of course, if anybody asked me then,
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3:42 - 3:44"Where is your home?"
-
3:44 - 3:47I literally couldn't point
to any physical construction. -
3:48 - 3:52My home would have to be whatever
I carried around inside me. -
3:52 - 3:56And in so many ways, I think
this is a terrific liberation. -
3:56 - 3:58Because when my grandparents were born,
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3:58 - 4:01they pretty much had their sense of home,
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4:01 - 4:04their sense of community,
even their sense of enmity, -
4:04 - 4:06assigned to them at birth,
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4:06 - 4:09and didn't have much chance
of stepping outside of that. -
4:09 - 4:13And nowadays, at least some of us
can choose our sense of home, -
4:13 - 4:15create our sense of community,
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4:15 - 4:19fashion our sense of self, and in so doing
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4:19 - 4:21maybe step a little beyond
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4:21 - 4:23some of the black and white divisions
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4:23 - 4:25of our grandparents' age.
-
4:25 - 4:26No coincidence that the president
-
4:26 - 4:29of the strongest nation
on Earth is half-Kenyan, -
4:29 - 4:31partly raised in Indonesia,
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4:31 - 4:34has a Chinese-Canadian brother-in-law.
-
4:34 - 4:38The number of people living
in countries not their own -
4:38 - 4:43now comes to 220 million,
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4:43 - 4:45and that's an almost unimaginable number,
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4:45 - 4:49but it means that if you took
the whole population of Canada -
4:49 - 4:51and the whole population of Australia
-
4:51 - 4:53and then the whole population
of Australia again -
4:53 - 4:56and the whole population of Canada again
-
4:56 - 4:58and doubled that number,
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4:58 - 5:00you would still have
fewer people than belong -
5:00 - 5:02to this great floating tribe.
-
5:02 - 5:04And the number of us who live outside
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5:04 - 5:08the old nation-state categories
is increasing so quickly, -
5:08 - 5:11by 64 million just in the last 12 years,
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5:11 - 5:15that soon there will be more
of us than there are Americans. -
5:15 - 5:20Already, we represent
the fifth-largest nation on Earth. -
5:20 - 5:22And in fact, in Canada's largest
city, Toronto, -
5:22 - 5:26the average resident today
is what used to be called -
5:26 - 5:30a foreigner, somebody born
in a very different country. -
5:30 - 5:34And I've always felt that the beauty
of being surrounded by the foreign -
5:34 - 5:36is that it slaps you awake.
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5:36 - 5:38You can't take anything for granted.
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5:38 - 5:41Travel, for me, is a little bit
like being in love, -
5:41 - 5:45because suddenly all your senses
are at the setting marked "on." -
5:45 - 5:49Suddenly you're alert to the secret
patterns of the world. -
5:49 - 5:53The real voyage of discovery,
as Marcel Proust famously said, -
5:54 - 5:56consists not in seeing new sights,
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5:57 - 5:59but in looking with new eyes.
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5:59 - 6:01And of course, once you have new eyes,
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6:01 - 6:03even the old sights, even your home
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6:03 - 6:06become something different.
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6:06 - 6:09Many of the people living
in countries not their own -
6:09 - 6:12are refugees who never
wanted to leave home -
6:12 - 6:15and ache to go back home.
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6:15 - 6:16But for the fortunate among us,
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6:16 - 6:20I think the age of movement brings
exhilarating new possibilities. -
6:21 - 6:22Certainly when I'm traveling,
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6:22 - 6:24especially to the major
cities of the world, -
6:24 - 6:26the typical person I meet today
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6:26 - 6:31will be, let's say, a half-Korean,
half-German young woman -
6:31 - 6:32living in Paris.
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6:32 - 6:35And as soon as she meets a half-Thai,
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6:35 - 6:39half-Canadian young guy from Edinburgh,
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6:39 - 6:41she recognizes him as kin.
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6:41 - 6:45She realizes that she probably
has much more in common with him -
6:45 - 6:49than with anybody entirely
of Korea or entirely of Germany. -
6:49 - 6:52So they become friends. They fall in love.
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6:52 - 6:54They move to New York City.
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6:54 - 6:56(Laughter)
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6:56 - 6:57Or Edinburgh.
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6:58 - 7:01And the little girl
who arises out of their union -
7:01 - 7:03will of course be not Korean or German
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7:03 - 7:05or French or Thai or Scotch or Canadian
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7:05 - 7:08or even American, but a wonderful
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7:08 - 7:12and constantly evolving
mix of all those places. -
7:12 - 7:14And potentially, everything about the way
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7:14 - 7:17that young woman dreams about the world,
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7:17 - 7:20writes about the world,
thinks about the world, -
7:20 - 7:22could be something different,
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7:22 - 7:25because it comes out of this
almost unprecedented -
7:25 - 7:27blend of cultures.
-
7:27 - 7:30Where you come from now
is much less important -
7:30 - 7:32than where you're going.
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7:32 - 7:35More and more of us
are rooted in the future -
7:35 - 7:38or the present tense
as much as in the past. -
7:38 - 7:40And home, we know, is not just the place
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7:40 - 7:42where you happen to be born.
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7:43 - 7:47It's the place where you become yourself.
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7:47 - 7:49And yet,
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7:49 - 7:52there is one great problem with movement,
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7:52 - 7:55and that is that it's really
hard to get your bearings -
7:55 - 7:57when you're in midair.
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7:57 - 8:00Some years ago, I noticed
that I had accumulated -
8:00 - 8:04one million miles
on United Airlines alone. -
8:04 - 8:06You all know that crazy system,
-
8:06 - 8:09six days in hell, you get
the seventh day free. -
8:09 - 8:13(Laughter)
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8:13 - 8:15And I began to think that really,
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8:15 - 8:19movement was only as good
as the sense of stillness -
8:19 - 8:22that you could bring to it
to put it into perspective. -
8:22 - 8:25And eight months
after my house burned down, -
8:25 - 8:28I ran into a friend who taught
at a local high school, -
8:28 - 8:31and he said, "I've got
the perfect place for you." -
8:31 - 8:33"Really?" I said. I'm
always a bit skeptical -
8:34 - 8:35when people say things like that.
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8:35 - 8:36"No, honestly," he went on,
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8:36 - 8:38"it's only three hours away by car,
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8:38 - 8:40and it's not very expensive,
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8:40 - 8:43and it's probably not like anywhere
you've stayed before." -
8:43 - 8:48"Hmm." I was beginning to get
slightly intrigued. "What is it?" -
8:48 - 8:50"Well —" Here my friend hemmed and hawed —
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8:50 - 8:54"Well, actually
it's a Catholic hermitage." -
8:54 - 8:56This was the wrong answer.
-
8:56 - 8:58I had spent 15 years in Anglican schools,
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8:58 - 9:03so I had had enough hymnals
and crosses to last me a lifetime. -
9:03 - 9:05Several lifetimes, actually.
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9:05 - 9:08But my friend assured me
that he wasn't Catholic, -
9:08 - 9:09nor were most of his students,
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9:09 - 9:12but he took his classes
there every spring. -
9:12 - 9:17And as he had it,
even the most restless, distractible, -
9:17 - 9:21testosterone-addled
15-year-old Californian boy -
9:21 - 9:24only had to spend three days in silence
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9:24 - 9:28and something in him cooled
down and cleared out. -
9:28 - 9:31He found himself.
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9:31 - 9:33And I thought, "Anything
that works for a 15-year-old boy -
9:33 - 9:35ought to work for me."
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9:35 - 9:38So I got in my car,
and I drove three hours north -
9:38 - 9:40along the coast,
-
9:40 - 9:42and the roads grew emptier and narrower,
-
9:42 - 9:45and then I turned
onto an even narrower path, -
9:45 - 9:49barely paved, that snaked for two miles
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9:49 - 9:51up to the top of a mountain.
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9:51 - 9:54And when I got out of my car,
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9:54 - 9:57the air was pulsing.
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9:57 - 9:58The whole place was absolutely silent,
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9:58 - 10:02but the silence wasn't
an absence of noise. -
10:02 - 10:06It was really a presence of a kind
of energy or quickening. -
10:06 - 10:09And at my feet was the great,
still blue plate -
10:09 - 10:12of the Pacific Ocean.
-
10:12 - 10:16All around me were 800
acres of wild dry brush. -
10:16 - 10:19And I went down to the room
in which I was to be sleeping. -
10:19 - 10:21Small but eminently comfortable,
-
10:21 - 10:23it had a bed and a rocking chair
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10:23 - 10:26and a long desk and even longer
picture windows -
10:26 - 10:30looking out on a small,
private, walled garden, -
10:30 - 10:33and then 1,200 feet of golden pampas grass
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10:34 - 10:36running down to the sea.
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10:37 - 10:40And I sat down, and I began to write,
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10:40 - 10:41and write, and write,
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10:41 - 10:45even though I'd gone there
really to get away from my desk. -
10:45 - 10:49And by the time I got up,
four hours had passed. -
10:49 - 10:51Night had fallen,
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10:51 - 10:56and I went out under this great
overturned saltshaker of stars, -
10:56 - 10:58and I could see the tail lights of cars
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10:58 - 11:03disappearing around the headlands
12 miles to the south. -
11:03 - 11:06And it really seemed
like my concerns of the previous day -
11:06 - 11:08vanishing.
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11:08 - 11:10And the next day, when I woke up
-
11:10 - 11:14in the absence of telephones
and TVs and laptops, -
11:14 - 11:18the days seemed to stretch
for a thousand hours. -
11:18 - 11:21It was really all the freedom
I know when I'm traveling, -
11:21 - 11:26but it also profoundly
felt like coming home. -
11:26 - 11:28And I'm not a religious person,
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11:28 - 11:29so I didn't go to the services.
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11:29 - 11:32I didn't consult the monks for guidance.
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11:32 - 11:34I just took walks along the monastery road
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11:35 - 11:37and sent postcards to loved ones.
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11:37 - 11:39I looked at the clouds,
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11:39 - 11:43and I did what is hardest
of all for me to do usually, -
11:43 - 11:45which is nothing at all.
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11:46 - 11:48And I started to go back to this place,
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11:48 - 11:51and I noticed that I was doing
my most important work there -
11:51 - 11:55invisibly just by sitting still,
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11:55 - 11:58and certainly coming
to my most critical decisions -
11:58 - 12:00the way I never could when I was racing
-
12:00 - 12:03from the last email
to the next appointment. -
12:03 - 12:06And I began to think that something in me
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12:06 - 12:07had really been crying out for stillness,
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12:08 - 12:09but of course I couldn't hear it
-
12:09 - 12:11because I was running around so much.
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12:11 - 12:13I was like some crazy guy
who puts on a blindfold -
12:14 - 12:17and then complains
that he can't see a thing. -
12:17 - 12:19And I thought back
to that wonderful phrase -
12:19 - 12:22I had learned as a boy from Seneca,
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12:22 - 12:25in which he says, "That man is poor
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12:25 - 12:31not who has little but who hankers
after more." -
12:31 - 12:33And, of course, I'm not suggesting
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12:33 - 12:35that anybody here go into a monastery.
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12:35 - 12:36That's not the point.
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12:36 - 12:40But I do think
it's only by stopping movement -
12:40 - 12:42that you can see where to go.
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12:42 - 12:46And it's only by stepping
out of your life and the world -
12:46 - 12:49that you can see what you
most deeply care about -
12:49 - 12:52and find a home.
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12:52 - 12:54And I've noticed so many people now
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12:54 - 12:57take conscious measures
to sit quietly for 30 minutes -
12:57 - 12:59every morning just collecting themselves
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12:59 - 13:02in one corner of the room
without their devices, -
13:02 - 13:04or go running every evening,
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13:04 - 13:06or leave their cell phones behind
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13:06 - 13:10when they go to have a long
conversation with a friend. -
13:10 - 13:13Movement is a fantastic privilege,
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13:13 - 13:16and it allows us to do so
much that our grandparents -
13:16 - 13:19could never have dreamed of doing.
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13:19 - 13:20But movement, ultimately,
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13:21 - 13:25only has a meaning if you
have a home to go back to. -
13:25 - 13:28And home, in the end, is of course
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13:28 - 13:31not just the place where you sleep.
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13:31 - 13:33It's the place where you stand.
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13:33 - 13:35Thank you.
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13:35 - 13:41(Applause)
- Title:
- Where is home?
- Speaker:
- Pico Iyer
- Description:
-
More and more people worldwide are living in countries not considered their own. Writer Pico Iyer -- who himself has three or four “origins” -- meditates on the meaning of home, the joy of traveling and the serenity of standing still.
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 14:01
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