The myth of the gay agenda
-
0:01 - 0:04When I was about 16 years old
-
0:04 - 0:07I can remember flipping through channels at home during summer vacation,
-
0:07 - 0:10looking for a movie to watch on HBO --
-
0:10 - 0:12and how many of you remember "Ferris Bueller's Day Off"?
-
0:12 - 0:17Oh yeah, great movie, right? -- Well, I saw Matthew Broderick on the screen, and so I thought,
-
0:17 - 0:20"Sweet! Ferris Bueller. I'll watch this!"
-
0:20 - 0:24It wasn't Ferris Bueller. And forgive me Matthew Broderick,
-
0:24 - 0:28I know you've done other movies besides Ferris Bueller, but that's how I remember you; you're Ferris.
-
0:28 - 0:34But you weren't doing Ferris-y things at the time; you were doing gay things at the time.
-
0:34 - 0:37He was in a movie called "Torch Song Trilogy."
-
0:37 - 0:44And "Torch Song Trilogy" was based on a play about this drag queen who essentially was looking for love.
-
0:44 - 0:47Love and respect -- that's what the whole film was about.
-
0:47 - 0:52And as I'm watching it, I'm realizing that they're talking about me.
-
0:52 - 0:58Not the drag queen part -- I am not shaving my hair for anyone -- but the gay part.
-
0:58 - 1:03The finding love and respect, the part about trying to find your place in the world.
-
1:03 - 1:09So as I'm watching this, I see this powerful scene that brought me to tears,
-
1:09 - 1:12and it stuck with me for the past 25 years.
-
1:12 - 1:17And there's this quote that the main character, Arnold, tells his mother
-
1:17 - 1:23as they're fighting about who he is and the life that he lives.
-
1:23 - 1:28"There's one thing more -- there's just one more thing you better understand.
-
1:28 - 1:34I've taught myself to sew, cook, fix plumbing, build furniture,
-
1:34 - 1:37I can even pat myself on the back when necessary,
-
1:37 - 1:41all so I don't have to ask anyone for anything.
-
1:41 - 1:47There's nothing I need from anyone except for love and respect,
-
1:47 - 1:51and anyone who can't give me those two things has no place in my life."
-
1:51 - 1:59I remember that scene like it was yesterday; I was 16, I was in tears, I was in the closet,
-
1:59 - 2:04and I'm looking at these two people, Ferris Bueller and some guy I'd never seen before,
-
2:04 - 2:09fighting for love.
-
2:09 - 2:13When I finally got to a place in my life
-
2:13 - 2:16where I came out and accepted who I was, and was really quite happy, to tell you the truth,
-
2:16 - 2:21I was happily gay and I guess that's supposed to be right because gay means happy too.
-
2:21 - 2:25I realized there were a lot of people who weren't as gay as I was --
-
2:25 - 2:28gay being happy, not gay being attracted to the same sex.
-
2:28 - 2:33In fact, I heard that there was a lot of hate and a lot of anger
-
2:33 - 2:36and a lot of frustration and a lot of fear
-
2:36 - 2:41about who I was and the gay lifestyle.
-
2:41 - 2:45Now, I'm sitting here trying to figure out "the gay lifestyle," "the gay lifestyle,"
-
2:45 - 2:49and I keep hearing this word over and over and over again: lifestyle, lifestyle, lifestyle.
-
2:49 - 2:54I've even heard politicians say that the gay lifestyle is a greater threat
-
2:54 - 2:57to civilization than terrorism.
-
2:57 - 3:00That's when I got scared.
-
3:00 - 3:07Because I'm thinking, if I'm gay and I'm doing something that's going to destroy civilization,
-
3:07 - 3:12I need to figure out what this stuff is, and I need to stop doing it right now.
-
3:12 - 3:14(Laughter)
-
3:14 - 3:19So, I took a look at my life, a hard look at my life,
-
3:19 - 3:23and I saw some things very disturbing.
-
3:23 - 3:27(Laughter)
-
3:27 - 3:31And I want to begin sharing these evil things that I've been doing with you,
-
3:31 - 3:33starting with my mornings.
-
3:33 - 3:36I drink coffee.
-
3:36 - 3:42Not only do I drink coffee, I know other gay people who drink coffee.
-
3:42 - 3:46I get stuck in traffic --
-
3:46 - 3:49evil, evil traffic.
-
3:49 - 3:52Sometimes I get stuck in lines at airports.
-
3:52 - 3:56I look around, and I go, "My God, look at all these gay people!
-
3:56 - 4:00We're all trapped in these lines! These long lines trying to get on an airplane!
-
4:00 - 4:06My God, this lifestyle that I'm living is so freaking evil!"
-
4:06 - 4:14I clean up. This is not an actual photograph of my son's room; his is messier.
-
4:14 - 4:19And because I have a 15-year-old, all I do is cook and cook and cook.
-
4:19 - 4:24Any parents out there of teenagers? All we do is cook for these people --
-
4:24 - 4:29they eat two, three, four dinners a night -- it's ridiculous!
-
4:29 - 4:31This is the gay lifestyle.
-
4:31 - 4:38And after I'm done cooking and cleaning and standing in line and getting stuck in traffic,
-
4:38 - 4:42my partner and I, we get together
-
4:42 - 4:48and we decide that we're gonna go and have some wild and crazy fun.
-
4:48 - 4:52(Laughter)
-
4:52 - 4:55We're usually in bed before we find out who's eliminated on "American Idol."
-
4:55 - 4:59We have to wake up and find out the next day who's still on
-
4:59 - 5:04because we're too freaking tired to hear who stays on.
-
5:04 - 5:09This is the super duper evil gay lifestyle.
-
5:09 - 5:13Run for your heterosexual lives, people.
-
5:13 - 5:21(Applause)
-
5:21 - 5:26When my partner, Steve, and I first started dating,
-
5:26 - 5:29he told me this story about penguins.
-
5:29 - 5:33And I didn't know where he was going with it at first.
-
5:33 - 5:37He was kind of a little bit nervous when he was sharing it with me, but he told me that
-
5:37 - 5:41when a penguin finds a mate that they want to spend the rest of their life with,
-
5:41 - 5:45they present them with a pebble -- the perfect pebble.
-
5:45 - 5:51And then he reaches into his pocket, and he brings this out to me.
-
5:51 - 5:55And I looked at it, and I was like, this is really cool.
-
5:55 - 6:00And he says, "I want to spend the rest of my life with you."
-
6:00 - 6:05So I wear this whenever I have to do something that makes me a little nervous,
-
6:05 - 6:09like, I don't know, a TEDx talk.
-
6:09 - 6:13I wear this when I am apart from him for a long period of time.
-
6:13 - 6:16And sometimes I just wear it just because.
-
6:16 - 6:21How many people out there are in love? Anyone in love out there?
-
6:21 - 6:25You might be gay.
-
6:25 - 6:26(Laughter)
-
6:26 - 6:32Because I, too, am in love, and apparently that's part of the gay lifestyle that I warned you about.
-
6:32 - 6:39(Applause)
-
6:39 - 6:44You may want to tell your spouse. Who, if they're in love, might be gay as well.
-
6:44 - 6:48How many of you are single? Any single people out there?
-
6:48 - 6:53You too might be gay! Because I know some gay people who are also single.
-
6:53 - 7:00It's really scary, this gay lifestyle thing; it's super duper evil and there's no end to it!
-
7:00 - 7:03It goes and goes and engulfs!
-
7:03 - 7:06It's really quite silly, isn't it?
-
7:06 - 7:12That's why I'm so happy to finally hear President Obama come out and say
-
7:12 - 7:14
(Applause) -
7:14 - 7:16that he supports --
-
7:16 - 7:19(Applause)
-
7:19 - 7:23that he supports marriage equality.
-
7:23 - 7:27It's a wonderful day in our country's history; it's a wonderful day in the globe's history
-
7:27 - 7:32to be able to have an actual sitting president say, enough of this --
-
7:32 - 7:36first to himself, and then to the rest of the world.
-
7:36 - 7:38It's wonderful.
-
7:38 - 7:41But there's something that's been disturbing me since he
-
7:41 - 7:45made that remark just a short time ago.
-
7:45 - 7:52And that is, apparently, this is just another move by the gay activists
-
7:52 - 7:55that's on the gay agenda.
-
7:55 - 8:01And I'm disturbed by this because I've been openly gay now for quite some time.
-
8:01 - 8:05I've been to all of the functions, I've been to fundraisers,
-
8:05 - 8:09I've written about the topic, and I have yet to receive my copy of this gay agenda.
-
8:09 - 8:11(Laughter)
-
8:11 - 8:14I've paid my dues on time,
-
8:14 - 8:16(Laughter)
-
8:16 - 8:20I've marched in gay pride flags parades and the whole nine,
-
8:20 - 8:24and I've yet to see a copy of the gay agenda.
-
8:24 - 8:29It's very, very frustrating, and I was feeling left out, like I wasn't quite gay enough.
-
8:29 - 8:34But then something wonderful happened: I was out shopping, as I tend to do,
-
8:34 - 8:42and I came across a bootleg copy of the official gay agenda.
-
8:42 - 8:48And I said to myself, "LZ, for so long, you have been denied this.
-
8:48 - 8:53When you get in front of this crowd, you're gonna share the news.
-
8:53 - 8:57You're gonna spread the gay agenda so no one else has to wonder,
-
8:57 - 9:00what exactly is in the gay agenda?
-
9:00 - 9:04What are these gays up to?
-
9:04 - 9:06What do they want?"
-
9:06 - 9:12So, without further ado, I will present to you, ladies and gentlemen --
-
9:12 - 9:16now be careful, 'cause it's evil -- a copy,
-
9:16 - 9:21the official copy, of the gay agenda.
-
9:21 - 9:46(Music)
-
9:46 - 9:49The gay agenda, people!
-
9:49 - 9:53(Applause)
-
9:53 - 9:55There it is!
-
9:55 - 9:59Did you soak it all in? The gay agenda.
-
9:59 - 10:02Some of you may be calling it, what,
-
10:02 - 10:05the Constitution of the United States, is that what you call it too?
-
10:05 - 10:11The U.S. Constitution is the gay agenda.
-
10:11 - 10:16These gays, people like me, want to be treated like full citizens
-
10:16 - 10:19and it's all written down in plain sight.
-
10:19 - 10:25I was blown away when I saw it. I was like, wait, this is the gay agenda?
-
10:25 - 10:29Why didn't you just call it the Constitution so I knew what you were talking about?
-
10:29 - 10:33I wouldn't have been so confused; I wouldn't have been so upset.
-
10:33 - 10:38But there it is. The gay agenda.
-
10:38 - 10:44Run for your heterosexual lives.
-
10:44 - 10:50Did you know that in all the states where there is no shading that
-
10:50 - 10:53people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered
-
10:53 - 10:56can be kicked out of their apartments
-
10:56 - 11:00for being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered?
-
11:00 - 11:05That's the only reason that a landlord needs to have them removed,
-
11:05 - 11:11because there's no protection from discrimination of GLBT people.
-
11:11 - 11:16Did you know in the states where there's no shading that
-
11:16 - 11:22you can be fired for being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered?
-
11:22 - 11:26Not based upon the quality of your work,
-
11:26 - 11:30how long you've been there, if you stink,
-
11:30 - 11:37just if you're gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered.
-
11:37 - 11:42All of which flies in the face of the gay agenda,
-
11:42 - 11:46also known as the U.S. Constitution.
-
11:46 - 11:49Specifically, this little amendment right here:
-
11:49 - 11:55"No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities
-
11:55 - 11:59of citizens of the United States."
-
11:59 - 12:02I'm looking at you, North Carolina.
-
12:02 - 12:07But you're not looking at the U.S. Constitution.
-
12:07 - 12:12This is the gay agenda: equality. Not special rights,
-
12:12 - 12:16but the rights that were already written by these people --
-
12:16 - 12:18these elitists, if you will.
-
12:18 - 12:22Educated, well-dressed,
-
12:22 - 12:25(Laughter)
-
12:25 - 12:28some would dare say questionably dressed.
-
12:28 - 12:31(Laughter)
-
12:31 - 12:34Nonetheless, our forefathers, right?
-
12:34 - 12:39The people that, we say, knew what they were doing when they wrote the Constitution --
-
12:39 - 12:42the gay agenda, if you will.
-
12:42 - 12:47All of that flies in the face of what they did.
-
12:47 - 12:53That is the reason why I felt it was imperative that
-
12:53 - 12:58I presented you with this copy of the gay agenda.
-
12:58 - 13:03Because I figured if I made it funny, you wouldn't be as threatened.
-
13:03 - 13:08I figured if I was a bit irreverent, you wouldn't find it serious.
-
13:08 - 13:13But when you see the map, and you see our state of Michigan --
-
13:13 - 13:19it's legal to fire someone
-
13:19 - 13:23for being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered,
-
13:23 - 13:27that it's legal to remove someone from their home
-
13:27 - 13:31because they're gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered,
-
13:31 - 13:35then you realize that this whole conversation about marriage equality
-
13:35 - 13:39is not about stripping someone's rights away,
-
13:39 - 13:43it's about granting them the rights that [have] already been stated.
-
13:43 - 13:48And we're just trying to walk in those rights that have already been stated,
-
13:48 - 13:51that we've already agreed upon.
-
13:51 - 13:57There are people living in fear
-
13:57 - 14:00of losing their jobs
-
14:00 - 14:05so they don't show anyone who they really are
-
14:05 - 14:10right here at home. This isn't just about North Carolina;
-
14:10 - 14:16all those states that were clear, it's legal.
-
14:16 - 14:19If I could brag for a second,
-
14:19 - 14:25I have a 15-year-old son from my marriage.
-
14:25 - 14:28He has a 4.0.
-
14:28 - 14:34He is starting a new club at school, Policy Debate.
-
14:34 - 14:39He's a budding track star;
-
14:39 - 14:45he has almost every single record in middle school for every event that he competed in.
-
14:45 - 14:48He volunteers.
-
14:48 - 14:51He prays before he eats.
-
14:51 - 14:57I would like to think, as his father -- and he lives with me primarily --
-
14:57 - 15:01that I had a little something to do with all of that.
-
15:01 - 15:04I would like to think that he's a good boy,
-
15:04 - 15:08a respectful young man. I would like to think that
-
15:08 - 15:12I've proven to be a capable father.
-
15:12 - 15:16But if I were to go to the state of Michigan today,
-
15:16 - 15:21and try to adopt a young person who is in an orphanage,
-
15:21 - 15:24I would be disqualified for only one reason:
-
15:24 - 15:28because I'm gay.
-
15:28 - 15:32It doesn't matter what I've already proven, what I can do with my heart.
-
15:32 - 15:36It's because of what the state of Michigan says that I am
-
15:36 - 15:42that I am disqualified for any sort of adoption.
-
15:42 - 15:46And that's not just about me,
-
15:46 - 15:51that's about so many other Michiganders, U.S. citizens,
-
15:51 - 15:56who don't understand why what they are
-
15:56 - 16:01is so much more significant than who they are.
-
16:01 - 16:07This story just keeps playing over and over
-
16:07 - 16:10and over again in our country's history.
-
16:10 - 16:14There was a time in which, I don't know,
-
16:14 - 16:18people who were black couldn't have the same rights.
-
16:18 - 16:23People who happened to be women didn't have the same rights, couldn't vote.
-
16:23 - 16:28There was a point in our history in which, if you were considered disabled,
-
16:28 - 16:33that an employer could just fire you, before the Americans with Disabilities Act.
-
16:33 - 16:36We keep doing this over and over again.
-
16:36 - 16:41And so here we are, 2012,
-
16:41 - 16:43gay agenda,
-
16:43 - 16:47gay lifestyle, and I'm not a good dad
-
16:47 - 16:50and people don't deserve to be able to protect their families
-
16:50 - 16:55because of what they are, not who they are.
-
16:55 - 17:02So when you hear the words "gay lifestyle" and "gay agenda" in the future,
-
17:02 - 17:05I encourage you to do two things:
-
17:05 - 17:11One, remember the U.S. Constitution, and then two,
-
17:11 - 17:17if you wouldn't mind looking to your left, please.
-
17:17 - 17:20Look to your right.
-
17:20 - 17:25That person next to you is a brother, is a sister.
-
17:25 - 17:28And they should be treated with love and respect.
-
17:28 - 17:30Thank you.
- Title:
- The myth of the gay agenda
- Speaker:
- LZ Granderson
- Description:
-
In a humorous talk with an urgent message, LZ Granderson points out the absurdity in the idea that there's a "gay lifestyle," much less a "gay agenda." (Filmed at TEDxGrandRapids.)
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 17:51
Thu-Huong Ha edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Thu-Huong Ha approved English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Thu-Huong Ha edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Thu-Huong Ha edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Morton Bast accepted English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Morton Bast edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Morton Bast edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda | ||
Jenny Zurawell edited English subtitles for The myth of the gay agenda |